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5 Ways To Support A Friend Who Can’t Land A Job

5 Ways To Support A Friend Who Can’t Land A Job

Millennials have a hard time adjusting to adult life after college graduation, as the huge responsibility, the multiple bills and the pressure to support themselves prove to be too much for them. The main reason which lies at the bottom of all of these struggles is the low chance of finding a job.

With hundreds of millennials graduating at the same time in one area, the career opportunities for individuals drop significantly. Especially since most candidates are very good and have similar skills. The unemployment rates are rising and millennials are one of the generations who have a very hard time landing a job. Even those who manage to get a job are in trouble: 44% of millennials are stuck in low wage jobs.

Yet, if you check social media, you will notice all your colleagues and friends already have a good job and enjoy life, while you stay at home, depressed by the huge pressure of adulthood.

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If you recognize your friend in this scenario, you should know the lack of a job, merged with the apparent well-being of everyone you can see online, can lead to severe depression. This means you should be serious about providing support for your friend who can’t land a job.

The problem is how to do it. If you are not in his or her shoes, you can’t relate to their feelings and you might have a hard time knowing what to say and what to do. So, how do you support an unlucky friend, whose career is virtually nonexistent?

1. Find free ways to spend time together

When you have a job, as crappy as it may be, you probably can afford a couple of drinks and sandwiches, but for someone who is unemployed, these can break the bank. When your friend doesn’t have a job, make sure you meet him or her in free places, such as parks, where there is no minimum spending rule.

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If you think you can get away with paying for your friend’s consummation, you should think twice, as this can be very embarrassing for them. If your friend is reluctant to go out, make sure you convince him or her, as it’s important to get out of the house for someone who suffers from depression or is in a depressive state.

2. Learn how to talk about your own job

When the main difference between you and your friend is a job, sharing your experiences and accomplishments with your jobless millennial friend can become tricky.

Emphasizing the fact you have a job is the last thing you want to do, but you should be able to talk about your achievements and celebrate them with your friend. Just make sure you are not hurting them – get clues from looking at your friend and analyze their behavior. If they seem to feel awkward, change the subject!

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3. Encourage your friend before a job interview

When you are still looking for a job, having an interview is a big thing! Support your friend by wishing him or her good luck before the interview and check on them after the interview.

Showing that you are interested is going to make your friend loved and supported, which gives him or her more confidence and shows them they are not alone.

4. When a job shows up, let your friend know

Another great way to show your friend that you still support him or her, despite the fact they don’t have a job is to talk to him or her about any new job opening or ad you may come across. Job openings show up all the time at companies and if you have reliable friends who can inform you about them way before the public finds out, you are definitely in advantage.

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From another point of view, job searching is not pleasant and after doing this for a long time, you start to see all jobs the same way, which makes your prone to skipping good opportunities. Help your friend by sending him or her the information on the job openings you stumble upon.

5. Don’t let them quit

After a long time of job searching, your friend might want to quit, feeling hopeless. Nowadays, people apply and are interviewed dozens of times. When you’ve been through this process multiple times and it all failed, your application being rejected, you start to feel you are alone in this cruel world.

Remind your friend he or she is not alone. Just being there for them can make a huge difference. Show your friend life is still worth living, even without a job, which is going to show up sooner or later. Remind your friend how amazing he or she is and that a job is not going to define them as a person.

A job is just a job in the end, but friendship is more important, so make sure you support your friend during the job search. Even if all you do is sharing a bottle of wine together, on the floor!

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Last Updated on November 19, 2019

Work Smarter, Not Harder: 12 Ways to Work Smart

Work Smarter, Not Harder: 12 Ways to Work Smart

I imagine that like me, you say that you never have enough time and that you just cannot cope with 60 dozen things all at once.

How on earth do you get out of that spiral?

Many people never sit down and look at how to work smarter, rather than harder and even longer hours. But not you, you’re smart enough to try to learn effective ways to work.

So how to work smarter not harder? Here are 12 smart ways you should be following:

1. Improve Your Time Management Skills

Easier said than done? Well, no actually, because there are a few simple rules that can really help you to manage time better.

For example, when setting up a top priority task, you need to switch off the phone and ignore your email first. Then you need to abandon any ideas of multitasking as that will slow you down and ruin your focus.

Finally, set a reasonable deadline and do everything in your power to meet it.

“When you’re born, you’re born with 30,000 days. That’s it. The best strategic planning I can give to you is to think about that.” — Sir Ray Avery

2. Speed up Your Typing and Use Shortcuts

These days we’re all keyboard slaves. So why not speed up your typing and try to get rid of the two finger syndrome. In fact, when you save 21 days per year just by typing fast!

