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Adult Life Is Full Of Irony, But You Can Choose To Live It At Your Own Pace

Adult Life Is Full Of Irony, But You Can Choose To Live It At Your Own Pace

When we were kids, we couldn’t wait to reach the adulthood where all the things seemed awesome, like not having to wait for pocket money, or go to bed early. However, when we finally reached that desired age, we see that it’s not always so awesome and that there are much more responsibilities than we thought. You earn your money, but don’t have time to spend it. You go to bed late because of being busy, but you want to sleep early.

A talented artist Shenanigansen from Massachusetts brilliantly illustrates everyday struggles of growing up. Yet, all those seemingly serious problems and dilemmas can be overcome if you decide to consider them from a different point of view. Yes, there are some situations that seem like an ironic twist, but in every such situation there is a lesson to learn which can help you at some point in your life.

1. Approach every situation as a new lesson

Whatever life throws at you, don’t beat up yourself thinking there’s no way out. Every situation can either bring something positive, and even if it’s something you would rather not go through and just give up, hang on, you will definitely learn a valuable lesson.

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    2. Start you mornings by doing things you love

    Don’t start your day thinking about the problems, rather think about what you can do to make yourself feel better, and solutions will come to you. Play your favorite music while drinking coffee, or read a few pages of your favorite book, maybe do some exercise, and you will feel packed with positive emotions and energy.

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      3. Find people you have common interests with

      It might seem harder to make friends as an adult. Yet, you are now at the age when you know what things interest you. Therefore, try to make friends who share your interests. Attend concerts of your favorite musicians, go to book clubs, go to dancing classes; there will sure be someone you can become close friends with.

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        4. Happiness is just a corner away

        Happiness is not some big unachievable abstraction. It shouldn’t feel as a struggle, but rather an enjoyable process. Start with finding joy and happiness in small things, such as drinking coffee with friends, watching your favorite TV show, buying a new book. When you start appreciating small things, bigger reasons for happiness will surely come.

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          5. Take at least 15 minutes each day to unwind

          Stressing out brings you no good, that’s why it is a good thing to take 15 minutes each day to unwind – meditate, take a longer bath with candles and a glass of wine, or simply lie down and relax your body.

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            6. Take care of your body

            Stop making excuses for not taking care of your health. There’s no time like the present. Take care about what you eat, and you will start to feel better and have more energy.

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              7. Motivation can bring you a long way

              Even if you are doing something you don’t like, and you feel like it would be better to just quit and run away, motivate yourself by doing something you really like, but only after you’ve finished your task. There’s no better feeling when you finish something you were putting off for a long time.

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                8. Be the best version of yourself

                Don’t make yourself feel bad by comparing yourself to other people, we are all unique and you should try to do the best of your abilities, otherwise, you will never be satisfied.

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                  9. Talk about what troubles you

                  It is always easier when you share your worries with someone else. They might have been in a similar situation and can provide you with a great advice from their own experience, or just be there to support you through the rough patch.

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                    10. Every problem has a solution

                    The sooner you deal with what’s troubling you, the better you will feel, and will overcome obstacles in the future more easily.

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                      11. Problems = challenges

                      You can place the blame for your problems on someone/something else, but they are only problems if you treat them that way. Start looking at problems as chances for personal growth.

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                        12. Don’t be a slave to material things

                        It’s OK to treat yourself to some new piece of clothing or a fresh new gadget, but don’t let this desire for material go too deep. Learn to appreciate and be grateful for all non-material things, such as good health, love, family and friendship bonds.

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                          13. Everything is not what it looks like online

                          It may seem that your friends have a perfect life on social media. However, bear in mind that reality is often different and try spending less time online and more time enjoying life outside social media.

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                            14. Love yourself

                            Write down all the positive traits you like about yourself; you can also ask your friends or family to do the same, and every time you feel down, just read it, and you will immediately feel better.

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                              15. Don’t run away from responsibilities

                              Responsibilities will catch up with you no matter how fast you run – the sooner you face them, the better you will feel.

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                                9 Simple Ways to Always Stay Positive

                                9 Simple Ways to Always Stay Positive

                                It’s common to be struck with a bout of pessimism, or to naturally be more towards the pessimistic end of the perspective spectrum. It’s hard to see the positives in life and become an optimist when you’re lost in the murky waters of negative thinking.

                                However, Henrik Edberg, the founder of The Positivity Blog is here to share nine ways we can create a more optimistic outlook and positive perspective:

                                “Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.” — Maria Robinson

                                When I was younger — in my teens and early 20s — I was trapped. Not physically, but mentally: by the destructive thought pattern called pessimism. This negative thinking poisoned what might have been a pretty good and opportunity-filled childhood, adolescence, and early adulthood. This pessimism created ceilings and walls where there really were none.

                                Throughout the period when I was ridden by pessimism, my life and I mostly stood still. Looking back, it was a terrible waste. If you are in pessimistic place, you don’t have to stay there for the rest of your life. I didn’t, for I learned to replace my negative thinking with optimism.

                                In this article I’ll explore nine positivity habits that have helped me to go from someone who was pessimistic most of the time to someone who is now optimistic almost all the time. I recommend to not try to add all the habits at one go but to choose one habit and to practice it for 30 days so it becomes a habit, before adding the next.

                                1. Ask Yourself the Right Questions

                                This is the simplest but perhaps also the most important habit I have discovered in adopting an optimistic mindset. The questions we ask ourselves day in and day out when we wind up in negative, difficult or uncertain situations make all the difference in our life.

