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5 Tips to Avoid Being in the Middle of a Bar Brawl

5 Tips to Avoid Being in the Middle of a Bar Brawl

It’s terrifying, being stuck in an enclosed room when an out-of-control fight occurs. If you ever had to deal with emergency drills in school, you probably remember thinking it was all a bit ridiculous. Being interrupted during class to stand outside and wait or huddle under your desk. While earthquakes and your school burning down to the ground were rare or unlikely events, the possibility was there. It’s knowing what to do in order to stay out of harm’s way during a bar brawl may not be day to day useful but if it ever happened, you’d be glad to know what to do.

General liability policies for bars typically have provisions that will pay out to an injured person who was attacked in a bar brawl. Still, it may take a lawyer to get an insurance carrier to cough up a claim. It all seems like a bit too much trouble when you could just avoid the whole thing. Don’t let a party pooper ruin your night out, here are ways to avoid being caught in the middle of a violent situation.

1. Read the Signs

In a bar setting, there is usually one trouble maker that will get ridiculously drunk. They will likely start to stumble, their eyes demonstrate incoherence and they may mumble.

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It takes some time before they start swinging punches or offend someone enough to start a fight. It takes just one person to start a bar brawl usually and that person gives off plenty of signs that trouble is on the rise. Be cautious around this person and keep your distance.

2. Don’t React to the Trouble Maker

While it may be enticing to talk back to a cheeky drunk person, it’s best to ignore them. Even if they sit down at your table, just keep socializing with your friends.

Someone looking to cause trouble needs to get a reaction from you, that is their power. Don’t give them any. If they won’t leave after you’ve ignored them for awhile, move tables in the least obvious way possible.

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3. Give the Bartender the Heads Up

The last thing you want to do is try to be a hero in a situation like this. You may end up leading the brawl if you confront the party wrecker yourself.

Bartenders, bouncers or a bar manager have the best tactics to calm an inebriated patron down. If it doesn’t work, they kick them out. You can nip the situation in the bud without putting yourself at risk if you just let the right people working at the bar know what’s going on.

4. Move to Another Establishment

If you’ve managed to read the signs and believe that there is a threat, you may want to move your happy crew to a different watering hole before things get out of hand.

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Do it in the right time of course as you don’t want the trouble maker to follow you. If they are sitting at your table and you all get up to leave, they will probably follow you. If you leave one by one and disperse yourself between the bar, bathroom and dance floor, they will find someone else to focus on. Once that happens, you can all quietly leave together.

5. Duck and Cover

If all other points failed and you are in the bar when a brawl breaks out, by all means, hide under the table. If you can, get to the bathroom or another room within the bar.

If you do manage to make it outside, leave the area so when the fighters get kicked out, you’re not in the middle of a worse situation outside. If you don’t want to end up being the innocent victim to a bar brawl, stay out of the way. It will break up quickly so you just need to find a safe spot for a short time.

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Last Updated on September 10, 2018

Overcoming The Pain Of A Breakup: 3 Suggestions Based On Science

Overcoming The Pain Of A Breakup: 3 Suggestions Based On Science

We thought that the expression ‘broken heart’ was just a metaphor, but science is telling us that it is not: breakups and rejections do cause physical pain. When a group of psychologists asked research participants to look at images of their ex-partners who broke up with them, researchers found that the same brain areas that are activated by physical pain are also activated by looking at images of ex-partners. Looking at images of our ex is a painful experience, literally.[1].

Given that the effect of rejections and breakups is the same as the effect of physical pain, scientists have speculated on whether the practices that reduce physical pain could be used to reduce the emotional pain that follows from breakups and rejections. In a study on whether painkillers reduce the emotional pain caused by a breakup, researchers found that painkillers did help. Individuals who took painkillers were better able to deal with their breakup. Tamar Cohen wrote that “A simple dose of paracetamol could help ease the pain of a broken heart.”[2]

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Just like painkillers can be used to ease the pain of a broken heart, other practices that ease physical pain can also be used to ease the pain of rejections and breakups. Three of these scientifically validated practices are presented in this article.

Looking at images of loved ones

While images of ex-partners stimulate the pain neuro-circuitry in our brain, images of loved ones activate a different circuitry. Looking at images of people who care about us increases the release of oxytocin in our body. Oxytocin, or the “cuddle hormone,” is the hormone that our body relies on to induce in us a soothing feeling of tranquility, even when we are under high stress and pain.

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In fact, oxytocin was found to have a crucial role as a mother is giving birth to her baby. Despite the extreme pain that a mother has to endure during delivery, the high level of oxytocin secreted by her body transforms pain into pleasure. Mariem Melainine notes that, “Oxytocin levels are usually at their peak during delivery, which promotes a sense of euphoria in the mother and helps her develop a stronger bond with her baby.”[3]

Whenever you feel tempted to look at images of your ex-partner, log into your Facebook page and start browsing images of your loved ones. As Eva Ritvo, M.D. notes, “Facebook fools our brain into believing that loved ones surround us, which historically was essential to our survival. The human brain, because it evolved thousands of years before photography, fails on many levels to recognize the difference between pictures and people”[4]

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Exercise

Endorphins are neurotransmitters that reduce our perception of pain. When our body is high on endorphins, painful sensations are kept outside of conscious awareness. It was found that exercise causes endorphins to be secreted in the brain and as a result produce a feeling of power, as psychologist Alex Korb noted in his book: “Exercise causes your brain to release endorphins, neurotransmitters that act on your neurons like opiates (such as morphine or Vicodin) by sending a neural signal to reduce pain and provide anxiety relief.”[5] By inhibiting pain from being transmitted to our brain, exercise acts as a powerful antidote to the pain caused by rejections and breakups.

Meditation

Jon Kabat Zinn, a doctor who pioneered the use of mindfulness meditation therapy for patients with chronic pain, has argued that it is not pain itself that is harmful to our mental health, rather, it is the way we react to pain. When we react to pain with irritation, frustration, and self-pity, more pain is generated, and we enter a never ending spiral of painful thoughts and sensations.

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In order to disrupt the domino effect caused by reacting to pain with pain, Kabat Zinn and other proponents of mindfulness meditation therapy have suggested reacting to pain through nonjudgmental contemplation and acceptance. By practicing meditation on a daily basis and getting used to the habit of paying attention to the sensations generated by our body (including the painful ones and by observing these sensations nonjudgmentally and with compassion) our brain develops the habit of reacting to pain with grace and patience.

When you find yourself thinking about a recent breakup or a recent rejection, close your eyes and pay attention to the sensations produced by your body. Take deep breaths and as you are feeling the sensations produced by your body, distance yourself from them, and observe them without judgment and with compassion. If your brain starts wandering and gets distracted, gently bring back your compassionate nonjudgmental attention to your body. Try to do this exercise for one minute and gradually increase its duration.

With consistent practice, nonjudgmental acceptance will become our default reaction to breakups, rejections, and other disappointments that we experience in life. Every rejection and every breakup teaches us great lessons about relationships and about ourselves.

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