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4 Ways Long Distance Relationships Can Survive

4 Ways Long Distance Relationships Can Survive

Long distance relationships can prove to be a challenge. In this millennial world, we are all connected by technology hence distance seems a mere absence of physical contact. Over the years, long distance relationships have become the tradition and the challenge many couples have to go through. In the midst of opportunities and financial necessities, relationships often struggle to overcome the distance factor.

However, how can one recreate the intimacy while being miles apart? How do you create the exclusivity while being so far apart? How do you create the trust and confidence towards your relationship?

I found my answers after having experienced the Long Distance Relationship. After being part of the struggles and turmoils whilst finding support from similar couples who share my experience .

So how do we all do it ?

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1. Focus On Yourself First

In order to be happy and confident in your relationship, you need to be able to embrace yourself first. Through thick and thin you need to be able to love yourself. Your love is then shared with your partner, with pure trust and confidence. Sometimes we jump into relationships as a form of deep and rooted emotional support which eventually causes you to have an extremely high expectation whilst your partner feels he’s put in a pressure cooker.

This can be detrimental for yourself as well as your relationship. Never carry your baggage around and dump it on your partner, instead make peace with it and share it with them. Understanding is the key for an outstanding relationship hence sharing is the key. In order to reach such a mutual understanding, you would need to understand yourself first.

Take time for yourself and indulge in activities that can challenge your emotional boundaries. Once you’ve made peace with yourself, you would find being in a long distance relationship as part of your life instead of a huge burden.

2. Focus On Communication And Sharing Together

Communication is vital for any relationship especially if you’re miles apart. It’s what guarantees your relationship lasting, reduces anxieties and creates trust. Personally, I’ve had problems giving my full trust to someone. Often times, it impacts the one I care about the most . Eventually, I understood myself and eradicated the cause. I gave a chance to trust. However, this wouldn’t have been possible if the effort of communication wasn’t made.

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Sometimes I get these questions, ” My boyfriend doesn’t text me much , what do I do ? The key is to find a balance, create a routine and schedule your time spent together. Share with them videos, stories or anything that reminds you of them. Allow them to have a sneak peak to your world even if they aren’t accustomed to doing the same. Sometimes some people are too much into social media, so don’t get offended.

As long as you have a mutual understanding on how your communication should be, you’ll be able to cruise along the distance easily,

3. Create Memories Together

Memory is an amazing timeline to look back. Flashbacks are wonderful and ensure the life of the whole relationship . Remembering laughter , stress, and even tears can bring couples together. When staying apart in a long distance relationship, memories are an important element to keep your relationship progressing and keeping it special .

One way to create such memories is to travel the world together. One of my personal favorite locations would be the Canary Islands. It’s not only secluded but it also encompasses the elements of nature. It’s a place where you can not only get to know your partner but you can also enjoy the adventure of being there. Relax and enjoy the fine dining experiences and create the intimacy which has been non-existent due to the distance.

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You can also travel to places that would challenge your minds such as India and Philippines. You are definitely in for a challenge both with the food as well as language. This will test your relationship boundaries and understanding in your relationship. Why not try it?

4. Schedule Your Next Visit

Organization and scheduling are important if you and your partner are at opposite ends of the world. You need to have a certain timeline of spending time with each other while maintaining your real life. Having a concrete plan also allows you to be financially stable and gives you the anticipation to be reunited once again.

A couple I knew, a Vietnamese woman and a Brazilian man, fell in love in Russia and constantly shuffled countries to be close to each other. Despite the turmoil, they constantly scheduled their next visit sometimes a few months prior. This allowed them to have a form of anticipation and excitement .

Over time, this visits and travel created a story that’s unique to them and developed a sense of trust and commitment. Your relationship should be an unknown love story and perfect organization can guarantee that.

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In Conclusion

Having a long distance relationship can be a challenging adventure. However, the best of gems is found on rough rocks. Once you reach your final destination you will find all of this ultimately worth it .

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Last Updated on November 15, 2018

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

What do you think it takes to achieve your goals? Hard work? Lots of actions? While these are paramount to becoming successful in reaching our goals, neither of these are possible without a positive mindset.

As humans, we naturally tend to lean towards a negative outlook when it comes to our hopes and dreams. We are prone to believing that we have limitations either from within ourselves or from external forces keeping us from truly getting to where we want to be in life. Our tendency to think that we’ll “believe it when we see it” suggests that our mindsets are focused on our goals not really being attainable until they’ve been achieved. The problem with this is that this common mindset fuels our limiting beliefs and shows a lack of faith in ourselves.

