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5 Ways My Daughter Made Me a Better Man

5 Ways My Daughter Made Me a Better Man

My life was forever changed two years ago. Ever since the miraculous day of your birth, you have inspired me to become a better man. Prior to your birth I was not a man worthy of having such a beautiful little girl in my life. Having a daughter is the greatest source of motivation and the best thing that can happen to a man.

You completely transformed my life in these last two years. I have experienced exponential growth in my development as a man, a father, and a husband. New areas of my mind have opened and I am becoming the person you and your beautiful mother deserve. I am not there yet, but I will be.

One of the deepest philosophical questions we often ask is, “What is the meaning of life?” I know my answer to that question. You are my reason for living, you are the meaning in my life. Here are five ways you have inspired me to become a better man.

1. Stand for What’s Right

“Stand up for what is right, even if you stand alone.” – Suzy Kassem

Our life is full of choices and our choices set the foundation for our life. We are all living the result of our past choices. You have inspired me to stand for others and stand for what’s right. A strong and good man will look after the less fortunate. He will be powerful and relentless when protecting others. I want you to see that your father will take a stand if I perceive something to be wrong, even if I stand alone.

2. Do What’s Right

“To know and not to do, is not yet to know.” – Roger J. Hamilton

It is easy to tell someone to do the right thing, however, it is much harder to actually do the right thing. You have inspired me to take this stand and do the right thing. All I have to do is think of you when I am about to do the the wrong thing. The fact that I know you are always watching, I can feel confident that I will try my hardest to do the right thing, even when it is difficult.

3. Be Fearless

“The question isn’t who is going to let me; it’s who is going to stop me.” – Ayn Rand

You have made me fearless. I no longer have any concern for what other people think of me. We all have a choice as to what level of life we want to live and you have inspired me to evolve to a higher level. Because of you, I have chosen to live at the highest level possible.

It is crazy to think of the danger you put yourself in when you play at a higher level. People will attack you when they realize you have made the leap. They have no idea why they are attacking you, but they still do. It is because of you that I am not bothered by this. The fact that these people attack me is validation of moving to a higher level.

4. Achieve Peak Physical and Mental Performance

“You’ll be her first role model, her first best friend. She’ll be your forever love.” – Vicki Reece

I have always been in good physical shape, but I have gone to unbelievable levels in the last two years. You have inspired me to achieve optimal physical and mental performance. The night you were born, you inspired me to become a ferocious reader. I still remember reading to you that first night in the hospital. That is one of my favorite and most treasured memories.

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Since then I have read over 300 books and I am in better physical shape than I have ever been. You were my motivation to complete my first full marathon, and I have achieved new heights both physically and mentally because of you.

5. Love Your Mother

Tomi and Ella

    “God could not be everywhere, and therefore he made mothers.” – Rudyard Kipling

    You are my compass. Other people use their passion as their compass, but you are mine. You are my inspiration to wake up every morning and feel invincible.

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    However, out of everything you have brought in my life, there is one that stands above them all. This is my love for your mother. I have not always appreciated her, and at times, have taken her for granted. I have neglected our time together. Time is the most important asset we have and I have wasted too much of it on useless people who add no value to our life. Your mother is the most beautiful, loving, and faithful person I know – I love her more because of you.

    Although it saddens me to think that one day you will outgrow my lap, I know that you will never outgrow my heart. As you grow from a cute little girl to a beautiful woman, never forget that you are meant for greatness. Always be the inspirational woman you were meant to be and remember that your mother and I will love you forever!

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    Last Updated on April 8, 2020

    11 Things Overachievers Do Differently

    11 Things Overachievers Do Differently

    We all know some overachievers: supermoms who manage to get online degrees between cleaning, cooking, and taking kids to practice; students who write 10-page papers when the directions call for 4; managers whose resumes look more like pages from the Guinness book of Records.

    How do they do it all? How is it possible that one person can graduate at the top of their class, found an orphanage in India, run 30k marathons, write a best-selling book, travel all over the world and learn to speak Mandarin Chinese while having a full-time job?

    What’s the secret of an overachiever? Here’re 11 things overachievers do differently that you can learn from.

    1. They Know How to Manage Their Time

    It’s pretty simple actually – you can never become an overachiever if you don’t know how to organize your time efficiently.

    The great thing is that overachievers are ready to share their knowledge and time management talent with the rest of the world. Read The 4-Hour Workweek or The 4-Hour Body by Timothy Ferriss, and you’ll know what I’m talking about.

