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Make Anyone Addicted to Every Word You Say

Make Anyone Addicted to Every Word You Say

We know the power of communication – it wins elections, jobs, friends, creates billionaires – it decides destiny.

It’s the one skill which skyrockets our success in every situation.

In five words:

It can transform your life.

We look for “writing tips” or “speaking tips” or “how-tos” to become a master communicator.

Yet, we can practice for months, and still, know we’re not “great”, but have no idea what separates us from a genius.

COMMUNICATION. A MASTER LEVEL.

In this article, we explore, in under 5 minutes, strategies every speaking person should know.

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I’ve analyzed the most successful authors, speakers, and presenters, and found they all apply 3 simple strategies:

  1. Focus on what’s important
  2. Make information as accessible as possible
  3. Eliminate crap and move quickly

FOCUS, FOCUS, FOCUS.

Greatness is distilled to core essence – it gives a person what they need – nothing more.

We rarely understand why we do what we do, or the “x factor” which makes something work.

People have short attention spans.

If they must put in tremendous effort to process something most will leave.

This doesn’t mean what we communicate can’t be 4,000 words.

Harry Potter and the Order of the Phoenix is 257,045 words and sold 11,000,000 copies in 24 hours.

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How do we create communication which captures everyone’s attention?

NOT WHAT WE SAY. HOW WE SAY IT.

Brilliant communication focuses on what’s said.

We know exactly what our audience wants, and throw away everything they don’t.

To do this, we search for:

  1. Unnecessary language.
  2. Repetitive language.

Here is an example from actor Kiefer Sutherland:

Their circumstances are very different and what they end up having to deal with is very different. But this idea of self-sacrifice for a larger good was something that is very much a common thread in both of those characters. I found that interesting, actually, that in the first pass of a read I didn’t get that at all. Only until I was playing it did I realize, ‘Ah, that’s why I like this character that much.’ That’s why I like Jack Bauer that much.”

Save time, effort, and make it great…

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Their circumstances, and what they end up having to deal with, is very different. Self-sacrifice for a larger good was common in both characters. In the first read I didn’t get that. Only until I was playing it did I realize, ‘that’s why I like this character.’ That’s why I like Jack Bauer.”

IMPROVEMENT. BY THE NUMBERS.

We went from 85 to 55 words – a 36% improvement – while removing none of the message, wasting less time, and giving the reader a better experience.

In a 2,500 word article or video, that’s 900 words.

Based on the average read speed of 200 wpm, that’s nearly 5 minutes of a 12-minute article, which can be trimmed to 7 minutes by removing unnecessary text.

Do we want to spend 30 minutes learning something we can learn in 15?

When we focus on creating engaging communication:

  1. It takes less effort
  2. We feel our time is better used
  3. Our audience prefers our simplicity over competitors’ complexity

In 4 words:

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GIVE ME THE MEAT.

A MASTERPIECE. ANYWHERE.

Ask yourself:

  1. What wouldn’t be missed if I eliminated it?
  2. What distracts from my core message?
  3. How can I make my communication quicker and more entertaining?

With practice, our brain gains intuition, and we become a master communicator automatically.

Take any piece of communication – see how efficient you can make it.

Want to be the best?

Commit to doing everything to deliver a brilliant experience.

Practice this skill over and over – it will transform your success in every area more than any other technique.

Small details make the difference between good and great – whatever you do, make it great.

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Last Updated on July 3, 2020

30 Small Habits To Lead A More Peaceful Life

30 Small Habits To Lead A More Peaceful Life

In today’s world, true peace must come from within us and our own actions. Here are 30 small things you can do on a regular basis to increase your overall sense of harmony, peace, and well-being:

1. Don’t go to every fight you’re invited to

Particularly when you’re around those who thrive on chaos, be willing to decline the invitation to join in on the drama.

2. Focus on your breath

Throughout the day, stop to take a few deep breaths. Keep stress at bay with techniques such as “square breathing.” Breathe in for four counts, hold for four counts, then out for four counts, and hold again for four counts. Repeat this cycle four times.

