It was Summer and now it’s Fall. Love is still floating in the air while cupid flies around looking for someone to shoot. People are rushing to plan their perfect wedding and others are arranging for their beautiful honeymoon. The world right now is one big fairytale with various happy endings.
An Autumn wedding is magical they say, as the bride walks down the aisle with an array of golden leaves guiding her path. Under that beautiful tree, she stares at the man she has fallen in love with, over and over again. Her father lets go of his beautiful daughter as the couple vow to stay together forever.
Forever is a word that may seem cliche to many, but for some, what determines the forever is their honeymoon in a foreign land. Communication, respect, and trust is the key to an everlasting marriage, hence a honeymoon plays a huge part in one’s marriage.
We have put together a few places that would make you want to fall in love all over again.Advertising
1. The Classic Japan
Japan is a country that represents itself with beauty and poise. Its identity revolves around the beauty of the Sakura, it’s tradition shown in its food culture and it’s tenaciousness shown in their hospitality and the love towards people . Japan has been the country that reminds one of why it’s important to put in the effort as well as love on any journey.
For any newly wed’s you will find the opportunity to enjoy their delicious food. From the best of Ramen to their delicious Udon noodles, you’ll have the first-hand experience cherishing those beautiful tastes. Hike up mount Fuji, in the Shizuoka Prefecture to view the beauty of Japan and make a wish that will always come true.
Japan has also been famous for their array of fresh fish and tradition. Dine together with your husband in a custom Kimono and remind yourself of how the journey is going to be. You will realize there’s more to your relationship than materialistic and superficial possessions.
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2. Italy and All it’s Beauty
While many say that Paris is the land of love, Italy has proven it’s stance every now and then on its uniqueness. It’s warm hospitality and tantalizing European cuisine makes one’s heart melt. If you’re in love, the scenery and its architecture alone will spice up your romance.
Walk down the street or take a road trip to Venice, the floating city to be amazed by its beauty. Go on a journey of tasting the best wines all around the country and indulge in the finest pastas and pizzas. Take a walk through the forest and find the gems of the Italian forest; the truffles. Tasting fresh truffles is often considered a lucky encounter hence why not start your journey as a married couple by being exquisite.
If you’re a historic couple, then Rome can offer you the best experiences. You’ll be able to visit many architectural wonders and immerse yourself in the Roman empire. It will undoubtedly be the best time of your life .
3. Watch The Beauty Of Denmark
Often times when choosing a honeymoon destination, many prefer choosing the rather mainstream places. Not that it’s a wrong thing to do however, there are more to see in this world than just a handful of places. The Scandinavian part of the world is often overlooked as an impossible adventure.Advertising
Some fear the price while others estimate it’s unattainability. However, neither one of those concerns is accurate when it comes to traveling to Denmark. Denmark is a land of art and culture. Upon entering Copenhagen you will notice the beauty in the arrays of buildings all aligned in perfection. You will also notice the friendly nature and the artistic influence this country has had throughout the world.
If you and your significant other have a great love for art, I would suggest booking your destination to Denmark. You’ll be left dazzled and bewildered by its uniqueness and the difference in the people. If you have the chance, make sure to take a nice walk through their forest, experience the best of fermented fishes and find out the colors of the country.
Plus, remember to visit Kristianinia, you will definitely witness the influence of the reggae culture and Bob Marley there.
4. Stay Fit By Going On An Adventure to Borneo
Asia, as we all know, is a land of mystery and excitement. It feeds one with the motivation and drive for adventure. Its beautiful landscapes and it’s wonderful array of nature makes one’s heart dance to the beat. One of these exclusive countries would be Malaysia and the gem in Malaysia would be the Islands of Borneo which consist of Sabah and Sarawak.Advertising
It’s untouched nature and the amount of wildlife habitat will leave you in awe. The difference in aboriginal tribes and the respect towards mother nature will bring you back to your roots. If you and your significant other are looking for a meaningful, intimate and mindblowing adventure, then Borneo is the place to go.
Not only will you be able to experience the beautiful Flora and Fauna but you would also be able to enjoy moments with the villagers and experience life as a part of the tribe. You will understand the values of unity, peace , trust and respect which creates a solid foundation for your marriage.
If you’re looking for spirituality in your marriage then this is definitely the place to go.
Last Updated on January 15, 2021
7 Ways To Have More Confident Body Language
The popular idiomatic saying that “actions speak louder than words” has been around for centuries, but even to this day, most people struggle with at least one area of nonverbal communication. Consequently, many of us aspire to have more confident body language but don’t have the knowledge and tools necessary to change what are largely unconscious behaviors.
Given that others’ perceptions of our competence and confidence are predominantly influenced by what we do with our faces and bodies, it’s important to develop greater self-awareness and consciously practice better posture, stance, eye contact, facial expressions, hand movements, and other aspects of body language.
First things first: how is your posture? Let’s start with a quick self-assessment of your body.
- Are your shoulders slumped over or rolled back in an upright posture?
- When you stand up, do you evenly distribute your weight or lean excessively to one side?
- Does your natural stance place your feet relatively shoulder-width apart or are your feet and legs close together in a closed-off position?
- When you sit, does your lower back protrude out in a slumped position or maintain a straight, spine-friendly posture in your seat?
All of these are important considerations to make when evaluating and improving your posture and stance, which will lead to more confident body language over time. If you routinely struggle with maintaining good posture, consider buying a posture trainer/corrector, consulting a chiropractor or physical therapist, stretching daily, and strengthening both your core and back muscles.
Are you prone to any of the following in personal or professional settings?
- Bruxism (tight, clenched jaw or grinding teeth)
- Frowning and/or furrowing brows
- Avoiding direct eye contact and/or staring at the ground
If you answered “yes” to any of these, then let’s start by examining various ways in which you can project confident body language through your facial expressions.
