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Sorry, Not Sorry: 5 Reasons Why You Should Not Regret Life Decisions (and How to Achieve it)

Sorry, Not Sorry: 5 Reasons Why You Should Not Regret Life Decisions (and How to Achieve it)

Do you often find yourself having regrets about things you did or didn’t do? Do you often wonder what could have happened if you had done something differently? Do you overthink every small choice you have to make in daily life, and then end up feeling bad about it?

Believe it or not, even the most successful people who’ve achieved a lot in life and the entrepreneurs who take decisions that might cost them millions of dollars experience that, too. It’s just that they’ve learned how to accept the insecurity of life, the need for fast decision-making, and the ability to make the most of what you got.

Truth is, you can never know whether one option is right until you give it a try. What matters, though, is to actually act upon it.

Some people spend a lot of time trying to make a choice, even ruining their sleep and peace of mind over it. In the end, however, they’ve brought so much pressure and stress in their life that they don’t want to deal with this anymore, and decide to do nothing.

Such people aren’t doers, and – as we know – success loves action-oriented individuals who are not scared to make a choice and do their best.

It’s important to not just take firm decisions regardless of the situation, but to feel good about your choice and confident in your abilities.

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Under no circumstances should you allow yourself to feel sorry about a choice you made, ever again. Here’s how to achieve that:

1. Experience comes with trials.

To get more experienced in the journey called life, you don’t need to just read about other people’s successes and failures, to have mentors, or to make plans and prepare. What you need is to do new things, try stuff, take risks and simply make things happen.

Experienced people grow spiritually too, they overcome their mental barriers with action and eventually become brave enough to reach any other goal they set in life.

2. Each choice gets you closer to success.

Even if you could have done something better, you now have powerful information. You know exactly what not to do next time. Avoiding mistakes in the future saves a lot of time and worries too.

3. There’s no wrong or right; it’s just a matter of perception.

What’s good for you might be awful for other people. We’re all different in our aspirations, experiences, and lifestyle choices.

This means that no one else can tell you what’s right for you. Let go of the need to listen to those around you.

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Trust your heart and do what feels right. At least you’ll end up on the path that’s created for you and won’t end up living by someone else’s standards.

When you start feeling bad about a life decision you made, look at it from another perspective.

What if it’s the best thing that could have happened to you at this exact stage of your life? What if you came to an important conclusion and can now set new, better goals for your future?

Strive to be open-minded. Find the positives. Learn from everything that went wrong. And realize that in the end of the day, it’s all about how you react to what happens.

4. Insecurity is part of life.

Having regrets about the choices you make in life means you expect things to turn out in a certain way, but life surprises you and you end up disappointed.

Or maybe you expect a lot from yourself or others around you, and then realize other people have limits, too.

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It might also be the doubts that go together with each decision, or that your desire for perfection causes you to fear doing something wrong.

Let go of all that. Declutter your mind and strive for simplicity. It’s unbelievable how true freedom feels like once you leave such negative thoughts and old mental patterns behind, and embrace the present.

We can never predict the future and preparing for it is pointless. Expectations don’t work, either. They just lead to disappointment and never being happy with your current life.

But every day is filled with opportunities, positive vibes and a chance to grow and get better. You just need to learn to go with the flow and make the most of what you’ve got.

Stop trying to take the best decision and focus on simply making a choice sooner and doing something about it.

As long as you’re going after what you want and not being passive, you’re on the right track.

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5. No decision is final.

Another comforting thought that will help you get over feeling bad about past decisions is that you can always do something to change the situation.

What’s happened in the past stays in the past, but right now there’s a lot you can work on to make sure your future isn’t affected by this choice.

So whatever bad decisions you make, no matter how they turn out, don’t focus on the past, but keep your eyes on the end goal. There are many roads you can take to get there, and you’ll change direction many times. As long as the final destination is one and you keep taking a step daily, be sure you’ll get there and will enjoy it once it happens.

Now that you know all this, life decisions shouldn’t scare you anymore.

Each day is a chance to turn over a new leaf, to start the best chapter of your life so far, to meet wonderful people that will help you on your journey.

Also, each decision makes you a stronger individual, better prepared for what life has in store, more courageous and adventurous. Don’t miss out on that.

At the end of the day, we only regret the chances we didn’t take.

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Last Updated on June 13, 2019

How to Quit Your Boring Life and Start Living an Interesting One

How to Quit Your Boring Life and Start Living an Interesting One

Think you have a boring life?

