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5 Proven Ways to Improve How People Treat You

5 Proven Ways to Improve How People Treat You

The saying goes, “Don’t judge a book by its cover” – but that’s not how real life works. Sure, in our minds, we all know we shouldn’t treat people differently based on how they look. But on a gut level, most of us can’t help but be nicer to someone we find attractive.

Studies have found that attractive people find jobs more easily, get promoted faster and ultimately make more money.

The great news is, anyone can appear significantly more attractive by changing their habits and behavior. Here are five proven ways to improve how people treat you.

1. Practice Humility

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    Humble people come across as being more attractive. This might seem odd, considering we live in a culture where confidence is admired so much. But for now, just remember that you can feel confident about yourself while staying humble and gracious on the outside. Modesty and a lack of self-esteem are not one and the same!

    This is important, because a series of experiments found that dating app users with high humility scores got more phone numbers and likes.

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    So stay humble – but at the same time…

    2. Be Confident About Who You Are

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      It’s common wisdom that confident people are more attractive. However, there’s a big difference between an outward, puffed-up confidence and a quiet but sincere feeling of self-worth.

      This means you don’t have to act a certain way or fake being bold to be confident. Instead, as this Psychology Today article puts it, you simply have to “know who you are”.

      To grow and nurture this kind of confidence, practice loving and accepting yourself. This will make you innately more attractive to people.

      Just remember – your outward appearance matters too, so…

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      3. Keep Your Clothes Neat and Tidy

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        Famous online marketer Neil Patel made an extra $692,500 and got NBA All-Star Game tickets worth $4,000 after investing $162,301.42 in his wardrobe.

        Now, most of us can’t invest that kind of money in our clothes… but it’s fair to say that what we wear says a lot about us.

        So keep your clothes tidy. Iron your shirts and pants. If possible, invest a little money in getting your oversize clothes tailored.

        And with so many people dressing like slobs – just check out these scathing articles about New Yorkers. Simply looking clean will make you look far better.

        4. Visit The Dentist

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          In one study, over 5,000 singles said a nice set of teeth is the key factor in choosing their mate. Granted, this is singles – but a nice smile goes a long way toward making you more attractive to everyone, right?

          And despite what some people think, you don’t have to pay the dentist a fortune to have a set of healthy, white teeth.

          Getting your teeth cleaned thoroughly at the dentist’s office costs less than $100 in most states. A high-quality teeth whitening that won’t harm your teeth can cost as little as $200. Tooth implants, which are sometimes covered by dental insurance, have a 97% success rate.

          In short, there’s no reason not to have pearly whites in 2016!

          5. Improve Your Body Language

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            Body language can be deceptive. For instance, imagine you’re having lunch with someone who’s frowning, squinting and crossing their arms. What would you think?

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            If you’re like most people, you’d think the person across the table is in a bad mood and maybe even standoffish with you.

            But they could simply be reacting to the sun hitting their eyes or the temperature in the room.

            And that’s how having negative body language can make people think they’re upsetting you when that’s not the case at all.

            This works both ways. Positive body language can instantly make you more likable and boost your charisma.

            These tips work no matter what you look like. Perhaps, at the end of the day, other people simply appreciate it when others make an effort to look and act pleasant around them. Go figure!

            Featured photo credit: freepik via freepik.com

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            Last Updated on May 17, 2019

            This Is What Happens When You Move Out Of the Comfort Zone

            This Is What Happens When You Move Out Of the Comfort Zone

            The pursuit of worthwhile goals is a part of what makes life enjoyable. Being able to set a goal, then see yourself progress towards achieving that goal is an amazing feeling.

            But do you know the biggest obstacle for most people trying to achieve their goals, the silent dream killer that stops people before they ever even get started? That obstacle is the comfort zone, and getting stuck there is bound to derail any efforts you make towards achieving the goals you’ve set for yourself.

            If you want to achieve those goals, you’ll have to break free from your comfort zone. Let’s take a look at how your life will change once you build up the courage to leave your comfort zone.

