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5 Ways To Support A Friend Who Can’t Land A Job

5 Ways To Support A Friend Who Can’t Land A Job

Millennials have a hard time adjusting to adult life after college graduation, as the huge responsibility, the multiple bills and the pressure to support themselves prove to be too much for them. The main reason which lies at the bottom of all of these struggles is the low chance of finding a job.

With hundreds of millennials graduating at the same time in one area, the career opportunities for individuals drop significantly. Especially since most candidates are very good and have similar skills. The unemployment rates are rising and millennials are one of the generations who have a very hard time landing a job. Even those who manage to get a job are in trouble: 44% of millennials are stuck in low wage jobs.

Yet, if you check social media, you will notice all your colleagues and friends already have a good job and enjoy life, while you stay at home, depressed by the huge pressure of adulthood.

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If you recognize your friend in this scenario, you should know the lack of a job, merged with the apparent well-being of everyone you can see online, can lead to severe depression. This means you should be serious about providing support for your friend who can’t land a job.

The problem is how to do it. If you are not in his or her shoes, you can’t relate to their feelings and you might have a hard time knowing what to say and what to do. So, how do you support an unlucky friend, whose career is virtually nonexistent?

1. Find free ways to spend time together

When you have a job, as crappy as it may be, you probably can afford a couple of drinks and sandwiches, but for someone who is unemployed, these can break the bank. When your friend doesn’t have a job, make sure you meet him or her in free places, such as parks, where there is no minimum spending rule.

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If you think you can get away with paying for your friend’s consummation, you should think twice, as this can be very embarrassing for them. If your friend is reluctant to go out, make sure you convince him or her, as it’s important to get out of the house for someone who suffers from depression or is in a depressive state.

2. Learn how to talk about your own job

When the main difference between you and your friend is a job, sharing your experiences and accomplishments with your jobless millennial friend can become tricky.

Emphasizing the fact you have a job is the last thing you want to do, but you should be able to talk about your achievements and celebrate them with your friend. Just make sure you are not hurting them – get clues from looking at your friend and analyze their behavior. If they seem to feel awkward, change the subject!

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3. Encourage your friend before a job interview

When you are still looking for a job, having an interview is a big thing! Support your friend by wishing him or her good luck before the interview and check on them after the interview.

Showing that you are interested is going to make your friend loved and supported, which gives him or her more confidence and shows them they are not alone.

4. When a job shows up, let your friend know

Another great way to show your friend that you still support him or her, despite the fact they don’t have a job is to talk to him or her about any new job opening or ad you may come across. Job openings show up all the time at companies and if you have reliable friends who can inform you about them way before the public finds out, you are definitely in advantage.

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From another point of view, job searching is not pleasant and after doing this for a long time, you start to see all jobs the same way, which makes your prone to skipping good opportunities. Help your friend by sending him or her the information on the job openings you stumble upon.

5. Don’t let them quit

After a long time of job searching, your friend might want to quit, feeling hopeless. Nowadays, people apply and are interviewed dozens of times. When you’ve been through this process multiple times and it all failed, your application being rejected, you start to feel you are alone in this cruel world.

Remind your friend he or she is not alone. Just being there for them can make a huge difference. Show your friend life is still worth living, even without a job, which is going to show up sooner or later. Remind your friend how amazing he or she is and that a job is not going to define them as a person.

A job is just a job in the end, but friendship is more important, so make sure you support your friend during the job search. Even if all you do is sharing a bottle of wine together, on the floor!

Featured photo credit: annelope/Flickr via flickr.com

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Last Updated on March 29, 2021

5 Types of Horrible Bosses and How to Beat Them All

5 Types of Horrible Bosses and How to Beat Them All

When I left university I took a job immediately, I had been lucky as I had spent a year earning almost nothing as an intern so I was offered a role. On my first day I found that I had not been allocated a desk, there was no one to greet me so I was left for some hours ignored. I happened to snipe about this to another employee at the coffee machine two things happened. The first was that the person I had complained to was my new manager’s wife, and the second was, in his own words, ‘that he would come down on me like a ton of bricks if I crossed him…’

What a great start to a job! I had moved to a new city, and had been at work for less than a morning when I had my first run in with the first style of bad manager. I didn’t stay long enough to find out what Mr Agressive would do next. Bad managers are a major issue. Research from Approved Index shows that more than four in ten employees (42%) state that they have previously quit a job because of a bad manager.

