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Getting Ready To Be A Parent: The Essentials

Getting Ready To Be A Parent: The Essentials

Congratulations! Life’s greatest adventure is coming your way and soon you’ll become a parent. You will be giving this world a new being, or perhaps a few of them and you’ll be taking care of this tiny creature while he/she grows and develops. Imagine that! What makes this whole event even more exciting is the fact that it is not only the birth of your child, but also the birth of your family and you as a parent. Amazing,

Still, some people get intimidated and they freak out during the preparation. You need a ton of stuff, you must take care of many things. Things might go a bit chaotic and messy if you don’t care.

There will be moments when you feel nervous or exhausted, discouraged or worried. However, if you intend to become the best parent there is, you will have to arm yourself with as much information as you can, so you can know what to expect and what you should do to make things last well.

The basics

While expecting a child, you’ll get countless tips on how to prepare a diaper, how to feed a baby, what clothing you’ll need, which feeding bottles are the best, which type of strollers fits your needs, etc. For the arrival of the baby, it’s simply impossible to get everything at the beginning primarily due to the limited amount of money, but also because it’s difficult to remember every little detail. We divided the basics into three most important categories from the start: feeding, clothing and transportation.

Let’s start from the beginning:

Feeding

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    Feeding time is of the utmost importance. Many mothers bottle-feed their babies, whether it be their choice or they are prevented from breastfeeding. However, this way of feeding a newborn also can be turned into a bonding ritual for fathers as well.

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    When they get used to feeding, babies develop a strong sucking force which might put them in danger of colic.

    There are baby bottles that help with colic and mimic the movement, flow and natural feeling that helps wth transition to artificial breastfeeding. Do the research and decide which to choose, how many, what shape, etc. Also, in the transition from the breast to baby bottle, the father can be of great help which further strengthens the bond between him and the baby, so moms, let them enjoy it!

    Clothing

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      The choice of clothes for the baby is fun, especially for the first baby and many parents will agree that this is one of the most interesting parts of parenting. We all love to dress children according to our taste and often, parents dress style is also transmitted to their children later on.

      Be practical! While it is very exciting to buy clothes for the baby, do not overdo that. Having a baby means a lot of costs and additional expenses for parents. While some items may seem irresistible to you, try to choose what is best and safest for your child. Have the temperature, baby skin sensitivity and clothing quality into consideration besides the price and size. One thing is certain: babies grow fast and they quickly outgrow the clothes.

      Transportation

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        One of the biggest items required for babies is certainly a stroller. Without them, every longer walk, retention outside the house or going to a restaurant would be unthinkable. Therefore, choosing a right stroller can be a challenging task, in particular with those with a limited budget and especially if you have a situation like on the image; a young toddler and an infant.

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        Some moms & dads get double-lucky right from the start and a double stroller is a necessity for them. The market is currently filled with dozen models of strollers, so the first thing you should ask yourself is: What strollers are necessary for my baby? How and when will I use the stroller?

        How many children do I plan to ride in this stroller? The rule is simple: the longer you plan to use this stroller – the more investment is required. Once you have selected the type and model, go for a test ride, it’s important to try the stroller.

        Next, we’ll have special sections only for future moms and dads, to help you guys get over the period of anticipation and preparing.

        Future Moms

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          Dear future moms, congratulations on the fantastic news! Just the thought of holding your baby in your arms is incredibly overwhelming and exciting, isn’t it? Giving birth is the most important event in your life and at the same time, one of the most challenging.

          While motherhood is an incredible experience, it brings some tremendous changes and you must be prepared for many things to come.

          Remember, the most important aspect is that during the “sweet anticipation” you must take care of yourself and your health and by doing that you are taking care of your baby simultaneously. Here’s what you should pay special attention.

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          Visit a doctor

          The first thing you’ll need to do when you see a positive test is to see a doctor who will help you through the course of pregnancy. It would be wise to write everything that would be useful on paper: your blood type, when was your last cycle, history of chronic diseases, or anything else you think might be relevant.

          Vitamins intake

          If you have not already taken prenatal vitamins, now it’s time to start. This especially refers to folic acid, which is crucial while trying to get pregnant and during the first period of pregnancy.

          During the first quarter, avoid vitamin A and retinol since they are not safe for the baby. Also, a lack of vitamin C and omega three fatty acids can reflect badly on your teeth and gums. Therefore, you must ensure that you get enough of these nutrients through food.

          Food variety

            Most people claim that pregnant women should eat for two, which is, according to nutritionists, far from the truth. The fact is, the quality of food that you consume is much more important than the quantity. Avoid big fish, inadequately cooked meat, raw sprouts, soft cheeses. That way you’ll reduce the risk of food poisoning. It doesn’t always hurt to have healthy snacks in the house, such as various fruit, nuts, yogurt, etc.

