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Were You Born to be an Entrepreneur?

Were You Born to be an Entrepreneur?

Do you work a grueling 9 to 5 job that you hate, waking up every day thinking “this is not meant to be my life”? Do you dread going into work, hate your manager or your boss, hate working under anyone in general, and can’t wait to clock out and go home every day? Are you struggling to get by on your wages, and feel underpaid and under-appreciated? Do you long for freedom; freedom over your hours, your schedule, your vacations, and your income? Freedom over your life?

If you’re saying “YES!”, read on. If you have already started a business, sit tight. Do you feel like the black sheep in a flock of robots who are astoundingly content with working a dead-end job? Do you feel like you’re driving 100mph in the wrong direction the longer you keep working this painful j-o-b and aren’t taking your career into your own hands? Yes? Have you ever thought about running your own business? Have you ever tried?

Now answer these questions. Were you doing things as a child like selling your personal items to your family members and neighbors, creating a “store” in your room or on the street? Were you dreaming up business ideas and thinking about making money from a young age?

Are you a self-starter, and do have drive to accomplish things on your own without the need for structure and direction? When you want to achieve something and you are left to your own devices to do it, are you motivated, determined, and thrive in the total freedom? Do you have a fire in you that is hellbent on achieving success, living your dreams, and breaking the mould?

Congratulations. You were born to be an entrepreneur.

This is your destiny, your true calling, and how you’re going to manifest your goals and your dreams. By building, and successfully running, your own business.

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Imagine waking up every day excited; you love what you do, you have total freedom, you choose when you want to work, and decide whether you work 40 or 4 hours a week. You make more money than you have ever dreamed you could make, and your income is constantly increasing. You are your own boss, you call the shots, you run the joint. Powerful, right? If your mind was just running wild with excitement while reading this paragraph, it’s 100% official–you my friend, have landed on this page for a divine reason.

Whether you haven’t even come up with a business idea yet or whether you have already started a business (and maybe it’s not making enough money or you don’t love the industry you’re in), the answer that is written for you is the same. You were destined for entrepreneurship, and you are on the right path. And reading this article is propelling you forward down that path.

Now let’s play the devil’s advocate.

Say you don’t thrive when left to your own devices, you feel like you need structure and direction, and need someone to hold you accountable in order to get tasks done. You don’t enjoy a lot of challenge and would rather be comfortable, and stay safe from risk, failure and rejection.

You don’t think you would have enough determination, and energy, to run your own business, to pursue self-education where you need the knowledge, and to run with everything on your own, as a leader and not a follower. If any of this rings true for you, that’s okay! Not everyone is meant to be an entrepreneur, and many would not find success and wealth down this path.

In fact, 80% of businesses fail. One might say it was because they didn’t have enough funds, the right business plan, or the right resources. And that may very well have been true, but none of these things were the underlying cause. The cause, most of the time, is the person and their mindset. You not only need to be determined, persistent, diligent, resourceful and committed, but you need to have drive…passion.

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And, you need to be creative, a great thinker, and an even better doer. You need to want this so much you can feel it in the very fiber of your being. And once you figure out which type of person you are, and you go against what you’re meant to do, your life just feels wrong, like you’re on the wrong airplane holding someone else’s boarding pass.

Now that you know what you’re meant to do, how do you do it?

1. The first step is the idea.

If you’re just beginning your entrepreneurial journey today, your very first step is coming up with your business idea. All you need to do is pull out a pen and paper, and write down all the ideas you currently have. Next draw two columns; in one column list your passions, hobbies, and things you love doing. In the second column, write down a list of things you are good at, and the more excellent you are at it the better. Think of this list in terms of services or products you could sell.

This list may have your business idea staring right at you – if it doesn’t excite you however, we’ve got a problem. If you start with very little passion for your business, your motivation will die after you start having to put in the work. Compare these two columns and try to find any correlations.

Say you are excellent at cooking, and it happens to be one of your hobbies too. Perfect, the online cooking/baking industry is huge. Consider starting a food blog with a corresponding Youtube channel. Think up a unique angle, something original, and specific.

Next write down ways you could make money with this business. With a website or a blog/vlog, you can monetize it, and the more traffic and fans you gather the more you can charge for advertising space. Think services you could sell, like online cooking classes/courses, and products, like recipe books and ebooks, etc. Let your inner-entrepreneur run wild!

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To stand out, come up with a unique twist or angle on a product or service. Some great examples of this I found are hotel babysitting services for traveling parents, revolutionary health-conscious feminine care, and thinking big and outside the box like Airbnb and Uber did.

