Definition of “sophistirachet”:
1: a woman of highly-educated pedigree (academically, socially, and otherwise) and worldly breeding; fluent in various forms of public etiquette yet is equally knowledgeable of the latest strip club songs, updated on most prime-time ratchet cable programs and conversant in the tongue of hoochie mama.
The time has come when society has put some respeck (yes, I went Birdman on y’all) on who I am. I don’t know why it took so long to realize that it is possible to have a wall of degrees and still blast 21 Savage leaving the office. It’s called balance.
It can also be hard to find a podcast that suits our fancy. We want to take in all of this information, but still be able to yell “YAAAAASSSSSS” because we relate to the situation- a good mixture of who we are, but with the understanding of who we are becoming. Here are six podcasts that will GIVE.YOU.LIFE.
The Friend Zone
This is every Hood Hippy’s favorite crew: Fran (Hey Fran Hey), Assante, and Dustin. The three of them provide us with the perfect balance needed in life (and remind you of every person in your crew). Fran keeps us mellow and surrounded with good vibes, Assante gives us the tools for our own Ninja Kit, and Dustin keeps us in our petty ways. Covering topics such as imposter syndrome, Jackie Christi acting a fool on “Basketball Wives”, and even code-switching, you are sure to be entertained and captivated by the thought-provoking topics (and get your life together moments) because who in the hell wants a musty brain?
Myleik Teele is the CEO of Curlbox, and every ambitious millennial woman’s virtual mentor. In her podcast, she drops gems that every aspiring #bosschick yearns for. Let’s keep it real, Myleik doesn’t just tell us what we want to hear, but gives the reality check that we usually run from. Not rosy, but oh-so-necessary.
Everything that we think but don’t say, Kid Fury and Crissle do it for us- brutally honest and hella funny. They highlight greatness in #BlackExcellence, give advice to listeners with their messy situations (and chile they are MESSY) and end the show by reading the hell out of someone. Any show that will drop everything and talk about Beyonce, is good with me!
The Perfectly Imperfect Grind
Social media will make you think that everyone is #winning and you’re the only one struggling, failing, and drawing on your eyebrows wrong. Jasamine Hill of TheFearHurdler.com interviews African American millennials who are entrepreneurs or climbing the corporate ladder. Their stories show the good, the bad, and the ugly of the GRIND, and though you may feel alone, chile we have all been there. You will pull inspiration from their stories and even shout a couple times with Jasamine in the process.Advertising
Side Hustle Pro
To all my ladies on the grind trying to turn their side hustle into their full-time gig, THIS IS JUST FOR YOU! Nicaila Matthews talks with women who have made the jump, giving you the insight and inspiration to make the leap yourself! With guests such as Courtney Sanders, Tiffany “The Budgetnista”, Aliche, and Luvvie Ajayi, get your bag ready, because gems will fall out of the sky.
It’s a new podcast on the scene, but already creating a print for itself. Keiona discusses topics for all YMP (Young Melanated Professionals) from fitness to politics; you will not only be enlightened but entertained. You may not be from the low country of South Carolina but you will take pride in your roots!
Well there you have it: some choices to add to your rotation; now go GET.YOUR.LIFE.
Last Updated on July 3, 2020
30 Small Habits To Lead A More Peaceful Life
In today’s world, true peace must come from within us and our own actions. Here are 30 small things you can do on a regular basis to increase your overall sense of harmony, peace, and well-being:
1. Don’t go to every fight you’re invited to
Particularly when you’re around those who thrive on chaos, be willing to decline the invitation to join in on the drama.
2. Focus on your breath
Throughout the day, stop to take a few deep breaths. Keep stress at bay with techniques such as “square breathing.” Breathe in for four counts, hold for four counts, then out for four counts, and hold again for four counts. Repeat this cycle four times.
3. Get organized and purge old items
A cluttered space often creates a cluttered spirit. Take the time to get rid of anything you haven’t used in a year and invest in organizational systems that help you sustain a level of neatness.
