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4 Ways to Enjoy the Holidays as a Single Woman

4 Ways to Enjoy the Holidays as a Single Woman

It’s that time of the year where holidays tend to bring out the best and worst of people. Cuffing season has begun, and single women may be experiencing holiday anxiety due to not having a partner to bring around for dinner and gatherings. Don’t let the holidays stress you out or make you feel lonely. Here are a few ways to still enjoy the holidays without having a significant other.

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    Travel

    If you’re one of the lucky women who gets to be off work during the holidays take advantage of the time and plan a trip. Scan over that dream vacation list or that travel bucket list you’ve been keeping all year and catch a flight! This could be an opportunity for you to travel outside of the country to somewhere new and exciting, or even somewhere local that you’ve never been. Round up a few of your friends who may not have holiday plans. You’d be surprised how many people actually prefer to escape the madness of the holidays this time of year.

    Volunteer

    Giving back to the community is a great way to spend time during the holidays. From feeding the homeless to simply spending time at children’s hospitals and assisted living communities, there are so many different groups of people who could use a smile on their face or assistance. Another great place to spend time during the holidays is residential facilities and group homes that house youth diagnosed with mental health conditions or developmental disabilities. Many of these places have holiday-themed events that could use volunteers for assisting with preparation or simply just doing activities with the residents. Make it a point to help positively impact someone else’s day throughout the holidays, and it will positively affect yours. There’s not too many things more uplifting than to help to uplift someone else.

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      Throw your own party 

      If you find yourself not really feeling the club scene or frequenting the bars during the holidays, throw a gathering of your own. Invite your friends and family members over for a night of drinks and fun games. Leave the invite open for them to bring others. Another fun party idea during the holidays is to do a singles-themed gathering. Set up a fun night for singles to meet up to have fun and get to know each other in a less awkward environment than speed dating. Not only is this a way to enjoy yourself, but it also gives you a chance to meet others who are single and looking for a partner.

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        Spend time with family 

        The holidays can sometimes make you focus on what you don’t have as opposed to what you are blessed with. Don’t let what or who you don’t have at the time make you a party pooper during the holiday season. Spend time with your loved ones who you may not always have the time to see throughout the rest of the year. After all, a partner is not the only significant person in your life, and there is much more to life and the holiday season than seeking someone to get great photo opps with.

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        The holidays are about more than just great photo opps and having a significant other. Let your focus be loving on others this season, instead of dwelling on how difficult it is to find love for yourself. Spare yourself the unnecessary stress and effort focusing on what you lack, and instead appreciate those who are already in your life. Spread love and the spirit of giving during your holidays… and you never know who may be paying attention!

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        Easily Misunderstood by Others? 6 Barriers You Should Overcome to Make Communication Less Frustrating

        Easily Misunderstood by Others? 6 Barriers You Should Overcome to Make Communication Less Frustrating

        How often have you said something simple, only to have the person who you said this to misunderstand it or twist the meaning completely around? Nodding your head in affirmative? Then this means that you are being unclear in your communication.

        Communication should be simple, right? It’s all about two people or more talking and explaining something to the other. The problem lies in the talking itself, somehow we end up being unclear, and our words, attitude or even the way of talking becomes a barrier in communication, most of the times unknowingly. We give you six common barriers to communication, and how to get past them; for you to actually say what you mean, and or the other person to understand it as well…

        The 6 Walls You Need to Break Down to Make Communication Effective

        Think about it this way, a simple phrase like “what do you mean” can be said in many different ways and each different way would end up “communicating” something else entirely. Scream it at the other person, and the perception would be anger. Whisper this is someone’s ear and others may take it as if you were plotting something. Say it in another language, and no one gets what you mean at all, if they don’t speak it… This is what we mean when we say that talking or saying something that’s clear in your head, many not mean that you have successfully communicated it across to your intended audience – thus what you say and how, where and why you said it – at times become barriers to communication.[1]

        Perceptual Barrier

        The moment you say something in a confrontational, sarcastic, angry or emotional tone, you have set up perceptual barriers to communication. The other person or people to whom you are trying to communicate your point get the message that you are disinterested in what you are saying and sort of turn a deaf ear. In effect, you are yelling your point across to person who might as well be deaf![2]

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        The problem: When you have a tone that’s not particularly positive, a body language that denotes your own disinterest in the situation and let your own stereotypes and misgivings enter the conversation via the way you talk and gesture, the other person perceives what you saying an entirely different manner than say if you said the same while smiling and catching their gaze.

