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The Capable Man: 3 Important Lifestyle and Self-Improvement Tips

The Capable Man: 3 Important Lifestyle and Self-Improvement Tips

Have you ever thought about what makes a real alpha-male? We can all agree that a paycheck, a driver’s license and shaving each morning before work is among the most common things considered for a real man to do. But, this is only the tip of the iceberg. More than a daily routine, a real man needs to be capable.

A capable man is smart, adapts quickly, learns from his mistakes and keeps improving every day. A capable man is the one who solves problems.

These claims are all true, no question about that. Still, in real life, it is not easy to achieve all of that. Sometimes, men can be frightened, clumsy, insecure. It’s all good because we’re all humans, and we don’t need to follow the mainstream media’s demands of perfectionism to be real men.

But, we can get close.

We don’t need to have chiseled abs and perfect hair to win her attention. We don’t need money. All we need is confidence and some skills. No woman in the world doesn’t like to see a man operating a big, complicated machine and saves the day.

There are three specific areas you should concentrate on more; the way you behave, the way you look, and how you perform outdoors. Here’s how to be a real man:

1. Good manners

Few things can compete with a well-mannered man because there is no amount of money or beauty which can replace ill manners. When you meet someone, a firm handshake and look in the eye says a lot about you; that you are confident and looking forward to further talk.

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While talking, use basic courtesy phrases such as “Please” and “Thank You” to show your respect and politeness. Be polite to everybody, especially people who serve you. While communicating, keep your voice down and don’t use slang. Another important aspect of good manners is listening. Don’t interrupt other person’s talk – be patient to answer when it’s time.

Holding the coat and doors to your lady friend is the sign of your attention and care. Also, be careful about your overall politeness, meaning stay out of gossips, trivial subjects, and impolite jokes. In order to be a real man, you should pay attention to your behavior more, and be more polite cosmopolitan.

2. The way you look and represent yourself

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    “Suit does not make a man“, says the old proverb, but I can add „but it completes him“.

    A real man should always know how to dress properly for the occasion. Your clothes don’t have to be expensive; the way you wear them and how it fits you is much more important. Longer sleeves or smaller by one number is considered as a sin, and I tend to agree. A man in a well-maintained suit and nicely paired shoes shows a perfect image, so why not show to the world the best you have?

    Ties can be worn, of course, and it is even better if you know how to tie one. To be honest, it is not much of a big deal, and it will give you the much-needed confidence. One more important requirement: your clothes have to be tidy and perfectly clean. Which brings us to the next important thing:

    A real man knows to maintain and clean his clothes

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    washing-machine

      Probably the worst nightmare for the “Average Joe,” doing laundry is quite the undertaking. All the symbols, degrees, hieroglyphs, and codes are hard to understand. Where does the detergent go? Do I need bleach? What is this sign here? These are the very first thoughts when a man stands in front of his nemesis. But, steel yourself, you can figure this out.

      The basics are next: All the colored laundry needs to be washed at 30 or 40 degrees Celsius, and those ordinary white cotton shirts can go to 90. The number of rounds per second is also vital, because the faster the machine goes, the worse the wrinkles will be. Due to a high diversity of types of machines, I can point you to this guide which can help a lot, as it did to me.

      When talking about clothing and the way you look, another device which gives an average guy a nightmare is the flatiron. Ironing your shirt is quite stressful, because of all of the wrinkles, slow progress, and frustration. That is why you need to take a step back, and to start from the basics. Socks, old t-shirts and other simple and worn-out items will be an excellent practice.

      You need to take care of the temperature, so start with the minimum, and increase it slowly, so that you will see which one is the most efficient for certain textiles.

      An important part of a competent man’s looks is grooming

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        A real man knows to groom well, and maintain a sleek look, no matter the style.

        In case that you have decided to follow this trend, you have to start from the basics. According to several studies, bearded men are, in fact, cleaner than their bare counterparts, but a certain level of hygiene is required. Beard can be seen as long hair, in terms of maintenance. Regular washing and even combing (if it is a longer one) are a must, so you must be ready for every to every other day maintaining.

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        As for the girls, the current fashion trend favors bearded men, but you must stay consistent to yourself. You are wearing a beard because you like it, not because others tell you to do so. To have a perfect beard all the time, you’ll need a fine grooming set.

        3. Be Capable Outdoors

        Outdoor activities can showcase a man’s capability and confidence the best. A real, capable man can handle situations and problems and operate many devices with skill. We’re talking about yard maintenance, house repairs, and technical stuff.

