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Make Anyone Addicted to Every Word You Say

Make Anyone Addicted to Every Word You Say

We know the power of communication – it wins elections, jobs, friends, creates billionaires – it decides destiny.

It’s the one skill which skyrockets our success in every situation.

In five words:

It can transform your life.

We look for “writing tips” or “speaking tips” or “how-tos” to become a master communicator.

Yet, we can practice for months, and still, know we’re not “great”, but have no idea what separates us from a genius.

COMMUNICATION. A MASTER LEVEL.

In this article, we explore, in under 5 minutes, strategies every speaking person should know.

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I’ve analyzed the most successful authors, speakers, and presenters, and found they all apply 3 simple strategies:

  1. Focus on what’s important
  2. Make information as accessible as possible
  3. Eliminate crap and move quickly

FOCUS, FOCUS, FOCUS.

Greatness is distilled to core essence – it gives a person what they need – nothing more.

We rarely understand why we do what we do, or the “x factor” which makes something work.

People have short attention spans.

If they must put in tremendous effort to process something most will leave.

This doesn’t mean what we communicate can’t be 4,000 words.

Harry Potter and the Order of the Phoenix is 257,045 words and sold 11,000,000 copies in 24 hours.

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How do we create communication which captures everyone’s attention?

NOT WHAT WE SAY. HOW WE SAY IT.

Brilliant communication focuses on what’s said.

We know exactly what our audience wants, and throw away everything they don’t.

To do this, we search for:

  1. Unnecessary language.
  2. Repetitive language.

Here is an example from actor Kiefer Sutherland:

Their circumstances are very different and what they end up having to deal with is very different. But this idea of self-sacrifice for a larger good was something that is very much a common thread in both of those characters. I found that interesting, actually, that in the first pass of a read I didn’t get that at all. Only until I was playing it did I realize, ‘Ah, that’s why I like this character that much.’ That’s why I like Jack Bauer that much.”

Save time, effort, and make it great…

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Their circumstances, and what they end up having to deal with, is very different. Self-sacrifice for a larger good was common in both characters. In the first read I didn’t get that. Only until I was playing it did I realize, ‘that’s why I like this character.’ That’s why I like Jack Bauer.”

IMPROVEMENT. BY THE NUMBERS.

We went from 85 to 55 words – a 36% improvement – while removing none of the message, wasting less time, and giving the reader a better experience.

In a 2,500 word article or video, that’s 900 words.

Based on the average read speed of 200 wpm, that’s nearly 5 minutes of a 12-minute article, which can be trimmed to 7 minutes by removing unnecessary text.

Do we want to spend 30 minutes learning something we can learn in 15?

When we focus on creating engaging communication:

  1. It takes less effort
  2. We feel our time is better used
  3. Our audience prefers our simplicity over competitors’ complexity

In 4 words:

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GIVE ME THE MEAT.

A MASTERPIECE. ANYWHERE.

Ask yourself:

  1. What wouldn’t be missed if I eliminated it?
  2. What distracts from my core message?
  3. How can I make my communication quicker and more entertaining?

With practice, our brain gains intuition, and we become a master communicator automatically.

Take any piece of communication – see how efficient you can make it.

Want to be the best?

Commit to doing everything to deliver a brilliant experience.

Practice this skill over and over – it will transform your success in every area more than any other technique.

Small details make the difference between good and great – whatever you do, make it great.

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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