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How to Become a Stronger Version of Yourself for True Confidence

How to Become a Stronger Version of Yourself for True Confidence

This article is written from a shallower and short-term perspective to a deeper and longer term perspective and I believe it is necessary to facilitate a better understanding. Trust me, this will transform you from being a shy person to a confident one.

Note: This will be especially applicable to people who are starting off being really shy.

Improve Yourself in all Aspects to Build Confidence

Simply put, become a better version of yourself. You need to achieve more, become better or do anything that will make you proud of yourself or feel more positive about yourself at least. Confidence is something you have to build over time. It is built through hard work and experiences. You can start working out and have a better physique. You can take up dance lessons and become an entertainment in clubs. You can start earning more money. You can google on how to become a more charismatic or respectable person. You can do all kind of things which you think will make you more socially-valued.

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True confidence comes from having positive feelings about yourself, and to have positive feelings about yourself, you will have to gain approval or compliments by society. You may think that this sounds shallow now, but trust me, it works and it is just the start of a strategy on gaining true social confidence. You need to continue reading for a more in-depth understanding of the strategy to see the rationale behind it.

Provide Value to be Valued

To be approved and valued by society, you will have to provide value.

Anything can be of value. For example: love, money or anything that is deemed to be worth to others. Having a good physique makes you attractive and attraction is a kind of value. Being funny makes other people laugh, so that is value as well. Being a gentleman can attract girls since chivalry is of value too.

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So the first step will be to improve yourself so that you are of a higher value which will be more socially approved.

The Unintentional By-products of Providing Value

The journey towards true confidence comes largely from the unintentional by-products of providing value.

The point here is when you unintentionally gain acceptance, approval and compliments, it will help you become confident gradually. Like I said previously, becoming a stronger version of yourself will lead to gaining unintentional approval and compliments, which is just the first step of the strategy.

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Note: The reason why I emphasized on the word ‘unintentionally‘ is to prevent you from being  misled to think that your goal is to gain others’ approval and compliments. The main goal will always be to become a stronger version of yourself in all aspect. However, those words of approval or compliment by others are just kind of like by-products which can reflect your current position on your journey towards true social confidence and somehow lead you towards your higher level of confidence. Basically, in the long run, there will be gradual changes in how the people react to you, all the positive things just come naturally.

All these are still the start and can be pretty shallow and inadequate for true social confidence or true confidence in general. Now, the key to true confidence is actually having positive feelings about yourself. And the point of becoming a stronger version of yourself can absolutely generate positive feelings about yourself.

The trick to building true confidence is when you sub-consciously use the accumulated unintentional approvals and compliments or feedback in general from your growth and experiences to generate a positive feeling in yourself.

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True Confidence Comes From Within

The ‘within’ actually refers to the positive feelings about yourself. To simplify, the level of true confidence is highly in direct proportion to the level of positive feeling you have about yourself.

Lastly, the positive feeling about yourself will allow you to make decisions more confidently because you know that you can do it like how much you had actually changed yourself in every aspect. Even if you fail, you know that you will always become stronger and failures are just part of the route to succeed in the future as long as you learn. Deep inside, you know that you will be able to do it eventually because you have that very positive feeling about what you can do and what you will become. This is true confidence. And everything just becomes an upward spiral.

Try it, confidence takes you time. Give yourself a year and you will be very surprised.

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Published on July 29, 2020

How to Build Strategic Thinking Skills for Effective Leadership

How to Build Strategic Thinking Skills for Effective Leadership

Have you been thinking of how you can be a more strategic leader during these uncertain times? Has the pandemic thrown a wrench at all your carefully laid out plans and initiatives?

You’re not alone. The truth is, we all want some stability in our careers and teams during this disruptive pandemic.

However, this now requires a bit more effort than before and making the leap from merely surviving to thriving means buckling down to some serious strategic thinking and maintaining a determined mindset.

Is There a Way to Thrive Despite These Disruptions?

Essentially – yes, although you need to be willing to put in the work. Every leader wants to develop strategic thinking skills so that they can enhance overall team performance and boost their company’s success, but what exactly does it mean to be strategic in the context of the times we live in?

If you happen to be in a leadership position in your organization right now, you are most probably navigating precarious waters given the disruptions caused by the pandemic. There’s a lot more pressure than before because your actions and decisions will have a much greater impact these days not just on you, but also to the people who are part of your team.

Companies often bring me in to coach executives on strategic thinking and planning. And while pre-pandemic I would usually start by highlighting the advantages of strategic thinking, nowadays, I always begin these Zoom coaching sessions by driving home the point that this pandemic has now made strategic thinking not just an option but an absolute must.

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Assessing and making plans through the lens of a good strategy might require significant work at first. Nevertheless, you can take comfort in the fact that the rewards will far outweigh the effort, as you’ll soon see after following the 8 strategic steps I have outlined below.

