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Small Things That Will Tell You About A Person’s Personality

Small Things That Will Tell You About A Person’s Personality

How do you evaluate a person? Is it the way they walk? The way they talk? Is it the big things, or the small things? Truth be told, there is always more to a person than what the first impression will convey. However, the first time you see someone, if you use these tips, you will be able to accurately determine what kind of person they are after the first few interactions.

Here is a list of small things that can give you insight into a person’s personality.

They are small because you really have to notice carefully in order to see them but you’ll be glad you did. This insight is especially necessary if the person is a prospective business partner, mate, friend or some other close associate.

How do they argue?

When disagreements with loved ones develop, do they attack the person or the problem? Positive individuals, ones you want to keep close, argue in order to solve a problem not to make the other person(s) look or feel bad.

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How often does this person’s emotion change?

Do they get angry over seemingly nothing? Ideally, a person who is able to control his or her emotions is the one you want to spend time with or have dealings with. This will tell you a lot about the person’s emotional stability.

How well do they handle rejection?

What response does the word “no” evoke? Does the person throw a tantrum like a child, believing he/she should have everything he/she wants? This will tell you how important the individual sees him or herself and how realistic he/she is. A realist and a person who attaches moderate importance to him/herself will remain calm as much as possible.

How fast does the person answer questions?

This can tell you whether this person is quiet or talkative – an introvert or an extrovert. It may also tell you how thoughtful a person is or maybe how self-conscious.

Is he/she a gossip?

Most times if he/she will gossip to you, he/she will have no qualms about gossiping about you. Bear in mind that there is good gossip and bad gossip so don’t be too quick to dismiss a gossiper. Focus on the content of the gossip. Is it true? Is it constructive? This will tell you how thoughtful the person is and if he/she is positive.

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How does he/she react to a change of plans?

So plans are not always set out the right way and may have to be changed – last minute even. How the person reacts will say if he or she is flexible or rigid. Either way, it isn’t a bad thing. You just need to decide which personality works best with yours.

Whose fault is it?

Are they good at handling blame? When it is their fault, do they admit or do they try to pin it on someone else? This will show how responsible and honest the person is and also what he/she thinks of him/self.

What is their attitude towards the less fortunate?

Listen to how the person talks about the less fortunate. Watch how they treat them as well. This will tell you how empathetic a person is and will reveal if the person is self-absorbed or if he/she genuinely cares about others. It takes a caring person to really feel for strangers who are disadvantaged.

Where do they live?

No, not their address; determine where their focus is. Notice if their conversations center on the past, present or future. You will determine if the person is regretful or nostalgic, you may even find a hint of sentimentality. On the other hand, the person may be a worrier. Still, others have their feet planted in the here and now. Again, you choose who you want to be like, because after hanging around with this person, you may very well adopt their outlook.

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Why do they hang around you, or any of their friends for that matter?

Ok, so this may be a bit painful especially if your dear friend is only hanging around so he/she can get the free rides to school/work. Notice if the person really enjoys others’ company or sticks around for what he/she can get.

Do they consider the feelings of others?

When making a decision do they take the feelings of others into consideration or is mainly about themselves? This can be an indication of whether a person cares about people and is considerate or is selfish and thinks only of him/herself.

Do their words often cause offense?

Linked to the point above, this will show just how selfish a person is. Otherwise, it may just be honesty and a lack of tact. Again, you get to choose which person you deal with.

How punctual is this person?

Notice the effort they put into being on time. This will show how respectful a person is or how defiant of authority they are.

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How do they carry themselves or keep their surroundings?

Are their clothes neat and clean? Is their room or car neat and clean? Often these indicate how organized a person is. The amount of clutter around them generally tells the amount of clutter in their minds. What is around them? That may indicate whether they are artsy, sporty or reserved.

What kind of aura does the person have?

When the person walks into a room, what effect does their presence have on others? Do the people in the room go quiet? Does their entry go unnoticed? Is the air tense or lighter and happier?

What are some of the small things that you look for? What could you have added to this list? What could you have removed from this list? All in all, we are faced with decisions about who we will associate with or let our children associate with daily. These subtle, small things can tell you if that person is okay, great or unsuitable.

Until next time!

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Entrepreneur, Wellness and Life Coach, Two Times Cancer Survivor and Best Seller Author.

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Last Updated on March 30, 2020

How to Tap into Your Right Brain’s Potential

How to Tap into Your Right Brain’s Potential

You may have heard someone say they are “totally right brained” or that they’re “a left brained person.”

There is a pervasive myth that’s been making its rounds for over a century: people have two hemispheres of their brains, and if they have a dominant left brain, they’re more analytical; and if they have a dominant right brain, they are more creative.

Before we go debunking this theory and then giving some tips for how people can access their creative brain centers, let’s first take a look at where the left brain/right brain lateralization theory comes from.

The Left Brain/Right Brain Lateralization Theory

In the 1800s, scientists discovered that when patients injured one side of their brains, certain skills were lost.[1] Scientists linked those different skills to one side of the brain or the other. Thus began the left brain/right brain myth that continues to this day.

Then, in the 1960s and 70s, Roger W. Sperry led 16 operations that cut the corpus callosum (the largest region that connects both brain hemispheres together) in order to try to treat patients’ epilepsy. Sperry wrote about the differences in the two hemispheres as a result of those surgeries.[2]

Sperry’s work was popularized in 1973 with a New York Times article about his lateralization theory—that people were either right brained (read: logical) or left brained (read: creative). From here, Sperry won the Nobel Prize for his work and numerous other publications spread the right brain/left brain myth.

