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New Year, New You: Making Resolutions That Last Past March

New Year, New You: Making Resolutions That Last Past March

The New Year is a wonderful time to make resolutions that will boost your health, happiness, and enjoyment of life. We all start the year with big plans on how we want to make lasting changes and do a little bit better than we did the year before.

Far too many people don’t stick with the New Year’s resolutions that they’ve made, and many of them give up as early as March. Don’t let this happen to you because there are definitely ways to make resolutions that last the whole year. Forming good habits and sticking with your New Year’s resolutions is not only possible but easier than you might think.

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Here are 5 tips on setting and achieving your goals in the New Year for a new and improved you:

1. Set Big Picture Goals

Take a look at everything you have going on in your life and identify what you want to change. Unless you dream big you will never understand yourself enough to set meaningful goals, and will never achieve them. Many people dream of losing weight, getting more fit, developing an exciting hobby, traveling, finding love or achieving some financial goal. Don’t worry about the details at first, just dream about what the end results should be and how they will make you feel.

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2. Identify Smaller Steps

Now that you have the big picture goals, it’s time to break down how you will achieve them. It’s taking a vague goal and transforming it into actions and measurable progress toward that goal. For example, if the goal is to get more fit, there are lots of little steps that you can achieve to get you from point A to point Z. Smaller, more concrete steps toward the large goal of “Getting Fit,” might include only eating out once per week, adding more vegetables to each meal, taking 10,000 steps per day, and joining a Zumba class with your best friend. These actionable things can be measured and evaluated, giving you plenty of motivation to continue toward the big goal.

3. Visualize Success

Visualizing yourself reaching your goal is very important. Once you can see yourself with the desired result, you’ll be imagining yourself successful in your New Year’s resolution. Visualization will help you stay consistent, focus your attention, reduce anxiety and really help form those habits that contribute to achieving your goal.

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4. Get Support

Keeping your New Year’s resolutions past March is a tough thing, and the more support you have, the more likely you will be to continue on your journey toward achieving your goal. Parents, friends, siblings, co-workers, and even online forums can be incredible resources for support. Achieving your goals can be fun with a partner, and you are more likely to find success.

5. Give Yourself a Break

You will make a mistake, slip up, forget something, or just be too lazy every once in a while as you work toward your goal. That’s OK, and you wouldn’t be human if you didn’t mess up every so often. Be kind to yourself when things don’t go your way. Just resolve to try harder tomorrow and forgive yourself for your bad day. When people get discouraged because they make a mistake, they toss the whole goal away, but you don’t have to. Keep your New Year’s resolutions all year long by allowing yourself to make mistakes occasionally. You’ll be glad you did.

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When it comes to setting goals for the New Year, make sure you follow these tips and find the success you seek. With discipline and hard work, you have the power to transform your life into whatever you want it to be.

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Published on June 30, 2020

What Is Unconscious Bias (And How to Reduce It for Good)

What Is Unconscious Bias (And How to Reduce It for Good)

Many conversations are being held nowadays regarding unconscious bias, but what does it really mean and how can it affect your life and the people around you? With many types of biases, it can get quite confusing. In this article, we’ll touch on cognitive bias, and then zero in on unconscious bias. Both types of biases have an immediate impact on your life because they relate to how you and others think about yourself and other people.

If you want to protect your relationships and make good decisions about other people, you need to know what these biases mean[1]. Once we have clarity about that, we can explore in more depth unconscious bias and how to address it[2].

Cognitive Bias

Let’s start with cognitive bias[3], a predictable pattern of mental errors that result in us misperceiving reality and, as a result, deviating away from the most likely way of reaching our goals[4].

These mental blind spots impact all areas of our life, from health to relationships and even shopping, as a study recently revealed[5]. In other words, from the perspective of what is best for us as individuals, falling for a cognitive bias always harms us by lowering our probability of getting what we want.

Cognitive biases have to do with judgment, not mood. Ironically, cognitive biases — such as the optimism bias and overconfidence effect — more often lead to positive moods. Of course, the consequence of falling into cognitive biases, once discovered, usually leaves us in a bad mood due to the disastrous results of these dangerous judgment errors.

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Unconscious Bias

Unconscious bias is different from cognitive bias. Also known as implicit bias, it refers to unconscious forms of discrimination and stereotyping based on race, gender, sexuality, ethnicity, ability, age, and so on[6]. Despite cognitive biases sometimes leading to discriminatory thinking and feeling patterns, these are two separate and distinct concepts.

