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The Capable Man: 3 Important Lifestyle and Self-Improvement Tips

The Capable Man: 3 Important Lifestyle and Self-Improvement Tips

Have you ever thought about what makes a real alpha-male? We can all agree that a paycheck, a driver’s license and shaving each morning before work is among the most common things considered for a real man to do. But, this is only the tip of the iceberg. More than a daily routine, a real man needs to be capable.

A capable man is smart, adapts quickly, learns from his mistakes and keeps improving every day. A capable man is the one who solves problems.

These claims are all true, no question about that. Still, in real life, it is not easy to achieve all of that. Sometimes, men can be frightened, clumsy, insecure. It’s all good because we’re all humans, and we don’t need to follow the mainstream media’s demands of perfectionism to be real men.

But, we can get close.

We don’t need to have chiseled abs and perfect hair to win her attention. We don’t need money. All we need is confidence and some skills. No woman in the world doesn’t like to see a man operating a big, complicated machine and saves the day.

There are three specific areas you should concentrate on more; the way you behave, the way you look, and how you perform outdoors. Here’s how to be a real man:

1. Good manners

Few things can compete with a well-mannered man because there is no amount of money or beauty which can replace ill manners. When you meet someone, a firm handshake and look in the eye says a lot about you; that you are confident and looking forward to further talk.

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While talking, use basic courtesy phrases such as “Please” and “Thank You” to show your respect and politeness. Be polite to everybody, especially people who serve you. While communicating, keep your voice down and don’t use slang. Another important aspect of good manners is listening. Don’t interrupt other person’s talk – be patient to answer when it’s time.

Holding the coat and doors to your lady friend is the sign of your attention and care. Also, be careful about your overall politeness, meaning stay out of gossips, trivial subjects, and impolite jokes. In order to be a real man, you should pay attention to your behavior more, and be more polite cosmopolitan.

2. The way you look and represent yourself

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    “Suit does not make a man“, says the old proverb, but I can add „but it completes him“.

    A real man should always know how to dress properly for the occasion. Your clothes don’t have to be expensive; the way you wear them and how it fits you is much more important. Longer sleeves or smaller by one number is considered as a sin, and I tend to agree. A man in a well-maintained suit and nicely paired shoes shows a perfect image, so why not show to the world the best you have?

    Ties can be worn, of course, and it is even better if you know how to tie one. To be honest, it is not much of a big deal, and it will give you the much-needed confidence. One more important requirement: your clothes have to be tidy and perfectly clean. Which brings us to the next important thing:

    A real man knows to maintain and clean his clothes

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    washing-machine

      Probably the worst nightmare for the “Average Joe,” doing laundry is quite the undertaking. All the symbols, degrees, hieroglyphs, and codes are hard to understand. Where does the detergent go? Do I need bleach? What is this sign here? These are the very first thoughts when a man stands in front of his nemesis. But, steel yourself, you can figure this out.

      The basics are next: All the colored laundry needs to be washed at 30 or 40 degrees Celsius, and those ordinary white cotton shirts can go to 90. The number of rounds per second is also vital, because the faster the machine goes, the worse the wrinkles will be. Due to a high diversity of types of machines, I can point you to this guide which can help a lot, as it did to me.

      When talking about clothing and the way you look, another device which gives an average guy a nightmare is the flatiron. Ironing your shirt is quite stressful, because of all of the wrinkles, slow progress, and frustration. That is why you need to take a step back, and to start from the basics. Socks, old t-shirts and other simple and worn-out items will be an excellent practice.

      You need to take care of the temperature, so start with the minimum, and increase it slowly, so that you will see which one is the most efficient for certain textiles.

      An important part of a competent man’s looks is grooming

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        A real man knows to groom well, and maintain a sleek look, no matter the style.

        In case that you have decided to follow this trend, you have to start from the basics. According to several studies, bearded men are, in fact, cleaner than their bare counterparts, but a certain level of hygiene is required. Beard can be seen as long hair, in terms of maintenance. Regular washing and even combing (if it is a longer one) are a must, so you must be ready for every to every other day maintaining.

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        As for the girls, the current fashion trend favors bearded men, but you must stay consistent to yourself. You are wearing a beard because you like it, not because others tell you to do so. To have a perfect beard all the time, you’ll need a fine grooming set.

        3. Be Capable Outdoors

        Outdoor activities can showcase a man’s capability and confidence the best. A real, capable man can handle situations and problems and operate many devices with skill. We’re talking about yard maintenance, house repairs, and technical stuff.

        As a capable man, you should know to operate these devices:

        Lawnmower

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          Almost every man learns how to use lawn mower at the early age, so no big introduction is needed. The only thing which can vary is the type of the mower.

