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6 Ways Women Can Crush It While Getting Things Done

6 Ways Women Can Crush It While Getting Things Done

Women might have come a long way from fighting for their right to vote or to convince the world that they can contribute to the economy. Women’s contribution to the economy is already at $3 trillion and there are no signs of slowing down. Women are also seen as the rising tribe of entrepreneurs with 36% of all businesses owned by them.

Economists agree “economic empowerment of women across the rich world is one of the most remarkable revolutions of the past 50 years”.

Yet, women face tremendous systemic social and financial challenges, whether they are starting a business or climbing the corporate ladder. 43% of them leave the workforce once they become moms and find it difficult to return, even if they want to.

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Here are a few ways in which women can crush it:

1. Cut out the guilt

There is subtle messaging all the time – the ubiquitous “lean-in” message, the “be-a-woman” message, the “be-a-good-mom” message that women have to deal with all the time. The truth is women need to get off the pressure of expectations and own their choices. If she wants to raise her kids as a stay-at-home mom, or start a blog, or run a multi-million dollar company – we need to see the strength in our choices, stick to it and give it our best.

Research shows that women are 30-40% more likely to feel guilt than men. Women are also reported to have more of floating anxiety (which is considered the worst kind of anxiety) – a phenomenon which has us worried about little things that need to get done every day. It helps when women break out of the mindset that they need to be super-ninja-women at all times. It’s worthwhile to remind ourselves of our enoughness. Here is a quote from Brene Brown’s book:

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“Wholehearted living is about engaging with our lives from a place of worthiness. it’s about cultivating the courage, compassion and connection to wake up in the morning and think no matter what gets done and how much is left undone, I am enough.”

2. Recognize gaslighting

Gaslighting is a term that gained popularity and relevance from a 1944 MGM film “Gaslight”, starring Ingrid Bergman. Charles Boyer, who plays Bergman’s husband in the film tries to convince her that she is mentally unstable by intentionally having the gaslights in their home flicker on and off. Every time she notices it and reacts, he waves it off saying she is just seeing things – with the ultimate intention of getting his hands on her jewelry.

Sadly, for all the progress the world has made, there is a lot of “gaslighting” happening around us. Somehow, a woman voicing her concerns over an issue is seen as “over-reacting” or “emotional” or “hypersensitive”. The expectation is simple to gulp it down and go “with the flow”. Needless to say, the antidote is to be aware of it and stick to your guns.

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3. Use firm language

One of the things that women do to aid the above phenomenon is to use language that is ambiguous and apologetic. According to this study, women are more likely to use tentative language, also known as “hedging language” while communicating at work.

An example is, “ I am sorry, but I am not sure that the data is right”. An affirmative alternative would be,”I think we need to see more data to support this.”

4. Get your family on-board

Women still take responsibility for the majority of household chores. Of course, there is nothing wrong with it if that’s by choice, but, most times it’s simply done out of a need to stick to social codes. According to this study, women who do more household chores tend to be less ambitious at work.

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Women wouldn’t have to choose so much if the expectation to help them succeed at work is built into the family fabric. It simply means, plan out your day, ask for help and delegate responsibilities just like you would at work. Also, encourage men to avail their paternity leaves and encourage them to be equal parents. According to a Swedish study, there is a 7% lifetime salary increase for the partner, for every month a father takes off to care for the kids.

5. Be confident in your choices

Whether it is running a blog, or climbing up the corporate ladder, or just raising kids – it is important to be sure of your choices and simply do the best.

Here’s Mindy Kilang on confidence: “I always get asked, ‘Where do you get your confidence?’ I think people are well-meaning, but it’s pretty insulting. Because what it means to me is, ‘You, Mindy Kaling, have all the trappings of a very marginalized person. You’re not skinny, you’re not white, you’re a woman. Why on earth would you feel like you’re worth anything?’”

6. Put yourself first

The only way to be amazingly productive is to be in your best form – which means there is a real need to take care of yourself. Chalk out time to get your ‘me-time’, work on your health and unplug to get back with a bang!

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Last Updated on June 8, 2018

10 Harsh But True Illustrations that Show Our Changed Society

10 Harsh But True Illustrations that Show Our Changed Society

Let’s face it.  We are living in a digital age, and there is absolutely no turning back. One of the biggest influences on society these days is social media. It affects us both positively and negatively. Social media was originally designed for people to share interesting facets of their lives with their friends, but it has become so much more than what it intended to be. It is now a medium for information to pass around the globe. In many cases, people first learn about current events through Twitter or Facebook before hearing about them from conventional news sources.

We also rely on technology for nearly everything we do. People these days seem as if they can’t go anywhere or do anything without their smartphones, tablets, or laptops. They need to be in constant contact with others via electronic devices.

However, there is also a downside to be too connected to social media and electronic devices. We are too dependent on them, which make us oblivious to what we are doing to ourselves. Being too connected can have a negative effect on our lives and the society as a whole. Here are 10 true illustrations that show how our society is negatively impacted because of the use of technology.

1. Facebook is eating away at your time.

Facebook is eating away your time

    How much time do you usually spend each day on Facebook or other social networking sites? Is it hindering your productivity? Do you find yourself wasting time to a point where you don’t even know where it goes? If the answer is yes, Facebook might have eaten away at your time.

    2. We’ve become “Likeaholics.”

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    Likeaholic

      When you are posting something on Facebook, are you doing it just to see how many of your friends will give it the proverbial thumbs up? This illustration shows that some people are treating “Likes” on Facebook as if it was a drug they needed to inject into their bloodstreams.

      3. Our electronics have priority over our lives.

      priorities

        Given a choice between your dying phone battery or you dying, which will you choose? In this case, the man in this illustration chose to charge his phone over to sustain his own life. As a society, we need to be more careful of our priorities.

        4. Our devices are ruining intimacy.

        lack of intimacy

          Have you and your loved one ever spent time together where each of you is on your phone instead of communicating face-to-face with each other? Has society reached the point where we can’t even be intimate with each other without being on our phones at the same time?

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          5. Families aren’t spending quality time together.

          mother baking

            Here is a mother making holiday cookies, but what are the kids doing? They are not making cookies with their mother. Instead, every one of them has their faces buried in their own electronic devices. Television used to be what parents use to babysit their kids. Now, it’s a tablet, phone, laptop or video game that does the job.

            6.  We’d rather record someone than help them.

            drowning

              A lot is happening in this illustration. A black man is drowning and asking for help. One person has a gun pointed at him. The other person has their iPhone pointed at him and is recording the scene, but is not interested to help this man.

              7. Society is sleeping, it’s sleeping its life away.

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              sleeping your life away

                Time is money. After we have wasted the long period of time on social media, we are losing the most valuable currency we have – our time in this world.

                8.  Despite all the technology we have, we still want what someone else has.

                wanting what someone else is having

                  There’s an old saying that goes, “The grass is always greener on the other side.” This illustration shows that despite all that we have, we are still not satisfied with our lives.

                  9. Sensationalism still sells.

                  free expression

                    With the information overload that exists today, the media still looks for sensationalism. Here’s a woman who feels she has something important to say, but the media only cares about her because she is naked. Would the news media still have microphones in front of her if she wasn’t standing there topless?

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                    10. In the end, with all of this, we are still killing the planet.

                    gun to mother earth

                      This last illustration argues that despite all of our technological gains, we are still polluting the earth as if we have a virtual gun pointed at Mother Nature. As we build bigger cities and higher technology, how much more damages can we continue to do before putting our lives at risk?

                      Featured photo credit: Michael Summers via flickr.com

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