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The Sacrifice of Success and Its Cost

The Sacrifice of Success and Its Cost

A large number of people like to be called successful, even with clear indication human beings like and wish to connect themselves with successful people. Who does not like good stuff? Everyone would like to enjoy everything but will not sacrifice anything. Success is not built in a day, it is just a product of long perseverance, endurance, and challenges.

The definition of success differs from person to person. My own definition of success might be different from yours but the fact still remains that achieving an objective or goal generalizes the definition of success. Working hard only as sacrifice might not work for you because it should not be the only and main to push for success. Without a doubt, you need a spiritual tool called ‘prayer’. The key to success, as I believe, is the addition of both hardworking and prayer. Though, some people only believe in the intelligence or smartness to achieve success.

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However, your smartness and being intelligent can make you a successful being but you have to go through some rigorous processes and face some challenges. There are some sacrifices you need to make to achieve that height no matter how small it is.

While one of my friends does indeed say, in the realm of success there will be no negotiating, you must pay money for the price. Never ask for a deep discount in that market, no book me down, no credit, kindly pay the full purchase price in order so that you can enjoy that commodity called SUCCESS.

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To achieve success, there are many costs and sacrifices that person would make. Listed here are just a few of the cost or what you will experience when you are on course for the success trip.

1. Late Nights and Early Mornings

Laziness can never be attributed to any human being who seeks the gateway of success. A success seeker goes past due in bed and awakens up early in the morning to stay the mission. No doubt, you will spend much time late in the nights. Taking students as a case study, students need to read overnight to get fully prepared for any examination.

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2. Loss of Associates and Few Good Friends

In the course of pursuing of success, some friends will leave you while some will stay with you. You might even be surprised that those you think are your best friends leave you. That is, those that leave you are not part of your plan to attain your success. Not all friends are important so you need to lose some friends in order to focus on the journey of success.

3. You Think Alone

Most of the times you feel only and abandoned. Don’t be afraid at that moment, it is a crucial moment to gear up and follow-up the right cause. It is merely a subject of time when you succeed, you will see people surround you. There are many things to sacrifice to achieve your objectives, for this reason, your thinking is very important.

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Your level of thinking plays a crucial role in achieving your aims and be successful in life. You might it difficult that many people don’t understand your thinking, just keep going. The road to success land is not smooth – your positive thinking and determination can help you to overcome any challenge.

No success story is sweet without sacrifice story. Many stories you read about successful men or women is sweet but ask them what they have passed through, they will tell it was not an easy job. The road was rough, tough and many obstacles were passed through. You have to keep your head high, be determined and lose not your focus which makes your confidence level as high as anything to achieve your set objective or goal.

It is not too late to come back to the round table to draw that plan that would make your journey to success workable.

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Overcoming The Pain Of A Breakup: 3 Suggestions Based On Science

Overcoming The Pain Of A Breakup: 3 Suggestions Based On Science

We thought that the expression ‘broken heart’ was just a metaphor, but science is telling us that it is not: breakups and rejections do cause physical pain. When a group of psychologists asked research participants to look at images of their ex-partners who broke up with them, researchers found that the same brain areas that are activated by physical pain are also activated by looking at images of ex-partners. Looking at images of our ex is a painful experience, literally.[1].

Given that the effect of rejections and breakups is the same as the effect of physical pain, scientists have speculated on whether the practices that reduce physical pain could be used to reduce the emotional pain that follows from breakups and rejections. In a study on whether painkillers reduce the emotional pain caused by a breakup, researchers found that painkillers did help. Individuals who took painkillers were better able to deal with their breakup. Tamar Cohen wrote that “A simple dose of paracetamol could help ease the pain of a broken heart.”[2]

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Just like painkillers can be used to ease the pain of a broken heart, other practices that ease physical pain can also be used to ease the pain of rejections and breakups. Three of these scientifically validated practices are presented in this article.

Looking at images of loved ones

While images of ex-partners stimulate the pain neuro-circuitry in our brain, images of loved ones activate a different circuitry. Looking at images of people who care about us increases the release of oxytocin in our body. Oxytocin, or the “cuddle hormone,” is the hormone that our body relies on to induce in us a soothing feeling of tranquility, even when we are under high stress and pain.

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In fact, oxytocin was found to have a crucial role as a mother is giving birth to her baby. Despite the extreme pain that a mother has to endure during delivery, the high level of oxytocin secreted by her body transforms pain into pleasure. Mariem Melainine notes that, “Oxytocin levels are usually at their peak during delivery, which promotes a sense of euphoria in the mother and helps her develop a stronger bond with her baby.”[3]

Whenever you feel tempted to look at images of your ex-partner, log into your Facebook page and start browsing images of your loved ones. As Eva Ritvo, M.D. notes, “Facebook fools our brain into believing that loved ones surround us, which historically was essential to our survival. The human brain, because it evolved thousands of years before photography, fails on many levels to recognize the difference between pictures and people”[4]

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Exercise

Endorphins are neurotransmitters that reduce our perception of pain. When our body is high on endorphins, painful sensations are kept outside of conscious awareness. It was found that exercise causes endorphins to be secreted in the brain and as a result produce a feeling of power, as psychologist Alex Korb noted in his book: “Exercise causes your brain to release endorphins, neurotransmitters that act on your neurons like opiates (such as morphine or Vicodin) by sending a neural signal to reduce pain and provide anxiety relief.”[5] By inhibiting pain from being transmitted to our brain, exercise acts as a powerful antidote to the pain caused by rejections and breakups.

Meditation

Jon Kabat Zinn, a doctor who pioneered the use of mindfulness meditation therapy for patients with chronic pain, has argued that it is not pain itself that is harmful to our mental health, rather, it is the way we react to pain. When we react to pain with irritation, frustration, and self-pity, more pain is generated, and we enter a never ending spiral of painful thoughts and sensations.

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In order to disrupt the domino effect caused by reacting to pain with pain, Kabat Zinn and other proponents of mindfulness meditation therapy have suggested reacting to pain through nonjudgmental contemplation and acceptance. By practicing meditation on a daily basis and getting used to the habit of paying attention to the sensations generated by our body (including the painful ones and by observing these sensations nonjudgmentally and with compassion) our brain develops the habit of reacting to pain with grace and patience.

When you find yourself thinking about a recent breakup or a recent rejection, close your eyes and pay attention to the sensations produced by your body. Take deep breaths and as you are feeling the sensations produced by your body, distance yourself from them, and observe them without judgment and with compassion. If your brain starts wandering and gets distracted, gently bring back your compassionate nonjudgmental attention to your body. Try to do this exercise for one minute and gradually increase its duration.

With consistent practice, nonjudgmental acceptance will become our default reaction to breakups, rejections, and other disappointments that we experience in life. Every rejection and every breakup teaches us great lessons about relationships and about ourselves.

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