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5 Proven Ways to Improve How People Treat You

5 Proven Ways to Improve How People Treat You

The saying goes, “Don’t judge a book by its cover” – but that’s not how real life works. Sure, in our minds, we all know we shouldn’t treat people differently based on how they look. But on a gut level, most of us can’t help but be nicer to someone we find attractive.

Studies have found that attractive people find jobs more easily, get promoted faster and ultimately make more money.

The great news is, anyone can appear significantly more attractive by changing their habits and behavior. Here are five proven ways to improve how people treat you.

1. Practice Humility

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    Humble people come across as being more attractive. This might seem odd, considering we live in a culture where confidence is admired so much. But for now, just remember that you can feel confident about yourself while staying humble and gracious on the outside. Modesty and a lack of self-esteem are not one and the same!

    This is important, because a series of experiments found that dating app users with high humility scores got more phone numbers and likes.

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    So stay humble – but at the same time…

    2. Be Confident About Who You Are

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      It’s common wisdom that confident people are more attractive. However, there’s a big difference between an outward, puffed-up confidence and a quiet but sincere feeling of self-worth.

      This means you don’t have to act a certain way or fake being bold to be confident. Instead, as this Psychology Today article puts it, you simply have to “know who you are”.

      To grow and nurture this kind of confidence, practice loving and accepting yourself. This will make you innately more attractive to people.

      Just remember – your outward appearance matters too, so…

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      3. Keep Your Clothes Neat and Tidy

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        Famous online marketer Neil Patel made an extra $692,500 and got NBA All-Star Game tickets worth $4,000 after investing $162,301.42 in his wardrobe.

        Now, most of us can’t invest that kind of money in our clothes… but it’s fair to say that what we wear says a lot about us.

        So keep your clothes tidy. Iron your shirts and pants. If possible, invest a little money in getting your oversize clothes tailored.

        And with so many people dressing like slobs – just check out these scathing articles about New Yorkers. Simply looking clean will make you look far better.

        4. Visit The Dentist

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          In one study, over 5,000 singles said a nice set of teeth is the key factor in choosing their mate. Granted, this is singles – but a nice smile goes a long way toward making you more attractive to everyone, right?

          And despite what some people think, you don’t have to pay the dentist a fortune to have a set of healthy, white teeth.

          Getting your teeth cleaned thoroughly at the dentist’s office costs less than $100 in most states. A high-quality teeth whitening that won’t harm your teeth can cost as little as $200. Tooth implants, which are sometimes covered by dental insurance, have a 97% success rate.

          In short, there’s no reason not to have pearly whites in 2016!

          5. Improve Your Body Language

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            Body language can be deceptive. For instance, imagine you’re having lunch with someone who’s frowning, squinting and crossing their arms. What would you think?

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            If you’re like most people, you’d think the person across the table is in a bad mood and maybe even standoffish with you.

            But they could simply be reacting to the sun hitting their eyes or the temperature in the room.

            And that’s how having negative body language can make people think they’re upsetting you when that’s not the case at all.

            This works both ways. Positive body language can instantly make you more likable and boost your charisma.

            These tips work no matter what you look like. Perhaps, at the end of the day, other people simply appreciate it when others make an effort to look and act pleasant around them. Go figure!

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            Last Updated on November 15, 2018

            Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

            Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

            What do you think it takes to achieve your goals? Hard work? Lots of actions? While these are paramount to becoming successful in reaching our goals, neither of these are possible without a positive mindset.

            As humans, we naturally tend to lean towards a negative outlook when it comes to our hopes and dreams. We are prone to believing that we have limitations either from within ourselves or from external forces keeping us from truly getting to where we want to be in life. Our tendency to think that we’ll “believe it when we see it” suggests that our mindsets are focused on our goals not really being attainable until they’ve been achieved. The problem with this is that this common mindset fuels our limiting beliefs and shows a lack of faith in ourselves.

            The Success Mindset

            Success in achieving our goals comes down to a ‘success mindset’. Successful mindsets are those focused on victory, based on positive mental attitudes, empowering inclinations and good habits. Acquiring a success mindset is the sure-fire way to dramatically increase your chance to achieve your goals.

