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Want More Peace in Your Life? Try These 5 Simple Steps

Want More Peace in Your Life? Try These 5 Simple Steps

We live in a fast-paced world. We all deal with many things in life that cause us stress. Oftentimes, we have so much going on in our minds we forget what it feels like to have peace of mind. If you have ever felt that you have too many thoughts running through your head, I have a simple practice that might help give you peace of mind.

An article titled The Health Benefits of Journaling claims, ” A pen coupled with paper can serve as a powerful life tool.” I agree wholeheartedly with this statement. I have been writing in journals and notebooks for as long as I can remember. Writing in them is more than just keeping a diary. I write down dreams, goals and aspirations. I write down what I am thinking, feeling, and going through at the time. It’s one of the safest, practical, and most helpful ways I have to work through whatever is going on in my life.

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I write every day, but it’s not imperative that you do. What is important is that you have a place to turn to help organize and understand what is going on in your mind. In the article Mindful Journaling, the author states, “Practicing regularly can increase mindfulness, self-awareness, deepen one’s sense of mental and emotional clarity, and generally improve one’s sense of self, and self-efficacy.”

If there are times in your life that you crave more peace, try these five simple steps to start practicing the art of journaling.

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1. Buy a notebook or journal and grab a pen or pencil. I have used both journals and composition notebooks. (Amazon sells composition books for around $2 a piece and journals ranging from $10-20.) It depends on how much money I want to spend at the time. I also like a good writing pen. I always thought fine point was best, but I have become fond of gel pens with a medium point (I have used these paper mate pens and have enjoyed them. They are less than $1 a pen).

2. Throw out all rules. This writing is for your eyes only. You don’t have to have nice handwriting (you just need to be sure you can read it). You don’t have to use proper grammar or punctuation. You don’t have to organize your thoughts first. You just need to write without thinking too much.

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3. Ask yourself the question that needs to be asked. If you are trying to decide something, you might do the old pro/con exercise. Make a line down the middle of the page. Write pro on one side and con on the other. Proceed to make a list for both and see which one wins. If you are feeling stressed, maybe just ask a question: Why do I feel so stressed? or What is bothering me? You might ask the question, What do I need to do to bring more peace in my life?

4. Start writing. Answer the question or questions as honestly as you can without censoring. If you have several things bothering you, write out each point and see how you respond. Keep writing until you have written all you can think about that particular point.

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5. Take a short break and then go back and read what you wrote. Chances are you will see things more clearly. You might see that the concerns in your mind aren’t nearly as bad as you thought they were. You might see very clearly what changes you need to make in your life. Or, you might see that nothing is that big of a deal and nothing needs to change at all.

Featured photo credit: Ramiro Ramirez/Flickr via flickr.com

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Last Updated on July 16, 2019

7 Ways to Get Rid of Negative Energy and Become Positive

7 Ways to Get Rid of Negative Energy and Become Positive

Negativity affects ourselves and everyone around us. It limits our potential to become something great and live a fulfilling, purposeful life. Negativity has a tangible effect on our health, too. Research has shown that people who cultivate negative energy experience more stress, more sickness, and less opportunity over the course of their lives than those who choose to live positively.

When we make a decision to become positive, and follow that decision up with action, we will begin to encounter situations and people that are also positive. The negative energy gets edged out by all positive experiences. It’s a snowball effect.

Although negative and positive thoughts will always exist, the key to becoming positive is to limit the amount of negativity that we experience by filling ourselves up with more positivity.

Here are some ways to get rid of negativity and become more positive.

1. Become Grateful for Everything

When life is all about us, it’s easy to believe that we deserve what we have. An attitude of entitlement puts us at the center of the universe and sets up the unrealistic expectation that others should cater to us, our needs, and our wants. This vain state of existence is a surefire way to set yourself up for an unfulfilled life of negativity.

People living in this sort of entitlement are “energy suckers”–they are always searching for what they can get out of a situation. People that don’t appreciate the nuances of their lives live in a constant state of lacking. And it’s really difficult to live a positive life this way.

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When we begin to be grateful and appreciate everything in our lives–from the small struggles that make us better, to the car that gets us from A to B every day–we shift our attitude from one of selfishness, to one of appreciation. This appreciation gets noticed by others, and a positive harmony begins to form in our relationships.