        As a capable man, you should know to operate these devices:

        Lawnmower

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          Almost every man learns how to use lawn mower at the early age, so no big introduction is needed. The only thing which can vary is the type of the mower.

          Those man-powered are of the simplest type, you need just to push it around, and it will mow. More complicated are those powered by gas or electrical energy. These utilize rotating blades, which represent a potential danger because a pebble hit by this becomes an instant projectile. That is why you need to wear adequate shoes or boots.

          Leaf sweeper

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          leaf-sweaper

            Every autumn, the leaves falling from the trees threatens to make your backyard ugly. To avert this, you need to take out the leaf sweeper and start cleaning up.

            Raking the leaves is an old and outdated method, so why not utilizing one of those pushed-around ones? The process is relatively simple, and I’m sure you will figure it out without my help. Depending on the type of the sweeper, you’ll have to take care about the leaf container.

            Chainsaw

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              Is there anything more masculine than a lumberjack? Recent fashion is favoring men with beards, so if you are wearing one, let some swarf fly around, and hopefully, you will get that ruff look.

              Stay alerted, because injuries made by chainsaws can be life or limb threatening, so always wear safety goggles and gloves. In addition, be very careful about the “kickback effect.”

              Be a capable man. Win the day.

              Are you looking at how you perform in these three areas? If you improve them one at the time, you’ll become a more competent man. It won’t go unnoticed, I promise.

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              8 Simple Mindfulness Exercises to Bring Peace and Happiness to Your Life

              8 Simple Mindfulness Exercises to Bring Peace and Happiness to Your Life

              In life, we all need to be conscientious of what we are doing. You don’t need to live a life of stress if you don’t want to. You can achieve peace and happiness in life by carefully building mindfulness exercises into your life’s routine.

              Exercising mindfulness isn’t rocket science and as importantly, you can do it. It will, however, take a few tries to get into the groove of things but once you get it, it is like riding a bike, you will never lose it.

              Trust me. It’s in your best interest to learn and put these mindfulness exercises into practice. In this article, I will share with you 8 mindfulness exercises that will help you to boost your energy, vitality and live a more peaceful and happier life.

              Why Is It Hard to Live A Peaceful And Happy Life?

              Our Habitat Has Become Too Technological

              The world has accepted the idea that technology is often the cure for all evil. We have accepted, as a society, that everything technological will make us live a better life without fully investigating the many side effects that modernity brings.

              There are a number of technological side effects that have a tremendous impact on your life that the media rarely tells you about.[1] Some of them include self-harm, economic inequality, having less sex, and even suicide. The global community is becoming less happy because of technology.

              How can anybody live a peaceful and happy life when they are depressed? Technology advancements, ladies and gents, is a major reason for why we are living a poor life because it has infiltrated our lives too much.

              According to my research, Americans spend an average of 8 hours a day looking at the computer screen — The average screen time spent on smartphones alone is about 20 hours per week. That’s a lot! No wonder why living a happy and peaceful life is so difficult these days.

              Too Many People Don’t Want to Unplug

              Americans check their phones an average of 80 times during vacation.[2] Some admit to checking their smartphones 300 times every single day. In countries like Brazil, India and China, the situation is no different.

              The reality is that people are constantly plugged into technological devices and this behavior is literally making people all over the globe fight an inner war with themselves, which consequently makes them very sad. As we know, war is the enemy of peace which won’t make anybody happy.

              Listen carefully:

              We have a global anxiety epidemic because people don’t want to unplug from their smartphones and most people aren’t doing anything to fix it. It is a sad state of affairs but very real. This obsession with technology is turning us into perishable robots who live terrible lives.

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              The era of anxiety is here to stay. There is little doubt about it. We can, however, fight back with the best remedy of all — We call it mindfulness!

              Thank God there is an antidote to this whole technological madness. Without further ado, let’s go straight to the mindful exercises.

              8 Mindfulness Exercises to Start Practicing

              There are tons of mindfulness exercises available for you to engage with out there.[3] In the paragraphs below, I will include the best ones I’ve personally tried or have seen my close friends and family members try.

              Are you ready for it? Let’s go!

              1. Pray Daily

              You should pray on a daily basis. Why is that you may ask — Well, because science has told us to do so.

              When people pray, they feel peaceful, almost eliminating anxiety. Worries become secondary, and often gives people energy and hope to cope with the difficulties of life.

              Prayer can make you more confident and focused. Prayer also helps you with self-control, helps to control pain, and can protect you against illnesses and disorders like cancer and high blood pressure. At least, this is what researchers from Harvard Medical School have said.[4]

              Pray. You won’t regret it.[5]

              2. Pay Attention to Your Inner Thoughts

              A lot of people allow themselves to be influenced by their negative thoughts. Be different and resist believing in them. It is a bad habit that can lead to unhappiness.

