Do you often find yourself having regrets about things you did or didn’t do? Do you often wonder what could have happened if you had done something differently? Do you overthink every small choice you have to make in daily life, and then end up feeling bad about it?
Believe it or not, even the most successful people who’ve achieved a lot in life and the entrepreneurs who take decisions that might cost them millions of dollars experience that, too. It’s just that they’ve learned how to accept the insecurity of life, the need for fast decision-making, and the ability to make the most of what you got.
Truth is, you can never know whether one option is right until you give it a try. What matters, though, is to actually act upon it.
Some people spend a lot of time trying to make a choice, even ruining their sleep and peace of mind over it. In the end, however, they’ve brought so much pressure and stress in their life that they don’t want to deal with this anymore, and decide to do nothing.
Such people aren’t doers, and – as we know – success loves action-oriented individuals who are not scared to make a choice and do their best.
It’s important to not just take firm decisions regardless of the situation, but to feel good about your choice and confident in your abilities.
Under no circumstances should you allow yourself to feel sorry about a choice you made, ever again. Here’s how to achieve that:
1. Experience comes with trials.
To get more experienced in the journey called life, you don’t need to just read about other people’s successes and failures, to have mentors, or to make plans and prepare. What you need is to do new things, try stuff, take risks and simply make things happen.
Experienced people grow spiritually too, they overcome their mental barriers with action and eventually become brave enough to reach any other goal they set in life.
2. Each choice gets you closer to success.
Even if you could have done something better, you now have powerful information. You know exactly what not to do next time. Avoiding mistakes in the future saves a lot of time and worries too.
3. There’s no wrong or right; it’s just a matter of perception.
What’s good for you might be awful for other people. We’re all different in our aspirations, experiences, and lifestyle choices.
This means that no one else can tell you what’s right for you. Let go of the need to listen to those around you.
Trust your heart and do what feels right. At least you’ll end up on the path that’s created for you and won’t end up living by someone else’s standards.
When you start feeling bad about a life decision you made, look at it from another perspective.
What if it’s the best thing that could have happened to you at this exact stage of your life? What if you came to an important conclusion and can now set new, better goals for your future?
Strive to be open-minded. Find the positives. Learn from everything that went wrong. And realize that in the end of the day, it’s all about how you react to what happens.
4. Insecurity is part of life.
Having regrets about the choices you make in life means you expect things to turn out in a certain way, but life surprises you and you end up disappointed.
Or maybe you expect a lot from yourself or others around you, and then realize other people have limits, too.
It might also be the doubts that go together with each decision, or that your desire for perfection causes you to fear doing something wrong.
Let go of all that. Declutter your mind and strive for simplicity. It’s unbelievable how true freedom feels like once you leave such negative thoughts and old mental patterns behind, and embrace the present.
We can never predict the future and preparing for it is pointless. Expectations don’t work, either. They just lead to disappointment and never being happy with your current life.
But every day is filled with opportunities, positive vibes and a chance to grow and get better. You just need to learn to go with the flow and make the most of what you’ve got.
Stop trying to take the best decision and focus on simply making a choice sooner and doing something about it.
As long as you’re going after what you want and not being passive, you’re on the right track.
5. No decision is final.
Another comforting thought that will help you get over feeling bad about past decisions is that you can always do something to change the situation.
What’s happened in the past stays in the past, but right now there’s a lot you can work on to make sure your future isn’t affected by this choice.
So whatever bad decisions you make, no matter how they turn out, don’t focus on the past, but keep your eyes on the end goal. There are many roads you can take to get there, and you’ll change direction many times. As long as the final destination is one and you keep taking a step daily, be sure you’ll get there and will enjoy it once it happens.
Now that you know all this, life decisions shouldn’t scare you anymore.
Each day is a chance to turn over a new leaf, to start the best chapter of your life so far, to meet wonderful people that will help you on your journey.
Also, each decision makes you a stronger individual, better prepared for what life has in store, more courageous and adventurous. Don’t miss out on that.
At the end of the day, we only regret the chances we didn’t take.