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6 Keys to Improve Your Day by Controlling Your Mind

6 Keys to Improve Your Day by Controlling Your Mind

There are many things we can do to start the day off right. Sometimes it is easy to identify why a day may go better than the last, and sometimes it isn’t quite so obvious. Here are things you can do every day to make every day as good as the last, and create a renewing cycle of positive karma in your life.

1. Focus on gratitude

There have been studies done on the effects of complaining. These studies have shown that those who complain actually rewire their brains, making it more difficult to appreciate the good in any situation. Every experience in life can be used as a tool to prepare for the next or as an example of failure compared to the last.

As you experience disappointment throughout the day, remove the negative emotion and analyze.

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How can you learn from this?

Have you experienced this lesson before?

How can you be prepared the next time?

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When you control your emotions, you control the situation.

2. What you think about, you bring about

The virtue of this statement has been proven time and again. Think about success and you’ll develop the understanding necessary to achieve that success. Think only of your failures and you’ll develop a set of self-defeating habits that cause the mind to create the ongoing cycle of loss. Have a purpose that is larger than you, commit yourself to it, and you’ll develop a sense of being that transcends the limitations of your body.

3. A clean mind leads to a clean body

The body is the servant of the mind. Pure thoughts will lead to a pure body, and adversely an impure mind will lead to a sick body. This could be the reason why dieting and exercise has such inconsistent and short-lasting results. With the focus being put on the body, which in effect, the cause being in the mind.

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4. Action comes only after thought

Whether for good or bad, thought is the predecessor to every great achievement accomplished. With this in mind, it behooves us to consider the impact of our thoughts throughout our day, week, month, and year. If you notice consistent bad actions, you might be having consistent bad thoughts.

“By the aid of self-control, resolution, purity, righteousness, and well-directed thought a man ascends. By the aid of animality, indolence, impurity, corruption and confusion of thought man descends.” – James Allen, As A Man Thinketh

5. To desire is to obtain, to aspire is to achieve

All the visible world is created by the invisible. Unpleasant circumstances can be overcome by perceiving and pursuing an ideal. Gandhi, John F. Kennedy, Washington, and Martin Luther King Jr. were all able to overcome adversity by pursuing their ideal vision.You will always gravitate toward that which you secretly love most. You will become as small as your controlling desire or as great as your dominant aspiration.

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6. Peace of mind is the result of self-control

Success, wealth, and influence are the results of a disciplined mind. In-depth studies have been done about self-control, it’s lasting lifetime effects, how to increase/decrease it, and how to feed it. Self-control has been identified as the one of the single greatest indicators of whether a person will succeed or fail in life.

Admittedly, these are all pretty big ideas. Through dedicating yourself to controlling your mind you’ll unlock your own keys to happiness in life.

Disciplining your mind is like any other endeavor: it takes consistent practice, focus, and determination. Starting each day by going through these keys will help identify the source of chronic frustration that gets us out of our groove.

Improve your day consistently every day to develop a better life for yourself!

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Last Updated on September 10, 2018

Overcoming The Pain Of A Breakup: 3 Suggestions Based On Science

Overcoming The Pain Of A Breakup: 3 Suggestions Based On Science

We thought that the expression ‘broken heart’ was just a metaphor, but science is telling us that it is not: breakups and rejections do cause physical pain. When a group of psychologists asked research participants to look at images of their ex-partners who broke up with them, researchers found that the same brain areas that are activated by physical pain are also activated by looking at images of ex-partners. Looking at images of our ex is a painful experience, literally.[1].

Given that the effect of rejections and breakups is the same as the effect of physical pain, scientists have speculated on whether the practices that reduce physical pain could be used to reduce the emotional pain that follows from breakups and rejections. In a study on whether painkillers reduce the emotional pain caused by a breakup, researchers found that painkillers did help. Individuals who took painkillers were better able to deal with their breakup. Tamar Cohen wrote that “A simple dose of paracetamol could help ease the pain of a broken heart.”[2]

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Just like painkillers can be used to ease the pain of a broken heart, other practices that ease physical pain can also be used to ease the pain of rejections and breakups. Three of these scientifically validated practices are presented in this article.

Looking at images of loved ones

While images of ex-partners stimulate the pain neuro-circuitry in our brain, images of loved ones activate a different circuitry. Looking at images of people who care about us increases the release of oxytocin in our body. Oxytocin, or the “cuddle hormone,” is the hormone that our body relies on to induce in us a soothing feeling of tranquility, even when we are under high stress and pain.

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In fact, oxytocin was found to have a crucial role as a mother is giving birth to her baby. Despite the extreme pain that a mother has to endure during delivery, the high level of oxytocin secreted by her body transforms pain into pleasure. Mariem Melainine notes that, “Oxytocin levels are usually at their peak during delivery, which promotes a sense of euphoria in the mother and helps her develop a stronger bond with her baby.”[3]

Whenever you feel tempted to look at images of your ex-partner, log into your Facebook page and start browsing images of your loved ones. As Eva Ritvo, M.D. notes, “Facebook fools our brain into believing that loved ones surround us, which historically was essential to our survival. The human brain, because it evolved thousands of years before photography, fails on many levels to recognize the difference between pictures and people”[4]

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Exercise

Endorphins are neurotransmitters that reduce our perception of pain. When our body is high on endorphins, painful sensations are kept outside of conscious awareness. It was found that exercise causes endorphins to be secreted in the brain and as a result produce a feeling of power, as psychologist Alex Korb noted in his book: “Exercise causes your brain to release endorphins, neurotransmitters that act on your neurons like opiates (such as morphine or Vicodin) by sending a neural signal to reduce pain and provide anxiety relief.”[5] By inhibiting pain from being transmitted to our brain, exercise acts as a powerful antidote to the pain caused by rejections and breakups.

Meditation

Jon Kabat Zinn, a doctor who pioneered the use of mindfulness meditation therapy for patients with chronic pain, has argued that it is not pain itself that is harmful to our mental health, rather, it is the way we react to pain. When we react to pain with irritation, frustration, and self-pity, more pain is generated, and we enter a never ending spiral of painful thoughts and sensations.

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In order to disrupt the domino effect caused by reacting to pain with pain, Kabat Zinn and other proponents of mindfulness meditation therapy have suggested reacting to pain through nonjudgmental contemplation and acceptance. By practicing meditation on a daily basis and getting used to the habit of paying attention to the sensations generated by our body (including the painful ones and by observing these sensations nonjudgmentally and with compassion) our brain develops the habit of reacting to pain with grace and patience.

When you find yourself thinking about a recent breakup or a recent rejection, close your eyes and pay attention to the sensations produced by your body. Take deep breaths and as you are feeling the sensations produced by your body, distance yourself from them, and observe them without judgment and with compassion. If your brain starts wandering and gets distracted, gently bring back your compassionate nonjudgmental attention to your body. Try to do this exercise for one minute and gradually increase its duration.

With consistent practice, nonjudgmental acceptance will become our default reaction to breakups, rejections, and other disappointments that we experience in life. Every rejection and every breakup teaches us great lessons about relationships and about ourselves.

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