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4 Ways to Enjoy the Holidays as a Single Woman

4 Ways to Enjoy the Holidays as a Single Woman

It’s that time of the year where holidays tend to bring out the best and worst of people. Cuffing season has begun, and single women may be experiencing holiday anxiety due to not having a partner to bring around for dinner and gatherings. Don’t let the holidays stress you out or make you feel lonely. Here are a few ways to still enjoy the holidays without having a significant other.

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    Travel

    If you’re one of the lucky women who gets to be off work during the holidays take advantage of the time and plan a trip. Scan over that dream vacation list or that travel bucket list you’ve been keeping all year and catch a flight! This could be an opportunity for you to travel outside of the country to somewhere new and exciting, or even somewhere local that you’ve never been. Round up a few of your friends who may not have holiday plans. You’d be surprised how many people actually prefer to escape the madness of the holidays this time of year.

    Volunteer

    Giving back to the community is a great way to spend time during the holidays. From feeding the homeless to simply spending time at children’s hospitals and assisted living communities, there are so many different groups of people who could use a smile on their face or assistance. Another great place to spend time during the holidays is residential facilities and group homes that house youth diagnosed with mental health conditions or developmental disabilities. Many of these places have holiday-themed events that could use volunteers for assisting with preparation or simply just doing activities with the residents. Make it a point to help positively impact someone else’s day throughout the holidays, and it will positively affect yours. There’s not too many things more uplifting than to help to uplift someone else.

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      Throw your own party 

      If you find yourself not really feeling the club scene or frequenting the bars during the holidays, throw a gathering of your own. Invite your friends and family members over for a night of drinks and fun games. Leave the invite open for them to bring others. Another fun party idea during the holidays is to do a singles-themed gathering. Set up a fun night for singles to meet up to have fun and get to know each other in a less awkward environment than speed dating. Not only is this a way to enjoy yourself, but it also gives you a chance to meet others who are single and looking for a partner.

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        Spend time with family 

        The holidays can sometimes make you focus on what you don’t have as opposed to what you are blessed with. Don’t let what or who you don’t have at the time make you a party pooper during the holiday season. Spend time with your loved ones who you may not always have the time to see throughout the rest of the year. After all, a partner is not the only significant person in your life, and there is much more to life and the holiday season than seeking someone to get great photo opps with.

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        The holidays are about more than just great photo opps and having a significant other. Let your focus be loving on others this season, instead of dwelling on how difficult it is to find love for yourself. Spare yourself the unnecessary stress and effort focusing on what you lack, and instead appreciate those who are already in your life. Spread love and the spirit of giving during your holidays… and you never know who may be paying attention!

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        10 Ways To Step Out Of Your Comfort Zone And Enjoy Taking Risks

        10 Ways To Step Out Of Your Comfort Zone And Enjoy Taking Risks

        The ability to take risks by stepping outside your comfort zone is the primary way by which we grow. But we are often afraid to take that first step.

        In truth, comfort zones are not really about comfort, they are about fear. Break the chains of fear to get outside. Once you do, you will learn to enjoy the process of taking risks and growing in the process.

        Here are 10 ways to help you step out of your comfort zone and get closer to success:

        1. Become aware of what’s outside of your comfort zone

        What are the things that you believe are worth doing but are afraid of doing yourself because of the potential for disappointment or failure?

        Draw a circle and write those things down outside the circle. This process will not only allow you to clearly identify your discomforts, but your comforts. Write identified comforts inside the circle.

        2. Become clear about what you are aiming to overcome

        Take the list of discomforts and go deeper. Remember, the primary emotion you are trying to overcome is fear.

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        How does this fear apply uniquely to each situation? Be very specific.

        Are you afraid of walking up to people and introducing yourself in social situations? Why? Is it because you are insecure about the sound of your voice? Are you insecure about your looks?

        Or, are you afraid of being ignored?

        3. Get comfortable with discomfort

        One way to get outside of your comfort zone is to literally expand it. Make it a goal to avoid running away from discomfort.

        Let’s stay with the theme of meeting people in social settings. If you start feeling a little panicked when talking to someone you’ve just met, try to stay with it a little longer than you normally would before retreating to comfort. If you stay long enough and practice often enough, it will start to become less uncomfortable.

        4. See failure as a teacher

        Many of us are so afraid of failure that we would rather do nothing than take a shot at our dreams.

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        Begin to treat failure as a teacher. What did you learn from the experience? How can you take that lesson to your next adventure to increase your chance of success?

        Many highly successful people failed plenty of times before they succeeded. Here’re some examples:

        10 Famous Failures to Success Stories That Will Inspire You to Carry On

        5. Take baby steps

        Don’t try to jump outside your comfort zone, you will likely become overwhelmed and jump right back in.

        Take small steps toward the fear you are trying to overcome. If you want to do public speaking, start by taking every opportunity to speak to small groups of people. You can even practice with family and friends.

        Take a look at this article on how you can start taking baby steps:

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        The Number One Secret to Life Success: Baby Steps

        6. Hang out with risk takers

        There is no substitute for this step. If you want to become better at something, you must start hanging out with the people who are doing what you want to do and start emulating them. (Here’re 8 Reasons Why Risk Takers Are More Likely To Be Successful).

        Almost inevitably, their influence will start have an effect on your behavior.

        7. Be honest with yourself when you are trying to make excuses

        Don’t say “Oh, I just don’t have the time for this right now.” Instead, be honest and say “I am afraid to do this.”

        Don’t make excuses, just be honest. You will be in a better place to confront what is truly bothering you and increase your chance of moving forward.

        8. Identify how stepping out will benefit you

        What will the ability to engage in public speaking do for your personal and professional growth? Keep these potential benefits in mind as motivations to push through fear.

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        9. Don’t take yourself too seriously

        Learn to laugh at yourself when you make mistakes. Risk taking will inevitably involve failure and setbacks that will sometimes make you look foolish to others. Be happy to roll with the punches when others poke fun.

        If you aren’t convinced yet, check out these 6 Reasons Not to Take Life So Seriously.

        10. Focus on the fun

        Enjoy the process of stepping outside your safe boundaries. Enjoy the fun of discovering things about yourself that you may not have been aware of previously.

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