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5 Ways My Daughter Made Me a Better Man

5 Ways My Daughter Made Me a Better Man

My life was forever changed two years ago. Ever since the miraculous day of your birth, you have inspired me to become a better man. Prior to your birth I was not a man worthy of having such a beautiful little girl in my life. Having a daughter is the greatest source of motivation and the best thing that can happen to a man.

You completely transformed my life in these last two years. I have experienced exponential growth in my development as a man, a father, and a husband. New areas of my mind have opened and I am becoming the person you and your beautiful mother deserve. I am not there yet, but I will be.

One of the deepest philosophical questions we often ask is, “What is the meaning of life?” I know my answer to that question. You are my reason for living, you are the meaning in my life. Here are five ways you have inspired me to become a better man.

1. Stand for What’s Right

“Stand up for what is right, even if you stand alone.” – Suzy Kassem

Our life is full of choices and our choices set the foundation for our life. We are all living the result of our past choices. You have inspired me to stand for others and stand for what’s right. A strong and good man will look after the less fortunate. He will be powerful and relentless when protecting others. I want you to see that your father will take a stand if I perceive something to be wrong, even if I stand alone.

2. Do What’s Right

“To know and not to do, is not yet to know.” – Roger J. Hamilton

It is easy to tell someone to do the right thing, however, it is much harder to actually do the right thing. You have inspired me to take this stand and do the right thing. All I have to do is think of you when I am about to do the the wrong thing. The fact that I know you are always watching, I can feel confident that I will try my hardest to do the right thing, even when it is difficult.

3. Be Fearless

“The question isn’t who is going to let me; it’s who is going to stop me.” – Ayn Rand

You have made me fearless. I no longer have any concern for what other people think of me. We all have a choice as to what level of life we want to live and you have inspired me to evolve to a higher level. Because of you, I have chosen to live at the highest level possible.

It is crazy to think of the danger you put yourself in when you play at a higher level. People will attack you when they realize you have made the leap. They have no idea why they are attacking you, but they still do. It is because of you that I am not bothered by this. The fact that these people attack me is validation of moving to a higher level.

4. Achieve Peak Physical and Mental Performance

“You’ll be her first role model, her first best friend. She’ll be your forever love.” – Vicki Reece

I have always been in good physical shape, but I have gone to unbelievable levels in the last two years. You have inspired me to achieve optimal physical and mental performance. The night you were born, you inspired me to become a ferocious reader. I still remember reading to you that first night in the hospital. That is one of my favorite and most treasured memories.

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Since then I have read over 300 books and I am in better physical shape than I have ever been. You were my motivation to complete my first full marathon, and I have achieved new heights both physically and mentally because of you.

5. Love Your Mother

Tomi and Ella

    “God could not be everywhere, and therefore he made mothers.” – Rudyard Kipling

    You are my compass. Other people use their passion as their compass, but you are mine. You are my inspiration to wake up every morning and feel invincible.

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    However, out of everything you have brought in my life, there is one that stands above them all. This is my love for your mother. I have not always appreciated her, and at times, have taken her for granted. I have neglected our time together. Time is the most important asset we have and I have wasted too much of it on useless people who add no value to our life. Your mother is the most beautiful, loving, and faithful person I know – I love her more because of you.

    Although it saddens me to think that one day you will outgrow my lap, I know that you will never outgrow my heart. As you grow from a cute little girl to a beautiful woman, never forget that you are meant for greatness. Always be the inspirational woman you were meant to be and remember that your mother and I will love you forever!

    Featured photo credit: Image by Sally Cavanaugh Photography via mpix.com

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    What Makes People Happy? 20 Secrets of “Always Happy” People

    What Makes People Happy? 20 Secrets of “Always Happy” People

    Some people just seem to float through life with a relentless sense of happiness – through the toughest of times, they’re unfazed and aloof, stopping to smell the roses and drinking out of a glass half full.

    They may not have much to be happy about, but the simplicity behind that fact itself may make them happy.

    It’s all a matter of perspective, conscious effort and self-awareness. Listed below are a number of reasons why some people are always happy.

