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Small Things That Will Tell You About A Person’s Personality

Small Things That Will Tell You About A Person’s Personality

How do you evaluate a person? Is it the way they walk? The way they talk? Is it the big things, or the small things? Truth be told, there is always more to a person than what the first impression will convey. However, the first time you see someone, if you use these tips, you will be able to accurately determine what kind of person they are after the first few interactions.

Here is a list of small things that can give you insight into a person’s personality.

They are small because you really have to notice carefully in order to see them but you’ll be glad you did. This insight is especially necessary if the person is a prospective business partner, mate, friend or some other close associate.

How do they argue?

When disagreements with loved ones develop, do they attack the person or the problem? Positive individuals, ones you want to keep close, argue in order to solve a problem not to make the other person(s) look or feel bad.

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How often does this person’s emotion change?

Do they get angry over seemingly nothing? Ideally, a person who is able to control his or her emotions is the one you want to spend time with or have dealings with. This will tell you a lot about the person’s emotional stability.

How well do they handle rejection?

What response does the word “no” evoke? Does the person throw a tantrum like a child, believing he/she should have everything he/she wants? This will tell you how important the individual sees him or herself and how realistic he/she is. A realist and a person who attaches moderate importance to him/herself will remain calm as much as possible.

How fast does the person answer questions?

This can tell you whether this person is quiet or talkative – an introvert or an extrovert. It may also tell you how thoughtful a person is or maybe how self-conscious.

Is he/she a gossip?

Most times if he/she will gossip to you, he/she will have no qualms about gossiping about you. Bear in mind that there is good gossip and bad gossip so don’t be too quick to dismiss a gossiper. Focus on the content of the gossip. Is it true? Is it constructive? This will tell you how thoughtful the person is and if he/she is positive.

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How does he/she react to a change of plans?

So plans are not always set out the right way and may have to be changed – last minute even. How the person reacts will say if he or she is flexible or rigid. Either way, it isn’t a bad thing. You just need to decide which personality works best with yours.

Whose fault is it?

Are they good at handling blame? When it is their fault, do they admit or do they try to pin it on someone else? This will show how responsible and honest the person is and also what he/she thinks of him/self.

What is their attitude towards the less fortunate?

Listen to how the person talks about the less fortunate. Watch how they treat them as well. This will tell you how empathetic a person is and will reveal if the person is self-absorbed or if he/she genuinely cares about others. It takes a caring person to really feel for strangers who are disadvantaged.

Where do they live?

No, not their address; determine where their focus is. Notice if their conversations center on the past, present or future. You will determine if the person is regretful or nostalgic, you may even find a hint of sentimentality. On the other hand, the person may be a worrier. Still, others have their feet planted in the here and now. Again, you choose who you want to be like, because after hanging around with this person, you may very well adopt their outlook.

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Why do they hang around you, or any of their friends for that matter?

Ok, so this may be a bit painful especially if your dear friend is only hanging around so he/she can get the free rides to school/work. Notice if the person really enjoys others’ company or sticks around for what he/she can get.

Do they consider the feelings of others?

When making a decision do they take the feelings of others into consideration or is mainly about themselves? This can be an indication of whether a person cares about people and is considerate or is selfish and thinks only of him/herself.

Do their words often cause offense?

Linked to the point above, this will show just how selfish a person is. Otherwise, it may just be honesty and a lack of tact. Again, you get to choose which person you deal with.

How punctual is this person?

Notice the effort they put into being on time. This will show how respectful a person is or how defiant of authority they are.

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How do they carry themselves or keep their surroundings?

Are their clothes neat and clean? Is their room or car neat and clean? Often these indicate how organized a person is. The amount of clutter around them generally tells the amount of clutter in their minds. What is around them? That may indicate whether they are artsy, sporty or reserved.

What kind of aura does the person have?

When the person walks into a room, what effect does their presence have on others? Do the people in the room go quiet? Does their entry go unnoticed? Is the air tense or lighter and happier?

What are some of the small things that you look for? What could you have added to this list? What could you have removed from this list? All in all, we are faced with decisions about who we will associate with or let our children associate with daily. These subtle, small things can tell you if that person is okay, great or unsuitable.

Until next time!

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Brain Training: 12 Fast, Fun Mental Workouts

Brain Training: 12 Fast, Fun Mental Workouts

Exercise isn’t just for your body. Just as important is keeping your mind strong by training your brain with fun mental workouts.

Think of your mental and physical fitness the same way: you don’t need to be an Olympian, but you do need to stay in shape if you want to live well. A few cognitive workouts per week can make a major difference in your life.

The Skinny on Mental Workouts

Physical fitness boosts your stamina and increases your muscular strength. The benefits of working up a mental sweat and brain training, however, might not be so obvious.

Research suggests that cognitive training has short- and long-term benefits, including:

1. Improved Memory

After eight weeks of cognitive training, 19 arithmetic students showed a larger and more active hippocampus than their peers.[1] The hippocampus is associated with learning and memory.

2. Reduced Stress Levels

Mastering new tasks more quickly makes the work of learning less stressful. A stronger memory can call information to mind with less effort.

3. Improved Work Performance

Learning quickly and remembering key details can lead to a better career. Employers are increasingly hiring for soft skills, such as trainability and attention to detail.

4. Delayed Cognitive Decline

As we age, we experience cognitive decline. A study published by the Journal of the American Geriatrics Society found that 10 one-hour sessions of cognitive training boosted reasoning and information processing speed in adults between the ages of 65 and 94.[2]

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Just like in physical exercise, what’s important isn’t the specific workout. To be sustainable, cognitive workouts need to be easy and fun. Otherwise, it’s too easy to throw in the towel.