                                A pessimist might ask him/herself questions like:

                                • “Why did this happen to me?”
                                • “Why do bad things happen to me all the time?”

                                But an optimist asks him/herself the questions that open up the mind to new viewpoints and possibilities. A few of my favorite questions for finding the optimistic perspective are:

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                                • “What is one good thing about this situation?”
                                • “What can I learn from this situation?”
                                • “What is one small step I can take today to start solving this situation?”

                                2. Create a Positive Environment to Live In

                                The people you spend your time with and the information you let influence your mind will have a huge effect on your attitude and how you think about things.

                                Watch this YouTube video and learn the power of a positive environment:

                                So choose to:

                                • Spend more time with the people who lift you up. And less time – or no time – with people who just bring you down by being negative and critical. Read: You are the Average of the 5 People You Spend the Most Time With
                                • Let in the information that supports you. Spend less time on negative and self-esteem damaging media sources and spend more time reading positive and constructive blogs and books, watching motivating movies, listening to inspirational songs, and listening to audio books and podcasts created by optimistic people. Check out 12 Inspirational Movies With Important Life Lessons To Learn and 25 Most Inspirational Songs of All Time.

                                3. Be Grateful for What You Have (Don’t Forget About Yourself Too)

                                A very simple and quick way to boost the positive energy in your life is to tap into gratitude.

                                I usually do it by asking one or more of these questions:

                                1. What can I be grateful for in my life today?
                                2. Who are 3 people that I can be grateful to have in my life and why?
                                3. What are 3 things I can be grateful for about myself?

                                Just spend 60 seconds or a few minutes during your day with answering one of these questions to reap the wonderful benefits.

                                4. Don’t Forget About Your Physical Self

                                Being an optimist isn’t just about thinking in a different way. It is also about caring for the physical part of ourselves.

                                I have found that working out a couple of times a week, enough quality sleep each night and eating healthy food has a huge effect on my mindset.

                                If I mismanage those very basic things then negative thoughts pop up far more often and I become more pessimistic and shut down about the possibilities in my life.

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                                So don’t neglect these basic fundamentals. Just caring for your physical self the right way can minimize a whole bunch of problems in life.

                                5. Start Your Day in an Optimistic Way

                                The way you start your morning can set the tone for the rest of your day. For example, a stress-free morning often leads to less stress during the rest of the day.

                                So how can you set an optimistic tone for your day?

                                A three-step combination that has worked very well for me is to ask myself a gratitude question during breakfast, read some positive information online or in a book very early in the morning and then follow that up with exercising.

                                This sets my mind on the right path and fills me up with energy for my day.

                                6. Focus on Solutions

                                A sure way to feel more negative about a situation is to sit around and do nothing about it. Instead, use the questions I shared in step one and open up your mind to the possibilities of the situation you are in.

                                If you have trouble to get started with taking action, ask yourself:

                                What is one small step I can take today to get the ball rolling?

                                Then take that small step forward. However small this step is, it can have a big effect in your mood and thoughts. If the step feels too big or it just makes you procrastinate, then ask yourself:

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                                What is an even smaller step I can take to move forward today?

                                The most important thing is to move forward, even if it’s a tiny baby step.

                                7. Reduce Your Worries

                                The worrying habit is a powerful and destructive one and can take over anyone’s thinking. It used to be one of my biggest obstacles to optimism and to moving forward in life.

                                Two effective steps that have helped me and still help me to this day to minimize the worries are:

                                1. Ask yourself: how many of my worries ever happened in reality? If you are like me you will find that the answer is: very few. Most of the things you fear throughout your life will never happen. They are just nightmares or monsters in your own mind. This question can help you to do a reality check, to calm down and to realize that you have most likely just been building another imaginary nightmare.
                                2. Focus on solutions and the action you can take. The worries grow stronger in a foggy mind and an inactive body. So use the questions in Steps 1 and 6 to move out of your worries and into resolution.

                                8. Don’t Let Ideals Ruin Things

                                A common mistake people make when making a shift in their attitudes is that they think that they have be perfect and do things perfectly all the time. This traps them from being positive.

                                Changing to a positive attitude can be gradual. While you may slip and stumble, continuing this way over time will strengthen your positive viewpoint more and more.

                                But if you set an inhuman standard for yourself and think you have to go from being a pessimist to always being an optimist, then you may find it hard to live up to that. And so you may feel like a failure. You get angry with yourself. And you may even give up on changing this habit and fall back into negative thinking.

                                So instead, focus on gradual change. If you are optimistic 40% of the time right now, try to improve this to being optimistic 60% of the time. Then, increase that to 80% when you are used to the new standard, then subsequently 100% if you can.

                                This focus on gradual improvement is far more sustainable and likely to bring long-term success than trying to reach an inhuman standard grounded in perfection.

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                                9. Finally, a Reminder to Help You to Not Give Up

                                I would like to end this article with a simple but powerful and timeless thought that comforted and encouraged me to continue on when things looked bleak.

                                That thought is: It is always darkest before the dawn.

                                This thought has helped me to hold on and keep going when my social skills and dating life was just plain bad. It has helped me to continue on in my online business when things looked like they would never pick up. It has helped me to put one foot over another even when things looked dark.

                                I have found this thought to be very true. Why? Because when things seemed to be at the lowest for my blog, business, dating life or life in general, something positive would always happened. That’s probably because being at a low point forced me to change how I did things.

                                But maybe also because life has a way of evening itself out when I go on. By taking action rather than give up, something good will always happens.

                                Seeing this thought live itself out has strengthened my belief in staying optimistic, in taking action and to keep going even when going through rough patches.

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