    2. They Don’t Spend Hours Watching TV or Playing Computer Games

    Mostly because they have better things to do, like exercising, reading, spending an evening with their family or volunteering to work in the local soup kitchen. Their philosophy is simple – the world is full of wonderful things to try, explore and experience. Watching TV is not one of them.

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    3. They Are Obsessed With Perfection

    Imagine Steve Jobs’ work approach and you’ll understand the level of perfection and painfully high standards that overachievers set for themselves and those around them. Often it pays off (especially if they focus on just one domain). But sometimes compulsive over-striving turns into a sure-fire road to disappointments and unfinished tasks.

    Learn how to strike a balance: How Not to Let Perfectionism Secretly Screw You Up

    4. They Know How To Inspire

    Overachievers learn quickly that it is much easier to achieve goals through collaboration (and especially delegation). So they know how to inspire, encourage, persuade and motivate people around them. Even though they often drive their team crazy with their stubbornness and perfectionism, people quickly follow under the spell of their enthusiasm and greater vision.

    Learn these 10 Powerful Ways to Influence People Positively.

    5. They Set Clear Goals

    The term “overachiever” itself implies that they know how to achieve goals. That is kind of hard to do if your goals are vague, unclear and lack specific deadline, which is why overachievers educate themselves, read goal-setting books, and think about the best way to approach a new task.

    Although, it’s worth mentioning that overachievers usually use their time management and goal-setting skills towards competitive, “I want to kick butt” type of goals rather than self-improvement, mastery goals.

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    Take a look at these tips to help you set clearer goals: What Are SMART Goals (And How to Use Them to Become Successful)

    6. They Are Organized

    It’s hard to imagine a disorganized overachiever, isn’t it? Their great organizational and planning skills usually serve three main purposes: keeping track of time, keeping track of progress and keeping track of achievements.

    This hasn’t been confirmed by scientific research yet, but overachievers might actually get a “runner’s high” from crossing tasks off their to-do lists, and making new to-do lists.

    Here’s How to Organize Your Life: 10 Habits of Really Organized People

    7. They Try to Avoid Failure at All Costs

    Some psychologists believe that overachievers place their self-worth on their competence, driven by an underlying fear of failure. Rather than setting and striving for goals based on a pure desire to achieve, their core motivation becomes avoiding failure. This may explain the fact that overachiever beat themselves up for even little setbacks and seemingly-insignificant mistakes.

    But be aware that having a strong fear of failure can wrek havoc your productivity. So the best thing to do? Learn to conquer the fear: Why You Have the Fear of Failure (And How to Conquer It)

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    8. They Love Awards

    Who doesn’t love them, right? True enough, but unlike most people who like to feel acknowledged and appreciated for their efforts, overachievers are bent on collecting ‘awards’, be it university degrees, spelling bee prizes or unusual destinations.

    While loving awares isn’t bad, it’s even better if you’re driven by internal motivation instead of external ones which could be quite uncontrolable or unstable: Why Is Internal Motivation So Powerful (And How to Find It).

    9. They Don’t Understand the Concept of Work Hours

    Don’t get surprised if you receive a work-related email anywhere between 8 p.m. and midnight. It’s something overachievers usually do and you weren’t the only one. At least 20 more emails have been sent during these hours to other people. The concepts of over-achieving and working overtime usually go hand in hand.

    The downside of this is an imbalnced life, which may need to problems in other aspects of life including health and relationships. A better way is to Achieve a Realistic Work Life Balance.

    10. They Rest

    Overachievers might often be labeled as “workaholics”, because they often ignore bodily signs of hunger, fatigue and even a full bladder, hoping to finish just one last little part. This doesn’t mean that overachievers don’t know how to disconnect and relax.

    True that they tend to work in the highest gear, but they also have enough sense to give themselves time to rest and recharge. Of course, they do it in their own overachieving way, preferring climbing Mount Kilimanjaro or hiking through the Amazon jungle to lazing on the beach.

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    11. Overachievers Continuously Educate Themselves

    A great quality that most overachievers have is the hunger for knowledge. They surround themselves with bright people. They know how to listen, and most importantly, they get tons of mentoring.

    Despite the fact that overachievers want to excel at everything they set their minds on, they are humble enough to admit that to get on top of their game, they need help. And they are willing to pay someone to push, coach and guide them.

    You too can learn How to Create a Habit of Continuous Learning for a Better You.

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