            Future dads, don’t panic

              Even though men do not want to admit, the period of adaptation to the fact that they will become parents, is perhaps even harder for them than for women. In addition to visible changes, hiding behind a facade of confidence is sensitive, sometimes timid, to a guy who is preparing for a new role.

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              We are all familiar with the symptoms that bother future moms: insomnia, mood swings, morning sickness, but according to some studies, as many as 90 percent of future fathers also experience maternity torment. They have an overwhelming desire for a particular food, sometimes overwhelming emotions, changeable desire for sex, etc.

              Mood swings

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                During a woman’s pregnancy, many men are also experiencing an emotional rollercoaster. Just the thought of being a father totally changes their life, so if you are thinking intensely about the tasks that are ahead of you, it is not surprising that you will be balancing between sadness, happiness and nervousness or at the times overwhelming gentleness. Future dads can have hormonal disbalances just like future moms, which might seem unnatural and strange.

                The stress can overwhelm you, but in these moments, you need to calm down and start thinking about your life in general. Think about the good things in your life and the amazing period that you’re having right now.

                Your purpose in this period is to ease the mom’s life as much as possible by doing house chores, making her feel comfortable and helping her go through the mood swings. During the second trimester, you might experience a huge growth of your lady’s libido or a total indifferentness. Regardless of the outcome, do your role responsibly and help her. You’ll have a babymoon or a dry season.

                Enjoy yourself

                  The miracle of life is getting close and you’re getting a new family member. Rejoice, and enjoy the fact that you’ll soon become a proud parent. Everything will sort itself out. It always does.

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                  Last Updated on January 17, 2019

                  8 Simple Mindfulness Exercises to Bring Peace and Happiness to Your Life

                  8 Simple Mindfulness Exercises to Bring Peace and Happiness to Your Life

                  In life, we all need to be conscientious of what we are doing. You don’t need to live a life of stress if you don’t want to. You can achieve peace and happiness in life by carefully building mindfulness exercises into your life’s routine.

                  Exercising mindfulness isn’t rocket science and as importantly, you can do it. It will, however, take a few tries to get into the groove of things but once you get it, it is like riding a bike, you will never lose it.

                  Trust me. It’s in your best interest to learn and put these mindfulness exercises into practice. In this article, I will share with you 8 mindfulness exercises that will help you to boost your energy, vitality and live a more peaceful and happier life.

                  Why Is It Hard to Live A Peaceful And Happy Life?

                  Our Habitat Has Become Too Technological

                  The world has accepted the idea that technology is often the cure for all evil. We have accepted, as a society, that everything technological will make us live a better life without fully investigating the many side effects that modernity brings.

                  There are a number of technological side effects that have a tremendous impact on your life that the media rarely tells you about.[1] Some of them include self-harm, economic inequality, having less sex, and even suicide. The global community is becoming less happy because of technology.

                  How can anybody live a peaceful and happy life when they are depressed? Technology advancements, ladies and gents, is a major reason for why we are living a poor life because it has infiltrated our lives too much.

                  According to my research, Americans spend an average of 8 hours a day looking at the computer screen — The average screen time spent on smartphones alone is about 20 hours per week. That’s a lot! No wonder why living a happy and peaceful life is so difficult these days.

                  Too Many People Don’t Want to Unplug

                  Americans check their phones an average of 80 times during vacation.[2] Some admit to checking their smartphones 300 times every single day. In countries like Brazil, India and China, the situation is no different.

                  The reality is that people are constantly plugged into technological devices and this behavior is literally making people all over the globe fight an inner war with themselves, which consequently makes them very sad. As we know, war is the enemy of peace which won’t make anybody happy.

                  Listen carefully:

                  We have a global anxiety epidemic because people don’t want to unplug from their smartphones and most people aren’t doing anything to fix it. It is a sad state of affairs but very real. This obsession with technology is turning us into perishable robots who live terrible lives.

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                  The era of anxiety is here to stay. There is little doubt about it. We can, however, fight back with the best remedy of all — We call it mindfulness!

                  Thank God there is an antidote to this whole technological madness. Without further ado, let’s go straight to the mindful exercises.

                  8 Mindfulness Exercises to Start Practicing

                  There are tons of mindfulness exercises available for you to engage with out there.[3] In the paragraphs below, I will include the best ones I’ve personally tried or have seen my close friends and family members try.

                  Are you ready for it? Let’s go!

                  1. Pray Daily

                  You should pray on a daily basis. Why is that you may ask — Well, because science has told us to do so.

                  When people pray, they feel peaceful, almost eliminating anxiety. Worries become secondary, and often gives people energy and hope to cope with the difficulties of life.