3. Get organized and purge old items

A cluttered space often creates a cluttered spirit. Take the time to get rid of anything you haven’t used in a year and invest in organizational systems that help you sustain a level of neatness.

4. Stop yourself from being judgmental

Whenever you are tempted to have an opinion about someone else’s life, check your intentions. Judging others creates and promotes negative energy.

5. Say ‘thank you’ early and often

Start and end each day with an attitude of gratitude. Look for opportunities in your daily routine and interactions to express appreciation.

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6. Smile more

Even if you have to “fake it until you make it,” there are many scientific benefits of smiling and laughing. Also, pay attention to your facial expression when you are doing neutral activities such as driving and walking. Turn that frown upside down!

7. Don’t worry about the future

As difficult as this sounds, there is a direct connection between staying in the present and living a more peaceful life. You cannot control the future. As the old proverb goes, “Worry is like a rocking chair. It gives you something to do, but it won’t get you anywhere.” Practice gently bringing your thoughts back to the present.

8. Eat real food

The closer the food is to the state from which it came from the earth, the better you will feel in eating it. Choose foods that grew from a plant over food that was made in a plant.

9. Choose being happy over being right

Too often, we sacrifice inner peace in order to make a point. It’s rarely worth it.

10. Keep technology out of the bedroom

Many studies, such as one conducted by Brigham and Women’s Hospital, have connected blue light of electronic devices before bed to adverse sleep and overall health. To make matters worse, many people report that they cannot resist checking email and social media when their cell phone is in reach of their bed, regardless of the time.

11. Make use of filtering features on social media

You may not want to “unfriend” someone completely, however you can choose whether you want to follow their posts and/or the sources of information that they share.

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12. Get comfortable with silence

When you picture someone who is the ultimate state of peace, typically they aren’t talking.

13. Listen to understand, not to respond

So often in conversations, we use our ears to give us cues about when it is our turn to say what we want to say. Practice active listening, ask questions, process, then speak.

14. Put your troubles in a bubble

Whenever you start to feel anxious, visualize the situation being wrapped in a bubble and then picture that sphere floating away.

15. Speak more slowly

Often a lack of peace manifests itself in fast or clipped speech. Take a breath, slow down, and let your thoughtful consideration drive your words.

16. Don’t procrastinate

Nothing adds stress to our lives like waiting until the last minute.

17. Buy a coloring book

Mandala coloring books for adults are becoming more popular because of their connection to creating inner peace.

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18. Prioritize yourself

You are the only person who you are guaranteed to live with 24 hours a day for the rest of your life.

19. Forgive others

Holding a grudge is hurting you exponentially more than anyone else. Let it go.

20. Check your expectations

Presumption often leads to drama. Remember the old saying, “Expectations are premeditated resentments.”

21. Engage in active play

Let your inner child come out and have some fun. Jump, dance, play, and pretend!

22. Stop criticizing yourself

The world is a hard enough place with more than enough critics. Your life is not served well by being one of them.

23. Focus your energy and attention on what you want

Thoughts, words, and actions all create energy. Energy attracts like energy. Put out what you want to get back.

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24. Assign yourself “complaint free” days.

Make a conscious decision not to complain about anything for a whole day. It might be harder than you think and the awareness will stick with you.

25. Surround yourself with people you truly enjoy being in the company of

Personalities tend to be contagious, and not everyone’s is worth catching. Be judicious in your choices.

26. Manage your money

Financial concerns rank top on the list of what causes people stress. Take the time each month to do a budget, calculate what you actually spend and sanity check that against the money you have coming in.

27. Stop trying to control everything

Not only is your inner control freak sabotaging your sense of peace, it is also likely getting in the way of external relationships as well.

28. Practice affirmations

Repeat positive phrases that depict the life and qualities you want to attract. It may not come naturally to you, but it works.

29. Get up before sunrise

Personally witnessing the dawn brings a unique sense of awe and appreciation for life.

30. Be yourself

Nothing creates more inner discord than trying to be something other than who we really are. Authenticity breeds happiness.

Featured photo credit: man watching sunrise via stokpic.com

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