It was Summer and now it’s Fall. Love is still floating in the air while cupid flies around looking for someone to shoot. People are rushing to plan their perfect wedding and others are arranging for their beautiful honeymoon. The world right now is one big fairytale with various happy endings.
An Autumn wedding is magical they say, as the bride walks down the aisle with an array of golden leaves guiding her path. Under that beautiful tree, she stares at the man she has fallen in love with, over and over again. Her father lets go of his beautiful daughter as the couple vow to stay together forever.
Forever is a word that may seem cliche to many, but for some, what determines the forever is their honeymoon in a foreign land. Communication, respect, and trust is the key to an everlasting marriage, hence a honeymoon plays a huge part in one’s marriage.
We have put together a few places that would make you want to fall in love all over again.Advertising
1. The Classic Japan
Japan is a country that represents itself with beauty and poise. Its identity revolves around the beauty of the Sakura, it’s tradition shown in its food culture and it’s tenaciousness shown in their hospitality and the love towards people . Japan has been the country that reminds one of why it’s important to put in the effort as well as love on any journey.
For any newly wed’s you will find the opportunity to enjoy their delicious food. From the best of Ramen to their delicious Udon noodles, you’ll have the first-hand experience cherishing those beautiful tastes. Hike up mount Fuji, in the Shizuoka Prefecture to view the beauty of Japan and make a wish that will always come true.
Japan has also been famous for their array of fresh fish and tradition. Dine together with your husband in a custom Kimono and remind yourself of how the journey is going to be. You will realize there’s more to your relationship than materialistic and superficial possessions.
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2. Italy and All it’s Beauty
While many say that Paris is the land of love, Italy has proven it’s stance every now and then on its uniqueness. It’s warm hospitality and tantalizing European cuisine makes one’s heart melt. If you’re in love, the scenery and its architecture alone will spice up your romance.
Walk down the street or take a road trip to Venice, the floating city to be amazed by its beauty. Go on a journey of tasting the best wines all around the country and indulge in the finest pastas and pizzas. Take a walk through the forest and find the gems of the Italian forest; the truffles. Tasting fresh truffles is often considered a lucky encounter hence why not start your journey as a married couple by being exquisite.
If you’re a historic couple, then Rome can offer you the best experiences. You’ll be able to visit many architectural wonders and immerse yourself in the Roman empire. It will undoubtedly be the best time of your life .
3. Watch The Beauty Of Denmark
Often times when choosing a honeymoon destination, many prefer choosing the rather mainstream places. Not that it’s a wrong thing to do however, there are more to see in this world than just a handful of places. The Scandinavian part of the world is often overlooked as an impossible adventure.Advertising
Some fear the price while others estimate it’s unattainability. However, neither one of those concerns is accurate when it comes to traveling to Denmark. Denmark is a land of art and culture. Upon entering Copenhagen you will notice the beauty in the arrays of buildings all aligned in perfection. You will also notice the friendly nature and the artistic influence this country has had throughout the world.
If you and your significant other have a great love for art, I would suggest booking your destination to Denmark. You’ll be left dazzled and bewildered by its uniqueness and the difference in the people. If you have the chance, make sure to take a nice walk through their forest, experience the best of fermented fishes and find out the colors of the country.
Plus, remember to visit Kristianinia, you will definitely witness the influence of the reggae culture and Bob Marley there.
4. Stay Fit By Going On An Adventure to Borneo
Asia, as we all know, is a land of mystery and excitement. It feeds one with the motivation and drive for adventure. Its beautiful landscapes and it’s wonderful array of nature makes one’s heart dance to the beat. One of these exclusive countries would be Malaysia and the gem in Malaysia would be the Islands of Borneo which consist of Sabah and Sarawak.Advertising
It’s untouched nature and the amount of wildlife habitat will leave you in awe. The difference in aboriginal tribes and the respect towards mother nature will bring you back to your roots. If you and your significant other are looking for a meaningful, intimate and mindblowing adventure, then Borneo is the place to go.
Not only will you be able to experience the beautiful Flora and Fauna but you would also be able to enjoy moments with the villagers and experience life as a part of the tribe. You will understand the values of unity, peace , trust and respect which creates a solid foundation for your marriage.
If you’re looking for spirituality in your marriage then this is definitely the place to go.
Last Updated on November 18, 2021
10 Proven Ways to Judge a Person’s Character
We all fall into the trap of judging a person’s character by their appearance. How wrong we are! All too often, the real character of the person only appears when some negative event hits them or you. Then you may see a toxic person emerging from the ruins and it is often a shock.
A truly frightening example is revealed in the book by O’Toole in Bowman called Dangerous Instincts: How Gut Instincts Betray Us. A perfectly respectable, charming, well dressed neighbor was found to have installed a torture chamber in his garage where he was systematically abusing kidnapped women. This is an extreme example, but it does show how we can be totally deceived by a person’s physical appearance, manners and behavior.
