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Understanding Your Mind: How to Find Your Greatest Strengths and Choose a Major

Understanding Your Mind: How to Find Your Greatest Strengths and Choose a Major

Choosing a college major isn’t something you have to do the second you step out of high school, but knowing what you want to do helps you choose a college that’s strong in your desired field. Though it can be daunting, breaking the process down into steps will help you get where you want to go without feeling so overwhelmed.

Find Your Passion

Write a list of the things that you’re passionate about. If you love animals, children or music, write those things down. While there are exceptions, the things you enjoy the most are likely those that play to you strengths. Frustrating activities, on the other hand, highlight your weaknesses.

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Try to also balance your passion with a bit of practicality as well. Sometimes what you envision as your dream job ends up being very difficult to break into or may not have many available positions. Consider having backup plans. If you are a musician, for example, you may want to get an MFA at some point, and you likely want to be a musician as your profession. It may be a good idea to add some sound engineering or teaching courses to give yourself some backup options in the industry you love.

Check Your Passion

Quite often, the activities you enjoy most use skills you’re good at. Unfortunately, there are exceptions. The world is full of people who love music but can’t carry a tune. Once you’ve listed the things you’re passionate about, take an aptitude test to confirm that your skill matches your ambition. If, for example, you want to be an engineer and have the aptitude for it, applying to the top engineering colleges could be a great fit for you. Your academic career there might be overwhelmingly frustrating, however, if your skills and passion aren’t aligned.

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Ask Around

Looking at yourself through an unbiased lens is difficult, so ask those who know you best for help. Find out what others think your strengths are and ask them to label you using them. Write down the answers you get and study them, looking for traits others see but you overlooked.

It’s great to also find people in the industry you are considering, and ask them what to expect from that type of occupation. You should ask questions such as how much they make, how hard it was to break in, and how to get your foot in the door.

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Do Some Research

Once you know what you’re good at and where you strengths lie, research some careers you think might interest you that utilize your strengths and aptitude. The library is a good place to start learning about different careers. It’s also wise to talk to and interview someone who works in that field. Online, turn to the US Bureau of Labor Statistics. There you will find average pay rates and the expected need for workers in certain careers over the coming years. The organization also lists the skills needed to do well in a given profession.

Take a Test Drive

Once you’ve done your research and narrowed the options, try to shadow someone in the industries you’re considering. Volunteer at a related organization, look for internship opportunities and ask local companies if you can follow one of their employees for a day. Getting your hands dirty and seeing the actual work you could be doing will help you choose the right major.

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This process provides a methodical approach to making a big decision. Take things one step at a time and try not to panic if you don’t have it all figured out just yet. With a little time and the right help, choosing your major is easier than you think.

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Last Updated on September 10, 2018

Overcoming The Pain Of A Breakup: 3 Suggestions Based On Science

Overcoming The Pain Of A Breakup: 3 Suggestions Based On Science

We thought that the expression ‘broken heart’ was just a metaphor, but science is telling us that it is not: breakups and rejections do cause physical pain. When a group of psychologists asked research participants to look at images of their ex-partners who broke up with them, researchers found that the same brain areas that are activated by physical pain are also activated by looking at images of ex-partners. Looking at images of our ex is a painful experience, literally.[1].

Given that the effect of rejections and breakups is the same as the effect of physical pain, scientists have speculated on whether the practices that reduce physical pain could be used to reduce the emotional pain that follows from breakups and rejections. In a study on whether painkillers reduce the emotional pain caused by a breakup, researchers found that painkillers did help. Individuals who took painkillers were better able to deal with their breakup. Tamar Cohen wrote that “A simple dose of paracetamol could help ease the pain of a broken heart.”[2]

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Just like painkillers can be used to ease the pain of a broken heart, other practices that ease physical pain can also be used to ease the pain of rejections and breakups. Three of these scientifically validated practices are presented in this article.

Looking at images of loved ones

While images of ex-partners stimulate the pain neuro-circuitry in our brain, images of loved ones activate a different circuitry. Looking at images of people who care about us increases the release of oxytocin in our body. Oxytocin, or the “cuddle hormone,” is the hormone that our body relies on to induce in us a soothing feeling of tranquility, even when we are under high stress and pain.

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In fact, oxytocin was found to have a crucial role as a mother is giving birth to her baby. Despite the extreme pain that a mother has to endure during delivery, the high level of oxytocin secreted by her body transforms pain into pleasure. Mariem Melainine notes that, “Oxytocin levels are usually at their peak during delivery, which promotes a sense of euphoria in the mother and helps her develop a stronger bond with her baby.”[3]

Whenever you feel tempted to look at images of your ex-partner, log into your Facebook page and start browsing images of your loved ones. As Eva Ritvo, M.D. notes, “Facebook fools our brain into believing that loved ones surround us, which historically was essential to our survival. The human brain, because it evolved thousands of years before photography, fails on many levels to recognize the difference between pictures and people”[4]

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Exercise

Endorphins are neurotransmitters that reduce our perception of pain. When our body is high on endorphins, painful sensations are kept outside of conscious awareness. It was found that exercise causes endorphins to be secreted in the brain and as a result produce a feeling of power, as psychologist Alex Korb noted in his book: “Exercise causes your brain to release endorphins, neurotransmitters that act on your neurons like opiates (such as morphine or Vicodin) by sending a neural signal to reduce pain and provide anxiety relief.”[5] By inhibiting pain from being transmitted to our brain, exercise acts as a powerful antidote to the pain caused by rejections and breakups.

Meditation

Jon Kabat Zinn, a doctor who pioneered the use of mindfulness meditation therapy for patients with chronic pain, has argued that it is not pain itself that is harmful to our mental health, rather, it is the way we react to pain. When we react to pain with irritation, frustration, and self-pity, more pain is generated, and we enter a never ending spiral of painful thoughts and sensations.

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In order to disrupt the domino effect caused by reacting to pain with pain, Kabat Zinn and other proponents of mindfulness meditation therapy have suggested reacting to pain through nonjudgmental contemplation and acceptance. By practicing meditation on a daily basis and getting used to the habit of paying attention to the sensations generated by our body (including the painful ones and by observing these sensations nonjudgmentally and with compassion) our brain develops the habit of reacting to pain with grace and patience.

When you find yourself thinking about a recent breakup or a recent rejection, close your eyes and pay attention to the sensations produced by your body. Take deep breaths and as you are feeling the sensations produced by your body, distance yourself from them, and observe them without judgment and with compassion. If your brain starts wandering and gets distracted, gently bring back your compassionate nonjudgmental attention to your body. Try to do this exercise for one minute and gradually increase its duration.

With consistent practice, nonjudgmental acceptance will become our default reaction to breakups, rejections, and other disappointments that we experience in life. Every rejection and every breakup teaches us great lessons about relationships and about ourselves.

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