Fun Brain Training Exercises for Everyone

The best about fun mental workouts? There’s no need to head to a gym. Feel free to mix and match the following activities for daily brain training:

1. Brainstorming

One of the simplest, easiest ways to engage your brain? Coming up with solutions to a challenge you’re facing.

If you aren’t good at solo ideation, ask a partner to join you. When I’m struggling to come up with topics to write about, I call up my editors to bat ideas around. Friends or co-workers are usually happy to help.

2. Dancing

Isn’t dancing a physical workout? Yes, but the coordination it requires is also great for training your brain. Plus, it’s a lot of fun.

Studies suggest that dance boosts multiple cognitive skills.[3] Planning, memorizing, organizing, and creativity all seem to benefit from a few fancy steps.

3. Learning a New Language

Learning a new language takes time. But if you split it up into small, daily lessons, it’s easier than you might think.

With language learning, every lesson builds on the last. When I was learning Spanish, I used a tool called Guru for knowledge management.[4] Every time I’d learn a verb tense, I’d create a new card to give me a quick refresh before moving on.

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4. Developing a Hobby

Like languages, hobbies take time to develop. But that’s the fun of them: you get a little better—both at the hobby and in terms of brain function—each time you do them.

If you’re trying to train your brain and improve a certain cognitive skill, choose a hobby that aligns with it.

For example:

  • Attention to detail: Pick a hobby that requires you to work patiently with small features. Woodworking, model-building, sketching, and painting are all good choices.
  • Learning and memory: Choose an activity that requires you to remember lots of details. Your best bets are hobbies that require lots of categorization, such as collecting stamps or coins.
  • Motor function: For this brain function, physical activities can double as fun mental workouts. Sports like soccer and basketball build gross motor functions. Fine motor functions are better trained through activities like table tennis or even playing video games.
  • Problem-solving: Most hobbies require you to problem-solve in one way or another. The ones that test your problem-solving skills the most, however, take some investigation.

Geocaching is a good example: Using a combination of clues and GPS readings, geocaching involves finding and re-hiding containers. Typically done in a wooded area, geocaching is a fun way to put your problem-solving skills to the test.

5. Board Games

Playing a board game might not be much of a physical workout, but it does make for a fun mental workout. With that said, not all board games work equally well for cognitive training.

Avoid “no brainer” board games, like Candy Land. Opt for strategy-focused ones, such as Risk or Settlers of Catan. Remember to ask other players for their input.

6. Card Games

Card games build cognitive skills in much the same way board games do. They have a few extra advantages, though, that make them worthy of special attention.

A deck of cards is inexpensive and can be played anywhere, from a kitchen to an airplane. More importantly, a deck of cards opens the door to dozens of different games. Challenge yourself to learn a few in an afternoon.

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7. Puzzles

Puzzles are great tools for building a specific cognitive skill: visuospatial function. Visuospatial function is important to train because it’s one of the first abilities to slip in people struggling with cognitive diseases like Alzheimer’s.[5]

Choose a puzzle you’ll stick with. There’s no shame in starting with a 500-piece puzzle or choosing one that makes a childish image.

8. Playing Music

Listening to music is a great way to unwind. But playing music goes one step further. On top of entertaining you, it makes for a fun mental workout.

Again, choose an instrument you know you’ll stick with. If you’ve always wanted to learn the violin, don’t get a guitar because it’s less expensive or easier to pick up.

What if you can’t afford an instrument? Sing. Learning to control your voice is every bit as challenging as making a set of keys or strings sound good.

9. Meditating

Not all cognitive exercises are loud, in-your-face activities. Some of the most fun mental workouts, in fact, are quiet, solo activities. Meditating can help you focus, especially if you have pre-existing attention issues.

Don’t be intimidated if you’ve never meditated before. It’s easy:

  • Find a quiet, comfortable place to sit or lie down.
  • Set a timer for 10 minutes, or for however long you have to meditate.
  • Close your eyes or turn off the lights.
  • Focus on your breathing. Do not try to control it.
  • If your thoughts wander, gently bring them back to your breath.
  • When the timer goes off, wiggle your fingers and toes for a minute. Slowly bring yourself back to reality. Remember the sense of serenity you found.

10. Deep Conversation

There’s nothing more mentally stimulating than a good, long conversation. The key is depth: surface-level chatter doesn’t get the mind’s wheels spinning like a thoughtful, authentic conversation. This type of conversation helps in training your brain to think more deeply and reflect.

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Choose your partner carefully. You’re looking for someone who’ll challenge your ideas without being confrontational. Stress isn’t good for brain health, but there’s value in coming up with creative arguments.

11. Cooking

When you think about it, cooking requires an impressive array of cognitive skills. Developing a cook’s intuition requires a good memory. Making sure flavors are balanced takes attention to detail. When something goes wrong in the kitchen, problem-solving skills come into play. Motor control is required to stir, flip, and whisk.

If you’re going to cook, you might as well make enough for everyone. Invite them into the kitchen as well: coordinating with other chefs adds an extra layer of challenge to this fun mental workout.

12. Mentorship

Whether you’re the mentee or the mentor, mentorship is an incredible mental workout. Learning from someone you look up to combines the benefits of deep conversation with skill-building. Teaching someone else forces you to put yourself in their shoes, which requires empathy and problem-solving skills.

Put yourself in both situations. Being a student makes you a better teacher, and teaching others gives you insight into how you, yourself, learn.

Final Thoughts

Your mind is your most important possession, and training your brain is needed to maintain its health. Don’t let it get soft.

To keep those neurons firing at full speed, add a few fun mental workouts to your schedule. And if you’re still struggling to get your brain in gear, remember: there’s an app for that.

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