        The solution: Start the conversation on a positive note, and don’t let what you think color your tone, gestures of body language. Maintain eye contact with your audience, and smile openly and wholeheartedly…

        Attitudinal Barrier

        Some people, if you would excuse the language, are simply badass and in general are unable to form relationships or even a common point of communication with others, due to their habit of thinking to highly or too lowly of them. They basically have an attitude problem – since they hold themselves in high esteem, they are unable to form genuine lines of communication with anyone. The same is true if they think too little of themselves as well.[3]

        The problem: If anyone at work, or even in your family, tends to roam around with a superior air – anything they say is likely to be taken by you and the others with a pinch, or even a bag of salt. Simply because whenever they talk, the first thing to come out of it is their condescending attitude. And in case there’s someone with an inferiority complex, their incessant self-pity forms barriers to communication.

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        The solution: Use simple words and an encouraging smile to communicate effectively – and stick to constructive criticism, and not criticism because you are a perfectionist. If you see someone doing a good job, let them know, and disregard the thought that you could have done it better. It’s their job so measure them by industry standards and not your own.

        Language Barrier

        This is perhaps the commonest and the most inadvertent of barriers to communication. Using big words, too much of technical jargon or even using just the wrong language at the incorrect or inopportune time can lead to a loss or misinterpretation of communication. It may have sounded right in your head and to your ears as well, but if sounded gobbledygook to the others, the purpose is lost.

        The problem: Say you are trying to explain a process to the newbies and end up using every technical word and industry jargon that you knew – your communication has failed if the newbie understood zilch. You have to, without sounding patronizing, explain things to someone in the simplest language they understand instead of the most complex that you do.

        The solution: Simplify things for the other person to understand you, and understand it well. Think about it this way: if you are trying to explain something scientific to a child, you tone it down to their thinking capacity, without “dumbing” anything down in the process.[4]

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        Emotional Barrier

        Sometimes, we hesitate in opening our mouths, for fear of putting our foot in it! Other times, our emotional state is so fragile that we keep it and our lips zipped tightly together lest we explode. This is the time that our emotions become barriers to communication.[5]

        The problem: Say you had a fight at home and are on a slow boil, muttering, in your head, about the injustice of it all. At this time, you have to give someone a dressing down over their work performance. You are likely to transfer at least part of your angst to the conversation then, and talk about unfairness in general, leaving the other person stymied about what you actually meant!

        The solution: Remove your emotions and feelings to a personal space, and talk to the other person as you normally would. Treat any phobias or fears that you have and nip them in the bud so that they don’t become a problem. And remember, no one is perfect.

        Cultural Barrier

        Sometimes, being in an ever-shrinking world means that inadvertently, rules can make cultures clash and cultural clashes can turn into barriers to communication. The idea is to make your point across without hurting anyone’s cultural or religious sentiments.

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        The problem: There are so many ways culture clashes can happen during communication and with cultural clashes; it’s not always about ethnicity. A non-smoker may have problems with smokers taking breaks; an older boss may have issues with younger staff using the Internet too much.

        The solution: Communicate only what is necessary to get the point across – and eave your personal sentiments or feelings out of it. Try to be accommodative of the other’s viewpoint, and in case you still need to work it out, do it one to one, to avoid making a spectacle of the other person’s beliefs.[6]

        Gender Barrier

        Finally, it’s about Men from Mars and Women from Venus. Sometimes, men don’t understand women and women don’t get men – and this gender gap throws barriers in communication. Women tend to take conflict to their graves, literally, while men can move on instantly. Women rely on intuition, men on logic – so inherently, gender becomes a big block in successful communication.[7]

        The problem: A male boss may inadvertently rub his female subordinates the wrong way with anti-feminism innuendoes, or even have problems with women taking too many family leaves. Similarly, women sometimes let their emotions get the better of them, something a male audience can’t relate to.

        The solution: Talk to people like people – don’t think or classify them into genders and then talk accordingly. Don’t make comments or innuendos that are gender biased – you don’t have to come across as an MCP or as a bra-burning feminist either. Keep gender out of it.

        And remember, the key to successful communication is simply being open, making eye contact and smiling intermittently. The battle is usually half won when you say what you mean in simple, straightforward words and keep your emotions out of it.

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