    1. They Manage Their Expectations

    They’re not crushed when they don’t get what they want – or misled into expecting to get the most out of every situation. They approach every situation pragmatically, hoping for the best but being prepared for the worst.

    2. They Don’t Set Unrealistic Standards

    Similar to the last point, they don’t live their lives in a constant pursuit towards impossible visions of perfection, only to always find themselves falling short of what they want.

    3. They Don’t Take Anything for Granted

    Happiness rests with feeling fulfilled – those who fail to stop and appreciate what they have every now and again will never experience true fulfillment.

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    4. They’re Not Materialistic

    There are arguing viewpoints on whether or not money can really buy happiness; if it can, then we know from experience that we can never be satisfied because there will always be something newer or better that we want. Who has ever had enough money?

    5. They Don’t Dwell

    They don’t sweat the small things or waste time worrying about things that don’t really matter at the end of the day. They don’t let negative thoughts latch onto them and drain them or distract them. Life’s too short to worry.

    6. They Care About Themselves First

    They’re independent, care for themselves and understand that they must put their needs first in order to accommodate the needs of others.

    They indulge, aim to get what they want, make time for themselves and are extremely self-reliant.

    7. They Enjoy the Little Things

    They stop to smell the roses. They’re accustomed to find serenity when it’s available, to welcome entertainment or a stimulating discussion with a stranger when it crosses their path. They don’t overlook the small things in life that can be just as important.

    8. They Can Adapt

    They’re not afraid of change and they work to make the most out of new circumstances, good or bad. They thrive under pressure, are not overwhelmed easily and always embrace a change of pace.

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    9. They Experiment

    They try new things, experience new flavors and never shy away from something they have yet to experience. They never order twice from the same menu.

    10. They Take Their Time

    They don’t unnecessarily rush through life. They work on their own schedule to the extent that they can and maneuver through life at their own relaxing pace.

    11. They Employ Different Perspectives

    They’re not stuck in one perspective; a loss can result in a new opportunity, hitting rock bottom can mean that there’s no where to go but up.

    12. They Seek to Learn

    Their constant pursuit of knowledge keeps them inspired and interested in life. They cherish information and are on a life-long quest to learn as much as they can.

    13. They Always Have a Plan

    They don’t find themselves drifting without purpose. When something doesn’t go as planned, they have a plan for every letter in the alphabet to fall back on.

    14. They Give Respect to Get It

    They are respectful and, in turn, are seen as respectable; the respect they exude earns them the respect they deserve.

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    15. They Consider Every Opportunity

    They always have their eyes open for a new road, a new avenue worth exploring. They know how to recognize opportune moments and pounce on them to make the most of every situation. Success is inevitable for them.

    16. They Always Seek to Improve

    Perpetual self-improvement is the key towards their ongoing thirst for success. Whatever it is they do, they take pride in getting better and better, from social interactions to mundane tasks. Their pursuit at being the best eventually materializes.

    17. They Don’t Take Life Too Seriously

    They’re not ones to get offended easily over-analyze or complicate matters. They laugh at their own faults and misfortunes.

    18. They Live in the Moment

    They don’t live for tomorrow or dwell on what may have happened yesterday. Every day is a new opportunity, a new chapter. They live in the now, and in doing so, get the most out of every moment.

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    19. They Say Yes

    Much more often than they say no. They don’t have to be badgered to go out, don’t shy away from new opportunities or anything that may seem inconvenient.

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    20. They’re Self-Aware

    Most important, they’re wholly aware of themselves. They self-reflect and are conscious of their states of mind. If somethings bothering them, they fix it.

    We’re all susceptible to feeling down every now and again, but we are all equipped with the necessary solutions that just have to be discovered.

    Lack of confidence, inability to feel fulfilled, and susceptibility to stress are all matters that can be controlled through the way we handle our lives and perceive our circumstances.

    Learn about How Self-Reflection Gives You a Happier and More Successful Life.

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    The main philosophy employed by the happiest includes the idea that life’s simply too short: life’s too short to let things get you down, to take things for granted, to pursue absolute and unrealistic perfection.

    For some, employing these characteristics is a second nature – they do it without knowing. For others, a conscious effort must be put forth every now and again. Self-Awareness is key.

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