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9 Signs of Dissatisfaction and How to Overcome Them

9 Signs of Dissatisfaction and How to Overcome Them

Feeling dissatisfied or super unmotivated? Don’t worry – you’re not alone. No matter whether it involves a job, spouse or even your own life, we’ve all experienced dissatisfaction at some point. And those of us that have been there lately know how easy it is to get dragged down by the sluggish mood or attitude.

Before you start worrying, first understand that feeling dissatisfied is not the end of the world. In fact, with a little help and action, you can move past these negative feelings and turn the situation into a positive. Wondering How? Well, you know the old adage, “It’s not necessarily the problem, but how you respond to the problem”? It’s especially true with dissatisfaction, so in order to overcome, you’ll need to work on developing the insight, maturity and skills needed to identify and appropriately respond to signs of dissatisfaction. To help with this process, here are 8 common signs of dissatisfaction—and what to do about them.

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1. Dwindling Attention Span

If you’re having trouble focusing on a task, it’s a clear sign of dissatisfaction. The dissatisfaction may be the result of working on a task that you can’t stand, or you may be unsatisfied with your current strategy. Whatever the reason, it’s time to take a step back. Pause. Breathe. Stop working for a moment, and remove yourself from the situation. Take a moment to calm yourself, then assess the situation and figure out why it deserves your attention in the first place. If it does, this is your opportunity to determine what’s keeping you from focusing. If it doesn’t, there is a broader issue you may need to consider to solve the problem.

2. Isolation

Spending a lot of time at home? Having trouble getting out and meeting up with friends? Isolation is often a sign of dissatisfaction, and allowing the dissatisfied to continue will only make the situation worse. The bottom line is that getting out and communicating is the only way to push through isolation. Forcing yourself to interact with others may be uncomfortable at first, but it will get easier as you start to break through the pattern of isolation.

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3. Lacking Motivation

Sometimes, getting started is the hardest part of completing a task. If you’re dissatisfied or disengaged, it can be even harder to find motivation. Gamification can be a great way to find motivation. Give yourself milestones to achieve, and set up a system of rewards that will motivate you to finish your tasks. Delaying tasks only makes motivation more difficult to gain, so get started as soon as you can.

4. Tired

If you’re sleepwalking through the day like a zombie, there’s a pretty high chance that you’re unmotivated. Lots of people who are bored and dissatisfied with spending their day at a desk battle fatigue on a regular basis. Coffee isn’t a long-term fix, and a caffeine addiction can make it even harder to find the energy you need as you’ll have to drink more and more to get the same effects. Instead, turn to exercise, which is a great tool for improving energy, focus and productivity. It might seem counterintuitive, but working out can be one of the best methods for developing and maintaining long-term sources of energy. Prioritize your workouts, and watch your energy increase.

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5. Irritable

Snapping at colleagues and loved ones, or complaining about your job and life are sure signs of dissatisfaction. Don’t let irritation take over–instead, take deep breaths before you speak or act. Meditation is a great way to become more mindful of your words and actions, and can help you identify the underlying cause of your irritation.

6. Focusing On the Past

No matter whether if it relates to relationships, jobs or simply fun events, thinking too much about the past can be a major signal of dissatisfaction. This form of dissatisfaction can be potentially harmful to growth (be it personal or relationship) as those stuck in the past often have difficulty seeing and interpreting current events and opportunities. To work out of this funk, remind yourself of what is important in your life in the present, and develop ideas for working toward your goals rather than focusing on past accomplishments or failures.

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7. Poor Communication

Another clear sign of dissatisfaction is poor communication. Whether aware of it or not, a dissatisfied individual will have difficulty in honestly and effectively communicating with peers, friends and/or spouse. There are a number of causes for this dissatisfaction, which range from personal doubts to trust issues to feeling neglected. Sadly, as a result of poor communication, dissatisfaction and its causes often become worse, so it’s extremely important to proactively express your feelings and work out your concerns. Remember, healthy relationships, be they at home or at work, thrive on honesty, empathy, and tact.

8. Unhealthy Eating Habits

Stressed? Dissatisfied? Unsure of whether you’re stressed or dissatisfied? A key sign of this is unhealthy or over-eating, especially if it has developed into a habit. Now I know habits tend to be thought of as a daily occurrence, but situational habits should also be considered. Situational habits occur when particular cravings arise with emotions or situations, such as stress at work. Although it may temporarily feel good, these unhealthy food choices not only make you feel worse, they can also be a sign of underlying issues. Take a look at what might be influencing your poor diet, then work to eliminate those stresses from your life.

9. Procrastination

Not only have we all procrastinated, but we’ve all procrastinated and eventually regretted it. Yet, rather than learning, some of us just repeat the process over again! Even though it may not be fun, there’s really only one way to solve this problem: get it done! You’ll only feel more dissatisfied and overwhelmed the more you procrastinate. Eliminate the tasks you dislike first—then reward yourself with a more enjoyable project.

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Last Updated on September 20, 2018

8 Ways to Train Your Brain to Learn Faster and Remember More

8 Ways to Train Your Brain to Learn Faster and Remember More

You go to the gym to train your muscles. You run outside or go for hikes to train your endurance. Or, maybe you do neither of those, but still wish you exercised more.

Well, here is how to train one of the most important parts of your body: your brain.

