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Why Your Astrology Sign Makes You A Perfect Love Match

Why Your Astrology Sign Makes You A Perfect Love Match

No matter who you are, your astrology sign comes with some great relationship attributes. Maybe the Aries traits in you make you exciting and dazzles everyone around you. Maybe your Pisces traits make you a trustworthy companion that someone cherishes very much.

This is dedicated to the best personality traits of every sign because we’re all worthy of love and the stars explain why.

An Aries in love is an exciting rollercoaster ride

You’re direct and you don’t play mind games because you have the courage to live in truth. People admire this quality along with your genuine, bold manner. Whatever negative qualities there are, you charm your loved ones with your almost childlike enthusiasm for life.

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A Taurus romance is one that comes with trust

Honesty is a quality that is so essential for a relationship to flourish and you have it nailed. You are a kind and warm hearted partner who is anything but boring. While you may need stability, you also deeply love in a romantic way.

A Gemini is the best of two worlds

The Gemini, also known as the twins, are exciting because you’re two people. That makes you really diverse and interesting, capable of shifting yourself from one type to the next. You keep your partner guessing and that keeps a relationship fresh. Both of your sides are compassionate and loving, making it easy to maintain a healthy relationship that never goes stagnant.

A Cancer is a loving and loyal companion

Oh Cancer, you are so worth knowing. They say, that still waters run deep and it’s possible this was written with Cancer in mind. Though you may not show it, people that you love will forever have your loyalty and through time you will show more of yourself. You are often introverted but you love deeply and play for keeps.

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Leo is the king of the jungle for a reason

Leo stands out in a crowd like no other and you’re highly adored by many. If you feel like being in a loving relationship, you’ll have it in no time. The person who wins your heart is eternally lucky because you offer love, excitement and adoration. Your loyalty along with your charismatic nature will make it difficult for partners to get over you.

A Virgo nurtures the ones they love

You are well put together Virgo and attractive to many. You may be able to tame some of the wilder characters out there with your practicality combined with your nurturing nature. You are a kind and gracious person that gets along well with many different types. While you may be better-suited to an equally logical person, you can tame the wild ones and develop a long lasting relationship.

Libra is born to love

Dear Libra, we know it’s important for you to be in a partnership. Thankfully your personality traits associated with Libra include all the attributes that will ensure you’re not alone. You are gracious and fair-minded and because you’re social, it’s easy to meet new people.

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A Scorpio romance is sizzling and intense

The traits associated with Scorpio include loyalty and sensuality. You take your time examining people before you make a decision on who they really are. You’re not easily fooled so while it may take some time to gain your trust and admiration, it’s likely you won’t have the wool pulled over your eyes.

A Sagittarius is a warrior that fights for who they love

Sagittarius, you are a true modern warrior. You say what you think regardless of diplomacy which can be pretty attractive actually. You give a lot of yourself and your character is entertaining, you make people laugh. That sense of humour is what gives people a long lasting impression of you. You can often find yourself in a committed relationship without much effort because you’re a big personality with an alluring nature.

Love with the Capricorn will be full of respect

A Capricorn works hard in any given situation and this includes relationships. You don’t give up on people easily and that kind of dedication is rare. Your way of being can be highly inspirational to someone close to you which makes you a gem in a world of impermanent emotions. You may not be ultra romantic but you are a solid person to be with and can change the wildest at heart into a lamb.

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Aquarians will help you weather any storm

Aquarians, you are said to be well ahead of your time. You are highly interesting and inspiring to people around you and that makes you highly attractive. You are the kind of person that someone will want to spend their life with because you’re gentle and always interesting. You are a great partner to someone who has been through a lot in their life because you’re a born humanitarian.

The multi-faceted Pisces bring excitement to any romance

The Pisces traits make you a dedicated partner that is both logical and artistic. You maintain exciting relationships because you are multi-faceted. Your selflessness makes you a great catch. You can take your pick of suitors because your independence is so attractive.