          Those man-powered are of the simplest type, you need just to push it around, and it will mow. More complicated are those powered by gas or electrical energy. These utilize rotating blades, which represent a potential danger because a pebble hit by this becomes an instant projectile. That is why you need to wear adequate shoes or boots.

          Leaf sweeper

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          leaf-sweaper

            Every autumn, the leaves falling from the trees threatens to make your backyard ugly. To avert this, you need to take out the leaf sweeper and start cleaning up.

            Raking the leaves is an old and outdated method, so why not utilizing one of those pushed-around ones? The process is relatively simple, and I’m sure you will figure it out without my help. Depending on the type of the sweeper, you’ll have to take care about the leaf container.

            Chainsaw

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              Is there anything more masculine than a lumberjack? Recent fashion is favoring men with beards, so if you are wearing one, let some swarf fly around, and hopefully, you will get that ruff look.

              Stay alerted, because injuries made by chainsaws can be life or limb threatening, so always wear safety goggles and gloves. In addition, be very careful about the “kickback effect.”

              Be a capable man. Win the day.

              Are you looking at how you perform in these three areas? If you improve them one at the time, you’ll become a more competent man. It won’t go unnoticed, I promise.

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              Last Updated on November 18, 2020

              50 Habits of Highly Successful People You Should Learn

              50 Habits of Highly Successful People You Should Learn

              If you’re like me and really into self-development, you’ve probably read many of the thousands of self-help books out there on the market. But also like me, you probably find all the information a bit overwhelming.

              That’s why I wanted to do the self-less task of taking the most important, life-changing lessons I’ve drawn from these books and condensed them into 50 key points.

              Here’re 50 habits of successful people you should learn:

              1. Believe It to See It

              Our minds tend to focus on what’s happening around us and refuse to see what could happen. Only when you trust in what’s possible and dare to dream big, big things can happen for you.

              2. See Problems as a Wonderful Gift

              While others only see problems and give up, successful people use the problem as a lesson to find improvement in themselves or the task at hand.

              3. Keep Looking for Solutions

              Even if they’re knee-deep in problems, successful people will still put all of their focus on finding solutions.

              4. Remember It’s All About the Journey

              Successful people are conscious and methodical in creating their own success. They don’t sit around doing the bare minimum, hoping success finds them.

              5. Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway

              There’s so much fear on the road to success, but instead of letting that fear control and limit them, successful people do a good job of just forging ahead regardless.

              6. Always Ask Productive Questions

              It’s all about asking the right questions. Successful people make sure they are questions that will elicit information for a more productive, creative and positive mindset moving forward.

              7. Understand the Best Waste of Energy Is Complaining

              Successful people know that choosing to see the negative side of things will only create a useless and unproductive state.

              8. Don’t Play the Blame Game

              Taking responsibility for actions and outcomes is a form of empowerment that you can build your success upon. While the act of blaming others or outside circumstances takes this empowerment away from you.

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              9. Maximize Your Strengths

              Not every successful person is simply more talented than the rest, but they do use what they know they’re good at to achieve more successful results.

              10. Be in It to Win It

              Successful people are busy, productive and proactive. Instead of sitting around over-thinking and over-planning a great idea, they just take a step towards it no matter how small.

              11. Know That Success Attracts Success

              People who are successful surround themselves and seek out like-minded people. They understand the importance of being part of a team and forge win-win relationships.

              12. Actually Choose to Be Successful

              Dreaming big is a massive part of being successful even if your dream seems impossible. Ambition is a mindset that needs to be a daily conscious choice.

              13. Visualize, Visualize, Visualize!

              You’ve got to see your success in your mind’s eye even before it comes. Successful people clarify and get that certainty about what they want their reality to look like rather than being mere spectators of life.

              14. Be a One-Off Original

              Successful people look for what’s working and then create a unique spin on it. Imitating only regurgitates other people’s ideas with no originality.

              15. The Perfect Time to Act Is Now

              Waiting for the right time to act is basically procrastination wrapped up in an excuse. Successful people know there’s never a perfect time so they may as well just do it now.

              16. Keep Learning, Keep Growing

              Continuous learning is the key to a successful life. Whether it’s academic, being a student of life or actionable learning, it’s all about expanding your knowledge and personal development.

              17. Always Look on the Bright Side of Life

              Successful people have the knack for finding positive aspects in all people and circumstances no matter what.

              18. Having a Bad Day? Do It Anyway!

              We all have bad moods but it shouldn’t be an excuse to stop everything. Giving into a bad mood just stop-starts your life, slowing success way down.

              19. Sometimes Risky Business Is Needed

              Calculated risks are a must for success. It’s about weighing the pros and cons while moving forward with that element of trust.

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              20. Accept Challenge All the Time

              Dealing with problems head-on is a must to be successful. Successful people also face challenges in order to improve themselves.

              21. Make Your Own Luck

              In the mindset of a successful person, there’s no such thing as ‘luck’ or ‘fate’. They take control to actively and consciously create their own best life.

