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Here’s how to make life decisions if you are a student.

Here’s how to make life decisions if you are a student.

Decisions, decisions, decisions, we are making decisions 24/7. Would you have coffee now or later? Burger or salad? Pants or skirt? Am I going out or staying in? Every day we are struggling with decisions and of course we want to make the right ones, sometimes that can be a little bit harder, to be able to see all the positive or negative effects that something will bring to you and your life.

We are used to hearing people saying: do this or don’t, asking friends and mentors for advice and even doing some tests online just to double check if we are right but well, this is something everybody goes thru.

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Choosing a degree

To keep studying and getting a degree is the most common option young people take. If you are thinking about choosing a degree there are several aspects to consider, luckily you have come to the right place. The most poetic advice is to listen to your heart and I mean that’s a fantastic start.

But if you are still having doubts, you can search and read useful information that can help you to choose a degree and make everything clearer for you, especially in that stage of your life. There are many apps like Clearing, a course search engine with useful information to help you make up your mind.

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A similar option that freshmen take, is to look for some universities abroad and enjoy the experiences of living in a new place and getting a degree or even a master’s degree at the same time. This experience can bring a lot of benefits into our lives; you can have the opportunity to witness a completely new way of life and learn about new cultures.

Stop worrying too much.

Now, you might have been living alone for quite a while or it could be that you are still living with your parents. If you are already living alone, then you have manage to live on your own and congrats for that, no matter if you are still cooking instants soups. If you’re still with your old folks, it may be a little bit difficult to do the transit to your own apartment. It’s a bittersweet moment of life when the excitement for everything waiting to be discovered meets the uncertainty of the unknown.

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But that will pass. It will take time, but it’s nothing that Netflix won’t fix. Like the North Carolina Home Builder‘s say, preparing to buy your first home can be overwhelming, but you need to be financially prepared, that’s why many young people have trouble, because they do not plan ahead for it.

It’s ok to allow yourself to feel homesick sometimes, but it can be exhaustive if you let the feeling in for too long. There are thousands of students just like you. If you are experiencing something like this, it is time for you (after a good nap if you have time for one) to  jump into the shower, dress up, and go for a walk.

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You can go to the community room if your school has one, to a little pub just around the corner if you are studying in a small town, or you can check out some concerts available on the next days in your city. If you want some more tips, you can also check this list for dealing with homesickness.

If you are planning on living on the university campus, you can search for some ideas of colleges with the best dorms, ‘cus let’s face it, nobody wants to spend most of his or her time somewhere he or she feels like they don’t belong.

Also with all the new rising awareness of sexual assaults on the campus, it’s time for men and women to walk with their eyes open to everything you may face with the frats or faculties. Here are further some tips. You never know when you are going to need this advice, so better be ready than sorry.

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Last Updated on January 3, 2020

The 10 Essential Habits of Positive People

The 10 Essential Habits of Positive People

Are you waiting for life events to turn out the way you want so that you can feel more positive about your life? Do you find yourself having pre-conditions to your sense of well-being, thinking that certain things must happen for you to be happier? Do you think there is no way that your life stresses can make you anything other than “stressed out” and that other people just don’t understand?  If your answer is “yes” to any of these questions, you might find yourself lingering in the land of negativity for too long!

The following are some tips to keep positive no matter what comes your way. This post will help you stop looking for what psychologists call “positivity” in all the wrong places!  Here are the ten essential habits of positive people.

1. Positive people don’t confuse quitting with letting go.

Instead of hanging on to ideas, beliefs, and even people that are no longer healthy for them, they trust their judgement to let go of negative forces in their lives.  Especially in terms of relationships, they subscribe to The Relationship Prayer which goes:

 I will grant myself the ability to trust the healthy people in my life … 

To set limits with, or let go of, the negative ones … 

And to have the wisdom to know the DIFFERENCE!

 2.  Positive people don’t just have a good day – they make a good day.

Waiting, hoping and wishing seldom have a place in the vocabulary of positive individuals. Rather, they use strong words that are pro-active and not reactive. Passivity leads to a lack of involvement, while positive people get very involved in constructing their lives. They work to make changes to feel better in tough times rather than wish their feelings away.

3. For the positive person, the past stays in the past.

Good and bad memories alike stay where they belong – in the past where they happened. They don’t spend much time pining for the good ol’ days because they are too busy making new memories now. The negative pulls from the past are used not for self-flagellation or unproductive regret, but rather productive regret where they use lessons learned as stepping stones towards a better future.

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4. Show me a positive person and I can show you a grateful person.

The most positive people are the most grateful people.  They do not focus on the potholes of their lives.  They focus on the pot of gold that awaits them every day, with new smells, sights, feelings and experiences.  They see life as a treasure chest full of wonder.

5. Rather than being stuck in their limitations, positive people are energized by their possibilities.

Optimistic people focus on what they can do, not what they can’t do.  They are not fooled to think that there is a perfect solution to every problem, and are confident that there are many solutions and possibilities.  They are not afraid to attempt new solutions to old problems, rather than spin their wheels expecting things to be different this time.  They refuse to be like Charlie Brown expecting that this time Lucy will not pull the football from him!

6. Positive people do not let their fears interfere with their lives!

Positive people have observed that those who are defined and pulled back by their fears never really truly live a full life. While proceeding with appropriate caution, they do not let fear keep them from trying new things. They realize that even failures are necessary steps for a successful life. They have confidence that they can get back up when they are knocked down by life events or their own mistakes, due to a strong belief in their personal resilience.

7. Positive people smile a lot!

When you feel positive on the inside it is like you are smiling from within, and these smiles are contagious. Furthermore, the more others are with positive people, the more they tend to smile too! They see the lightness in life, and have a sense of humor even when it is about themselves. Positive people have a high degree of self-respect, but refuse to take themselves too seriously!

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8. People who are positive are great communicators.

They realize that assertive, confident communication is the only way to connect with others in everyday life.  They avoid judgmental, angry interchanges, and do not let someone else’s blow up give them a reason to react in kind. Rather, they express themselves with tact and finesse.  They also refuse to be non-assertive and let people push them around. They refuse to own problems that belong to someone else.

9. Positive people realize that if you live long enough, there are times for great pain and sadness.

One of the most common misperceptions about positive people is that to be positive, you must always be happy. This can not be further from the truth. Anyone who has any depth at all is certainly not happy all the time.  Being sad, angry, disappointed are all essential emotions in life. How else would you ever develop empathy for others if you lived a life of denial and shallow emotions? Positive people do not run from the gamut of emotions, and accept that part of the healing process is to allow themselves to experience all types of feelings, not only the happy ones. A positive person always holds the hope that there is light at the end of the darkness.  

10. Positive person are empowered people – they refuse to blame others and are not victims in life.

Positive people seek the help and support of others who are supportive and safe.They limit interactions with those who are toxic in any manner, even if it comes to legal action and physical estrangement such as in the case of abuse. They have identified their own basic human rights, and they respect themselves too much to play the part of a victim. There is no place for holding grudges with a positive mindset. Forgiveness helps positive people become better, not bitter.

How about you?  How many habits of positive people do you personally find in yourself?  If you lack even a few of these 10 essential habits, you might find that the expected treasure at the end of the rainbow was not all that it was cracked up to be. How could it — if you keep on bringing a negative attitude around?

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I wish you well in keeping positive, because as we all know, there is certainly nothing positive about being negative!

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