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15 “Starts and Stops” That All People In Their 20s Should Put On Their New Year Goal List

15 “Starts and Stops” That All People In Their 20s Should Put On Their New Year Goal List

The beginning of a new year also signifies the new beginning in our lives, the time when we should evaluate our progress so far, look into the future and make new goals that will improve our lives. If you are in your 20s, you are still looking for yourself, yet you should be aware that now is the best time to make some changes to achieve personal growth and lead a better life in the years to come, otherwise you might regret not setting the right goals earlier in your life.

1. Start writing down your goals

If you force yourself to sit down and think about where you want your life to go, helps you articulate your hopes and vision, and also helps you keep track of your progress. By writing down your short-term and long-term plans, you will get the sense of which direction you should go in.

2. Start letting go of your ego

Ego can blind us and stop us on the road to progress. The earlier you learn how to shut down your ego, the better. You need to be able to learn to admit you were wrong, and to accept other people’s opinions.

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3. Start showing loved ones you care

Life is short, so don’t miss out on showing your loved ones how much you care about them. Let them know how much you love them every day with small gestures to show them how grateful you are that they are part of your life.

4. Start conducting weekly reviews

Taking a look at every week at terms of what went well and what went wrong is a great practice. It will help you see what you need to change to avoid mistakes in the future.

5. Start getting involved in meaningful causes

Your 20s are the time when you have the most energy and enthusiasm, so use this time to do something good and improve the world around you.

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6. Start following current events

If you follow what’s going around you, you will have more chances to find what interests you and what you are passionate about, and you will have plenty of topics to talk about when you meet new people.

7. Start appreciating failure

If you try out a lot of new things, and fail, it actually a good thing – you will learn many valuable lessons. You will know what works best for you and how to make changes if something is not going according to your plan.

8. Start expressing gratitude

Learn to be grateful for all you have in your life now, and that’s how you will learn to appreciate all the good things latter in life and not take everything for granted.

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9. Start holding yourself accountable for your actions

It is always easier to place the blame for your actions on somebody else, but that is not going to solve your problems. Start taking responsibility when something goes wrong.

10. Stop sticking around in a bad relationship

Love is a powerful thing, but if there is no love in a relationship, don’t think twice – let it go. Don’t let the fear of being alone prevent you from finding the real love.

11. Stop being satisfied with yourself

Not being satisfied with yourself doesn’t mean you shouldn’t be confident, but rather not to stop dreaming and reaching for bigger goals and constantly improve yourself.

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12. Stop putting off all your life plans

Spend more time with your loved ones so that you don’t regret sacrificing important moments later in your life for the sake of business success.

13. Stop making excuses

If you want to see some change in your life you cannot sit around and make excuses as for why things are going bad. You will be more successful stop coming up with excuses for everything and hold yourself back.

14. Stop trying to live someone else’s life

You will never be able to satisfy everyone, so learn to follow your instinct and stick to your values. If you listen to what other people say you should do, you give them control over your life. Your life is your own, so don’t let anyone make the decisions for you.

15. Stop feeling bad about the past

You can’t relive the past, so there’s no point in thinking what could have been if you had made different choices. Focus on what lies ahead and think of past experiences as lessons that will help you in the future.

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Last Updated on December 3, 2019

10 Life Lessons You’d Better Learn Early on in Life

10 Life Lessons You’d Better Learn Early on in Life

There are so many lessons I wish I had learned while I was young enough to appreciate and apply them. The thing with wisdom, and often with life lessons in general, is that they’re learned in retrospect, long after we needed them. The good news is that other people can benefit from our experiences and the lessons we’ve learned.

Here’re 10 important life lessons you should learn early on:

1. Money Will Never Solve Your Real Problems

Money is a tool; a commodity that buys you necessities and some nice “wants,” but it is not the panacea to your problems.

There are a great many people who are living on very little, yet have wonderfully full and happy lives… and there are sadly a great many people are living on quite a lot, yet have terribly miserable lives.

Money can buy a nice home, a great car, fabulous shoes, even a bit of security and some creature comforts, but it cannot fix a broken relationship, or cure loneliness, and the “happiness” it brings is only fleeting and not the kind that really and truly matters. Happiness is not for sale. If you’re expecting the “stuff” you can buy to “make it better,” you will never be happy.

2. Pace Yourself

Often when we’re young, just beginning our adult journey we feel as though we have to do everything at once. We need to decide everything, plan out our lives, experience everything, get to the top, find true love, figure out our life’s purpose, and do it all at the same time.