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Published on April 7, 2021

6 Signs Of A Controlling Person To Be Aware Of

6 Signs Of A Controlling Person To Be Aware Of

Some of the most manipulative people are so good at what they do that their words and actions can convince you into thinking they truly care about what’s best for you when in reality, it’s quite the opposite. The most common signs of a controlling person are rarely obvious to outside observers. And for someone enmeshed in a controlling relationship or friendship, it can be incredibly challenging to stay away from this toxic person, even if you’re aware of their emotionally abusive tendencies.

While it’s ultimately up to you to decide whether to preserve or leave a lopsided, unfulfilling relationship, it’s nevertheless critical to understand the following six signs of controlling people so you can better advocate for yourself and mitigate the influence of their manipulative tendencies in your own life.

1. They Push Their Own Personal Agenda

Do you know someone who always tries to micromanage the words, behaviors, and attitudes of people around them? Does this person act like they have the right to know anything they want about you, including your location, what you’re doing in a given moment, who you’re talking to online, or any other private information about you? And when planning events and special occasions, does this person dominate conversations, steer plans in their own preferred directions, disparage others’ suggestions, and refuse to collaborate with anyone who might disagree with them?

If you answered “yes” to some of the above questions, then those are clear signs of a controlling person whom you absolutely need to be cautious around. Controlling people are reluctant to even consider alternative ideas, let alone enthusiastically work with people who have differing views. They prefer to be the captain of every ship—regardless of how much or how little an issue personally impacts them—and they have an arsenal of manipulative tactics to deploy if someone stands in the way of them achieving their own personal agendas.

In long-term relationships with controlling people, you may feel constantly pressured to meet their demands, follow their schedule, and focus on whatever they feel is most important. It’s not an exaggeration to say that these people act like the universe revolves around them, which can be exhausting to deal with for their family members, friends, and colleagues.

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2. They Make Everything Transactional

Controlling people aren’t always self-centered, but they’re not too empathetic either. Empathy for them tends to appear in the form of strategic concessions they use as a means to get what they want. They typically view interpersonal relationships as transactional opportunities to extract more value from people surrounding them, which can have a draining effect on those they interact with.

For example, one sign of a controlling person may be their insistence on “keeping score.” This can involve doing nice things for you with the ulterior motive of demanding something from you at a later date in exchange for what you thought was just an act of kindness or a friendly support.

Perhaps they shower you in praise (also known as “love-bombing”) or gifts then blow up at you if you don’t intuitively know they’re expecting something back from you. None of us are mind-readers, but controlling people behave as though everyone else should think and act like they want others to and those who fall out of line are punished for failing to meet their impossible expectations.

A controlling person may also threaten to withhold support if you don’t adhere to their demands, but they do so in such subtle ways that the guilt they impose blinds you from the unreasonable nature of their behaviors.

Some statements to be wary of include:

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  • “I did ___________ for you. What do you mean you can’t do ___________ for me?”
  • “Remember how I helped you with ___________? That took a lot of time and energy from me, but I guess you didn’t appreciate my help.”
  • “I always give you ___________. Don’t you care about my needs too?”
  • “You’re so selfish!” or “You don’t care about me at all!” (gaslighting if you respond with hesitation or politely decline their request for help for perfectly valid reasons, such as not having enough time or resources to assist them)

3. They Criticize Everything

One of the most common telltale signs of a controlling person is their capacity to criticize anything and everything, even small things that seemingly don’t matter. As with many toxic traits in relationships, these problems typically start out so small that you may not even notice. At first, you may even agree with their criticism or at least be able to understand their perspective when they bring up an issue.

However, the criticism tends to get more intense, more constant, and more perplexing for people who maintain relationships with controlling people. You’ll likely notice how they rarely seem to criticize something they do. It’s almost always other-oriented and these types of people are so manipulative that any rationale they offer can seem plausibly legitimate.