When you train your brain, you will:

  • Avoid embarrassing situations. You remember his face, but what was his name?
  • Be a faster learner in all sorts of different skills. No problem for you to pick up a new language or new management skill.
  • Avoid diseases that hit as you get older. Alzheimer’s will not be affecting you.

So how to train your brain and improve your cognitive skills?

1. Work your memory

Twyla Tharp, a NYC-based renowned choreographer has come up with the following memory workout:

When she watches one of her performances, she tries to remember the first twelve to fourteen corrections she wants to discuss with her cast without writing them down.

If you think this is anything less than a feat, then think again. In her book The Creative Habit she says that most people cannot remember more than three.

The practice of both remembering events or things and then discussing them with others has actually been supported by brain fitness studies.

Memory activities that engage all levels of brain operation—receiving, remembering and thinking—help to improve the function of the brain.

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Now, you may not have dancers to correct, but you may be required to give feedback on a presentation, or your friends may ask you what interesting things you saw at the museum. These are great opportunities to practically train your brain by flexing your memory muscles.

What is the simplest way to help yourself remember what you see? Repetition.

For example, say you just met someone new:

“Hi, my name is George”

Don’t just respond with, “Nice to meet you”. Instead, say, “Nice to meet you George.”

Got it? Good.

2. Do something different repeatedly

By actually doing something new over and over again, your brain wires new pathways that help you do this new thing better and faster.

Think back to when you were three years old. You surely were strong enough to hold a knife and a fork just fine. Yet, when you were eating all by yourself, you were creating a mess.

It was not a matter of strength, you see. It was a matter of cultivating more and better neural pathways that would help you eat by yourself just like an adult does.

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And guess what? With enough repetition you made that happen!

But how does this apply to your life right now?

Say you are a procrastinator. The more you don’t procrastinate, the more you teach your brain not to wait for the last minute to make things happen.

Now, you might be thinking “Duh, if only not procrastinating could be that easy!”

Well, it can be. By doing something really small, that you wouldn’t normally do, but is in the direction of getting that task done, you will start creating those new precious neural pathways.

So if you have been postponing organizing your desk, just take one paper and put in its right place. Or, you can go even smaller. Look at one piece of paper and decide where to put it: Trash? Right cabinet? Another room? Give it to someone?

You don’t actually need to clean up that paper; you only need to decide what you need to do with it.

That’s how small you can start. And yet, those neural pathways are still being built. Gradually, you will transform yourself from a procrastinator to an in-the-moment action taker.

3. Learn something new

It might sound obvious, but the more you use your brain, the better its going to perform for you.

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For example, learning a new instrument improves your skill of translating something you see (sheet music) to something you actually do (playing the instrument).

Learning a new language exposes your brain to a different way of thinking, a different way of expressing yourself.

You can even literally take it a step further, and learn how to dance. Studies indicate that learning to dance helps seniors avoid Alzheimer’s. Not bad, huh?

4. Follow a brain training program

The Internet world can help you improve your brain function while lazily sitting on your couch. A clinically proven program like BrainHQ can help you improve your memory, or think faster, by just following their brain training exercises.

5. Work your body

You knew this one was coming didn’t you? Yes indeed, exercise does not just work your body; it also improves the fitness of your brain.

Even briefly exercising for 20 minutes facilitates information processing and memory functions. But it’s not just that–exercise actually helps your brain create those new neural connections faster. You will learn faster, your alertness level will increase, and you get all that by moving your body.

Now, if you are not already a regular exerciser, and already feel guilty that you are not helping your brain by exercising more, try a brain training exercise program like Exercise Bliss.

Remember, just like we discussed in #2, by training your brain to do something new repeatedly, you are actually changing yourself permanently.

6. Spend time with your loved ones

If you want optimal cognitive abilities, then you’ve got to have meaningful relationships in your life.  Talking with others and engaging with your loved ones helps you think more clearly, and it can also lift your mood.

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If you are an extrovert, this holds even more weight for you. At a class at Stanford University, I learned that extroverts actually use talking to other people as a way to understand and process their own thoughts.

I remember that the teacher told us that after a personality test said she was an extrovert, she was surprised. She had always thought of herself as an introvert. But then, she realized how much talking to others helped her frame her own thoughts, so she accepted her new-found status as an extrovert.

7. Avoid crossword puzzles

Many of us, when we think of brain fitness, think of crossword puzzles. And it’s true–crossword puzzles do improve our fluency, yet studies show they are not enough by themselves.

Are they fun? Yes. Do they sharpen your brain? Not really.

Of course, if you are doing this for fun, then by all means go ahead. If you are doing it for brain fitness, then you might want to choose another activity

8. Eat right – and make sure dark chocolate is included

Foods like fish, fruits, and vegetables help your brain perform optimally. Yet, you might not know that dark chocolate gives your brain a good boost as well.

When you eat chocolate, your brain produces dopamine. And dopamine helps you learn faster and remember better. Not to mention, chocolate contains flavonols, antioxidants, which also improve your brain functions.

So next time you have something difficult to do, make sure you grab a bite or two of dark chocolate!

The bottom line

Now that you know how to train your brain, it’s actually time to start doing.

Don’t just consume this content and then go on with your life as if nothing has changed. Put this knowledge into action and become smarter than ever!

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