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5 Proven Ways to Improve How People Treat You

5 Proven Ways to Improve How People Treat You

The saying goes, “Don’t judge a book by its cover” – but that’s not how real life works. Sure, in our minds, we all know we shouldn’t treat people differently based on how they look. But on a gut level, most of us can’t help but be nicer to someone we find attractive.

Studies have found that attractive people find jobs more easily, get promoted faster and ultimately make more money.

The great news is, anyone can appear significantly more attractive by changing their habits and behavior. Here are five proven ways to improve how people treat you.

1. Practice Humility

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    Humble people come across as being more attractive. This might seem odd, considering we live in a culture where confidence is admired so much. But for now, just remember that you can feel confident about yourself while staying humble and gracious on the outside. Modesty and a lack of self-esteem are not one and the same!

    This is important, because a series of experiments found that dating app users with high humility scores got more phone numbers and likes.

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    So stay humble – but at the same time…

    2. Be Confident About Who You Are

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      It’s common wisdom that confident people are more attractive. However, there’s a big difference between an outward, puffed-up confidence and a quiet but sincere feeling of self-worth.

      This means you don’t have to act a certain way or fake being bold to be confident. Instead, as this Psychology Today article puts it, you simply have to “know who you are”.

      To grow and nurture this kind of confidence, practice loving and accepting yourself. This will make you innately more attractive to people.

      Just remember – your outward appearance matters too, so…

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      3. Keep Your Clothes Neat and Tidy

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        Famous online marketer Neil Patel made an extra $692,500 and got NBA All-Star Game tickets worth $4,000 after investing $162,301.42 in his wardrobe.

        Now, most of us can’t invest that kind of money in our clothes… but it’s fair to say that what we wear says a lot about us.

        So keep your clothes tidy. Iron your shirts and pants. If possible, invest a little money in getting your oversize clothes tailored.

        And with so many people dressing like slobs – just check out these scathing articles about New Yorkers. Simply looking clean will make you look far better.

        4. Visit The Dentist

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          In one study, over 5,000 singles said a nice set of teeth is the key factor in choosing their mate. Granted, this is singles – but a nice smile goes a long way toward making you more attractive to everyone, right?

          And despite what some people think, you don’t have to pay the dentist a fortune to have a set of healthy, white teeth.

          Getting your teeth cleaned thoroughly at the dentist’s office costs less than $100 in most states. A high-quality teeth whitening that won’t harm your teeth can cost as little as $200. Tooth implants, which are sometimes covered by dental insurance, have a 97% success rate.

          In short, there’s no reason not to have pearly whites in 2016!

          5. Improve Your Body Language

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            Body language can be deceptive. For instance, imagine you’re having lunch with someone who’s frowning, squinting and crossing their arms. What would you think?

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            If you’re like most people, you’d think the person across the table is in a bad mood and maybe even standoffish with you.

            But they could simply be reacting to the sun hitting their eyes or the temperature in the room.

            And that’s how having negative body language can make people think they’re upsetting you when that’s not the case at all.

            This works both ways. Positive body language can instantly make you more likable and boost your charisma.

            These tips work no matter what you look like. Perhaps, at the end of the day, other people simply appreciate it when others make an effort to look and act pleasant around them. Go figure!

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            What Makes People Happy? 20 Secrets of “Always Happy” People

            What Makes People Happy? 20 Secrets of “Always Happy” People

            Some people just seem to float through life with a relentless sense of happiness – through the toughest of times, they’re unfazed and aloof, stopping to smell the roses and drinking out of a glass half full.

            They may not have much to be happy about, but the simplicity behind that fact itself may make them happy.

            It’s all a matter of perspective, conscious effort and self-awareness. Listed below are a number of reasons why some people are always happy.

            1. They Manage Their Expectations

            They’re not crushed when they don’t get what they want – or misled into expecting to get the most out of every situation. They approach every situation pragmatically, hoping for the best but being prepared for the worst.

            2. They Don’t Set Unrealistic Standards

            Similar to the last point, they don’t live their lives in a constant pursuit towards impossible visions of perfection, only to always find themselves falling short of what they want.

