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Top six Podcasts for the Sophistiratchet Woman

Top six Podcasts for the Sophistiratchet Woman

Definition of “sophistirachet”:

1: a woman of highly-educated pedigree (academically, socially, and otherwise) and worldly breeding; fluent in various forms of public etiquette yet is equally knowledgeable of the latest strip club songs, updated on most prime-time ratchet cable programs and conversant in the tongue of hoochie mama.

Finally.

The time has come when society has put some respeck (yes, I went Birdman on y’all) on who I am. I don’t know why it took so long to realize that it is possible to have a wall of degrees and still blast 21 Savage leaving the office.  It’s called balance.

It can also be hard to find a podcast that suits our fancy. We want to take in all of this information, but still be able to yell “YAAAAASSSSSS” because we relate to the situation- a good mixture of who we are, but with the understanding of who we are becoming.  Here are six podcasts that will GIVE.YOU.LIFE.

The Friend Zone

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    This is every Hood Hippy’s favorite crew: Fran (Hey Fran Hey), Assante, and Dustin.  The three of them provide us with the perfect balance needed in life (and remind you of every person in your crew).  Fran keeps us mellow and surrounded with good vibes, Assante gives us the tools for our own Ninja Kit, and Dustin keeps us in our petty ways.  Covering topics such as imposter syndrome, Jackie Christi acting a fool on “Basketball Wives”, and even code-switching, you are sure to be entertained and captivated by the thought-provoking topics (and get your life together moments) because who in the hell wants a musty brain?

    Listen on: 

    SoundCloud

    ITunes

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    Stitcher 

    Spotify

    #MyTaughtYou

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      Myleik Teele is the CEO of Curlbox, and every ambitious millennial woman’s virtual mentor.  In her podcast, she drops gems that every aspiring #bosschick yearns for.  Let’s keep it real, Myleik doesn’t just tell us what we want to hear, but gives the reality check that we usually run from.  Not rosy, but oh-so-necessary.

      Listen on: 

      MyTaughtYou.com

      PodOMatic

      Itunes

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      The Read

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        Everything that we think but don’t say, Kid Fury and Crissle do it for us- brutally honest and hella funny.  They highlight greatness in #BlackExcellence, give advice to listeners with their messy situations (and chile they are MESSY) and end the show by reading the hell out of someone. Any show that will drop everything and talk about Beyonce, is good with me!

        Listen on:

        SoundCloud

        Stitcher

        Itunes

        The Perfectly Imperfect Grind

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          Social media will make you think that everyone is #winning and you’re the only one struggling, failing, and drawing on your eyebrows wrong.  Jasamine Hill of TheFearHurdler.com interviews African American millennials who are entrepreneurs or climbing the corporate ladder.  Their stories show the good, the bad, and the ugly of the GRIND, and though you may feel alone, chile we have all been there.  You will pull inspiration from their stories and even shout a couple times with Jasamine in the process.

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          Listen on:

          SoundCloud

          TheFearHurdler

          Itunes

          Side Hustle Pro

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            To all my ladies on the grind trying to turn their side hustle into their full-time gig, THIS IS JUST FOR YOU!  Nicaila Matthews talks with women who have made the jump, giving you the insight and inspiration to make the leap yourself! With guests such as Courtney Sanders, Tiffany “The Budgetnista”, Aliche, and Luvvie Ajayi, get your bag ready, because gems will fall out of the sky.

            Listen on:

            Itunes

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            Stitcher

            New Geechee

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              It’s a new podcast on the scene, but already creating a print for itself.  Keiona discusses topics for all YMP (Young Melanated Professionals) from fitness to politics; you will not only be enlightened but entertained.  You may not be from the low country of South Carolina but you will take pride in your roots!

              Listen on:

              SoundCloud

              Itunes

              Well there you have it: some choices to add to your rotation; now go GET.YOUR.LIFE.

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              13 Helping Points When Things Don’t Go Your Way

              13 Helping Points When Things Don’t Go Your Way

              For the original article by Celestine: 13 Helping Points When Things Don’t Go Your Way

              “We all have problems. The way we solve them is what makes us different.” ~Unknown

              “It’s not stress that kills us, it is our reaction to it.” – Hans Selye

              Have you ever experienced moments when things just don’t go your way? For example, losing your keys, accidentally spilling your drink, waking up late, missing your buses/trains, forgetting to bring your things, and so on?

              You’re not alone. All of us, myself included, experience times when things don’t go as we expect.

              Here is my guide on how to deal with daily setbacks.

              1. Take a step back and evaluate

              When something bad happens, take a step back and evaluate the situation. Some questions to ask yourself:

              1. What is the problem?
              2. Are you the only person facing this problem in the world today?
              3. How does this problem look like at an individual level? A national level? On a global scale?
              4. What’s the worst possible thing that can happen to you as a result of this?
              5. How is it going to impact your life in the next 1 year? 5 years? 10 years?

              Doing this exercise is not to undermine the problem or disclaiming responsibility, but to consider different perspectives, so you can adopt the best approach for it. Most problems we encounter daily may seem like huge issues when they crop up, but most, if not all, don’t have much impact in our life beyond that day.

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              2. Vent if you have to, but don’t linger on the problem

              If you feel very frustrated and need to let off some steam, go ahead and do that. Talk to a friend, complain, crib about it, or scream at the top of your lungs if it makes you happy.

              At the same time, don’t get caught up with venting. While venting may temporarily relieve yourself, it’s not going to solve the problem ultimately. You don’t want to be an energy vampire.

