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10 Things that Might Surprise You When You Move to the United States

10 Things that Might Surprise You When You Move to the United States

I was born and raised in the United States. However, I did not become a citizen until I became an adult.

This is because my parents lived and worked in America as staff members of a foreign diplomat to the United States, and then I returned to live in France.

Believe me, that’s not as glamorous as it sounds. Because of their work, I grew up with other diplomat kids and attended a school that was focused on educating international students.

Here is a list of ten things that I know might surprise people who move to the United States.

1. So Much Food (In More Ways Than One)!

The United States really stands out because of the amount of food that is available here. Some of this has to do with plenitude. There literally is a huge abundance of food and drink. Stores don’t run out of food, and water is freely available. But, there are other factors at play.

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One of these is the selection. The idea that you can purchase multiple brands or versions of bread and milk is a new thing for many immigrants. Huge serving sizes in restaurants is another factor. My parents still remain stunned at the idea that portions are actually doled out with the assumption that people will ask for a doggy bag. Then, there is the fact that you can buy food everywhere. The gas station has food. The office supply store has food.

2. You Learn to Speak English Faster than You Learn to Think in It

I was raised speaking English, so this doesn’t affect me. But, I can say that I have known several people who were raised speaking languages other than English. One experience that I have heard is that it is very common for people who move to the United States to be able to speak and write in English. After all, many kids are taught English from an early age.

In spite of this, most people still think in their native languages. This can be awkward for them because they have to translate both their thoughts and their words into English before they can interact with the Americans.

3. It’s Really Easy to Buy a Gun Here

In the United States, you can buy a gun at Walmart. There are conventions where people attend to do nothing more than display, talk about, buy and sell guns. Many feel as if they are being abused by their government if they are not allowed to own as many guns or bullets that they want.

Guns are usually associated with military service or gun clubs. Many crimes and disputes seem to involve guns. In spite of this, it is a politically divisive issue in the United States.

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4. Everything is Really Big

Cars, homes, stores, etc. – all of these are big things that new arrivals will encounter when the move to the United States. Department stores and ‘big box stores’ sell a wide variety of goods that are available only in specialty stores in other countries.

The idea that homes can be built over an acre of land or span several stories is also new to many people trying to make America their home. In many countries, everything is much more scaled down.

5. Families don’t Live Together

In the United States, it is fairly rare for a great-grandparent, grandparent, parent, and a child to live in the same home. Sometimes it does happen, but it is usually the result of an embarrassing event when it does happen. Young adults are expected to move out of their homes at the earliest opportunity.

Parents who do not launch their kids are often deemed failures, as are their kids. The only exception to this is parents or grandparents. It is usually acceptable to bring them home to live with you. I get the respect for elders. It’s just that in my experience households contain members of multiple generations and nobody finds fault in that.

6. You have to Get a Permit or License for Everything

In the United States, you cannot simply move, build a house, keep animals for food, or farmland just because you want to. Filling out forms such as the citizenship application can certainly be threatening. In spite of this, most people choose to work and live where they must live under certain rules. These include whether or not people can keep livestock, hang laundry outside, or perform other standard tasks that are considered to be normal, but are blocked by neighborhood watch groups and homeowners associations.

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One area where new immigrants can find some relief from the red tape and bureaucracy is with the ESTA application. This visa waiver application can be completed online in ten minutes or less.

7. There is Amazing Cultural and Geographical Diversity

Because the United States is so big, it is possible to live, work, and interact with a very small piece of this nation that does not reflect the whole of this nation. Get in a car and drive for several hours and you will go from the prairie land to beaches, deserts, urban landscapes and farms. In each area, people have different points of view, personal history, and values.

Get in a car and drive for several hours and you will go from the prairie land to beaches, deserts, urban landscapes and farms. In each area, people have different points of view, personal history, and values.

8. Everybody Drives!

My friends, my parents, and other immigrants have one thing in common. They are shocked at the number of people who own cars, and how many of them drive to every single errand that they encounter.

In some areas, it is literally impossible to move from one place to another without a car. For some people, it can be hard to negotiate because people cannot always rely on public transportation. This is especially true when it comes to dealing with interstate transportation.

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9. All the Small Talk

On the train, in the line at the store, no matter where you are, people in the United States are going to ask you how you are. They are going to talk about sports, celebrities, and a variety of other topics. The complicated part is that sometimes these things really interest them, but these are just subjects that are intended to be

The complicated part is that sometimes these things really interest them, but mostly these are just subjects intended for small talk.

10. Obesity is More of a Problem with Poor People than Rich People

In America, the poor people are more likely to be overweight than the wealthy people. This is because, in the United States, foods that are processed, high in fat, and are unhealthy tend to be very cheap.

On the other hand, meat, seafood, fish, and fresh vegetables are either too expensive or simply not available to people. Because the United States is so large, there are many food deserts, where the access to affordable, healthy food options is limited or nonexistent because grocery stores are too far away.