4. Stop yourself from being judgmental
Whenever you are tempted to have an opinion about someone else’s life, check your intentions. Judging others creates and promotes negative energy.
5. Say ‘thank you’ early and often
Start and end each day with an attitude of gratitude. Look for opportunities in your daily routine and interactions to express appreciation.
6. Smile more
Even if you have to “fake it until you make it,” there are many scientific benefits of smiling and laughing. Also, pay attention to your facial expression when you are doing neutral activities such as driving and walking. Turn that frown upside down!
7. Don’t worry about the future
As difficult as this sounds, there is a direct connection between staying in the present and living a more peaceful life. You cannot control the future. As the old proverb goes, “Worry is like a rocking chair. It gives you something to do, but it won’t get you anywhere.” Practice gently bringing your thoughts back to the present.
8. Eat real food
The closer the food is to the state from which it came from the earth, the better you will feel in eating it. Choose foods that grew from a plant over food that was made in a plant.
9. Choose being happy over being right
Too often, we sacrifice inner peace in order to make a point. It’s rarely worth it.
10. Keep technology out of the bedroom
Many studies, such as one conducted by Brigham and Women’s Hospital, have connected blue light of electronic devices before bed to adverse sleep and overall health. To make matters worse, many people report that they cannot resist checking email and social media when their cell phone is in reach of their bed, regardless of the time.
11. Make use of filtering features on social media
You may not want to “unfriend” someone completely, however you can choose whether you want to follow their posts and/or the sources of information that they share.
12. Get comfortable with silence
When you picture someone who is the ultimate state of peace, typically they aren’t talking.
13. Listen to understand, not to respond
So often in conversations, we use our ears to give us cues about when it is our turn to say what we want to say. Practice active listening, ask questions, process, then speak.
14. Put your troubles in a bubble
Whenever you start to feel anxious, visualize the situation being wrapped in a bubble and then picture that sphere floating away.
15. Speak more slowly
Often a lack of peace manifests itself in fast or clipped speech. Take a breath, slow down, and let your thoughtful consideration drive your words.
16. Don’t procrastinate
Nothing adds stress to our lives like waiting until the last minute.
17. Buy a coloring book
Mandala coloring books for adults are becoming more popular because of their connection to creating inner peace.
18. Prioritize yourself
You are the only person who you are guaranteed to live with 24 hours a day for the rest of your life.
19. Forgive others
Holding a grudge is hurting you exponentially more than anyone else. Let it go.
20. Check your expectations
Presumption often leads to drama. Remember the old saying, “Expectations are premeditated resentments.”
21. Engage in active play
Let your inner child come out and have some fun. Jump, dance, play, and pretend!
22. Stop criticizing yourself
The world is a hard enough place with more than enough critics. Your life is not served well by being one of them.
23. Focus your energy and attention on what you want
Thoughts, words, and actions all create energy. Energy attracts like energy. Put out what you want to get back.
24. Assign yourself “complaint free” days.
Make a conscious decision not to complain about anything for a whole day. It might be harder than you think and the awareness will stick with you.
25. Surround yourself with people you truly enjoy being in the company of
Personalities tend to be contagious, and not everyone’s is worth catching. Be judicious in your choices.
26. Manage your money
Financial concerns rank top on the list of what causes people stress. Take the time each month to do a budget, calculate what you actually spend and sanity check that against the money you have coming in.
27. Stop trying to control everything
Not only is your inner control freak sabotaging your sense of peace, it is also likely getting in the way of external relationships as well.
28. Practice affirmations
Repeat positive phrases that depict the life and qualities you want to attract. It may not come naturally to you, but it works.
29. Get up before sunrise
Personally witnessing the dawn brings a unique sense of awe and appreciation for life.
30. Be yourself
Nothing creates more inner discord than trying to be something other than who we really are. Authenticity breeds happiness.
Featured photo credit: man watching sunrise via stokpic.com