Debunking the Right Brain/Left Brain Myth

If anything, the lateralization theory of the brain is a gross exaggeration. It is true that people have two hemispheres of their brains. It is also true that there are differences in the composition of those two hemispheres.

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However, the hemispheres are actually much more interconnected than Sperry’s work initially made it seem.

In a 2013 study,[3] scientists scanned over 1000 people’s brains, checking for lateralization. They confirmed that certain brain functions occur predominately in one hemisphere or the other but that, in reality, the brain is actually much more interconnected and complex than the right brain/left brain lateralization theory makes it seem.[4][5]

A New Metaphor for Right Brain/Left Brain

How do we get past this right brain/left brain myth?

First, let’s look at what contemporary cognitive science says about brain regions, and creative and logical modes of thinking.

My background is as an improviser and improv researcher. I wrote Theatrical Improvisation, Consciousness, and Cognition and think looking at improvisation and the brain can shed light on a new model for talking about unlocking the brain’s creative potential.

Functional magnetic resonance imaging (fMRI) brain scans have shown that while trained improvisers improvise (musically on a keyboard, rapping, and comedic improvisation) an interesting shift happens in their brain activity. [6]

A region called the dorsolateral prefrontal cortex decreases in activity and creative language centers such as the medial prefrontal cortex increase in activity. The dorsolateral prefrontal cortex is linked with conscious thoughts—that inner voice that tells you not to say something or criticizes you when you do.

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The medial prefrontal cortex is among the brain regions linked with creativity. So, instead of thinking about right brain and left brain, perhaps it’s more current and correct to think about more specific brain regions instead of hemispheres. Perhaps, it’s more useful to think about which activities and strategies will allow us to inhibit our dorsolateral prefrontal cortexes and allow our medial prefrontal cortexes to flourish.

How to Enhance Your “Right Brain” — Creativity

Whether we’re talking about right brain versus left brain, creative versus logical, or medial prefrontal cortex versus dorsolateral prefrontal cortex, we still know enough to talk about strategies to tap into your creative brain’s full potential.

So, now that we’ve dispelled the right brain/left brain myth and looked at a more contemporary, cognitive neuroscience theory of brain regions and creativity centers, let’s look at how to tap into the potential of your creative brain.

1. Performing Arts

One way to tap into your creative brain centers is to participate in the performing arts. Whether you improvise, act, or dance, the performing arts allow you an embodied experience that will help you snap out of your habitual, logical thoughts.

Another benefit of the performing arts is that it changes your attention. Attention and creativity are inextricably linked. When we improvise, act, or dance, we have to focus intently on our fellow performers. This means we are forced to focus less on our conscious, logical thoughts. This frees us up for more creative thinking and expression.[7]

One of the conclusions of my research on improvisation is that focusing intensely on fellow improvisers and the task at hand makes it more likely that we experience a flow state. Dr. Csikszentmihalyi,[8] a Professor of Psychology and Management defines flow as an optimal psychological state when our skills match the difficulty of the task at hand. Our perception of time is altered as we get into the zone and become more present and in the moment during our chosen activity.[9]

A flow state is a creative state. It’s the opposite of crunching numbers and forcing ourselves to work out a problem with the conscious regions of our brain. So, get up, improvise, act, or dance to access your creativity.

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2. Visual Art

Art teacher Betty Edwards[10] wrote a book called Drawing on the Right Side of the Brain. Here again, we see that a shift in our attention can lead us to an increase in our creative thinking.

Edwards’ book gives art students tricks to shift the way they see the world. For example, one exercise encourages students to literally flip whatever it is they’re drawing upside down before they draw it. This forces budding artists to literally see the object in a new way. This shift allows them to focus more on the individual components and patterns of the object, which allows them to draw it better.

Shifting how we see things is another way we can access our creative brain centers. Take an art class to shut off your conscious, critical thoughts and start seeing things from a new, more creative perspective.

3. Zone Out

If there’s one thing creativity doesn’t like, it’s being coerced.

I think we’ve all felt that awful feeling of trying to force ourselves to be creative. When we force it, we’re really trying to force our logical brain regions to be creative. It’s like asking your gardener to perform your appendix surgery. It’s just not what she does.

Instead, stop forcing it. Take a break. Take a long walk or a relaxing bath or shower. Let your mind wander.

Whatever you do, stop forcing it. This break lets your creative centers rise to the surface of your attention and get heard.

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4. Practice Mindfulness

The final trick to start accessing your so-called right brain is to practice mindfulness.

Now, there’s a lot of different ways to go about mindfulness. You can take a more physical approach with a yoga class. Or you can try meditating to become more aware and in tune with your thoughts and feelings: Meditation for Beginners: How to Meditate Deeply and Quickly

You could also try to incorporate fun mindfulness exercises[11] into your everyday routine like forcing yourself to go on detours or pretending you’re a detective who needs to examine people and places closely.

Any way you do it, mindfulness exercises and training can help you become better versed in how your brain works and what your normal thought process is like on a day-to-day basis. If we’re ever going to reach our optimal creativity, we have to become an expert in how our individual brain functions. Mindfulness is one way to become your very own brain expert.

Mindfulness also has added benefits like calming us, slowing our breathing, and helping us become more observant, which are also great ways to start tapping into our creative potential.

Final Thoughts

So, it may not be correct to say that our right brain is our creative brain, but it is still a valid pursuit to try to optimize our creative brain centers.

The key to do so is to relax, become observant, shift your perspective, move your body, try something new, and, whatever you do, don’t force it.

Creativity can feel slippery. It can abandon us when we need it most, but by slowing down and looking at things from a new perspective, we can give ourselves a better chance of tapping into our ultimate creativity, even if that doesn’t exactly mean our “right brain.”

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