Still struggling on deciding what industry you want to be in and what you would find the most success doing? Take the Entrepreneur Quiz, and find out what type of entrepreneur you should be based on your personality, traits, hobbies and skills.

2. The second step is the hardest part.

You need to take action. Massive, determined action. And you need to do it NOW. Not later, now. Otherwise you will lose the motivation and the momentum you just started to get going, and it will fizzle out. You’ll tell yourself that you’ll just put it on the back burner for now and revisit it later, maybe when you’re making more money, or things are less crazy, and less busy…yeah, things are way too busy right now, it’s not a good time, too much going on.

Guess what – your mind is lying to you! These are 100% made-up excuses your mind is generating in order to keep you in your comfort zone, to avoid risk, and potential failure. Basically, your limiting beliefs and self-doubt are trying to swindle you out of achieving your goals and living your destiny. But if you don’t leap, you will never fly. And if you don’t do it now, you will never do it.

So, next you will need to write up your business plan. And it is crucial you build your sales funnel.

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3. Build your online presence.

You will need a business name, you need to get incorporated, build your website, set up your social accounts, etc. And SEO (search engine optimization), is absolutely mandatory for every online business in order to get found online, rank in Google, drive traffic to your site, build yourself an online presence, and increase your sales. This needs to be one of your top ongoing priorities in any online business.

I have 11 years of experience in SEO, and I want you to walk away from this article with some actionable tips, so I’ll share with you the most important on-page factor in your SEO – optimizing your title tags. This one task alone can have a massive impact on your Google rankings.

What are you waiting for?

Get out there and take action. Once you have got momentum, there is no stopping you. You were born for this. It has been written in the stars, it is your destiny – creating and building a life for yourself, run by YOU and only you. Doing what you love and sharing it with the world. Basking in personal and financial freedom and independence, and most importantly, walking the path you were meant to walk.

Featured photo credit: Olu Eletu via unsplash.com

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Last Updated on July 8, 2020

How to Say No When You Say Yes Too Often

How to Say No When You Say Yes Too Often

Do you say yes so often that you realize you aren’t really happy about this, wondering how to say no to people?

For years, I was a serial people pleaser. Known as someone who would step up, I would gladly make time especially when it came to volunteering for certain causes. I proudly carried this role all through grade school, college, even through law school. For years, I thought saying “no” meant I would disappoint a good friend or someone I respected.

But somewhere along the way, I noticed I wasn’t quite living my life. Instead, I seem to have created a schedule that was a strange combination of meeting the expectations of others, what I thought I should be doing, and some of what I actually wanted to do. The result? I had a packed schedule that left me overwhelmed and unfulfilled.

It took a long while but I learned the art of saying no. Saying ‘no’ meant I no longer catered fully to everyone else’s needs and could make more room for what I really wanted to do. Instead of cramming too much in, I chose to pursue what really mattered. I started to manage my time more around my own needs and interests. When that happened, I became a lot happier. And guess what? I hardly disappointed anyone.

The Importance of Saying No

When you learn the art of saying ‘no,’ you begin to look at the world differently. Rather than seeing all of the things you could or should be doing (and aren’t doing), you start to look at how to say yes to what’s important.

In other words, you aren’t just reacting to what life throws at you. You seek the opportunities that move you to where you want to be.

Successful people aren’t afraid to say no. Oprah Winfrey considered one of the most successful women in the world confessed that it was much later in life when she learned how to say no. Even after she had become internationally famous, she felt she had to say yes to virtually everything. It was only when she realized that after years of struggling with saying no, I finally got to this question: “What do I want?”

Being able to say no also helps you manage your time better.

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Warren Buffett views no as essential to his success. He said,

“The difference between successful people and really successful people is that really successful people say no to almost everything.”

When I made ‘no’ a part of my toolbox, I drove more of my own success focusing on fewer things and doing them well.

How We Are Pressured to Say Yes

It’s no wonder a lot of us find it hard to say ‘no.’

From an early age, we are conditioned to say ‘yes.’ We said yes probably hundreds of time in order to graduate from high school and then get into college. We said yes to find work. We said yes get a promotion. We said yes to find love and then yes again to stay in a relationship. We said yes to find and keep friends.

We say yes because it feels better to help someone. We say yes because it can seem like the right thing to do. We say yes because we think that is key to success. And we say yes because the request might come from someone who is hard to resist like the boss.

And that’s not all. The pressure to say yes doesn’t just come from others. We put a lot of pressure on ourselves. At work, we say yes because we compare ourselves to others who seem to be doing more than we are. Outside of work, we say yes because we feel guilty we aren’t doing enough to spend time with family or friends.

