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Signs of Low Self-Esteem that Aren’t Easy to Spot

Signs of Low Self-Esteem that Aren’t Easy to Spot

The world is a large place with many different people at many different points in their lives. Unfortunately, many of the avenues in society have put forth this idea that you need to be “good enough” for something. That, combined with bullying, has created quite a bad precedent that makes people feel as if they aren’t good enough, or that they won’t get anywhere in life. As many grow older, they realize that this isn’t the case. However, It can easily just be a front that people put up. Sometimes people haven’t developed a sense of self-esteem, but have gotten quite good at faking it. Even the people who put on the best mask have a tale.

Subtle Signs of Low Self-Esteem

There are many signs of low self-esteem, and the list seems to grow every day. However, some of the signs are quite subtle. They don’t stand out as much as others. If you know someone who exhibits these, or who you suspect has self-esteem issues, look for some of the signs. Amongst the many signs, three of the signs that can be connected to low self-esteem are as follows.

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1. They are way too focused on what others think

Those with low self-esteem are quite terrified of and dependent on what other people think about them. They begin to assume that the negative thoughts they are having about themselves are the way others think. They question their own value, and use others as portals for their insecurities. If someone you know has a tendency to say things like, “I just feel like I was annoying everyone tonight”, they probably have an issue with their self-esteem.

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2. They have the tendency of picking

When people have low self-esteem, at times they show it in peculiar, obsessive ways. One troubling habit is the tendency of picking. What’s meant by that is that they despise blemishes. They pick at hairs and scabs like it’s nobody’s business. That way they have an excuse to focus on something other than their own insecurities.

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3. They show hostility

You’d think that a person with low self-esteem wouldn’t fight back- that they would concur with anyone’s low opinion of them and therefore not resist any put-down. While this can be true, it can also cause the person to snap at others. They can become aggressively angry and super hostile unnecessarily in situations where it isn’t called for.

With all this being said, it should make it easier to identify those with self-esteem issues. Remember that they have issues with how other people think of them, so gentle encouragement is exactly what you’ll need to provide in order to help them. Be there for them and eventually they’ll come around to realizing that they have people who love and care about them!

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Last Updated on January 21, 2020

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

If I was a super hero I’d want my super power to be the ability to motivate everyone around me. Think of how many problems you could solve just by being able to motivate people towards their goals. You wouldn’t be frustrated by lazy co-workers. You wouldn’t be mad at your partner for wasting the weekend in front of the TV. Also, the more people around you are motivated toward their dreams, the more you can capitalize off their successes.

Being able to motivate people is key to your success at work, at home, and in the future because no one can achieve anything alone. We all need the help of others.

So, how to motivate people? Here are 7 ways to motivate others even you can do.

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1. Listen

Most people start out trying to motivate someone by giving them a lengthy speech, but this rarely works because motivation has to start inside others. The best way to motivate others is to start by listening to what they want to do. Find out what the person’s goals and dreams are. If it’s something you want to encourage, then continue through these steps.

2. Ask Open-Ended Questions

Open-ended questions are the best way to figure out what someone’s dreams are. If you can’t think of anything to ask, start with, “What have you always wanted to do?”

“Why do you want to do that?”

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“What makes you so excited about it?”

“How long has that been your dream?”

You need this information the help you with the following steps.

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3. Encourage

This is the most important step, because starting a dream is scary. People are so scared they will fail or look stupid, many never try to reach their goals, so this is where you come in. You must encourage them. Say things like, “I think you will be great at that.” Better yet, say, “I think your skills in X will help you succeed.” For example if you have a friend who wants to own a pet store, say, “You are so great with animals, I think you will be excellent at running a pet store.”

4. Ask About What the First Step Will Be

After you’ve encouraged them, find how they will start. If they don’t know, you can make suggestions, but it’s better to let the person figure out the first step themselves so they can be committed to the process.

5. Dream

This is the most fun step, because you can dream about success. Say things like, “Wouldn’t it be cool if your business took off, and you didn’t have to work at that job you hate?” By allowing others to dream, you solidify the motivation in place and connect their dreams to a future reality.

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6. Ask How You Can Help

Most of the time, others won’t need anything from you, but it’s always good to offer. Just letting the person know you’re there will help motivate them to start. And, who knows, maybe your skills can help.

7. Follow Up

Periodically, over the course of the next year, ask them how their goal is going. This way you can find out what progress has been made. You may need to do the seven steps again, or they may need motivation in another area of their life.

Final Thoughts

By following these seven steps, you’ll be able to encourage the people around you to achieve their dreams and goals. In return, you’ll be more passionate about getting to your goals, you’ll be surrounded by successful people, and others will want to help you reach your dreams …

Oh, and you’ll become a motivational super hero. Time to get a cape!

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