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Last Updated on January 3, 2020

The 10 Essential Habits of Positive People

The 10 Essential Habits of Positive People

Are you waiting for life events to turn out the way you want so that you can feel more positive about your life? Do you find yourself having pre-conditions to your sense of well-being, thinking that certain things must happen for you to be happier? Do you think there is no way that your life stresses can make you anything other than “stressed out” and that other people just don’t understand?  If your answer is “yes” to any of these questions, you might find yourself lingering in the land of negativity for too long!

The following are some tips to keep positive no matter what comes your way. This post will help you stop looking for what psychologists call “positivity” in all the wrong places!  Here are the ten essential habits of positive people.

1. Positive people don’t confuse quitting with letting go.

Instead of hanging on to ideas, beliefs, and even people that are no longer healthy for them, they trust their judgement to let go of negative forces in their lives.  Especially in terms of relationships, they subscribe to The Relationship Prayer which goes:

 I will grant myself the ability to trust the healthy people in my life … 

To set limits with, or let go of, the negative ones … 

And to have the wisdom to know the DIFFERENCE!

 2.  Positive people don’t just have a good day – they make a good day.

Waiting, hoping and wishing seldom have a place in the vocabulary of positive individuals. Rather, they use strong words that are pro-active and not reactive. Passivity leads to a lack of involvement, while positive people get very involved in constructing their lives. They work to make changes to feel better in tough times rather than wish their feelings away.

3. For the positive person, the past stays in the past.

Good and bad memories alike stay where they belong – in the past where they happened. They don’t spend much time pining for the good ol’ days because they are too busy making new memories now. The negative pulls from the past are used not for self-flagellation or unproductive regret, but rather productive regret where they use lessons learned as stepping stones towards a better future.

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4. Show me a positive person and I can show you a grateful person.

The most positive people are the most grateful people.  They do not focus on the potholes of their lives.  They focus on the pot of gold that awaits them every day, with new smells, sights, feelings and experiences.  They see life as a treasure chest full of wonder.

5. Rather than being stuck in their limitations, positive people are energized by their possibilities.

Optimistic people focus on what they can do, not what they can’t do.  They are not fooled to think that there is a perfect solution to every problem, and are confident that there are many solutions and possibilities.  They are not afraid to attempt new solutions to old problems, rather than spin their wheels expecting things to be different this time.  They refuse to be like Charlie Brown expecting that this time Lucy will not pull the football from him!

6. Positive people do not let their fears interfere with their lives!

Positive people have observed that those who are defined and pulled back by their fears never really truly live a full life. While proceeding with appropriate caution, they do not let fear keep them from trying new things. They realize that even failures are necessary steps for a successful life. They have confidence that they can get back up when they are knocked down by life events or their own mistakes, due to a strong belief in their personal resilience.

7. Positive people smile a lot!

When you feel positive on the inside it is like you are smiling from within, and these smiles are contagious. Furthermore, the more others are with positive people, the more they tend to smile too! They see the lightness in life, and have a sense of humor even when it is about themselves. Positive people have a high degree of self-respect, but refuse to take themselves too seriously!

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8. People who are positive are great communicators.

They realize that assertive, confident communication is the only way to connect with others in everyday life.  They avoid judgmental, angry interchanges, and do not let someone else’s blow up give them a reason to react in kind. Rather, they express themselves with tact and finesse.  They also refuse to be non-assertive and let people push them around. They refuse to own problems that belong to someone else.

9. Positive people realize that if you live long enough, there are times for great pain and sadness.

One of the most common misperceptions about positive people is that to be positive, you must always be happy. This can not be further from the truth. Anyone who has any depth at all is certainly not happy all the time.  Being sad, angry, disappointed are all essential emotions in life. How else would you ever develop empathy for others if you lived a life of denial and shallow emotions? Positive people do not run from the gamut of emotions, and accept that part of the healing process is to allow themselves to experience all types of feelings, not only the happy ones. A positive person always holds the hope that there is light at the end of the darkness.  

10. Positive person are empowered people – they refuse to blame others and are not victims in life.

Positive people seek the help and support of others who are supportive and safe.They limit interactions with those who are toxic in any manner, even if it comes to legal action and physical estrangement such as in the case of abuse. They have identified their own basic human rights, and they respect themselves too much to play the part of a victim. There is no place for holding grudges with a positive mindset. Forgiveness helps positive people become better, not bitter.

How about you?  How many habits of positive people do you personally find in yourself?  If you lack even a few of these 10 essential habits, you might find that the expected treasure at the end of the rainbow was not all that it was cracked up to be. How could it — if you keep on bringing a negative attitude around?

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I wish you well in keeping positive, because as we all know, there is certainly nothing positive about being negative!

Featured photo credit: Janaína Castelo Branco via flickr.com

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