We begin to receive more of that which we are grateful for, because we’ve opened ourselves up to the idea of receiving, instead of taking. This will make your life more fulfilling, and more positive.

2. Laugh More, Especially at Yourself

Life gets busy, our schedules fill up, we get into relationships, and work can feel task oriented and routine-driven at times. Being human can feel more like being a robot. But having this work-driven, serious attitude often results in negative and performance oriented thinking.

Becoming positive means taking life less seriously and letting yourself off the hook. This is the only life that you get to live, why not lighten up your mood?

Laughter helps us become positive by lightening our mood and reminding us not to take life so seriously. Are you sensitive to light sarcasm? Do you have trouble laughing at jokes? Usually, people who are stressed out and overly serious get most offended by sarcasm because their life is all work and no play.

If we can learn to laugh at ourselves and our mistakes, life will become more of an experiment in finding out what makes us happy. And finding happiness means finding positivity.

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3. Help Others

Negativity goes hand in hand with selfishness. People that live only for themselves have no higher purpose in their lives. If the whole point of this world is only to take care of yourself and no one else, the road to a long-term fulfillment and purpose is going to be a long one.

Positivity accompanies purpose. The most basic way to create purpose and positivity in your life is to begin doing things for others. Start small; open the door for the person in front of you at Starbucks or ask someone how their day was before telling them about yours.

Helping others will give you an intangible sense of value that will translate into positivity. And people might just appreciate you in the process.

4. Change Your Thinking

We can either be our best coach or our best enemy. Change starts from within. If you want to become more positive, change the wording of your thoughts. We are the hardest on ourselves, and a stream of negative self talk is corrosive to a positive life.

The next time you have a negative thought, write it down and rephrase it with a positive spin. For example, change a thought like, “I can’t believe I did so horribly on the test–I suck.” to “I didn’t do as well as I hoped to on this test. But I know I’m capable and I’ll do better next time.”

Changing our self-talk is powerful.

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5. Surround Yourself with Positive People

We become most like the people that we surround ourselves with. If our friend group is full of negative energy-suckers and drama queens, we will emulate that behavior and become like them. It is very difficult to become more positive when the people around us don’t support or demonstrate positive behavior.

As you become more positive, you’ll find that your existing friends will either appreciate the new you or they will become resistant to your positive changes. This is a natural response.

Change is scary; but cutting out the negative people in your life is a huge step to becoming more positive. Positive people reflect and bounce their perspectives onto one another. Positivity is a step-by-step process when you do it solo, but a positive group of friends can be an escalator.

6. Get into Action

Negative thoughts can be overwhelming and challenging to navigate. Negativity is usually accompanied by a “freak-out” response, especially when tied to relationships, people and to worrying about the future. This is debilitating to becoming positive and usually snowballs into more worry, more stress and more freak-outs.

Turn the negative stress into positive action. The next time you’re in one of these situations, walk away and take a break. With your eyes closed, take a few deep breaths. Once you’re calm, approach the situation or problem with a pen and pad of paper. Write out four or five actions or solutions to begin solving the problem.

Taking yourself out of the emotionally charged negative by moving into the action-oriented positive will help you solve more problems rationally and live in positivity

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7. Take Full Responsibility, Stop Being the Victim

You are responsible for your thoughts.

People that consistently believe that things happen to them handicap themselves to a victim mentality. This is a subtle and deceptive negative thought pattern. Phrases like “I have to work” or “I can’t believe he did that to me” are indicators of a victim mentality. Blaming circumstances and blaming others only handicaps our decision to change something negative into something positive.

Taking full responsibility for your life, your thoughts and your actions is one of the biggest steps in creating a more positive life. We have unlimited potential within to create our own reality, change our life, and change our thoughts. When we begin to really internalize this, we discover that no one can make us feel or do anything. We choose our emotional and behavioral response to people and circumstances.

Make positive choices in favor of yourself.

“Watch your thoughts; they become words. Watch your words; they become actions. Watch your actions; they become habit. Watch your habits; they become character. Watch your character; it becomes your destiny” ― Lao Tzu

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