The Dream Type Of Manager

My best manager was a total opposite. A man who had been the head of the UK tax system and was working his retirement running a company I was a very junior and green employee for. I made a stupid mistake, one which cost a lot of time and money and I felt I was going to be sacked without doubt.

I was nervous, beating myself up about what I had done, what would happen. At the end of the day I was called to his office, he had made me wait and I had spent that day talking to other employees, trying to understand where I had gone wrong. It had been a simple mistyped line of code which sent a massive print job out totally wrong. I learn how I should have done it and I fretted.

My boss asked me to step into his office, he asked me to sit down. “Do you know what you did?” I babbled, yes, I had been stupid, I had not double-checked or asked for advice when I was doing something I had not really understood. It was totally my fault. He paused. “Will you do that again?” Of course I told him I would not, I would always double check, ask for help and not try to be so clever when I was not!

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“Okay…”

That was it. I paused and asked, should I clear my desk. He smiled. “You have learnt a valuable lesson, I can be sure that you will never make a mistake like that again. Why would I want to get rid of an employee who knows that?”

I stayed with that company for many years, the way I was treated was a real object lesson in good management. Sadly, far too many poor managers exist out there.

The Complete Catalogue of Bad Managers

The Bully

My first boss fitted into the classic bully class. This is so often the ‘old school’ management by power style. I encountered this style again in the retail sector where one manager felt the only way to get the best from staff was to bawl and yell.

However, like so many bullies you will often find that this can be someone who either knows no better or is under stress and they are themselves running scared of the situation they have found themselves in.

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The Invisible Boss

This can either present itself as management from afar (usually the golf course or ‘important meetings) or just a boss who is too busy being important to deal with their staff.

It can feel refreshing as you will often have almost total freedom with your manager taking little or no interest in your activities, however you will soon find that you also lack the support that a good manager will provide. Without direction you may feel you are doing well just to find that you are not delivering against expectations you were not told about and suddenly it is all your fault.

The Micro Manager

The frustration of having a manager who feels the need to be involved in everything you do. The polar opposite to the Invisible Boss you will feel that there is no trust in your work as they will want to meddle in everything you do.

Dealing with the micro-manager can be difficult. Often their management style comes from their own insecurity. You can try confronting them, tell them that you can do your job however in many cases this will not succeed and can in fact make things worse.

The Over Promoted Boss

The Over promoted boss categorises someone who has no idea. They have found themselves in a management position through service, family or some corporate mystery. They are people who are not only highly unqualified to be managers they will generally be unable to do even your job.

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You can find yourself persistently frustrated by the situation you are in, however it can seem impossible to get out without handing over your resignation.

The Credit Stealer

The credit stealer is the boss who will never publically acknowledge the work you do. You will put in the extra hours working on a project and you know that, in the ‘big meeting’ it will be your credit stealing boss who will take all of the credit!

Again it is demoralising, you see all of the credit for your labour being stolen and this can often lead to good employees looking for new careers.

3 Essential Ways to Work (Cope) with Bad Managers

Whatever type of bad boss you have there are certain things that you can do to ensure that you get the recognition and protection you require to not only remain sane but to also build your career.

1. Keep evidence

Whether it is incidents with the bully or examples of projects you have completed with the credit stealer you will always be well served to keep notes and supporting evidence for projects you are working on.

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Buy your own notebook and ensure that you are always making notes, it becomes a habit and a very useful one as you have a constant reminder as well as somewhere to explore ideas.

Importantly, if you do have to go to HR or stand-up for yourself you will have clear records! Also, don’t always trust that corporate servers or emails will always be available or not tampered with. Keep your own content.

2. Hold regular meetings

Ensure that you make time for regular meetings with your boss. This is especially useful for the over-promoted or the invisible boss to allow you to ‘manage upwards’. Take charge where you can to set your objectives and use these meetings to set clear objectives and document the status of your work.

3. Stand your ground, but be ready to jump…

Remember that you don’t have to put up with poor management. If you have issues you should face them with your boss, maybe they do not know that they are coming across in a bad way.

However, be ready to recognise if the situation is not going to change. If that is the case, keep your head down and get working on polishing your CV! If it isn’t working, there will be something better out there for you!

Good luck!

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