So, what can you do? You want to be able to assess personal qualities when you come into contact with colleagues, fresh acquaintances and new friends who might even become lifelong partners. You want to know if they are:
- kind and compassionate
- capable of taking the blame
- able to persevere
- modest and humble
- pacific and can control anger.
The secret is to reserve judgment and take your time. Observe them in certain situations; look at how they react. Listen to them talking, joking, laughing, explaining, complaining, blaming, praising, ranting, and preaching. Only then will you be able to judge their character. This is not foolproof, but if you follow the 10 ways below, you have a pretty good chance of not ending up in an abusive relationship.
1. Is anger a frequent occurrence?
All too often, angry reactions which may seem to be excessive are a sign that there are underlying issues. Do not think that every person who just snaps and throws his/her weight around mentally and physically is just reacting normally. Everyone has an occasional angry outburst when driving or when things go pear-shaped.
But if this is almost a daily occurrence, then you need to discover why and maybe avoid that person. Too often, anger will escalate to violent and aggressive behavior. You do not want to be near someone who thinks violence can solve personal or global problems.
2. Can you witness acts of kindness?
How often do you see this person being kind and considerate? Do they give money to beggars, donate to charity, do voluntary work or in some simple way show that they are willing to share the planet with about 7 billion other people?
I was shocked when a guest of mine never showed any kindness to the weak and disadvantaged people in our town. She was ostensibly a religious person, but I began to doubt the sincerity of her beliefs.
“The best index to a person’s character is how he treats people who can’t do him any good, and how he treats people who can’t fight back.”
Abigail Van Buren
3. How does this person take the blame?
Maybe you know that s/he is responsible for a screw-up in the office or even in not turning up on time for a date. Look at their reaction. If they start blaming other colleagues or the traffic, well, this is an indication that they are not willing to take responsibility for their mistakes.
4. Don’t use Facebook as an indicator.
You will be relieved to know that graphology (the study of that forgotten skill of handwriting) is no longer considered a reliable test of a person’s character. Neither is Facebook stalking, fortunately. A study showed that Facebook use of foul language, sexual innuendo and gossip were not reliable indicators of a candidate’s character or future performance in the workplace.
5. Read their emails.
Now a much better idea is to read the person’s emails. Studies show that the use of the following can indicate certain personality traits:
- Too many exclamation points may reveal a sunny disposition
- Frequent errors may indicate apathy
- Use of smileys is the only way a person can smile at you
- Use of the third person may reveal a certain formality
- Too many question marks can show anger
- Overuse of capital letters is regarded as shouting. They are a definite no-no in netiquette, yet a surprising number of people still use them.
6. Watch out for the show offs.
Listen to people as they talk. How often do they mention their achievements, promotions, awards and successes? If this happens a lot, it is a sure indication that this person has an over-inflated view of his/her achievements. They are unlikely to be modest or show humility. What a pity! Another person to avoid.
7. Look for evidence of perseverance.
A powerful indicator of grit and tenacity is when a person persists and never gives up when they really want to achieve a life goal. Look for evidence of them keeping going in spite of enormous difficulties.
Great achievements by scientists and inventors all bear the hallmark of perseverance. We only have to think of Einstein, Edison (who failed thousands of times) and Nelson Mandela to get inspiration. The US Department of Education is in no doubt about how grit, tenacity and perseverance will be key success factors for youth in the 21st century.
8. Their empathy score is high.
Listen to how they talk about the less fortunate members of our society such as the poor, immigrants and the disabled. Do you notice that they talk in a compassionate way about these people? The fact that they even mention them is a strong indicator of empathy.
People with zero empathy will never talk about the disadvantaged. They will rarely ask you a question about a difficult time or relationship. They will usually steer the conversation back to themselves. These people have zero empathy and in extreme cases, they are psychopaths who never show any feelings towards their victims.
9. Learn how to be socially interactive.
We are social animals and this is what makes us so uniquely human. If a person is isolated or a loner, this may be a negative indicator of their character. You want to meet a person who knows about trust, honesty and loyalty. The only way to practice these great qualities is to actually interact socially. The great advantage is that you can share problems and celebrate success and joy together.
“One can acquire everything in solitude, except character.”
10. Avoid toxic people.
These people are trying to control others and often are failing to come to terms with their own failures. Typical behavior and conversations may concern:
- Envy or jealousy
- Criticism of partners, colleagues and friends
- Complaining about their own lack of success
- Blaming others for their own bad luck or failure
- Obsession with themselves and their problems
Listen to these people talk and you will quickly discover that you need to avoid them at all costs because their negativity will drag you down. In addition, as much as you would like to help them, you are not qualified to do so.
Now, having looked at some of the best ways to judge a person, what about yourself? How do others see you? Why not take Dr. Phil’s quiz and find out. Can you bear it?
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