              22. Ignite Your Initiative

              While many people are reactive, successful people are proactive – taking action before they have to.

              23. Be the Master of Your Emotions

              Being effective at managing emotions is key on the road to success. That’s not to say successful people don’t feel like we all do, but they’re just not slaves to their emotions.

              24. Champion in Communication

              Consciously working on effective communication skills gets anyone closer to success.

              25. Plan Your Life Strategically

              Successful people’s lives aren’t a clumsy series of unplanned events and outcomes, they methodically work at turning their plans into a reality.

              26. Become Exceptional at What You Do

              To become exceptional, you typically have to do things that most won’t. To become successful, hard decisions need to be made and acting on them is crucial.

              27. Choose to Live Outside of Your Comfort Zone

              While many people are pleasure junkies and avoid pain and discomfort at all costs, successful people understand the value and benefits of working through the tough stuff that most would avoid.

              28. Live by Core Values

              Successful people firstly identify their core values and what’s important to them, then do their best to live a life that reflects these values.

              29. Realize Money Isn’t Everything

              Money and success are not interchangeable and the most successful people understand this. Putting money on a pedestal and equating it to success is a dangerous mindset to have. Success comes in many forms.

              30. Don’t Get Carried Away

              Successful people understand the importance of discipline and self-control and as a result they are happy to take the road less travelled.

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              31. Self-Worth Is Not Tied to Success

              Successful people are secure. They do not derive their self-worth from what they own, who they know, where they live or what they look like.

              32. Kindness Breeds Kindness (And Success)

              Generosity and kindness is a common trait among long-term successful people. It’s important to take pleasure in helping others achieve.

              33. More Humility, Less Arrogance

              Successful people are humble and happy to admit and apologize for mistakes. This is because they’re confident in their ability. They are happy to learn from others and happy to make others look good rather than seek their own personal glory.

              34. Change Opens New Doors

              People who are successful are adaptable and embrace change, while the majority are creatures of comfort and habit. They are comfortable with, and embrace, the new and the unfamiliar.

              35. Success Requires a Healthy Body

              It’s not just how you think, it’s about how you show up for success. Successful people understand the importance of being physically well, not for vain reasons but because being in tiptop condition creates a better personal life for success.

              36. Laziness Just Doesn’t Exist

              Successful people are never considered lazy. Yes, they can relax when they need to, but working hard is their game.

              37. Resilience by the Bucket Load

              When difficulty strikes, most would throw in the towel, but successful people are just warming up.

              38. Feedback Is Just Another Chance to Improve

              How people react to feedback determines their potential for success. Being open to constructive criticism and acting on it to improve is most seen in those who are successful.

              39. Your Vibe Attracts Your Tribe

              If people are hanging out with toxic and negative people, then they need to take a look at themselves. Successful people hang out with others who are positive and supportive.

              40. Can’t Control It? Forget It

              Successful people don’t invest time or emotional energy into things which they have no control of.

              41. Swim Against the Tide

              Successful people are not people-pleasers and they don’t need constant approval from others in order to move ahead.

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              42. Alone Time Is Valuable Time

              More self-worth means being more comfortable with your own company. Successful people are more happy and see the value in spending time alone.

              43. Self-Standard Is Higher Than Most

              Everyone has a choice to set high standards for themselves. Successful people do this, which in turn produces greater commitment, more momentum, a better work ethic and of course, better results.

              44. Failure Isn’t Rationalized

              While many use age, health, lack of time, ‘bad luck’, or lack of opportunity to explain away their failure, the key to success is finding a way to succeed despite facing these challenges.

              45. Down Time Is an Important Part of a Routine

              Having an off switch and taking time to do things that make them happy is a common trait of a successful person. Take a look at here The Importance of Scheduling Downtime.

              46. Career Isn’t Who You Are, It’s What You Do

              Successful people know their career isn’t their identity. They are multi-dimensional and don’t define themselves by their job.

              47. Be Interested in Only the Path of Resistance

              While most people look for the easiest way or the shortcut, successful people are more interested in the most effective way. They look for the course of action which will produce the best results over the long term.

              48. Follow Through

              Many spend their life starting things that they never finish, but successful people get the job done. Even when the excitement and the novelty has worn off they still follow through and finish.

              49. Invest in All Your Dimensions

              We’re not just physical and psychological beings, but emotional and spiritual creatures as well. Successful people consciously work at being healthy and productive on all levels.

              50. Put Your Money Where Your Mouth Is

              To obtain success, it’s important to practice what you preach. Successful people don’t talk about the theory, they live the reality.

              So there you have it, a summary of what I’ve learned from self-help books. But of course, you need to start taking actions so you will get closer to success too.

              Bonus: 5 Bad Habits To Quit

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