The definition of boring is dull or not interesting. Maybe you’ve been doing the same thing and living the same life for too long, or maybe your daily routine is limiting your growth and happiness. Whatever your reason is, the following list of 20 things can definitely make any day more interesting. Some of them are silly, while some are more meaningful, so hopefully just reading the list makes your life less boring and sparks your creativity.

Let’s dive in the list to quit your boring life and start living an interesting (and meaning) one!

1. Channel Your 7-Year-Old Self

What would he or she want to do right now? Color? Paint? Run around outside? Play dress up? Eat with your hands? Play that instrument hiding in the back of your closet that you haven’t touched in years?

Just because you’re a grown up doesn’t mean any of this stuff will be less enjoyable than you remember it. Give yourself permission to play.

2. Go Play with Kids

Speaking of little kids, if you have your own or access to any (in a non-creepy way, like they’re your niece or your best friend’s kid, you get the idea) go play with them!

They didn’t create an entire show called Kids Say The Darndest Things because kids aren’t hilarious. They also keep things so simple, and we can really stand to be reminded of this and stop allowing ourselves to get bogged down in boring details.

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3. Order a Hot Dog

While you’re eating it, Google: “What’s in a hot dog?” You decide whether or not you want to finish it.

4. For the Ladies: Wear Your Sexiest Lingerie Under Your Work Clothes

Your “little secret” will leave you feeling anything but boring all day!

5. Play Cell Phone Roulette

You’ll need at least one buddy for this. Scroll through the contacts in your phone, stop on a random one and call the person.

You could spark an incredible catch up session or be incredibly awkward. Neither are boring.

6. Fill out a Pack of Thank-You Cards

Give them to random people who probably don’t get thanked too often for doing what they do ever day.

Ideas: police officers, librarians, servers, baristas, cab drivers, sanitation workers, teachers, people behind any check out counter, receptionists, your friends, the guy at the falafel stand, etc.

7. Sign up for a Class in Something You’ve “Always Wanted to Do”, or Something That Makes You Really Uncomfortable

Ideas: pole dancing, salsa lessons, improv, pottery, cooking, knitting (yup, there are classes for this, too!), karate, boxing, something techy like the workshops they run in Apple stores, get Rosetta Stone and learn that language you’ve always wanted to speak, etc.

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What’s good about joining an interest class is that you will also meet new people!

8. Interview Your Grandparents About Their Lives

You can bet they’ve had some crazy experiences you probably never knew about.

9. Get up on Stage at an Open Mic Night

Whether you’re funny or not, get up on stage and just talk funny. And if you’re not, memorize a few of your favorite jokes and tell those!

10. Do Something for Someone Else That You Wish Someone Would Do for You

We all have a few ideas on this list. I promise you will feel amazing after and anything but bored.

11. Start a DIY Project in Your Home

It doesn’t have to be super complicated. If you need ideas, there’re plenty on Pinterest. Or you can also check out these 30 Awesome DIY Projects that You’ve Never Heard of.

12. Plan a Weekend Trip or an All-Out Vacation

This will give you something to look forward to.

Even if you don’t have the time or money to go on a vacation, plan for a staycation, which is same fun and relaxing!

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13. People Watch

Find a bench in a crowded area (centers of transportation like airports, bus stops and train stations are great for this!) and just observe.

People are infinitely interesting.

14. Eat Something You’ve Never Eaten Before

Bonus points if it’s a random fruit or veggie.

15. Dance

You can get your friends together for a night on the town or just pull up a video on YouTube and bust a move from your own living room.

If you’re feeling extra brave, you can even dance in public and get other people involved.

16. Go to YOUTUBE and Search “Funny Pets” or “Funny Babies”

This is also a great quickie ab workout as you will be laughing hysterically.

17. Pick up a Book and Start Reading

Check out the NY Times Best Sellers lists and grab a new book you can get lost in.

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18. Step Away from the Computer and Go Get Some Time with People You Care About in Real Life

Facebook stalking doesn’t count as real social interaction. You can even share this post with your friends and vote on which one you’d like to do together!

19. Check out a Museum You’ve Never Been to Before

OK, depending on your interests, this one might actually be boring. If you love learning, art or different cultures though, this one is for you!

20. Write a List of Things You Desire and Truly Want

This is a great way to help you figure out the real reason why you’re feeling bored about your life. Maybe you haven’t really done things that you truly enjoy? Maybe what you’ve wanted to do all the time has been left behind?

Think about the list of things you really want to do, and ask yourself why you aren’t doing these things (yet). Then start taking your first step to make what you want happen.

Now go make your life interesting and live your dream life!

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