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7 Ways to overcome depression during difficult times.

7 Ways to overcome depression during difficult times.

We all have experienced bad days and rough times in our lives. Reality is that happiness and sadness are momentary feelings, good and bad experiences and its external events are responsive of our feelings. We’ve experienced lost, anger, love, etc. and all that background is what make a person be the way he or she is.

Besides it sounds commercial, things will get better soon, but if you’re going through hard times, here are 10 ways that will help you and make you feel better.

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Exercise Lessons

You know exercise liberates brain chemicals and substances that change your mood immediately and make you feel better. You also will get stronger not just physically (body and immune system) but emotionally and mentally. Start with something easy and relaxing like Yoga or Meditation, and maybe including a short walk (you can walk your dog and feel doubly better by the way).

Change your routine and set a new one

Sometimes you just need to give yourself a break from everything and start again. This is the time where you start thinking everything calmed and clearer. You can start from the simplest activities like sleeping better, waking up earlier or taking a special time for breakfast (new and healthier recipes).

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Make a solo travel

It might sounds even more depressing the fact of traveling just by yourself, but you can’t imagine the amazing experience it actually is. In fact, it is recommended to travel alone at least once in our lives.

Solo traveling is a whole new experience, full of adventures and learning, this is the perfect solution for being alone and feeling absolutely fine and happy. You will learn a lot about yourself feeling in peace just meeting new friends, people, culture and places. Sounds like a perfect combination, isn’t it?

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Eat healthy and have a good diet

Have you heard the quote “healthy body, healthy mind”? Well, that’s the perfect balance you must achieve. There’s no better state than looking good and feeling fine. You will find millions of diets and nutrition tips online, you can start a new balanced plan or visit a nutritionist. There are many ways you can be physically and mentally healthier.

Analyze the situation and talk to someone or ask for help.

If you’re dealing with a breakup or going through a divorce, it is normal that you might start feeling sad or guilty and you might also miss that person. You need to let everything go to start feeling better and you can find help not just from your friends and family, but other useful online resources can help you (you can get online assistance from Lawyers, Psychologists, Doctors, etc. and also save money and time during that process).

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There are trusted medical websites like HealthWhoop that provides not only medical help and information, but also nutrition advice, mental health and exercise – fitness care.

Start writing!

You better start writing your way out of depression, because it allows you to reflect things in other ways and it also gives you the chance to see your feelings from a different perspective. You can start your own blog or do it on a traditional way and create a diary, this way you’ll get into a healthier state of mind and feel more calmed.

Surround yourself with friends and create memorable experiences.

Have you heard about the millennial generation and how they prioritize living and creating experiences over buying stuff or spending money on luxury? You could also adopt that way of being and thinking, you’ll start getting focused on personal growth and feeling satisfied with what you are and also achieve.

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Last Updated on July 10, 2020

How to Take Control of Your Life with Better Boundaries

How to Take Control of Your Life with Better Boundaries

We all have them—those hurtful, frustrating, offensive, manipulative people in our lives. No matter how hard we try to surround ourselves with positive and kind people, there will always be those who will disrespect, insult, berate, and misuse you if we allow them to.

We may, for a variety of reasons, not be able to avoid them, but we can determine how we interact with them and how we allow them to interact with us.

So, how to take control of your life and stop being pushed around?

Learning to set clear firm boundaries with the people in our lives at work and in our personal lives is the best way to protect ourselves from the negative effects of this kind of behavior.

What Boundaries Are (And What They’re Not)

Boundaries are limits

—they are not threats or ultimatums. Boundaries inform or teach. They are not a form of punishment.

Boundaries are firm lines—determined by you—which cannot be crossed by those around you. They are guidelines for how you will allow others to treat you and what kind of behaviors you will expect.

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Healthy personal boundaries help protect you from physical or emotional pain. You may also need to set firm boundaries at work to ensure you and your time are not disrespected. Don’t allow others to take advantage of your kindness and generosity.

