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4 Long-distance Relationship Survival Tips

4 Long-distance Relationship Survival Tips

We all know that when you start a new relationship, our life starts revolving around it. We forget friends and family, our hours at work become torturous because of anticipation of the time when we finally go on our second, third, tenth date.

Of course, the scenario can be different and there may not be second third and tenth dates, simply because you are in different locations, which also means you have decided to do a very torturous kind of relationship – long-distance relationship.

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In both cases, there will be a time when you end up putting yourself on a second place and you might not even notice it. I was fortunate (or unfortunate?) to be in a long-distance relationship for a little over one year now and I would like to share my survival tips, which I have been using until now, since the long-distance is still on. These few tips will help you keep going, but only if you will truly believe in them.

1. Read books

Some people do not read books, some people love books, I was fortunate to be in the second category. My relationship with books is on another level.

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When I read a book I start reliving the story, by the time I reach the middle of the book I have images of characters in my head and by the time I am at the last few pages I start feeling empty because the story is coming to an end. The point is – learn  to create a relationship with something you truly love.

2. Become organized

This is related to everything in my life. I re-organize my closet every few months. I get rid of things that I do not wear, I give them to charity or sell them. I organize my bookshelf in an alphabetical order. I tidy up my drawers with make-up and underwear.

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I help my family to clear the garage filled with junk.I make sure the food in the drawers of the kitchen is stored in a way which makes it easier to find whatever I need. All these little things make me feel in control of my life, even though my long-distance relationship is not entirely under my control, the fact that everything else is, makes me feel at ease.

3. Keep calm and calm down

After the “pink happiness period” passes, usually after 3-4 months, you start to realize the harsh reality long-distance. You come back to an empty apartment with heavy bags full of groceries on a Friday evening and think “why the hell do I have to be alone”. Well keep calm and keep in mind that there are so many people out there who are dreaming about a quiet Friday evening to themselves.

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With time I have realized that the more I stress out about about being alone, the harder it is for me and my partner. Hence, I just started to find advantages in everything that I have to do on my own. When you stop obsessing about the fact that the last 3 weddings you had to attend alone, you can find peace in a yoga, good book, walk in a park or another 100 activities of your choice.

4. Keep up self-development

You simply cannot put your life on hold and wait for your long-distance relationship to transform into a short-distance relationship, because, like in my case, it can take much longer than you expect.

Hence, in the last 14 months I have read more than 20 books, I started learning Spanish, kept-up with German, started writing blogs, supported my family in various activities, tutored my niece English language, started actively practicing yoga and mediation, all that while having a job from 9-6 five times a week. I have realized that I cannot waste time getting depressed, because when my partner and I are finally together, I may not have that much time for all these cool activities.

Featured photo credit: Farida Karimova via facebook.com

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Last Updated on September 20, 2018

7 Powerful Questions To Find Out What You Want To Do With Your Life

7 Powerful Questions To Find Out What You Want To Do With Your Life

What do I want to do with my life? It’s a question all of us think about at one point or another.

For some, the answer comes easily. For others, it takes a lifetime to figure out.

It’s easy to just go through the motions and continue to do what’s comfortable and familiar. But for those of you who seek fulfillment, who want to do more, these questions will help you paint a clearer picture of what you want to do with your life.

1. What are the things I’m most passionate about?

The first step to living a more fulfilling life is to think about the things that you’re passionate about.

What do you love? What fulfills you? What “work” do you do that doesn’t feel like work? Maybe you enjoy writing, maybe you love working with animals or maybe you have a knack for photography.

The point is, figure out what you love doing, then do more of it.

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2. What are my greatest accomplishments in life so far?

Think about your past experiences and the things in your life you’re most proud of.

How did those accomplishments make you feel? Pretty darn good, right? So why not try and emulate those experiences and feelings?

If you ran a marathon once and loved the feeling you had afterwards, start training for another one. If your child grew up to be a star athlete or musician because of your teachings, then be a coach or mentor for other kids.

Continue to do the things that have been most fulfilling for you.

3. If my life had absolutely no limits, what would I choose to have and what would I choose to do?

Here’s a cool exercise: Think about what you would do if you had no limits.

If you had all the money and time in the world, where would you go? What would you do? Who would you spend time with?

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These answers can help you figure out what you want to do with your life. It doesn’t mean you need millions of dollars to be happy though.

What it does mean is answering these questions will help you set goals to reach certain milestones and create a path toward happiness and fulfillment. Which leads to our next question …

4. What are my goals in life?

Goals are a necessary component to set you up for a happy future. So answer these questions:

Once you figure out the answers to each of these, you’ll have a much better idea of what you should do with your life.

5. Whom do I admire most in the world?

Following the path of successful people can set you up for success.

Think about the people you respect and admire most. What are their best qualities? Why do you respect them? What can you learn from them?

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You’re the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with.[1] So don’t waste your time with people who hold you back from achieving your dreams.

Spend more time with happy, successful, optimistic people and you’ll become one of them.

6. What do I not like to do?

An important part of figuring out what you want to do with your life is honestly assessing what you don’t want to do.

What are the things you despise? What bugs you the most about your current job?

Maybe you hate meetings even though you sit through 6 hours of them every day. If that’s the case, find a job where you can work more independently.

The point is, if you want something to change in your life, you need to take action. Which leads to our final question …

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7. How hard am I willing to work to get what I want?

Great accomplishments never come easy. If you want to do great things with your life, you’re going to have to make a great effort. That will probably mean putting in more hours the average person, getting outside your comfort zone and learning as much as you can to achieve as much as you can.

But here’s the cool part: it’s often the journey that is the most fulfilling part. It’s during these seemingly small, insignificant moments that you’ll often find that “aha” moments that helps you answer the question,

“What do I want to do with my life?”

So take the first step toward improving your life. You won’t regret it.

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