1. Understand How Others Perceive Your Facial Expressions
A December 2020 study by UC Berkeley and Google researchers utilized a deep neural network to analyze facial expressions in six million YouTube clips representing people from over 140 countries. The study found that, despite socio-cultural differences, people around the world tended to use about 70% of the same facial expressions in response to different emotional stimuli and situations.
The study’s researchers also published a fascinating interactive map to demonstrate how their machine learning technology assessed various facial expressions and determined subtle differences in emotional responses.
This study highlights the social importance of facial expressions because whether or not we’re consciously aware of them—by gazing into a mirror or your screen on a video conferencing platform—how we present our faces to others can have tremendous impacts on their perceptions of us, our confidence, and our emotional states. This awareness is the essential first step towards
2. Relax Your Face
New research on bruxism and facial tension found the stresses and anxieties of Covid-19 lockdowns led to considerable increases in orofacial pain, jaw-clenching, and teeth grinding, particularly among women.
The National Institute of Dental and Craniofacial Research estimates that more than 10 million Americans alone have temporomandibular joint dysfunction (TMJ syndrome), and facial tension can lead to other complications such as insomnia, wrinkles, dry skin, and dark, puffy bags under your eyes.)
To avoid these unpleasant outcomes, start practicing progressive muscle relaxation techniques and taking breaks more frequently throughout the day to moderate facial tension. You should also try out some biofeedback techniques to enhance your awareness of involuntary bodily processes like facial tension and achieve more confident body language as a result.
3. Improve Your Eye Contact
Did you know there’s an entire subfield of kinesic communication research dedicated to eye movements and behaviors called oculesics? It refers to various communication behaviors including direct eye contact, averting one’s gaze, pupil dilation/constriction, and even frequency of blinking. All of these qualities can shape how other people perceive you, which means that eye contact is yet another area of nonverbal body language that we should be more mindful of in social interactions.
The ideal type (direct/indirect) and duration of eye contact depends on a variety of factors, such as cultural setting, differences in power/authority/age between the parties involved, and communication context. Research has shown that differences in the effects of eye contact are particularly prominent when comparing East Asian and Western European/North American cultures.
To improve your eye contact with others, strive to maintain consistent contact for at least 3 to 4 seconds at a time, consciously consider where you’re looking while listening to someone else, and practice eye contact as much as possible (as strange as this may seem in the beginning, it’s the best way to improve).
3. Smile More
There are many benefits to smiling and laughing, and when it comes to working on more confident body language, this is an area that should be fun, low-stakes, and relatively stress-free.
Smiling is associated with the “happiness chemical” dopamine and the mood-stabilizing hormone, serotonin. Many empirical studies have shown that smiling generally leads to positive outcomes for the person smiling, and further research has shown that smiling can influence listeners’ perceptions of our confidence and trustworthiness as well.
4. Hand Gestures
Similar to facial expressions and posture, what you do with your hands while speaking or listening in a conversation can significantly influence others’ perceptions of you in positive or negative ways.
It’s undoubtedly challenging to consciously account for all of your nonverbal signals while simultaneously trying to stay engaged with the verbal part of the discussion, but putting in the effort to develop more bodily awareness now will make it much easier to unconsciously project more confident body language later on.
5. Enhance Your Handshake
In the article, “An Anthropology of the Handshake,” University of Copenhagen social anthropology professor Bjarke Oxlund assessed the future of handshaking in wake of the Covid-19 pandemic:
“Handshakes not only vary in function and meaning but do so according to social context, situation and scale. . . a public discussion should ensue on the advantages and disadvantages of holding on to the tradition of shaking hands as the conventional gesture of greeting and leave-taking in a variety of circumstances.”
It’s too early to determine some of the ways in which Covid-19 has permanently changed our social norms and professional etiquette standards, but it’s reasonable to assume that handshaking may retain its importance in American society even after this pandemic. To practice more confident body language in the meantime, the video on the science of the perfect handshake below explains what you need to know.
6. Complement Your Verbals With Hand Gestures
As you know by now, confident communication involves so much more than simply smiling more or sounding like you know what you’re talking about. What you do with your hands can be particularly influential in how others perceive you, whether you’re fidgeting with an object, clenching your fists, hiding your hands in your pockets, or calmly gesturing to emphasize important points you’re discussing.
Social psychology researchers have found that “iconic gestures”—hand movements that appear to be meaningfully related to the speaker’s verbal content—can have profound impacts on listeners’ information retention. In other words, people are more likely to engage with you and remember more of what you said when you speak with complementary hand gestures instead of just your voice.
Further research on hand gestures has shown that even your choice of the left or right hand for gesturing can influence your ability to clearly convey information to listeners, which supports the notion that more confident body language is readily achievable through greater self-awareness and deliberate nonverbal actions.
Developing better posture, enhancing your facial expressiveness, and practicing hand gestures can vastly improve your communication with other people. At first, it will be challenging to consciously practice nonverbal behaviors that many of us are accustomed to performing daily without thinking about them.
If you ever feel discouraged, however, remember that there’s no downside to consistently putting in just a little more time and effort to increase your bodily awareness. With the tips and strategies above, you’ll be well on your way to embracing more confident body language and amplifying others’ perceptions of you in no time.
More Tips on How to Develop a Confident Body Language
- Increasing Confidence with Body Language
- 8 Fatal Body Language Mistakes To Avoid During Presentations
- Be Instantly Irresistible With These 10 Body Language Tips
Featured photo credit: Maria Lupan via unsplash.com
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|||^||Michigan Medicine: Stress Management: Doing Progressive Muscle Relaxation|
|||^||Spectra Magazine: Oculesics: Science Speaks Where Words Do Not|
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