Clear boundaries communicate to others that you demand respect and consideration—that you are willing to stand up for yourself and that you will not be a doormat for anyone. They are a “no trespassing” sign that makes it very clear when a line has been crossed and that there will be consequences for doing so.

Boundaries are not set with the intention of changing other people. They may change how people interact with you, but they are more about enforcing your needs than attempting to change the general behavior and attitude of others.

How to Establish Boundaries and Take Control of Your Life

Here are some ways that you can establish boundaries and take control of your life.

1. Self-Awareness Comes First

Before you can establish boundaries with others, you first need to understand what your needs are.

You are entitled to respect. You have the right to protect yourself from inappropriate or offensive behavior. Setting boundaries is a way of honoring your needs.

To set appropriate boundaries, you need to be clear about what healthy behaviors look like—what healthy relationships look like.

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You first have to become more aware of your feelings and honest with yourself about your expectations and what you feel is appropriate behavior:

  • Where do you need to establish better boundaries?
  • When do you feel disrespected?
  • When do you feel violated, frustrated, or angered by the behavior of others?
  • In what situations do you feel you are being mistreated or taken advantage of?
  • When do you want to be alone?
  • How much space do you need?

You need to honor your own needs and boundaries before you can expect others to honor them. This allows you to take control of your life.

2. Clear Communication Is Essential

Inform others clearly and directly what your expectations are. It is essential to have clear communication if you want others to respect your boundaries. Explain in an honest and respectful tone what you find offensive or unacceptable.

Many people simply aren’t aware that they are behaving inappropriately. They may never have been taught proper manners or consideration for others.

3. Be Specific but Don’t Blame

Taking a blaming or punishing attitude automatically puts people on the defensive. People will not listen when they feel attacked. It’s part of human nature.

That said, you do not need to overexplain or defend yourself. Boundaries are not open to compromise.

Sample language:

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  • “You may not…yell or raise your voice to me…”
  • “I need…to be treated with respect…”
  • “It’s not okay when…you take things from my desk without asking…”
  • “I won’t…do your work…cover for you anymore…”
  • “It’s not acceptable when…you ridicule or insult me…”
  • “I am uncomfortable when…you use offensive language”
  • “I will no longer be able to…lend you money…”

Being able to communicate these without sounding accusatory is essential if you want others to respect your boundaries so you can take control of your life.

4. Consequences Are Often Necessary

Determine what the appropriate consequences will be when boundaries are crossed. If it’s appropriate, be clear about those consequences upfront when communicating those boundaries to others.

Follow through. People won’t respect your boundaries if you don’t enforce them.

Standing our ground and forcing consequences doesn’t come easily to us. We want to be nice. We want people to like us, but we shouldn’t have to trade our self-respect to gain friends or to achieve success.

We may be tempted to let minor disrespect slide to avoid conflict, but as the familiar saying goes, “if you give people an inch, they’ll take a mile.”

It’s much easier to address offensive or inappropriate behavior now than to wait until that behavior has gotten completely out of hand.

It’s also important to remember that positive reinforcement is even more powerful than negative consequences. When people do alter the way they treat you, acknowledge it. Let people know that you notice and appreciate their efforts.

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Final Thoughts

Respect is always a valid reason for setting a boundary. Don’t defend yourself or your needs. Boundaries are often necessary to protect your time, your space, and your feelings. And these are essential if you want to take control of your life.

Start with the easiest boundaries first. Setting boundaries is a skill that needs to be practiced. Enlist support from others if necessary. Inform people immediately when they have crossed the line.

Don’t wait. Communicate politely and directly. Be clear about the consequences and follow them through.

The better you become at setting your own boundaries, the better you become at recognizing and respecting the boundaries of others.

Remember that establishing boundaries is your right. You are entitled to respect. You can’t control how other people behave, but you do have control over the way you allow people to treat you.

Learning to set boundaries is not always easy, but with time, it will become more comfortable. You may eventually find that boundaries become automatic and you no longer need to consciously set them.

They will simply become a natural extension of your self-respect.

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