                  Prayer can make you more confident and focused. Prayer also helps you with self-control, helps to control pain, and can protect you against illnesses and disorders like cancer and high blood pressure. At least, this is what researchers from Harvard Medical School have said.[4]

                  Pray. You won’t regret it.[5]

                  2. Pay Attention to Your Inner Thoughts

                  A lot of people allow themselves to be influenced by their negative thoughts. Be different and resist believing in them. It is a bad habit that can lead to unhappiness.

                  By the way, if you do feel this way, chances are high that somebody other than you put these thoughts into your head.

                  Here is my secret to combat this cancer — look at things objectively. I bet that if you look at things as they are, you will realize that most if not all of your negative thoughts are only inside of your head.

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                  If you pay close attention, you will quickly realize that these voices aren’t worth your time. Believe me — Ignoring them and looking at things with objectivity is often the best course of action.

                  This article can guide you to beat negative thoughts:

                  How to Stop Automatic Negative Thoughts When You’re Overwhelmed

                  3. Smile Often

                  Smiling will slow down your heart. It will also relax your body because when you smile, your body releases endorphins which in itself has a number of positive benefits for you as a person.

                  Smile often! You may want to smile early in the morning, during the day, and late in the evening. It is amazing what happens to you when you decide to smile instead of being grumpy.

                  Surrender your problems to a nice smile. You will notice two things. First, most people just don’t which makes them live a miserable life. Second, if you decide to smile often, you will eventually smile unconsciously which is the ideal.

                  The moment that you smile unconsciously, you then know that you are truly happy.

                  4. Organize Your Working Desk

                  A messy desk will make you less productive and can agitate and overstimulate you. You don’t want that.

                  When you clear your desk, you engage in deep inner-thinking and your systematic decision making ends up becoming therapeutic.

                  Most people realize that they are most creative when their creative space is clean and organized. The former often makes people more aware of what they are doing which lends to less stress and more productivity.

                  Organizing your desk will also make you more energetic and focused because order often decreases chaos which is a condition that often slows down daily progress.

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                  5. Celebrate Your Friend’s Victories

                  I love this mindful exercise. One of the best ways to live a happy and peaceful life is to celebrate the victories of others. When you do that, you automatically make your friends in a better mood which makes you in a better mood, as well.

                  Happiness is contagious! We might as well celebrate others as much as we can. If you find out that your peer has won an award, celebrate with him! If your friend is the recipient of a local charity award, celebrate with her!

                  What is also awesome is that when you celebrate with others, they often celebrate with you in return. This, ladies and gentleman, will make you feel fantastic. You can’t go wrong with this one, period.

                  6. Listen to Your Spouse/Partner

                  God put someone in your life for a reason. You might as well listen to him or her.

                  I listen to my wife everyday. In fact, I often ask the following question to her, “Amanda, what are your thoughts about…” or “What am I missing about…” It is shocking what I hear back from her. Without her having much context and perspective, by the art of observation in my own nonverbal behavior and the behavior of others, she accurately gives me incredible insights which helps me out with living my life to the fullest.

                  I’m a firm believer that spouses are supposed to engage in interpersonal communication every day. I most definitely do and will continue doing it. You should do the same.

                  7. Give Yourself a Break from Technology

                  You can’t be in total equilibrium if your computerized devices control your life. You must get away from technology on a daily basis.[6]

                  How do you do that? This is my formula:

                  First, take this smartphone control test. It is only ten questions but this test will place you somewhere in the human robot cycle continuum.

                  If your score is between 25-30, take a break from the computer (or smartphone, pad, laptop/desktop) every twenty minutes and stop being on a computerized device after 8:00pm.

                  If you score between 30-35, still take a break every 20 minutes but stop being on these devices at 5:00pm.

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                  If you score more than 35, you need to take action immediately.

                  Limit computer use as much as possible throughout the day. Give yourself as many breaks from the computer as possible. Are you ready for the challenge?

                  8. Go Exercise

                  Go exercise at least three times a week. I don’t care if you need to workout early in the morning, late in the evening, on the weekends or during work days. Working out is absolutely imperative for you to live happy and peaceful life.

                  The stresses of the modern world are too much for you to neglect this important mindfulness exercise. When you go to the gym, you burn calories, focus on activities one step at a time, your mind relaxes, anxiety decreases, you sweat and often think about topics unrelated to your work place among many other benefits.

                  You must exercise at least three hours each week for optimum results. Why? Just take a look at all the benefits of regular exercising:

                  12 Benefits of Regular Exercise You Should Know

                  The Bottom Line

                  It’s in your best interest to learn and put these mindfulness exercises into practice. Now that our habitat has become too technological and many people just don’t want to unplug, engaging in daily prayer, celebrate your friends’ victories, and listening to your spouse are among the best ways to be mindful about what you are doing and how you are living.

                  It is possible to live a happy and peaceful life. It only depends on you.

                  Go exercise! Take a break from technology and invest in you! Life is too short for distractions.

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                  Featured photo credit: Lesly Juarez via unsplash.com

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