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Slow down—don’t rush into things. Let your life unfold. Wait a bit to see where it takes you, and take time to weigh your options. Enjoy every bite of food, take time to look around you, let the other person finish their side of the conversation. Allow yourself time to think, to mull a bit.

Taking action is critical. Working towards your goals and making plans for the future is commendable and often very useful, but rushing full-speed ahead towards anything is a one-way ticket to burnout and a good way to miss your life as it passes you by.

3. You Can’t Please Everyone

“I don’t know the secret to success, but the secret to failure is trying to please everyone” – Bill Cosby.

You don’t need everyone to agree with you or even like you. It’s human nature to want to belong, to be liked, respected and valued, but not at the expense of your integrity and happiness. Other people cannot give you the validation you seek. That has to come from inside.

Speak up, stick to your guns, assert yourself when you need to, demand respect, stay true to your values.

4. Your Health Is Your Most Valuable Asset

Health is an invaluable treasure—always appreciate, nurture, and protect it. Good health is often wasted on the young before they have a chance to appreciate it for what it’s worth.

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We tend to take our good health for granted, because it’s just there. We don’t have to worry about it, so we don’t really pay attention to it… until we have to.

Heart disease, bone density, stroke, many cancers—the list of many largely preventable diseases is long, so take care of your health now, or you’ll regret it later on.

5. You Don’t Always Get What You Want

“Life is what happens while you’re busy making other plans.” – John Lennon

No matter how carefully you plan and how hard you work, sometimes things just don’t work out the way you want them to… and that’s okay.

We have all of these expectations; predetermined visions of what our “ideal” life will look like, but all too often, that’s not the reality of the life we end up with. Sometimes our dreams fail and sometimes we just change our minds mid-course. Sometimes we have to flop to find the right course and sometimes we just have to try a few things before we find the right direction.

6. It’s Not All About You

You are not the epicenter of the universe. It’s very difficult to view the world from a perspective outside of your own, since we are always so focused on what’s happening in our own lives. What do I have to do today? What will this mean for me, for my career, for my life? What do I want?

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It’s normal to be intensely aware of everything that’s going on in your own life, but you need to pay as much attention to what’s happening around you, and how things affect other people in the world as you do to your own life. It helps to keep things in perspective.

7. There’s No Shame in Not Knowing

No one has it all figured out. Nobody has all the answers. There’s no shame in saying “I don’t know.” Pretending to be perfect doesn’t make you perfect. It just makes you neurotic to keep up the pretense of manufactured perfection.

We have this idea that there is some kind of stigma or shame in admitting our limitations or uncertainly, but we can’t possibly know everything. We all make mistakes and mess up occasionally. We learn as we go, that’s life.

Besides—nobody likes a know-it-all. A little vulnerability makes you human and oh so much more relatable.

8. Love Is More Than a Feeling; It’s a Choice

That burst of initial exhilaration, pulse quickening love and passion does not last long. But that doesn’t mean long-lasting love is not possible.

Love is not just a feeling; it’s a choice that you make every day. We have to choose to let annoyances pass, to forgive, to be kind, to respect, to support, to be faithful.

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Relationships take work. Sometimes it’s easy and sometimes it’s incredibly hard. It is up to us to choose how we want to act, think and speak in a relationship.

9. Perspective Is a Beautiful Thing

Typically, when we’re worried or upset, it’s because we’ve lost perspective. Everything that is happening in our lives seems so big, so important, so do or die, but in the grand picture, this single hiccup often means next to nothing.

The fight we’re having, the job we didn’t get, the real or imagined slight, the unexpected need to shift course, the thing we wanted, but didn’t get. Most of it won’t matter 20, 30, 40 years from now. It’s hard to see long term when all you know is short term, but unless it’s life-threatening, let it go, and move on.

10. Don’t Take Anything for Granted

We often don’t appreciate what we have until it’s gone: that includes your health, your family and friends, your job, the money you have or think you will have tomorrow.

When you’re young, it seems that your parents will always be there, but they won’t. You think you have plenty of time to get back in touch with your old friends or spend time with new ones, but you don’t. You have the money to spend, or you think you’ll have it next month, but you might not.

Nothing in your life is not guaranteed to be there tomorrow, including those you love.

This is a hard life lesson to learn, but it may be the most important of all: Life can change in an instant. Make sure you appreciate what you have, while you still have it.

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