8 Steps to Strategic Thinking

As events unfold during these strange times, you’re bound to feel wrong-footed every now and then. Being a leader during this pandemic means preparing for more change not just for you, but for your whole team as well.

As states and cities go through a cycle of lockdowns and reopening, employees will experience the full gamut of human emotions in dizzying speed, and you will often be called on to provide insight and stability to your team and workplace.

Strategic thinking is all about anticipation and preparation. Rather than expending your energy merely helping your company put out fires and survive, you can put the time to better use by charting out a solid plan that can protect and help you and your company thrive.

Take the following steps to build solid initiatives and roll out successful projects:

Step 1: Step Back, Then Set the Scope

One of the things that leaders get wrong during their first attempt at strategic thinking is expecting that it is just another item on a checklist. The truth is, you need to take a good, long look at the bigger picture before anything else. This means decisively prioritizing and stepping away from tasks that can be delegated to others. Free up your schedule so you can focus on this crucial task at hand.

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Then, proceed with setting the scope and the strategic goals of the project or initiative you plan to build or execute. Ask yourself the bigger question of why you need to embark on a particular project and when would be the right time to do so.

You need to set a timeline as well, anywhere from 6 months to 5 years. Keep in mind that your projections will deteriorate the further out you go as you make longer-term plans.

For this reason, add extra resources, flexibility, and resilience if you have a longer timeline. You should also be making the goals less specific if you’re charting it out for the longer term.

Step 2: Make a List of Experts

Make and keep a list of credible people who can contribute solid insight and feedback to your initiative. This could range from key stakeholders to industry experts, mentors, and even colleagues who previously planned and rolled out similar projects.

Reach out to the people on this list regularly while you work through the steps to bring diverse insight into your planning process. This way, you will be able to approach any problem from every angle.

Bringing key stakeholders into this initial process will also display your willingness to listen and empathize with their issues. In return, this will build trust and potentially pave the way for smoother buy-in down the line.

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Step 3: Anticipate the Future

After identifying your goals and gathering feedback, it’s time to consider what the future would look like if everything goes as you intuitively anticipate. Then, lay out the kind and amount of resources (money, time, social capital) that might be needed to keep this anticipated future running.

Step 4: Brainstorm on Potential Internal and External Problems

Next, think of how the future would look if you encountered unexpected problems internal and external to the business activity that seriously jeopardize your expected vision of the future. Write out what kind of potential problems you might encounter, including low-probability ones.

Assess the likelihood that you will run into each problem. To gauge, multiply the likelihood by the number of resources needed to address the problem. Try to convert the resources into money if possible so that you can have a single unit of measurement.

Then, think of what steps you can take to address these internal and external problems before they even happen. Write out how much you expect these steps might cost. Lastly, add up all the extra resources that may be needed because of the different possible problems and all the steps you committed to taking to address them in advance.

Step 5: Identify Potential Opportunities, Internal and External

Imagine how your expected plan would look if unexpected opportunities came up. Most of these will be external but consider internal ones as well. Then, gauge the likelihood of each scenario and the number of resources you would need to take advantage of each opportunity. Convert the resources into money if possible.

Then, think of what steps you can take in advance to take advantage of unexpected opportunities and write out how much you expect these steps might cost. Finally, add up all the extra resources that may be needed because of the different unexpected opportunities and all the steps you committed to taking to address them in advance.

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Step 6: Check for Cognitive Biases

Check for potential cognitive biases that are relevant to you personally or to the organization as a whole, and adjust the resources and plans to address such errors.[1] Make sure to at least check for loss aversion, status quo bias, confirmation bias, attentional bias, overconfidence, optimism bias, pessimism bias, and halo and horns effects.

Step 7: Account for Unknown Unknowns (Black Swans)

To have a more effective strategy, account for black swans as well. These are unknown unknowns -unpredictable events that have potentially severe consequences.

To account for these black swans, add 40 percent to the resources you anticipate. Also, consider ways to make your plans more flexible and secure than you intuitively feel is needed.

Step 8: Communicate and Take the Next Steps

Communicate the plan to your stakeholders, and give them a heads up about the additional resources needed. Then, take the next steps to address the unanticipated problems and take advantage of the opportunities you identified by improving your plans, as well as allocating and reserving resources.

Finally, take note that there will be cases when you’ll need to go back and forth these steps to make improvements, (a fix here, an improvement there) so be comfortable with revisiting your strategy and reaching out to your list of experts.

Conclusion

A great way to deal with feelings of uncertainty during this pandemic is to anticipate obstacles with a good plan – and a sure road to that is practicing strategic thinking.

In the coming months and years, you’ll need to continue navigating uncharted territory so that you can lead your team to safe waters. Regularly doing these 8 steps to strategic thinking will ensure that you can prepare for and adapt  to the coming changes with increasing clarity, perspective, and efficiency.[2]

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