Cognitive biases are common across humankind and relate to the particular wiring of our brains, while unconscious bias relates to perceptions between different groups and are specific for the society in which we live. For example, I bet you don’t care or even think about whether someone is a noble or a commoner, yet that distinction was fundamentally important a few centuries ago across Europe. To take another example, most people in the US don’t have strong feelings about Sunni vs. Shiite Muslims, yet this distinction is incredibly meaningful in many parts of the world.

Unconscious Bias and Discriminatory Behavior

Organizations often bring me in as a speaker on diversity and inclusion to address potential unconscious discriminatory behavior. When I share in speeches that black Americans suffer from police harassment and violence at a much higher rate than white people, some participants (usually white) occasionally try to defend the police by claiming that black people are more violent and likely to break the law than whites. They thus attribute police harassment to the internal characteristics of black people (implying that it is deserved), and not to the external context of police behavior.

In reality – as I point out in my response to these folks – research shows that black people are harassed and harmed by police at a much higher rate for the same kind of activity. A white person walking by a cop, for example, is statistically much less likely to be stopped and frisked than a black one[7].

At the other end of things, a white person resisting arrest is much less likely to be violently beaten than a black one. In other words, statistics show that the higher rate of harassment and violence against black Americans by police is due to the prejudice of the police officers, at least to a large extent[8].

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However, I am careful to clarify that this discrimination is not necessarily intentional. Sometimes, it indeed is deliberate, with white police officers consciously believing that black Americans deserve much more scrutiny than whites. At other times, the discriminatory behavior results from unconscious, implicit thought processes that the police officer would not consciously endorse[9].

After becoming aware that unconscious bias does exist, the next step would be learning how to recognize it in order to reduce it. I’ve outlined three crucial points to keep in mind below while further exploring the unconscious prejudice discussed above.

How to Reduce Unconscious Bias

Remember these three important points if you want to work on reducing your unconscious bias.

1. Unconscious Bias is a Systemic Issue

When we understand that unconscious bias is ultimately a systemic issue, we understand that internal cultures need to be checked and addressed first.

Interestingly, research shows that many black police officers have an unconscious prejudice against other black people, perceiving them in a more negative light than white people when evaluating potential suspects. This unconscious bias carried by many — not all — black police officers helps show that such prejudices come – at least to a significant extent – from internal cultures within police departments, rather than pre-existing racist attitudes present before someone joins a police department.

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Such cultures are perpetuated by internal norms, policies, and training procedures, and any police department wishing to address unconscious bias needs to address internal culture first and foremost, rather than attributing racism to individual officers.

In other words, instead of saying it’s a few bad apples in a barrel of overall good ones, the key is recognizing that unconscious bias is a systemic issue, and the structure and joints of the barrel needs to be fixed[10].

2. There Is No Shame in Unconscious Bias

Another crucial thing that needs to be highlighted is that there is no shame or blame in unconscious bias as it’s not stemming from any fault in the individual. This no-shame approach decreases the fight, freeze, or flight defensive response among reluctant audiences, helping them hear and accept the issue.

Unconscious bias is prevalent and often doesn’t match our conscious values. Everyone holds unconscious beliefs and prejudices stemming from our tendency to categorize people into social groups. This developed naturally as a way for our ancestors to quickly size up a possible threat. Unfortunately, it doesn’t translate well in modern life.

3. It Takes a Sustained Effort to Prevent and Protect Against Unconscious Bias

After being presented with additional statistics and discussion of unconscious bias, the issue is generally settled. Still, from their subsequent behavior it’s clear that some of these audience members don’t immediately internalize this evidence. It’s much more comforting for their gut reactions to believe that police officers are right and anyone targeted by police deserves it; in turn, they are highly reluctant to accept the need to focus more efforts and energy on protecting black Americans from police violence due to the structural challenges facing these groups.

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The issue of unconscious bias doesn’t match their intuitions, so they reject this concept, despite extensive and strong evidence for its pervasive role in policing. It takes a series of subsequent follow-up conversations and interventions to move the needle. A single training is almost never sufficient, both in my experience and according to research[11].

Conclusion

The examples and points raised illustrate broader patterns you need to follow to recognize unconscious bias. Only by doing so will you be able to determine if, and what type of, intervention is needed to address it.

Unfortunately, our gut reactions lead us to make poor judgment choices when we simply follow our intuitions. Unconscious biases are systemic and need to be addressed in order to make the best decisions[12].

We need to learn about the kind of problems that result from unconscious bias. Then, you need to develop the right mental habits to help you make the best choices[13]. A one-time training is insufficient for doing so. It takes a long-term commitment and constant discipline and efforts to overcome unconscious bias, so get started now.

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