This is exactly what I am doing now, so I cannot honestly say I am practicing what I preach!

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But help is at hand. Try some of these apps and games to help you type fast: 8 Most Effective Games and Apps to Learn to Type Fast

Using shortcuts on the keyboard is another time saver and can speed up your work.

For example, press F2 to rename a selected file, while CTRL + I will put selected text in italics.

There are so many of these. If you make the effort to learn them, they really can be helpful.

3. Learn How to Use Productivity Tools

It is well worth downloading all the useful tools and apps that can highly boost your productivity. Take a look at these 18 Best Time Management Apps and Tools and install whatever fits your needs.

Now that is really a great way of working smarter, not harder.

4. Use Your Phone Wisely

Instead of writing emails, sometimes it’s better to pick up the phone and talk to the person responsible. It saves time, especially for important or urgent discussions.

If that colleague works in the same office, it is even better to go and talk to him or her. It gives you a break, you get some exercise and you actually make human contact which is becoming quite rare in this electronic world.

5. Keep a Tab on Your Tabs

If you are like me, you might well find that you have a ton of tabs open at the top of your browser.

In order to find the one you want, you have to search for them as they are off screen. Having all these tabs open slows down your browser too.

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One solution is to use OneTab which can keep a neat list on the screen of all these tabs when you want to quickly get to one of them or you want to remind yourself which ones you have open.

6. Use a “To Don’t” List

We all know about to do lists and I find that they are generally great. They give me a great sense of achievement as I cross off the tasks done.

But often, I find that we are doing non-essential tasks or ones that can easily be postponed. That is why many people recommend the to don’t list.[1]

Some people prefer to savagely prune the to do list while others prefer to have two separate lists, to do and to don’t. You just have to work out what works best for you when you are trying to save precious time to become more productive.

7. Expect Failure and Fight Paranoia

When failure rears its ugly head, some people get a bit paranoid and fear that this may become a trend.

Projects will go wrong and failure should be expected rather than feared. Learning lessons from failure and analyzing what went wrong is the best way forward.

“Do not be embarrassed by your failures, learn from them and start again.” — Richard Branson

And here you can find 10 Great Lessons Highly Successful People Have Learned From Failure.

8. Be Concise

Rambling on at meetings, in emails and even when introducing yourself to new clients can waste a lot of people’s time.

One way is to practice and sharpen your “elevator speech,”[2] which tells people in 30 seconds or less why they need your skills and how they can benefit from doing business with you.

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Just think of the many situations where this could be useful:

  • Making new contacts
  • Talking about yourself at a job interview
  • Meeting people at conferences or parties
  • Phone calls to new clients

9. Ask the Right Questions

“You can tell whether a man is clever by his answers. You can tell whether a man is wise by his questions.” — Naguib Mahfouz

How do you get feedback? The secret is to ask the right questions at the right time.

When you do this, you are gathering the information you need to help in decision making. This will save you time and you will be able to cut meetings to a minimum.

Forbes magazine reports on research that they carried out on asking the right questions.[3] When that happens, the positive effects are increased by 400%. There are also other benefits in staff motivation and a positive impact on the company’s bottom line.

Lifehack’s CEO Leon has shared about how to ask for feedback to learn faster: How to Learn Quickly And Master Any Skill You Want

10. Learn as Much as You Can

You should always be on a steep learning curve. Look at your skills profile and determine where you need to fill a gap. Talk to important connections and network in your niche.

Keep up to date on trends and developments. It is a fact-changing world. When an opportunity arises, you will be the best equipped to seize it because you have never stopped learning. Just another way of working smarter.

“Live as if you were to die tomorrow. Learn as if you were to live forever.” — Mahatma Gandhi

11. Look After Your Greatest Resource

No, your greatest resource is not time. It is YOU.

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If you do not get enough sleep, exercise and relaxation, you find that you become less and less productive. You begin to work longer and longer hours, which is the exact opposite of what you want.

What you should be doing is making sure you are in the best shape. It is useful to remember that you need a break of 15 minutes after every one and a half hours of work.[4]

Taking breaks and getting fresh air and exercise is one of the best ways of working smarter, not harder.

12. Don’t Fall into the Trap of Working Smarter and Harder

As a society, we are obsessed with doing everything smarter so we are more efficient and we save time all around.[5]

But the most important thing to remember is to accept when we are ready to switch off that computer and not fill up the time with even more work!

The Bottom Line

The key to greater productivity is to work smarter, not harder. Working smarter saves precious time and energy for the things that really matter — your life goals, your personal growth, your health and your relationships.

Stop working for more hours and start working smarter!

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