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Top six Podcasts for the Sophistiratchet Woman

Top six Podcasts for the Sophistiratchet Woman

Definition of “sophistirachet”:

1: a woman of highly-educated pedigree (academically, socially, and otherwise) and worldly breeding; fluent in various forms of public etiquette yet is equally knowledgeable of the latest strip club songs, updated on most prime-time ratchet cable programs and conversant in the tongue of hoochie mama.

Finally.

The time has come when society has put some respeck (yes, I went Birdman on y’all) on who I am. I don’t know why it took so long to realize that it is possible to have a wall of degrees and still blast 21 Savage leaving the office.  It’s called balance.

It can also be hard to find a podcast that suits our fancy. We want to take in all of this information, but still be able to yell “YAAAAASSSSSS” because we relate to the situation- a good mixture of who we are, but with the understanding of who we are becoming.  Here are six podcasts that will GIVE.YOU.LIFE.

The Friend Zone

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    This is every Hood Hippy’s favorite crew: Fran (Hey Fran Hey), Assante, and Dustin.  The three of them provide us with the perfect balance needed in life (and remind you of every person in your crew).  Fran keeps us mellow and surrounded with good vibes, Assante gives us the tools for our own Ninja Kit, and Dustin keeps us in our petty ways.  Covering topics such as imposter syndrome, Jackie Christi acting a fool on “Basketball Wives”, and even code-switching, you are sure to be entertained and captivated by the thought-provoking topics (and get your life together moments) because who in the hell wants a musty brain?

    Listen on: 

    SoundCloud

    ITunes

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    Stitcher 

    Spotify

    #MyTaughtYou

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      Myleik Teele is the CEO of Curlbox, and every ambitious millennial woman’s virtual mentor.  In her podcast, she drops gems that every aspiring #bosschick yearns for.  Let’s keep it real, Myleik doesn’t just tell us what we want to hear, but gives the reality check that we usually run from.  Not rosy, but oh-so-necessary.

      Listen on: 

      MyTaughtYou.com

      PodOMatic

      Itunes

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      The Read

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        Everything that we think but don’t say, Kid Fury and Crissle do it for us- brutally honest and hella funny.  They highlight greatness in #BlackExcellence, give advice to listeners with their messy situations (and chile they are MESSY) and end the show by reading the hell out of someone. Any show that will drop everything and talk about Beyonce, is good with me!

        Listen on:

        SoundCloud

        Stitcher

        Itunes

        The Perfectly Imperfect Grind

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          Social media will make you think that everyone is #winning and you’re the only one struggling, failing, and drawing on your eyebrows wrong.  Jasamine Hill of TheFearHurdler.com interviews African American millennials who are entrepreneurs or climbing the corporate ladder.  Their stories show the good, the bad, and the ugly of the GRIND, and though you may feel alone, chile we have all been there.  You will pull inspiration from their stories and even shout a couple times with Jasamine in the process.

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          Listen on:

          SoundCloud

          TheFearHurdler

          Itunes

          Side Hustle Pro

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            To all my ladies on the grind trying to turn their side hustle into their full-time gig, THIS IS JUST FOR YOU!  Nicaila Matthews talks with women who have made the jump, giving you the insight and inspiration to make the leap yourself! With guests such as Courtney Sanders, Tiffany “The Budgetnista”, Aliche, and Luvvie Ajayi, get your bag ready, because gems will fall out of the sky.

            Listen on:

            Itunes

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            Stitcher

            New Geechee

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              It’s a new podcast on the scene, but already creating a print for itself.  Keiona discusses topics for all YMP (Young Melanated Professionals) from fitness to politics; you will not only be enlightened but entertained.  You may not be from the low country of South Carolina but you will take pride in your roots!

              Listen on:

              SoundCloud

              Itunes

              Well there you have it: some choices to add to your rotation; now go GET.YOUR.LIFE.

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              Last Updated on May 21, 2019

              How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship

              How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship

              For all our social media bravado, we live in a society where communication is seen less as an art, and more as a perfunctory exercise. We spend so much time with people, yet we struggle with how to meaningfully communicate.

              If you believe you have mastered effective communication, scan the list below and see whether you can see yourself in any of the examples:

              Example 1

              You are uncomfortable with a person’s actions or comments, and rather than telling the individual immediately, you sidestep the issue and attempt to move on as though the offending behavior or comment never happened.

              You move on with the relationship and develop a pattern of not addressing challenging situations. Before long, the person with whom you are in relationship will say or do something that pushes you over the top and predictably, you explode or withdraw completely from the relationship.

              In this example, hard-to-speak truths become never- expressed truths that turn into resentment and anger.

              Example 2

              You communicate from the head and without emotion. While what you communicate makes perfect sense to you, it comes across as cold because it lacks emotion.

              People do not understand what motivates you to say what you say, and without sharing your feelings and emotions, others experience you as rude, cold or aggressive.

              You will know this is a problem if people shy away from you, ignore your contributions in meetings or tell you your words hurt. You can also know you struggle in this area if you find yourself constantly apologizing for things you have said.

