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3 Useful Psychological Tricks That Make You A Communication Expert

3 Useful Psychological Tricks That Make You A Communication Expert

The human brain is a mysterious and amazing thing. Although all of the brain’s secrets have not yet been revealed, scientists have discovered some things about the way it works. These discoveries have given us insight into how to influence people’s decisions.

That’s right, you can actually get people to do what you want! All you need to know are these 3 psychological tricks:

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1. As Follow Up Questions Or Paraphrase What They’ve Said

The next time you find yourself in a conversation with somebody, try reflective listening as one of your psychological tricks. To do this, ask the person follow up questions or paraphrase what they’ve said. Reflective listening lets your conversation partner know that you care about what they have to say.

In one study, a group of psychology students received either a 14, 28, or 42-hour reflective listening training programs. After the training, volunteers then participated as counselors in role-playing sessions. The individuals who received longer training had a closer relationship with their counseling “patients”. The patients disclosed more personal information during sessions with these participants.

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This is easy for you to do, too. Just listen to what they say and repeat it back in the form of a question. For example, “So you prefer apple pie over cherry pie?” They’ll know that you were listening. Practicing reflective listening in your next conversation will make your friends feel more comfortable.

2. Use A Visual Guide

Using a visual guide is a great way to get people to believe what you’re saying. Presenting information with graphs, charts, and visual data, is one of the most convincing psychological tricks. Particularly, when the visual information presented seems to be scientific in nature.

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Why is this true? As Aner Tal of Cornell University, the co-author of a study about the effects of scientific-looking images in advertising,  says, “When people are presented with something that appears to be based on objective data or scientific evidence it makes product claims more convincing.” Participants in this study were shown a short message about the immune-boosting properties of certain medicine. Half of the group was also shown a bar graph to collaborate the claim. When asked about the effectiveness of the medicine, 96% of the participants who saw the bar graph believed the medication worked and only 67% of the participants who saw only the message believed the same.

Give it a try next time you want somebody to believe your argument. People are far more likely to relate to your visual images, even if it’s something simple. You could bold your text or give it a colorful background to draw attention to what you want to say.

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3. Ask How They Feel

The last of our psychological tricks is to ask somebody how they feel before asking for a favor. Let’s say it’s Friday evening and you really want to get out of work on time. But, there’s one task left to finish. Before you ask your co-worker to do you the favor, first ask about their week and maybe about weekend plans. When the conversation becomes friendly, then you can ask for the favor.

Why does this work? It works on the grounds of the norm of reciprocity, which states that people will return benefits. By showing interest in somebody, you’ve made them feel better about themselves and put them in a friendly mood. In this situation, it would be almost impossible to turn down your request.

Now that you have some great psychological tricks, go out and use them! But, use these tricks responsibly. Too many times, influencing people to do what you want can lead to negative consequences. We see this all the time in politics. Make sure to only use these tricks to improve your friendships and work relationships by getting people to like you more.

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What Makes People Happy? 20 Secrets of “Always Happy” People

What Makes People Happy? 20 Secrets of “Always Happy” People

Some people just seem to float through life with a relentless sense of happiness – through the toughest of times, they’re unfazed and aloof, stopping to smell the roses and drinking out of a glass half full.

They may not have much to be happy about, but the simplicity behind that fact itself may make them happy.

It’s all a matter of perspective, conscious effort and self-awareness. Listed below are a number of reasons why some people are always happy.

1. They Manage Their Expectations

They’re not crushed when they don’t get what they want – or misled into expecting to get the most out of every situation. They approach every situation pragmatically, hoping for the best but being prepared for the worst.

2. They Don’t Set Unrealistic Standards

Similar to the last point, they don’t live their lives in a constant pursuit towards impossible visions of perfection, only to always find themselves falling short of what they want.

3. They Don’t Take Anything for Granted

Happiness rests with feeling fulfilled – those who fail to stop and appreciate what they have every now and again will never experience true fulfillment.

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4. They’re Not Materialistic

There are arguing viewpoints on whether or not money can really buy happiness; if it can, then we know from experience that we can never be satisfied because there will always be something newer or better that we want. Who has ever had enough money?

5. They Don’t Dwell

They don’t sweat the small things or waste time worrying about things that don’t really matter at the end of the day. They don’t let negative thoughts latch onto them and drain them or distract them. Life’s too short to worry.

6. They Care About Themselves First

They’re independent, care for themselves and understand that they must put their needs first in order to accommodate the needs of others.

They indulge, aim to get what they want, make time for themselves and are extremely self-reliant.

7. They Enjoy the Little Things

They stop to smell the roses. They’re accustomed to find serenity when it’s available, to welcome entertainment or a stimulating discussion with a stranger when it crosses their path. They don’t overlook the small things in life that can be just as important.

8. They Can Adapt

They’re not afraid of change and they work to make the most out of new circumstances, good or bad. They thrive under pressure, are not overwhelmed easily and always embrace a change of pace.

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9. They Experiment

They try new things, experience new flavors and never shy away from something they have yet to experience. They never order twice from the same menu.

10. They Take Their Time

They don’t unnecessarily rush through life. They work on their own schedule to the extent that they can and maneuver through life at their own relaxing pace.

11. They Employ Different Perspectives

They’re not stuck in one perspective; a loss can result in a new opportunity, hitting rock bottom can mean that there’s no where to go but up.

12. They Seek to Learn

Their constant pursuit of knowledge keeps them inspired and interested in life. They cherish information and are on a life-long quest to learn as much as they can.

13. They Always Have a Plan

They don’t find themselves drifting without purpose. When something doesn’t go as planned, they have a plan for every letter in the alphabet to fall back on.

14. They Give Respect to Get It

They are respectful and, in turn, are seen as respectable; the respect they exude earns them the respect they deserve.

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15. They Consider Every Opportunity

They always have their eyes open for a new road, a new avenue worth exploring. They know how to recognize opportune moments and pounce on them to make the most of every situation. Success is inevitable for them.

16. They Always Seek to Improve

Perpetual self-improvement is the key towards their ongoing thirst for success. Whatever it is they do, they take pride in getting better and better, from social interactions to mundane tasks. Their pursuit at being the best eventually materializes.

17. They Don’t Take Life Too Seriously

They’re not ones to get offended easily over-analyze or complicate matters. They laugh at their own faults and misfortunes.

18. They Live in the Moment

They don’t live for tomorrow or dwell on what may have happened yesterday. Every day is a new opportunity, a new chapter. They live in the now, and in doing so, get the most out of every moment.

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19. They Say Yes

Much more often than they say no. They don’t have to be badgered to go out, don’t shy away from new opportunities or anything that may seem inconvenient.

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20. They’re Self-Aware

Most important, they’re wholly aware of themselves. They self-reflect and are conscious of their states of mind. If somethings bothering them, they fix it.

We’re all susceptible to feeling down every now and again, but we are all equipped with the necessary solutions that just have to be discovered.

Lack of confidence, inability to feel fulfilled, and susceptibility to stress are all matters that can be controlled through the way we handle our lives and perceive our circumstances.

Learn about How Self-Reflection Gives You a Happier and More Successful Life.

Final Thoughts

The main philosophy employed by the happiest includes the idea that life’s simply too short: life’s too short to let things get you down, to take things for granted, to pursue absolute and unrealistic perfection.

For some, employing these characteristics is a second nature – they do it without knowing. For others, a conscious effort must be put forth every now and again. Self-Awareness is key.

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