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5 Ways to Ensure Online Dating Security and Success for Over 50

5 Ways to Ensure Online Dating Security and Success for Over 50

One of the fastest demographics rising from technology nowadays is online dating, with more singles ,especially seniors getting online every day. Whatever be your desire, whether a new partner or just a fun dating adventure, online dating sites are a great place to get started.

Studies have revealed that seniors speak more positively about online dating compared to the younger individuals. However, statements from senior citizens using online dating services also reveal that, the major causes of differences in online dating experiences is, “seniors often make better choices of online dating partners as they focus more on happiness and fun, showing every sign of maturity in their dating approaches” while the younger individuals may have a different focus.

Have you decided to meet someone online for a dating adventure? That is a forward thinking. Still, many people have had a lot of different experiences, especially seniors who may say, “it’s never a good idea”. Before you take up online dating adventures, please don’t be deceived into habits that will spoil your dating experience. The following tips on over-50 online dating should guide you in finding successful dates.

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1. Don’t judge people by their claims

When it comes to online dating, many people may not really be what they claim to be. Knowing this before taking your decision to join an online dating site is a great way to save yourself from awful experiences in the long run. There have been reported cases of bitter experiences from online dating sites and when viewed critically, it reveals that online daters with these experiences are those who never took the chance to study their dating partners.

Don’t be deceived by the charming profile details and give in too soon. Every experience from online dating starts right from the moment you set up your profile. Don’t be surprised how far your ‘profile set-up’ will go towards attracting positive people to you.The only claims worth believing in profiles are Age, job and location. Sometimes, even these claims too could be wrong.

2. Use a separate email for your online dating account

You won’t want to risk it I guess! Using the same email for commercial, family and friends for online dating account is the worst thing you can do. It’s true that most of the senior dating sites promise never to expose your email account to anyone or it’s usually perfectly safe but don’t risk it. A lot of cyber-crimes often reported mostly target the seniors and you can’t really say where fake identities get on. Because of this, it’s advisable to use a dating site that requires credit card information for sign up than the others which are free to sign up and anyone can get on there.

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3. Focus more on Having Fun

When you are happy with yourself, having great fun and enjoying the moment, you attract more people than expected. Your mission on a dating site is not about looking for people to like you or whatever else, especially as you are now over 50. What you need most is happiness and go for it.

Different people have different reasons for taking on online dating and this distinction is revealed between the young singles online dating sector and the over-50 online dating sector. While the younger individuals may be looking for a good dating/relationships which they hope will end up in marriages and have children, the over-50s,  especially the women in online dating sites may not really be concerned with having children or looking for marriages but just meeting good dating partners and having fun.

Know what you want and go for it. This will save you a lot of time, stress and create a wonderful dating adventure you ever wished for. Not every man in online dating sites are looking for the best dating partner but just meeting a partner who enjoys every moment with them and that partner might be you.

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4. Create a unique and engaging profile

Be honest. Make sure your profile is up to date and spells out your interests and hobbies. It’s OK to have similar interests and hobbies with others but have something that creates uniqueness in your dating profile. Be yourself and no one else. Even though everything thing about your profile would be same just as someone else’s, the tone should be different.

Be specific what you need and what you don’t. It’s smart to understand that many online daters especially seniors are not looking for marriages or serious relationships so know what a potential date is looking for on the platform and how it match your expectations before concluding they are a perfect match. For instance, a date who loves traveling and chocolates matching with yours may not need a serious relationship or marriage while you do. Can you see the difference?

Know this also that, sometimes humans are poor or excellent self-justifiers. To get the best about yourself on your profile, you could ask a friend for assistance who already had a positive online dating experience.

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5. Know what you are doing

You are on a dating site for a dating adventure and you are excited to meet a partner as fast as possible and have a fun-filled relationship you’ve always wished for. But, don’t make this your concentration. People tends to take advantage of your excitement and you won’t know when you are vulnerable.

What you need to do first is concentrate more on the things that make you happy, gives you joy, guarantees your good health, your good relationship with families and friends, your career or profession. Being a happy and interesting person will attract interesting and special people to you. Go for fun and never expect much from a partner until you know them pretty much. Pay careful attention to your conversations, their profile and communication tone and everything else that is revealed to you.

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Last Updated on November 15, 2018

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

What do you think it takes to achieve your goals? Hard work? Lots of actions? While these are paramount to becoming successful in reaching our goals, neither of these are possible without a positive mindset.

As humans, we naturally tend to lean towards a negative outlook when it comes to our hopes and dreams. We are prone to believing that we have limitations either from within ourselves or from external forces keeping us from truly getting to where we want to be in life. Our tendency to think that we’ll “believe it when we see it” suggests that our mindsets are focused on our goals not really being attainable until they’ve been achieved. The problem with this is that this common mindset fuels our limiting beliefs and shows a lack of faith in ourselves.

