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3 Ways To Get Your Man More Committed To You

3 Ways To Get Your Man More Committed To You

Getting the guy you are interested in to want to commit to you is not so easy these days. In the beginning, a man can fall in love with a woman but how far can this love go? Love is often easy in the beginning and falling in love is rarely the hard part, it’s the staying in love that proves to be. A little blunder can sabotage the love, but a little meaningful correction can keep the love burning. Truthfully speaking, every woman wants to have a man that loves her forever, but some women do take the wrong step in the early stages of relationships, which in the long run, leaves them heartbroken and emotionally depressed. Getting and keeping your man committed to you can be easily achieved, but you need to adhere to some basic things.

For any man to get down on one knee, propose, say “I do” at the ceremony, and kiss your lips before the congregation, the proper steps must be done and that means what? Win his heart. And just how do you win his heart? Well, if you are among the women looking for a way to capture and win your man’s heart and get your man so committed to you that he asks for your hand in marriage, then this article is for you.

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1. Be your real and authentic self

The biggest blunder women make is adding on airs and pretending to be someone they are not. You watch those feminine celebrities on television, the way they dress and angle their hips while walking, what they say and do, and the men who are lusting after them. You might think doing the same thing will cause your man to love you? No, he will only lust after you and not love you. Being a carbon copy of a “cool girl” does both you and him a disservice in the end.

Have you ever thought if how the reaction of the man would be when he comes to determine that all along the line you might have been putting on and not really being true to yourself? The man won’t forgive you and even if he does, that relationship will go down the drain because it’s built on a lie. A man would appreciate a woman that comes as she is. Be real and you would definitely win your man’s heart.

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2. Set boundaries and have standards

Having limitations and boundaries for what you allow in a relationship is good, especially as a woman. Some women feel that a person would love them more if they cater to the every need that their man has. The fact that you want him to love you does not mean that you have to place yourself in a position that symbolizes that he is your all. Don’t be too emotionally dependent on the man either. Instead, opt to be happy even without the man in your life.

Set a standard for yourself that you uphold when it comes to intimacy. Men don’t typically think about the long-term with women who are ready to jump in bed with them on the first date. Make him work for it and exude the high self-worth that you have by showing him how much you value you. In the event that he treats you in a way that is not appealing to you, let him know that.

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If a man knows that he is always getting away with anything he wants, you start to lose value because if you can’t see or uphold your worth, he can’t either. Love can’t flourish in a place where respect isn’t mutual. So, for your man to meet you at the altar in the end, learn to set high standards for yourself.

3. Don’t force him

Forcing or pushing a man to love you is completely wrong. In the event that a man doesn’t love you, there is nothing you can possibly do, no matter how much force you apply to the matter. It will eventually only get worse when you try pushing a man to propose and get married to you. If your man truly loves you, he may surely put a ring on your finger, so you don’t have to remind him or force him to do so. When a man knows, he knows. Have faith in his feelings for you and have confidence in what you bring to the table.

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Forcing him to do something he has not explicitly said he wants to do shows that you are desperate, and trust me, men don’t truly love desperate women. Give your man some space, withdraw yourself a little, and bring the focus back to you and your life. If a man sees you loving yourself and avoiding desperate behaviors that women often fall victim to, he can come wholeheartedly to you. A guy is more likely to marry a woman who he is more comfortable with than a woman who is always forcing herself on him.[1]

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Reference

[1]http://www.sabtrends.com/2016/07/Modernladies.html

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While people have special days for relationship or love celebrations, true love really goes beyond that.

This article is specifically not for any special one-time love celebration or romance but it’s about all kinds of relationship. It’s about building all kinds of relationships with loved ones, colleagues, family members, and friends; to anyone who has proven to be someone worthy to share a part in the history of our existence.

When it comes to relationships, no one is really an expert. Everyone has lacking points which often starts so little and with time could cost much more than just a separation, it can lead to a complete loss of the relationship. Siblings may end up fighting with each other, families torn apart, co-workers against each other and even elderly couples ending up in divorce or worse.

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There should be a way for redemption, to build back the lost trust and to build the bridges again linking relationships for a greater bond and for a better relationship. And the best way to do this is by being honest with ourselves, knowing what relationships need to survive and knowing that everyone has to give what it takes. Being perfect may not be the solution, but being self-aware is.

1. Take care of yourself first

Relationships are not easy and anyone who has tasted one can tell. Whatever happens in relationships is a mirror of everything about us. Have you imagined anytime we have bad and stressful days, our relationships seem to be more difficult? Our relationships suffer when we are not happy with ourselves and we can feel it. We feel the lacking, the difficulties, but the one thing we really don’t take into consideration is that we are the cause of the relationship’s shortcomings.

Have you ever seen yourself in a fight, only to wonder later, what you really were up against? Have you sometimes felt disappointed of your expectations when they were not met by people you expected? I really hope this post  helps you overcome all that. Everyone has needs and your instincts should be your perfect guide.

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Whatever needs to be done for someone else and if your instincts tell you to make yourself happy first, please do so. Everyone has needs and everyone can make sacrifices but our happiness should be first. This doesn’t mean you don’t make some sacrifices but sometimes it’s best to make yourself happy first before you can make others happy.

2. Distance shouldn’t be a barrier

“If the vehicle can’t take the messenger, it could at least take the message”. This beautiful aged proverb implies that the message is more important than the sender.

Beautiful relationship quotes can help brighten the cloudy storm around your relationship. The greatest relationship mistakes made over time is the belief that only showers of gifts and being together are what sustains relationships. Well, this has been proven wrong.

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A beautiful message to a loved one like inspiring love message on their profile can break any distance barrier. Little things matters and this is one thing people often neglect. However the distance, people feel special knowing they are remembered, knowing someone somewhere is thinking about them.

3. Remember seasonal celebrations

Many seasons of a year bring holidays periods for families, friends and loved ones to come together and have a wonderful time. Keeping these moments memorable must be your focus – birthdays, weddings, marriage anniversaries and all.

A great feast among the numerous feasts celebrated every year “Christmas” is a perfect time to reach out to families and friends, to have a merry filled moments that makes up for the times of separation, to exchange gifts and inspiring messages with those we sincerely care about. If we can’t be together with those we love in these special seasons, Christmas messages shouldn’t be beyond our reach too.

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If keeping our relationships with people especially those we hold most dear matters much to us, these seasons should be kept in our minds. Remembering seasons and sharing happy moments is one of the proven ways to keep our relationships with loved ones.

4. Take the responsibility

Most times, it’s very easy to find something wrong with a relationship when we are unhappy. Blaming other people for our own feelings we expect them to come up with solutions for the problems and we give them total control over the relationship. Well, expecting a solution from this kind of situation is simply expecting something that will never come because you haven’t actually found the cause of the problem.

Before blaming someone else for what you feel,or for something you/they should have done earlier, the best solution is to look deeper into the problem to see if there is something you could have done to savage the situation, something that could have prevented the problem. Taking responsibilities for problems gives us the creative power for their solutions but if we blame someone else, we shouldn’t be surprised if they don’t do anything to find a solution and the problem becomes even worse.

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