              Vent if there’s a need to, but do it for 15 to 20 minutes. Then move on.

              3. Realize there are others out there facing this too

              Even though the situation may be frustrating, you’re not alone. Remember there are almost 7 billion people in the world today, and chances are that other people have faced the same thing before too. Knowing it’s not just you helps you to get out of a self-victimizing mindset.

              4. Process your thoughts/emotions

              Process your thoughts/emotions with any of the four methods:

              1. Journal. Write your unhappiness in a private diary or in your blog. It doesn’t have to be formal at all – it can be a brain dump on rough paper or new word document. Delete after you are done.
              2. Audio taping. Record yourself as you talk out what’s on your mind. Tools include tape recorder, your PC (Audacity is a freeware for recording/editing audio) and your mobile (most mobiles today have audio recording functions). You can even use your voice mail for this. Just talking helps you to gain awareness of your emotions. After recording, play back and listen to what you said. You might find it quite revealing.
              3. Meditation. At its simplest form, meditation is just sitting/lying still and observing your reality as it is – including your thoughts and emotions. Some think that it involves some complex mambo-jumbo, but it doesn’t.
              4. Talking to someone. Talking about it with someone helps you work through the issue. It also gets you an alternate viewpoint and consider it from a different angle.

              5. Acknowledge your thoughts

              Don’t resist your thoughts, but acknowledge them. This includes both positive and negative thoughts.

              By acknowledging, I mean recognizing these thoughts exist. So if say, you have a thought that says, “Wow, I’m so stupid!”, acknowledge that. If you have a thought that says, “I can’t believe this is happening to me again”, acknowledge that as well.

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              Know that acknowledging the thoughts doesn’t mean you agree with them. It’s simply recognizing the existence of said thoughts so that you can stop resisting yourself and focus on the situation on hand.

              6. Give yourself a break

              If you’re very stressed out by the situation, and the problem is not time sensitive, then give yourself a break. Take a walk, listen to some music, watch a movie, or get some sleep. When you’re done, you should feel a lot more revitalized to deal with the situation.

              7. Uncover what you’re really upset about

              A lot of times, the anger we feel isn’t about the world. You may start off feeling angry at someone or something, but at the depth of it, it’s anger toward yourself.

              Uncover the root of your anger. I have written a five part anger management series on how to permanently overcome anger.

              After that, ask yourself: How can you improve the situation? Go to Step #9, where you define your actionable steps. Our anger comes from not having control on the situation. Sitting there and feeling infuriated is not going to change the situation. The more action we take, the more we will regain control over the situation, the better we will feel.

              8. See this as an obstacle to be overcome

              As Helen Keller once said,

              “Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experiences of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, vision cleared, ambition inspired and success achieved.”

              Whatever you’re facing right now, see it as an obstacle to be overcome. In every worthy endeavor, there’ll always be countless obstacles that emerge along the way. These obstacles are what separate the people who make it, and those who don’t. If you’re able to push through and overcome them, you’ll emerge a stronger person than before. It’ll be harder for anything to get you down in the future.

              9. Analyze the situation – Focus on actionable steps

              In every setback, there are going to be things that can’t be reversed since they have already occurred. You want to focus on things that can still be changed (salvageable) vs. things that have already happened and can’t be changed. The only time the situation changes is when you take steps to improve it. Rather than cry over spilt milk, work through your situation:

              1. What’s the situation?
              2. What’s stressing you about this situation?
              3. What are the next steps that’ll help you resolve them?
              4. Take action on your next steps!

              After you have identified your next steps, act on them. The key here is to focus on the actionable steps, not the inactionable steps. It’s about regaining control over the situation through direct action.

              10. Identify how it occurred (so it won’t occur again next time)

              A lot of times we react to our problems. The problem occurs, and we try to make the best out of what has happened within the context. While developing a healthy coping mechanism is important (which is what the other helping points are on), it’s also equally important, if not more, to understand how the problem arose. This way, you can work on preventing it from taking place next time, vs. dealing reactively with it.

              Most of us probably think the problem is outside of our control, but reality is most of the times it’s fully preventable. It’s just a matter of how much responsibility you take over the problem.

              For example, for someone who can’t get a cab for work in the morning, he/she may see the problem as a lack of cabs in the country, or bad luck. However, if you trace to the root of the problem, it’s probably more to do with (a) Having unrealistic expectations of the length of time to get a cab. He/she should budget more time for waiting for a cab next time. (b) Oversleeping, because he/she was too tired from working late the previous day. He/she should allocate enough time for rest next time. He/she should also pick up better time management skills, so as to finish work in lesser time.

              11. Realize the situation can be a lot worse

              No matter how bad the situation is, it can always be much worse. A plus point vs. negative point analysis will help you realize that.

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              12. Do your best, but don’t kill yourself over it

              No matter how bad your situation may seem, do your best, but don’t kill yourself over it. Life is too beautiful to worry so much over daily issues. Take a step back (#1), give yourself a break if you need to (#6), and do what you can within your means (#9). Everything else will unfold accordingly. Worrying too much about the outcome isn’t going to change things or make your life any better.

              13. Pick out the learning points from the encounter

              There’s something to learn from every encounter. What have you learned from this situation? What lessons have you taken away?

              After you identify your learning points, think about how you’re going to apply them moving forward. With this, you’ve clearly gained something from this encounter. You’ve walked away a stronger, wiser, better person, with more life lessons to draw from in the future.

              Get the manifesto version of this article: [Manifesto] What To Do When Things Don’t Go Your Way

              Featured photo credit: Alice Donovan Rouse via unsplash.com

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