The message no matter where we turn is nearly always, “You really could be doing more.” The result? When people ask us for our time, we are heavily conditioned to say yes.

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How to Say No Without Feeling Guilty

Deciding to add the word ‘no’ to your toolbox is no small thing. Perhaps you already say ‘no’ but not as much as you would like. Maybe you have an instinct that if you were to learn the art of ‘no’ that you could finally create more time for things you care about. But let’s be honest, using the word ‘no’ doesn’t come easily for many people.

The 3 Rules of Thumbs for Saying No

1. You Need to Get Out of Your Comfort Zone

Let’s face it. It is hard to say no. Setting boundaries around your time especially you haven’t done it much in the past will feel awkward.

2. You Are the Air Traffic Controller of Your Time

Remember that you are the only one who understands the demands for your time. Think about it, who else knows about all of the demands on your time? No one. Only you are at the center of all of these requests. are the only one that understands what time you really have.

3. Saying ‘No’ Means Saying ‘Yes’ to Something That Matters

When we decide not to do something, it means we can say yes to something else. You have a unique opportunity to decide how you spend your precious time.

6 Ways to Start Saying No

Incorporating that little word ‘no’ into your life can be transformational. Turning some things down will mean you can open doors to what really matters. Here are some essential tips to learn the art of no:

1. Check in With Your Obligation Meter

One of the biggest challenges to saying ‘no’ is a feeling of obligation. Do you feel you have a responsibility to say yes and worry that saying no reflect poorly on you?

Ask yourself whether you truly have the duty to say yes. Check your assumptions or beliefs about whether you carry the responsibility to say yes. Turn it around and instead ask what duty you owe to yourself.

2. Resist the Fear of Missing out (FOMO)

Do you have a fear of missing out (FOMO)? FOMO can follow us around in so many ways. At work, we volunteer our time because we fear we won’t move ahead. In our personal lives, we agree to join the crowd because FOMO even while we ourselves aren’t enjoying the fun.

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Check in with yourself. Are you saying yes because of FOMO or because you really want to say yes? More often than not, running after fear doesn’t make us feel better.

3. Check Your Assumptions About What It Means to Say ‘No’

Do you dread the reaction you will get if you say no? Often, we say ‘yes’ because we worry about how others will respond or the consequences of saying no or because of the consequences. We may be afraid to disappoint others or think we will lose respect from others. We often forget how much we are disappointing ourselves along the way.

Keep in mind that saying ‘no’ can be exactly what is needed to send the right message that you have limited time. In the tips below, you will see how to communicate your no in a gentle and loving way. You might disappoint someone initially but drawing a boundary can bring you the freedom you need so that you can give freely of yourself when you truly want to.

4. When the Request Comes In, Sit on It

Sometimes, when we are in the moment, we instinctively agree. The request might make sense at first. Or we typically have said yes to this request in the past.

Give yourself a little time to reflect on whether you really have the time, or can do the task properly. You may decide the best option is to say ‘no.’ There is no harm in giving yourself the time to decide.

5. Communicate Your ‘No’ with Transparency and Kindness

When you are ready to tell someone no, communicate your decision clearly. The message can be open and honest to ensure the recipient that your reasons have to do with your limited time.

Resist the temptation not to respond or communicate all. But do not feel obligated to provide a lengthy account about why you are saying no.

A clear communication with a short explanation is all that is needed. I have found it useful to tell people that I have many demands and need to be careful with how I allocate my time. I will sometimes say I really appreciate that they came to me and for them to check in again if the opportunity arises another time.

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6. Consider How to Use a Modified ‘No’

If you are under pressure to say yes but want to say no, you may want to consider downgrading a “yes” to a “yes but…” giving you an opportunity to condition your agreement to what works best for you.

Sometimes, the condition can be to do the task but not in the time frame that was originally requested. Or perhaps you can do part of what has been asked.

Final Thoughts

Beginning right now, you can change how you respond to requests for your time. When the request comes in, take yourself off autopilot where you might normally say yes.

Use the request as a fresh request to draw a healthy boundary around your time. Pay particular attention to when you place certain demands on yourself. If you are the one placing the demand on yourself, try to evaluate the demand as if it were coming from somewhere else.

Try it now. Say no to a friend who continues to take advantage of your goodwill. Or, draw the line with a workaholic colleague and tell them you will complete the project but not by working all weekend. Or, tell someone in your family you can’t loan them money again because they never paid you back the last time. You’ll find yourself much happier.

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