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Signs of Low Self-Esteem that Aren’t Easy to Spot

Signs of Low Self-Esteem that Aren’t Easy to Spot

The world is a large place with many different people at many different points in their lives. Unfortunately, many of the avenues in society have put forth this idea that you need to be “good enough” for something. That, combined with bullying, has created quite a bad precedent that makes people feel as if they aren’t good enough, or that they won’t get anywhere in life. As many grow older, they realize that this isn’t the case. However, It can easily just be a front that people put up. Sometimes people haven’t developed a sense of self-esteem, but have gotten quite good at faking it. Even the people who put on the best mask have a tale.

Subtle Signs of Low Self-Esteem

There are many signs of low self-esteem, and the list seems to grow every day. However, some of the signs are quite subtle. They don’t stand out as much as others. If you know someone who exhibits these, or who you suspect has self-esteem issues, look for some of the signs. Amongst the many signs, three of the signs that can be connected to low self-esteem are as follows.

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1. They are way too focused on what others think

Those with low self-esteem are quite terrified of and dependent on what other people think about them. They begin to assume that the negative thoughts they are having about themselves are the way others think. They question their own value, and use others as portals for their insecurities. If someone you know has a tendency to say things like, “I just feel like I was annoying everyone tonight”, they probably have an issue with their self-esteem.

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2. They have the tendency of picking

When people have low self-esteem, at times they show it in peculiar, obsessive ways. One troubling habit is the tendency of picking. What’s meant by that is that they despise blemishes. They pick at hairs and scabs like it’s nobody’s business. That way they have an excuse to focus on something other than their own insecurities.

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3. They show hostility

You’d think that a person with low self-esteem wouldn’t fight back- that they would concur with anyone’s low opinion of them and therefore not resist any put-down. While this can be true, it can also cause the person to snap at others. They can become aggressively angry and super hostile unnecessarily in situations where it isn’t called for.

With all this being said, it should make it easier to identify those with self-esteem issues. Remember that they have issues with how other people think of them, so gentle encouragement is exactly what you’ll need to provide in order to help them. Be there for them and eventually they’ll come around to realizing that they have people who love and care about them!

Featured photo credit: Ed Gregory via stokpic.com

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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