The Success Mindset

Success in achieving our goals comes down to a ‘success mindset’. Successful mindsets are those focused on victory, based on positive mental attitudes, empowering inclinations and good habits. Acquiring a success mindset is the sure-fire way to dramatically increase your chance to achieve your goals.

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The idea that achieving our goals comes down to our habits and actions is actually a typical type of mindset that misses a crucial point; that our mindset is, in fact, the determiner of our energy and what actions we take. A negative mindset will tend to create negative actions and similarly if we have a mindset that will only set into action once we see ‘proof’ that our goals are achievable, then the road will be much longer and arduous. This is why, instead of thinking “I’ll believe it when I see it”, a success mindset will think “I’ll see it when I believe it.”

The Placebo Effect and What It Shows Us About The Power of Mindset

The placebo effect is a perfect example of how mindset really can be powerful. In scientific trials, a group of participants were told they received medication that will heal an ailment but were actually given a sugar pill that does nothing (the placebo). Yet after the trial the participants believed it’s had a positive effect – sometimes even cured their ailment even though nothing has changed. This is the power of mindset.

How do we apply this to our goals? Well, when we set goals and dreams how often do we really believe they’ll come to fruition? Have absolute faith that they can be achieved? Have a complete unwavering expectation? Most of us don’t because we hold on to negative mindsets and limiting beliefs about ourselves that stop us from fully believing we are capable or that it’s at all possible. We tend to listen to the opinions of others despite them misaligning with our own or bow to societal pressures that make us believe we should think and act a certain way. There are many reasons why we possess these types of mindsets but a success mindset can be achieved.

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How To Create a Success Mindset

People with success mindsets have a particular way of perceiving things. They have positive outlooks and are able to put faith fully in their ability to succeed. With that in mind, here are a few ways that can turn a negative mindset into a successful one.

1. A Success Mindset Comes From a Growth Mindset

How does a mindset even manifest itself? It comes from the way you talk to yourself in the privacy of your own head. Realising this will go a long way towards noticing how you speak to yourself and others around you. If it’s mainly negative language you use when you talk about your goals and aspirations then this is an example of a fixed mindset.

A negative mindset brings with it a huge number of limiting beliefs. It creates a fixed mindset – one that can’t see beyond it’s own limitations. A growth mindset sees these limitations and looks beyond them – it finds ways to overcome obstacles and believes that this will result in success. When you think of your goal, a fixed mindset may think “what if I fail?” A growth mindset would look at the same goal and think “failures happen but that doesn’t mean I won’t be successful.”

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There’s a lot of power in changing your perspective.

2. Look For The Successes

It’s really important to get your mind focused on positive aspects of your goal. Finding inspiration through others can be really uplifting and keep you on track with developing your success mindset; reinforcing your belief that your dreams can be achieved. Find people that you can talk with about how they achieved their goals and seek out and surround yourself with positive people. This is crucial if you’re learning to develop a positive mindset.

3. Eliminate Negativity

You can come up against a lot of negativity sometimes either through other people or within yourself. Understanding that other people’s negative opinions are created through their own fears and limiting beliefs will go a long way in sustaining your success mindset. But for a lot of us, negative chatter can come from within and these usually manifest as negative words such as can’t, won’t, shouldn’t. Sometimes, when we think of how we’re going to achieve our goals, statements in our minds come out as negative absolutes: ‘It never works out for me’ or ‘I always fail.’

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When you notice these coming up you need to turn them around with ‘It always works out for me!’ and ‘I never fail!’ The trick is to believe it no matter what’s happened in the past. Remember that every new day is a clean slate and for you to adjust your mindset.

4. Create a Vision

Envisioning your end goal and seeing it in your mind is an important trait of a success mindset. Allowing ourselves to imagine our success creates a powerful excitement that shouldn’t be underestimated. When our brain becomes excited at the thought of achieving our goals, we become more committed, work harder towards achieving it and more likely to do whatever it takes to make it happen.

If this involves creating a vision board that you can look at to remind yourself every day then go for it. Small techniques like this go a long way in sustaining your success mindset and shouldn’t be dismissed.

An Inspirational Story…

For centuries experts said that running a mile in under 4 minutes was humanly impossible. On the 6th May 1954, Rodger Bannister did just that. As part of his training, Bannister relentlessly visualised the achievement, believing he could accomplish what everyone said wasn’t possible…and he did it.

What’s more amazing is that, as soon as Bannister achieved the 4-minute mile, more and more people also achieved it. How was this possible after so many years of no one achieving it? Because in people’s minds it was suddenly possible – once people knew that it was achievable it created a mindset of success and now, after over fifty years since Bannister did the ‘impossible’, his record has been lowered by 17 seconds – the power of the success mindset!

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