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5 Most Common Life Mistakes People Make In Their 20s

5 Most Common Life Mistakes People Make In Their 20s

What You Might Be Getting Wrong In Your 20s

Your twenties is a challenging decade. You’ve probably finished school and have taken the first steps up the career ladder. Old friendships might be changing, your first significant romantic relationship might be beginning or ending, and you are probably still trying to work out what you want and what you need to be doing with your life. How you choose to approach life will make a big difference to how well you navigate this tricky ten-year period. Read on to discover the five ways in which you may be sabotaging your own happiness as a twentysomething.

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Common Mistake #1

Forcing yourself to figure out all the important things in life, and expecting them to happen all at once

Young people today are under an incredible amount of pressure to establish a successful career as soon as possible, to find the perfect partner at the earliest opportunity and to discover their ultimate vision by the age of thirty. Is it any wonder that mental health problems are so rife in this age group? Remember that you have many years ahead of you to try new careers, ways of living, and to uncover your true values. It is not reasonable to expect that your life will be in perfect order five, ten or even fifteen years after graduation.

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Common Mistake #2

Living to work instead of working to live

Taking pride in one’s career can be a healthy source of satisfaction, and earning a good salary offers you a broad range of options when it comes to choosing where to live and how to spend your time. However, some people allow their relationships, hobbies and interests suffer as they pursue the mighty dollar. Do not let this happen to you. Try to strike a balance between work and play.

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Common Mistake #3

Being cynical instead of trying to think of what you can do to make a difference

There’s no doubt that this world is imperfect and that there is much we as a society need to change. It is easy to become cynical and to focus on the negatives, but a more constructive approach is to identify the steps you can take to make the world a better place. This can be as simple as making regular donations to charity, undertaking some volunteer work, or getting involved in a cause that is important to your local community.

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Common Mistake #4

Thinking that love alone is enough to sustain a relationship

Love is undoubtedly a key ingredient in making a relationship work. However, it is not sufficient. It is possible to be very much in love with someone yet realize that the two of you are fundamentally incompatible. The best relationships are based not on romantic love but on shared values, dreams and goals. Communication skills and the ability to argue without hurting one another for the sake of it are also vital.

Common Mistake #5

Blaming our parents and forgetting they are human too

The way you were raised and the relationship you had with your parents will definitely have influenced your personality and the ways in which you relate to other people. However, many people make the mistake of focusing too much on what their parents did wrong whilst forgetting everything they did right. Try to take a more balanced view of your parents. Very few people are all good or all bad. Most people have no idea what they are doing when they welcome their first child into the world, and they are bound to screw up from time to time. Remind yourself that your parents are only human, and they are the only set you have.

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Jay Hill

Jay writes about communication and happiness on Lifehack.

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Last Updated on January 21, 2020

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

If I was a super hero I’d want my super power to be the ability to motivate everyone around me. Think of how many problems you could solve just by being able to motivate people towards their goals. You wouldn’t be frustrated by lazy co-workers. You wouldn’t be mad at your partner for wasting the weekend in front of the TV. Also, the more people around you are motivated toward their dreams, the more you can capitalize off their successes.

Being able to motivate people is key to your success at work, at home, and in the future because no one can achieve anything alone. We all need the help of others.

So, how to motivate people? Here are 7 ways to motivate others even you can do.

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1. Listen

Most people start out trying to motivate someone by giving them a lengthy speech, but this rarely works because motivation has to start inside others. The best way to motivate others is to start by listening to what they want to do. Find out what the person’s goals and dreams are. If it’s something you want to encourage, then continue through these steps.

2. Ask Open-Ended Questions

Open-ended questions are the best way to figure out what someone’s dreams are. If you can’t think of anything to ask, start with, “What have you always wanted to do?”

“Why do you want to do that?”

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“What makes you so excited about it?”

“How long has that been your dream?”

You need this information the help you with the following steps.

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3. Encourage

This is the most important step, because starting a dream is scary. People are so scared they will fail or look stupid, many never try to reach their goals, so this is where you come in. You must encourage them. Say things like, “I think you will be great at that.” Better yet, say, “I think your skills in X will help you succeed.” For example if you have a friend who wants to own a pet store, say, “You are so great with animals, I think you will be excellent at running a pet store.”

4. Ask About What the First Step Will Be

After you’ve encouraged them, find how they will start. If they don’t know, you can make suggestions, but it’s better to let the person figure out the first step themselves so they can be committed to the process.

5. Dream

This is the most fun step, because you can dream about success. Say things like, “Wouldn’t it be cool if your business took off, and you didn’t have to work at that job you hate?” By allowing others to dream, you solidify the motivation in place and connect their dreams to a future reality.

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6. Ask How You Can Help

Most of the time, others won’t need anything from you, but it’s always good to offer. Just letting the person know you’re there will help motivate them to start. And, who knows, maybe your skills can help.

7. Follow Up

Periodically, over the course of the next year, ask them how their goal is going. This way you can find out what progress has been made. You may need to do the seven steps again, or they may need motivation in another area of their life.

Final Thoughts

By following these seven steps, you’ll be able to encourage the people around you to achieve their dreams and goals. In return, you’ll be more passionate about getting to your goals, you’ll be surrounded by successful people, and others will want to help you reach your dreams …

Oh, and you’ll become a motivational super hero. Time to get a cape!

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