Some warning signs of a controlling person who’s overly critical to the point of abusiveness include:

  • Criticizing things about you that you have little to no control over (e.g., appearance, disability, family)
  • Criticizing your personal choices and interests, such as educational pursuits, career, clothing, favorite music, time spent on your hobbies, etc.
  • Punishing you for expressing vulnerability by invalidating thoughts and feelings you share with them
  • Attacking you whenever you express an opinion counter to theirs

4. They Balk When Someone Criticizes Them

We all know the adage, “what goes around, comes around.” But this statement doesn’t apply as much to toxic, controlling people. They’d much prefer to dish out criticism without ever having to take it in return.

For instance, if your friend constantly talks about your appearance with little regard for your emotions but flips out if you make just a single comment about their appearance, there’s a possibility that they could have some hidden controlling tendencies left unchecked. Remember, these people aren’t just controlling in their behaviors towards others. They’re also actively trying to stay in complete control over every aspect of their lives, which includes how others view them.

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This seemingly insatiable desire for control can prompt them to lash out against even the smallest bits of criticism, leaving people around them too weary or scared to speak up again in the future. While it’s possible they may suffer from something called rejection sensitivity dysphoria, this does not excuse them from the consequences of their words and actions. They should seek professional help to better manage their reactions to criticism.

5. They Socially Isolate You

Not all controlling people do this, but for manipulative narcissists, socially isolating victims is a go-to strategy for maintaining control because it’s effective at preventing people from truly understanding how toxic their partner, family member, or friend is treating them. Think of it this way—if you don’t talk to many other people in your life, there’s less of a risk that you’ll damage their reputation by revealing their abusive tendencies.

Socially isolating others also gives the person more control over you and your life as it becomes more difficult to break away from them if you don’t have other healthier channels of communication and interpersonal support to turn to.

This process doesn’t happen overnight, nor is it something you can readily recognize as abusive. At first, it may seem reasonable, such as asking you to stop engaging so often with family members with whom both of you disagree on major social or political issues. As the social isolation progresses, they may suggest cutting people out of your life—especially if they don’t like that person, regardless of how you personally feel—or even conjure up high-stakes problems like “it’s me or them” under the guise of saving you from people in your life whom they don’t like for whatever reason.

In a controlling person’s life narrative, they’re always the protagonist who’s incapable of any wrongdoing. The blame is always redirected at someone else, whether that’s you or other people in your life. The more they isolate you from other supportive people in your life, the more susceptible you’ll be to falsely believing that they’re right and you “don’t need” your other friends and family when you have someone as perfect as this person.

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6. They’re Emotionally Abusive

It’s hard enough to be in control of your own emotions but when someone else is constantly belittling you and your interests or leveraging guilt and shame to manipulate you into saying or doing what they want, this can make it even more challenging to stay in control of your own life and emotional well-being.

Emotional abuse is another sign of a controlling person that is often overlooked in relationships. After all, human personalities vary widely in terms of passivity, and it’s not uncommon for one person in a relationship to be significantly more passive than the other. This becomes an issue when the controlling partner or friend exudes signs of emotional abuse, which can start subtly and become much more pronounced over time.

Concerning signs of emotionally abusive language or behavior to watch out for include:

  • Dismissing your needs and/or belittling your interests in counterproductive ways
  • Privately or publicly shaming or humiliating you
  • Making you feel as though you can never live up to their expectations or do anything right (according to their own vague, subjective standards)
  • Gaslighting you into thinking they said or did something that never actually happened (making you question your own reality)

Final Thoughts

It’s sometimes hard to see the negative things about someone with whom we have a relationship. We may sometimes unconsciously overlook the signs of a controlling person, especially if that person is someone we have known for a long time or are close to us. However, cutting them off your life is the best thing you can do for yourself. Just watch out for these six signs of a controlling person and take immediate action when you spot them.

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