The Success Mindset

Success in achieving our goals comes down to a ‘success mindset’. Successful mindsets are those focused on victory, based on positive mental attitudes, empowering inclinations and good habits. Acquiring a success mindset is the sure-fire way to dramatically increase your chance to achieve your goals.

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The idea that achieving our goals comes down to our habits and actions is actually a typical type of mindset that misses a crucial point; that our mindset is, in fact, the determiner of our energy and what actions we take. A negative mindset will tend to create negative actions and similarly if we have a mindset that will only set into action once we see ‘proof’ that our goals are achievable, then the road will be much longer and arduous. This is why, instead of thinking “I’ll believe it when I see it”, a success mindset will think “I’ll see it when I believe it.”

The Placebo Effect and What It Shows Us About The Power of Mindset

The placebo effect is a perfect example of how mindset really can be powerful. In scientific trials, a group of participants were told they received medication that will heal an ailment but were actually given a sugar pill that does nothing (the placebo). Yet after the trial the participants believed it’s had a positive effect – sometimes even cured their ailment even though nothing has changed. This is the power of mindset.

How do we apply this to our goals? Well, when we set goals and dreams how often do we really believe they’ll come to fruition? Have absolute faith that they can be achieved? Have a complete unwavering expectation? Most of us don’t because we hold on to negative mindsets and limiting beliefs about ourselves that stop us from fully believing we are capable or that it’s at all possible. We tend to listen to the opinions of others despite them misaligning with our own or bow to societal pressures that make us believe we should think and act a certain way. There are many reasons why we possess these types of mindsets but a success mindset can be achieved.

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How To Create a Success Mindset

People with success mindsets have a particular way of perceiving things. They have positive outlooks and are able to put faith fully in their ability to succeed. With that in mind, here are a few ways that can turn a negative mindset into a successful one.

1. A Success Mindset Comes From a Growth Mindset

How does a mindset even manifest itself? It comes from the way you talk to yourself in the privacy of your own head. Realising this will go a long way towards noticing how you speak to yourself and others around you. If it’s mainly negative language you use when you talk about your goals and aspirations then this is an example of a fixed mindset.

A negative mindset brings with it a huge number of limiting beliefs. It creates a fixed mindset – one that can’t see beyond it’s own limitations. A growth mindset sees these limitations and looks beyond them – it finds ways to overcome obstacles and believes that this will result in success. When you think of your goal, a fixed mindset may think “what if I fail?” A growth mindset would look at the same goal and think “failures happen but that doesn’t mean I won’t be successful.”

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There’s a lot of power in changing your perspective.

2. Look For The Successes

It’s really important to get your mind focused on positive aspects of your goal. Finding inspiration through others can be really uplifting and keep you on track with developing your success mindset; reinforcing your belief that your dreams can be achieved. Find people that you can talk with about how they achieved their goals and seek out and surround yourself with positive people. This is crucial if you’re learning to develop a positive mindset.

3. Eliminate Negativity

You can come up against a lot of negativity sometimes either through other people or within yourself. Understanding that other people’s negative opinions are created through their own fears and limiting beliefs will go a long way in sustaining your success mindset. But for a lot of us, negative chatter can come from within and these usually manifest as negative words such as can’t, won’t, shouldn’t. Sometimes, when we think of how we’re going to achieve our goals, statements in our minds come out as negative absolutes: ‘It never works out for me’ or ‘I always fail.’

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When you notice these coming up you need to turn them around with ‘It always works out for me!’ and ‘I never fail!’ The trick is to believe it no matter what’s happened in the past. Remember that every new day is a clean slate and for you to adjust your mindset.

4. Create a Vision

Envisioning your end goal and seeing it in your mind is an important trait of a success mindset. Allowing ourselves to imagine our success creates a powerful excitement that shouldn’t be underestimated. When our brain becomes excited at the thought of achieving our goals, we become more committed, work harder towards achieving it and more likely to do whatever it takes to make it happen.

If this involves creating a vision board that you can look at to remind yourself every day then go for it. Small techniques like this go a long way in sustaining your success mindset and shouldn’t be dismissed.

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For centuries experts said that running a mile in under 4 minutes was humanly impossible. On the 6th May 1954, Rodger Bannister did just that. As part of his training, Bannister relentlessly visualised the achievement, believing he could accomplish what everyone said wasn’t possible…and he did it.

What’s more amazing is that, as soon as Bannister achieved the 4-minute mile, more and more people also achieved it. How was this possible after so many years of no one achieving it? Because in people’s minds it was suddenly possible – once people knew that it was achievable it created a mindset of success and now, after over fifty years since Bannister did the ‘impossible’, his record has been lowered by 17 seconds – the power of the success mindset!

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