              Example 3

              You have an issue with one person, but you communicate your problem to an entirely different person.

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              The person in whom you confide lacks the authority to resolve the matter troubling you, and while you have vented and expressed frustration, the underlying challenge is unresolved.

              Example 4

              You grew up in a family with destructive communication habits and those habits play out in your current relationships.

              Because you have never stopped to ask why you communicate the way you do and whether your communication style still works, you may lack understanding of how your words impact others and how to implement positive change.

              If you find yourself in any of the situations described above, this article is for you.

              Communication can build or decimate worlds and it is important we get it right. Regardless of your professional aspirations or personal goals, you can improve your communication skills if you:

              • Understand your own communication style
              • Tailor your style depending on the needs of the audience
              • Communicate with precision and care
              • Be mindful of your delivery, timing and messenger

              1. Understand Your Communication Style

              To communicate effectively, you must understand the communication legacy passed down from our parents, grandparents or caregivers. Each of us grew up with spoken and unspoken rules about communication.

              In some families, direct communication is practiced and honored. In other families, family members are encouraged to shy away from difficult conversations. Some families appreciate open and frank dialogue and others do not. Other families practice silence about substantive matters, that is, they seldom or rarely broach difficult conversations at all.

              Before you can appreciate the nuance required in communication, it helps to know the familial patterns you grew up with.

              2. Learn Others Communication Styles

              Communicating effectively requires you to take a step back, assess the intended recipient of your communication and think through how the individual prefers to be communicated with. Once you know this, you can tailor your message in a way that increases the likelihood of being heard. This also prevents you from assuming the way you communicate with one group is appropriate or right for all groups or people.

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              If you are unsure how to determine the styles of the groups or persons with whom you are interacting, you can always ask them:

              “How do you prefer to receive information?”

              This approach requires listening, both to what the individuals say as well as what is unspoken. Virgin Group CEO Richard Branson noted that the best communicators are also great listeners.

              To communicate effectively from relationship to relationship and situation to situation, you must understand the communication needs of others.

              3. Exercise Precision and Care

              A recent engagement underscored for me the importance of exercising care when communicating.

              On a recent trip to Ohio, I decided to meet up with an old friend to go for a walk. As we strolled through the soccer park, my friend gently announced that he had something to talk about, he was upset with me. His introduction to the problem allowed me to mentally shift gears and prepare for the conversation.

              Shortly after introducing the shift in conversation, my friend asked me why I didn’t invite him to the launch party for my business. He lives in Ohio and I live in the D.C. area.

              I explained that the event snuck up on me, and I only started planning the invite list three weeks before the event. Due to the last-minute nature of the gathering, I opted to invite people in the DMV area versus my friends from outside the area – I didn’t want to be disrespectful by asking them to travel on such short notice.

              I also noted that I didn’t want to be disappointed if he and others declined to come to the event. So I played it safe in terms of inviting people who were local.

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              In the moment, I felt the conversation went very well. I also checked in with my friend a few days after our walk, affirmed my appreciation for his willingness to communicate his upset and our ability to work through it.

              The way this conversation unfolded exemplified effective communication. My friend approached me with grace and vulnerability. He approached me with a level of curiosity that didn’t put me on my heels — I was able to really listen to what he was saying, apologize for how my decision impacted him and vow that going forward, I would always ask rather than making decisions for him and others.

              Our relationship is intact, and I now have information that will help me become a better friend to him and others.

              4. Be Mindful of Delivery, Timing and Messenger

              Communicating effectively also requires thinking through the delivery of the message one intends to communicate as well as the appropriate time for the discussion.

              In an Entrepreneur.com column, VIP Contributor Deep Patel, noted that persons interested in communicating well need to master the art of timing. Patel noted,[1]

              “Great comedians, like all great communicators, are able to feel out their audience to determine when to move on to a new topic or when to reiterate an idea.”

              Communicating effectively also requires thoughtfulness about the messenger. A person prone to dramatic, angry outbursts should never be called upon to deliver constructive feedback, especially to people whom they do not know. The immediate aftermath of a mass shooting is not the ideal time to talk about the importance of the Second Amendment rights.

              Like everyone else, I must work to ensure my communication is layered with precision and care.

              It requires precision because words must be carefully tailored to the person with whom you are speaking.

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              It requires intentionality because before one communicates, one should think about the audience and what the audience needs in order to hear your message the way you intended it to be communicated.

              It requires active listening which is about hearing verbal and nonverbal messages.

              Even though we may be right in what we say, how we say it could derail the impact of the message and the other parties’ ability to hear the message.

              Communicating with care is also about saying things that the people in our life need to hear and doing so with love.

              The Bottom Line

              When I left the meeting with my dear friend, I wondered if I was replicating or modeling this level of openness and transparency in the rest of my relationships.

              I was intrigued and appreciative. He’d clearly thought about what he wanted to say to me, picked the appropriate time to share his feedback and then delivered it with care. He hit the ball out of the park and I’m hopeful we all do the same.

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