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            The idea that achieving our goals comes down to our habits and actions is actually a typical type of mindset that misses a crucial point; that our mindset is, in fact, the determiner of our energy and what actions we take. A negative mindset will tend to create negative actions and similarly if we have a mindset that will only set into action once we see ‘proof’ that our goals are achievable, then the road will be much longer and arduous. This is why, instead of thinking “I’ll believe it when I see it”, a success mindset will think “I’ll see it when I believe it.”

            The Placebo Effect and What It Shows Us About The Power of Mindset

            The placebo effect is a perfect example of how mindset really can be powerful. In scientific trials, a group of participants were told they received medication that will heal an ailment but were actually given a sugar pill that does nothing (the placebo). Yet after the trial the participants believed it’s had a positive effect – sometimes even cured their ailment even though nothing has changed. This is the power of mindset.

            How do we apply this to our goals? Well, when we set goals and dreams how often do we really believe they’ll come to fruition? Have absolute faith that they can be achieved? Have a complete unwavering expectation? Most of us don’t because we hold on to negative mindsets and limiting beliefs about ourselves that stop us from fully believing we are capable or that it’s at all possible. We tend to listen to the opinions of others despite them misaligning with our own or bow to societal pressures that make us believe we should think and act a certain way. There are many reasons why we possess these types of mindsets but a success mindset can be achieved.

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            How To Create a Success Mindset

            People with success mindsets have a particular way of perceiving things. They have positive outlooks and are able to put faith fully in their ability to succeed. With that in mind, here are a few ways that can turn a negative mindset into a successful one.

            1. A Success Mindset Comes From a Growth Mindset

            How does a mindset even manifest itself? It comes from the way you talk to yourself in the privacy of your own head. Realising this will go a long way towards noticing how you speak to yourself and others around you. If it’s mainly negative language you use when you talk about your goals and aspirations then this is an example of a fixed mindset.

            A negative mindset brings with it a huge number of limiting beliefs. It creates a fixed mindset – one that can’t see beyond it’s own limitations. A growth mindset sees these limitations and looks beyond them – it finds ways to overcome obstacles and believes that this will result in success. When you think of your goal, a fixed mindset may think “what if I fail?” A growth mindset would look at the same goal and think “failures happen but that doesn’t mean I won’t be successful.”

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            There’s a lot of power in changing your perspective.

            2. Look For The Successes

            It’s really important to get your mind focused on positive aspects of your goal. Finding inspiration through others can be really uplifting and keep you on track with developing your success mindset; reinforcing your belief that your dreams can be achieved. Find people that you can talk with about how they achieved their goals and seek out and surround yourself with positive people. This is crucial if you’re learning to develop a positive mindset.

            3. Eliminate Negativity

            You can come up against a lot of negativity sometimes either through other people or within yourself. Understanding that other people’s negative opinions are created through their own fears and limiting beliefs will go a long way in sustaining your success mindset. But for a lot of us, negative chatter can come from within and these usually manifest as negative words such as can’t, won’t, shouldn’t. Sometimes, when we think of how we’re going to achieve our goals, statements in our minds come out as negative absolutes: ‘It never works out for me’ or ‘I always fail.’

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            When you notice these coming up you need to turn them around with ‘It always works out for me!’ and ‘I never fail!’ The trick is to believe it no matter what’s happened in the past. Remember that every new day is a clean slate and for you to adjust your mindset.

            4. Create a Vision

            Envisioning your end goal and seeing it in your mind is an important trait of a success mindset. Allowing ourselves to imagine our success creates a powerful excitement that shouldn’t be underestimated. When our brain becomes excited at the thought of achieving our goals, we become more committed, work harder towards achieving it and more likely to do whatever it takes to make it happen.

            If this involves creating a vision board that you can look at to remind yourself every day then go for it. Small techniques like this go a long way in sustaining your success mindset and shouldn’t be dismissed.

            An Inspirational Story…

            For centuries experts said that running a mile in under 4 minutes was humanly impossible. On the 6th May 1954, Rodger Bannister did just that. As part of his training, Bannister relentlessly visualised the achievement, believing he could accomplish what everyone said wasn’t possible…and he did it.

            What’s more amazing is that, as soon as Bannister achieved the 4-minute mile, more and more people also achieved it. How was this possible after so many years of no one achieving it? Because in people’s minds it was suddenly possible – once people knew that it was achievable it created a mindset of success and now, after over fifty years since Bannister did the ‘impossible’, his record has been lowered by 17 seconds – the power of the success mindset!

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