            3. They Don’t Take Anything for Granted

            Happiness rests with feeling fulfilled – those who fail to stop and appreciate what they have every now and again will never experience true fulfillment.

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            4. They’re Not Materialistic

            There are arguing viewpoints on whether or not money can really buy happiness; if it can, then we know from experience that we can never be satisfied because there will always be something newer or better that we want. Who has ever had enough money?

            5. They Don’t Dwell

            They don’t sweat the small things or waste time worrying about things that don’t really matter at the end of the day. They don’t let negative thoughts latch onto them and drain them or distract them. Life’s too short to worry.

            6. They Care About Themselves First

            They’re independent, care for themselves and understand that they must put their needs first in order to accommodate the needs of others.

            They indulge, aim to get what they want, make time for themselves and are extremely self-reliant.

            7. They Enjoy the Little Things

            They stop to smell the roses. They’re accustomed to find serenity when it’s available, to welcome entertainment or a stimulating discussion with a stranger when it crosses their path. They don’t overlook the small things in life that can be just as important.

            8. They Can Adapt

            They’re not afraid of change and they work to make the most out of new circumstances, good or bad. They thrive under pressure, are not overwhelmed easily and always embrace a change of pace.

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            9. They Experiment

            They try new things, experience new flavors and never shy away from something they have yet to experience. They never order twice from the same menu.

            10. They Take Their Time

            They don’t unnecessarily rush through life. They work on their own schedule to the extent that they can and maneuver through life at their own relaxing pace.

            11. They Employ Different Perspectives

            They’re not stuck in one perspective; a loss can result in a new opportunity, hitting rock bottom can mean that there’s no where to go but up.

            12. They Seek to Learn

            Their constant pursuit of knowledge keeps them inspired and interested in life. They cherish information and are on a life-long quest to learn as much as they can.

            13. They Always Have a Plan

            They don’t find themselves drifting without purpose. When something doesn’t go as planned, they have a plan for every letter in the alphabet to fall back on.

            14. They Give Respect to Get It

            They are respectful and, in turn, are seen as respectable; the respect they exude earns them the respect they deserve.

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            15. They Consider Every Opportunity

            They always have their eyes open for a new road, a new avenue worth exploring. They know how to recognize opportune moments and pounce on them to make the most of every situation. Success is inevitable for them.

            16. They Always Seek to Improve

            Perpetual self-improvement is the key towards their ongoing thirst for success. Whatever it is they do, they take pride in getting better and better, from social interactions to mundane tasks. Their pursuit at being the best eventually materializes.

            17. They Don’t Take Life Too Seriously

            They’re not ones to get offended easily over-analyze or complicate matters. They laugh at their own faults and misfortunes.

            18. They Live in the Moment

            They don’t live for tomorrow or dwell on what may have happened yesterday. Every day is a new opportunity, a new chapter. They live in the now, and in doing so, get the most out of every moment.

            You can learn how to do so too: How to Live in the Moment and Stop Worrying About the Past or Future

            19. They Say Yes

            Much more often than they say no. They don’t have to be badgered to go out, don’t shy away from new opportunities or anything that may seem inconvenient.

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            20. They’re Self-Aware

            Most important, they’re wholly aware of themselves. They self-reflect and are conscious of their states of mind. If somethings bothering them, they fix it.

            We’re all susceptible to feeling down every now and again, but we are all equipped with the necessary solutions that just have to be discovered.

            Lack of confidence, inability to feel fulfilled, and susceptibility to stress are all matters that can be controlled through the way we handle our lives and perceive our circumstances.

            Learn about How Self-Reflection Gives You a Happier and More Successful Life.

            Final Thoughts

            The main philosophy employed by the happiest includes the idea that life’s simply too short: life’s too short to let things get you down, to take things for granted, to pursue absolute and unrealistic perfection.

            For some, employing these characteristics is a second nature – they do it without knowing. For others, a conscious effort must be put forth every now and again. Self-Awareness is key.

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