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3 Useful Psychological Tricks That Make You A Communication Expert

3 Useful Psychological Tricks That Make You A Communication Expert

The human brain is a mysterious and amazing thing. Although all of the brain’s secrets have not yet been revealed, scientists have discovered some things about the way it works. These discoveries have given us insight into how to influence people’s decisions.

That’s right, you can actually get people to do what you want! All you need to know are these 3 psychological tricks:

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1. As Follow Up Questions Or Paraphrase What They’ve Said

The next time you find yourself in a conversation with somebody, try reflective listening as one of your psychological tricks. To do this, ask the person follow up questions or paraphrase what they’ve said. Reflective listening lets your conversation partner know that you care about what they have to say.

In one study, a group of psychology students received either a 14, 28, or 42-hour reflective listening training programs. After the training, volunteers then participated as counselors in role-playing sessions. The individuals who received longer training had a closer relationship with their counseling “patients”. The patients disclosed more personal information during sessions with these participants.

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This is easy for you to do, too. Just listen to what they say and repeat it back in the form of a question. For example, “So you prefer apple pie over cherry pie?” They’ll know that you were listening. Practicing reflective listening in your next conversation will make your friends feel more comfortable.

2. Use A Visual Guide

Using a visual guide is a great way to get people to believe what you’re saying. Presenting information with graphs, charts, and visual data, is one of the most convincing psychological tricks. Particularly, when the visual information presented seems to be scientific in nature.

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Why is this true? As Aner Tal of Cornell University, the co-author of a study about the effects of scientific-looking images in advertising,  says, “When people are presented with something that appears to be based on objective data or scientific evidence it makes product claims more convincing.” Participants in this study were shown a short message about the immune-boosting properties of certain medicine. Half of the group was also shown a bar graph to collaborate the claim. When asked about the effectiveness of the medicine, 96% of the participants who saw the bar graph believed the medication worked and only 67% of the participants who saw only the message believed the same.

Give it a try next time you want somebody to believe your argument. People are far more likely to relate to your visual images, even if it’s something simple. You could bold your text or give it a colorful background to draw attention to what you want to say.

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3. Ask How They Feel

The last of our psychological tricks is to ask somebody how they feel before asking for a favor. Let’s say it’s Friday evening and you really want to get out of work on time. But, there’s one task left to finish. Before you ask your co-worker to do you the favor, first ask about their week and maybe about weekend plans. When the conversation becomes friendly, then you can ask for the favor.

Why does this work? It works on the grounds of the norm of reciprocity, which states that people will return benefits. By showing interest in somebody, you’ve made them feel better about themselves and put them in a friendly mood. In this situation, it would be almost impossible to turn down your request.

Now that you have some great psychological tricks, go out and use them! But, use these tricks responsibly. Too many times, influencing people to do what you want can lead to negative consequences. We see this all the time in politics. Make sure to only use these tricks to improve your friendships and work relationships by getting people to like you more.

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Last Updated on November 15, 2018

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

What do you think it takes to achieve your goals? Hard work? Lots of actions? While these are paramount to becoming successful in reaching our goals, neither of these are possible without a positive mindset.

As humans, we naturally tend to lean towards a negative outlook when it comes to our hopes and dreams. We are prone to believing that we have limitations either from within ourselves or from external forces keeping us from truly getting to where we want to be in life. Our tendency to think that we’ll “believe it when we see it” suggests that our mindsets are focused on our goals not really being attainable until they’ve been achieved. The problem with this is that this common mindset fuels our limiting beliefs and shows a lack of faith in ourselves.

The Success Mindset

Success in achieving our goals comes down to a ‘success mindset’. Successful mindsets are those focused on victory, based on positive mental attitudes, empowering inclinations and good habits. Acquiring a success mindset is the sure-fire way to dramatically increase your chance to achieve your goals.

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The idea that achieving our goals comes down to our habits and actions is actually a typical type of mindset that misses a crucial point; that our mindset is, in fact, the determiner of our energy and what actions we take. A negative mindset will tend to create negative actions and similarly if we have a mindset that will only set into action once we see ‘proof’ that our goals are achievable, then the road will be much longer and arduous. This is why, instead of thinking “I’ll believe it when I see it”, a success mindset will think “I’ll see it when I believe it.”