              By the way, if you do feel this way, chances are high that somebody other than you put these thoughts into your head.

              Here is my secret to combat this cancer — look at things objectively. I bet that if you look at things as they are, you will realize that most if not all of your negative thoughts are only inside of your head.

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              If you pay close attention, you will quickly realize that these voices aren’t worth your time. Believe me — Ignoring them and looking at things with objectivity is often the best course of action.

              This article can guide you to beat negative thoughts:

              How to Stop Automatic Negative Thoughts When You’re Overwhelmed

              3. Smile Often

              Smiling will slow down your heart. It will also relax your body because when you smile, your body releases endorphins which in itself has a number of positive benefits for you as a person.

              Smile often! You may want to smile early in the morning, during the day, and late in the evening. It is amazing what happens to you when you decide to smile instead of being grumpy.

              Surrender your problems to a nice smile. You will notice two things. First, most people just don’t which makes them live a miserable life. Second, if you decide to smile often, you will eventually smile unconsciously which is the ideal.

              The moment that you smile unconsciously, you then know that you are truly happy.

              4. Organize Your Working Desk

              A messy desk will make you less productive and can agitate and overstimulate you. You don’t want that.

              When you clear your desk, you engage in deep inner-thinking and your systematic decision making ends up becoming therapeutic.

              Most people realize that they are most creative when their creative space is clean and organized. The former often makes people more aware of what they are doing which lends to less stress and more productivity.

              Organizing your desk will also make you more energetic and focused because order often decreases chaos which is a condition that often slows down daily progress.

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              5. Celebrate Your Friend’s Victories

              I love this mindful exercise. One of the best ways to live a happy and peaceful life is to celebrate the victories of others. When you do that, you automatically make your friends in a better mood which makes you in a better mood, as well.

              Happiness is contagious! We might as well celebrate others as much as we can. If you find out that your peer has won an award, celebrate with him! If your friend is the recipient of a local charity award, celebrate with her!

              What is also awesome is that when you celebrate with others, they often celebrate with you in return. This, ladies and gentleman, will make you feel fantastic. You can’t go wrong with this one, period.

              6. Listen to Your Spouse/Partner

              God put someone in your life for a reason. You might as well listen to him or her.

              I listen to my wife everyday. In fact, I often ask the following question to her, “Amanda, what are your thoughts about…” or “What am I missing about…” It is shocking what I hear back from her. Without her having much context and perspective, by the art of observation in my own nonverbal behavior and the behavior of others, she accurately gives me incredible insights which helps me out with living my life to the fullest.

              I’m a firm believer that spouses are supposed to engage in interpersonal communication every day. I most definitely do and will continue doing it. You should do the same.

              7. Give Yourself a Break from Technology

              You can’t be in total equilibrium if your computerized devices control your life. You must get away from technology on a daily basis.[6]

              How do you do that? This is my formula:

              First, take this smartphone control test. It is only ten questions but this test will place you somewhere in the human robot cycle continuum.

              If your score is between 25-30, take a break from the computer (or smartphone, pad, laptop/desktop) every twenty minutes and stop being on a computerized device after 8:00pm.

              If you score between 30-35, still take a break every 20 minutes but stop being on these devices at 5:00pm.

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              If you score more than 35, you need to take action immediately.

              Limit computer use as much as possible throughout the day. Give yourself as many breaks from the computer as possible. Are you ready for the challenge?

              8. Go Exercise

              Go exercise at least three times a week. I don’t care if you need to workout early in the morning, late in the evening, on the weekends or during work days. Working out is absolutely imperative for you to live happy and peaceful life.

              The stresses of the modern world are too much for you to neglect this important mindfulness exercise. When you go to the gym, you burn calories, focus on activities one step at a time, your mind relaxes, anxiety decreases, you sweat and often think about topics unrelated to your work place among many other benefits.

              You must exercise at least three hours each week for optimum results. Why? Just take a look at all the benefits of regular exercising:

              12 Benefits of Regular Exercise You Should Know

              The Bottom Line

              It’s in your best interest to learn and put these mindfulness exercises into practice. Now that our habitat has become too technological and many people just don’t want to unplug, engaging in daily prayer, celebrate your friends’ victories, and listening to your spouse are among the best ways to be mindful about what you are doing and how you are living.

              It is possible to live a happy and peaceful life. It only depends on you.

              Go exercise! Take a break from technology and invest in you! Life is too short for distractions.

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