            What Is the Comfort Zone?

            The comfort zone is defined as “a behavioural state within which a person operates in an anxiety-neutral condition, using a limited set of behaviours to deliver a steady level of performance.”

            What stands out to me the most about that definition is the last part: “using a limited set of behaviours to deliver a steady level of performance.” How many successful people do you know who deliver a steady level of performance?

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            The goal in life is to continually challenge yourself, and continually improve yourself. And in order to do that, you have move out of your comfort zone. But once you do, your life will start to change in ways you could never have imagined. I know because it’s happening right now in my own life.

            Here’s what I’ve learned.

            1. You will be scared

            Leaving your comfort zone isn’t easy. In fact, in can be downright terrifying at times, and that’s okay. It’s perfectly normal to feel a little trepidation when you’re embarking on a journey that forces you to try new things.

            So don’t freak out or get overwhelmed when you feel yourself getting a little scared. It’s perfectly normal and all part of the process. What’s important is that you don’t let that fear hold you back. You must continue to take action in the face of fear.

            That’s what separates winners from losers.

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            2. You will fail

            Stepping out of your comfort zone means you’re moving into uncharted territory. You’re trying things that you’ve never tried before, and learning things you’ve never learned before.

            That steep learning curve means you’re not going to get everything right the first time, and you will eventually fail when you move out of your comfort zone. But as long as the failures aren’t catastrophic, it can actually be a good thing to fail because …

            3. You will learn

            Failure is the best teacher. I’ve learned more from each one of my failures than I have from each one of my successes. When you fail small, and fail often, you rapidly increase the rate at which you learn new insights and skills. And that new knowledge, if applied correctly, will eventually lead to your success.

            4. You will see yourself in a different way

            Once you move out of your comfort zone, you immediately prove to yourself that you’re capable of achieving more than you thought was possible. And that will change the way you see yourself.

            Moving forward, you’ll have more confidence in yourself whenever you step out of your comfort zone, and that increased confidence will make it more likely that you continue to step outside your comfort zone. And each time you do, you’ll prove to yourself again and again what you’re really capable of.

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            5. Your peers will see you in a different way

            Whether we want to admit or not, people judge other people. And right now, people view you in a certain way, and they have a certain idea of what you’re capable of. That’s because they’ve become accustomed to seeing you operate in your comfort zone.

            But once you move out of your comfort zone, you’ll prove to other people, as well, that you’re capable of much more than you’ve shown in the past.

            The increased confidence other people place in you will bring about more opportunities than ever before.

            6. Your comfort zone will expand

            The good thing about the comfort zone is that it’s flexible and malleable. With each action you take outside of your comfort zone, it expands. And once you master that new skill or action, it eventually becomes part of your comfort zone.

            This is great news for you because it means that you can constantly increase and improve upon the behaviors that you’re comfortable with. And the more tools and skills you have at your disposal, the easier it will be to achieve your goals.

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            7. You will increase your concentration and focus

            When you’re living inside of your comfort zone, the bulk of your actions are habitual: automatic, subconscious, and requiring limited focus.

            But once you move out of your comfort zone, you no longer rely on those habitual responses. You’re forced to concentrate and focus on the new action in a way you never do in your comfort zone.

            8. You will develop new skills

            Moving out of your comfort zone requires that you develop new skills. One of the many benefits you’ll experience is that you’ll be stepping away from the “limited set of behaviors” and start to develop your ability and expertise in new areas.

            Living inside of your comfort zone only requires a limited skill set, and those skills won’t contribute much to your success. Once you can confidently step outside of your comfort zone and learn a new skill, there’s no limit to how much you can achieve.

            9. You will achieve more than before

            With everything that happens once you move out of your comfort zone, you’re naturally going to achieve more than ever before.

            Your increased concentration and focus will help you develop new skills. Those new skills will change the way you see yourself, encouraging you to step even further out of your comfort zone.

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