The Placebo Effect and What It Shows Us About The Power of Mindset

The placebo effect is a perfect example of how mindset really can be powerful. In scientific trials, a group of participants were told they received medication that will heal an ailment but were actually given a sugar pill that does nothing (the placebo). Yet after the trial the participants believed it’s had a positive effect – sometimes even cured their ailment even though nothing has changed. This is the power of mindset.

How do we apply this to our goals? Well, when we set goals and dreams how often do we really believe they’ll come to fruition? Have absolute faith that they can be achieved? Have a complete unwavering expectation? Most of us don’t because we hold on to negative mindsets and limiting beliefs about ourselves that stop us from fully believing we are capable or that it’s at all possible. We tend to listen to the opinions of others despite them misaligning with our own or bow to societal pressures that make us believe we should think and act a certain way. There are many reasons why we possess these types of mindsets but a success mindset can be achieved.

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How To Create a Success Mindset

People with success mindsets have a particular way of perceiving things. They have positive outlooks and are able to put faith fully in their ability to succeed. With that in mind, here are a few ways that can turn a negative mindset into a successful one.

1. A Success Mindset Comes From a Growth Mindset

How does a mindset even manifest itself? It comes from the way you talk to yourself in the privacy of your own head. Realising this will go a long way towards noticing how you speak to yourself and others around you. If it’s mainly negative language you use when you talk about your goals and aspirations then this is an example of a fixed mindset.

A negative mindset brings with it a huge number of limiting beliefs. It creates a fixed mindset – one that can’t see beyond it’s own limitations. A growth mindset sees these limitations and looks beyond them – it finds ways to overcome obstacles and believes that this will result in success. When you think of your goal, a fixed mindset may think “what if I fail?” A growth mindset would look at the same goal and think “failures happen but that doesn’t mean I won’t be successful.”

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There’s a lot of power in changing your perspective.

2. Look For The Successes

It’s really important to get your mind focused on positive aspects of your goal. Finding inspiration through others can be really uplifting and keep you on track with developing your success mindset; reinforcing your belief that your dreams can be achieved. Find people that you can talk with about how they achieved their goals and seek out and surround yourself with positive people. This is crucial if you’re learning to develop a positive mindset.

3. Eliminate Negativity

You can come up against a lot of negativity sometimes either through other people or within yourself. Understanding that other people’s negative opinions are created through their own fears and limiting beliefs will go a long way in sustaining your success mindset. But for a lot of us, negative chatter can come from within and these usually manifest as negative words such as can’t, won’t, shouldn’t. Sometimes, when we think of how we’re going to achieve our goals, statements in our minds come out as negative absolutes: ‘It never works out for me’ or ‘I always fail.’

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When you notice these coming up you need to turn them around with ‘It always works out for me!’ and ‘I never fail!’ The trick is to believe it no matter what’s happened in the past. Remember that every new day is a clean slate and for you to adjust your mindset.

4. Create a Vision

Envisioning your end goal and seeing it in your mind is an important trait of a success mindset. Allowing ourselves to imagine our success creates a powerful excitement that shouldn’t be underestimated. When our brain becomes excited at the thought of achieving our goals, we become more committed, work harder towards achieving it and more likely to do whatever it takes to make it happen.

If this involves creating a vision board that you can look at to remind yourself every day then go for it. Small techniques like this go a long way in sustaining your success mindset and shouldn’t be dismissed.

An Inspirational Story…

For centuries experts said that running a mile in under 4 minutes was humanly impossible. On the 6th May 1954, Rodger Bannister did just that. As part of his training, Bannister relentlessly visualised the achievement, believing he could accomplish what everyone said wasn’t possible…and he did it.

What’s more amazing is that, as soon as Bannister achieved the 4-minute mile, more and more people also achieved it. How was this possible after so many years of no one achieving it? Because in people’s minds it was suddenly possible – once people knew that it was achievable it created a mindset of success and now, after over fifty years since Bannister did the ‘impossible’, his record has been lowered by 17 seconds – the power of the success mindset!

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