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Getting Ready To Be A Parent: The Essentials

Getting Ready To Be A Parent: The Essentials

Congratulations! Life’s greatest adventure is coming your way and soon you’ll become a parent. You will be giving this world a new being, or perhaps a few of them and you’ll be taking care of this tiny creature while he/she grows and develops. Imagine that! What makes this whole event even more exciting is the fact that it is not only the birth of your child, but also the birth of your family and you as a parent. Amazing,

Still, some people get intimidated and they freak out during the preparation. You need a ton of stuff, you must take care of many things. Things might go a bit chaotic and messy if you don’t care.

There will be moments when you feel nervous or exhausted, discouraged or worried. However, if you intend to become the best parent there is, you will have to arm yourself with as much information as you can, so you can know what to expect and what you should do to make things last well.

The basics

While expecting a child, you’ll get countless tips on how to prepare a diaper, how to feed a baby, what clothing you’ll need, which feeding bottles are the best, which type of strollers fits your needs, etc. For the arrival of the baby, it’s simply impossible to get everything at the beginning primarily due to the limited amount of money, but also because it’s difficult to remember every little detail. We divided the basics into three most important categories from the start: feeding, clothing and transportation.

Let’s start from the beginning:

Feeding

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    Feeding time is of the utmost importance. Many mothers bottle-feed their babies, whether it be their choice or they are prevented from breastfeeding. However, this way of feeding a newborn also can be turned into a bonding ritual for fathers as well.

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    When they get used to feeding, babies develop a strong sucking force which might put them in danger of colic.

    There are baby bottles that help with colic and mimic the movement, flow and natural feeling that helps wth transition to artificial breastfeeding. Do the research and decide which to choose, how many, what shape, etc. Also, in the transition from the breast to baby bottle, the father can be of great help which further strengthens the bond between him and the baby, so moms, let them enjoy it!

    Clothing

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      The choice of clothes for the baby is fun, especially for the first baby and many parents will agree that this is one of the most interesting parts of parenting. We all love to dress children according to our taste and often, parents dress style is also transmitted to their children later on.

      Be practical! While it is very exciting to buy clothes for the baby, do not overdo that. Having a baby means a lot of costs and additional expenses for parents. While some items may seem irresistible to you, try to choose what is best and safest for your child. Have the temperature, baby skin sensitivity and clothing quality into consideration besides the price and size. One thing is certain: babies grow fast and they quickly outgrow the clothes.

      Transportation

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        One of the biggest items required for babies is certainly a stroller. Without them, every longer walk, retention outside the house or going to a restaurant would be unthinkable. Therefore, choosing a right stroller can be a challenging task, in particular with those with a limited budget and especially if you have a situation like on the image; a young toddler and an infant.

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        Some moms & dads get double-lucky right from the start and a double stroller is a necessity for them. The market is currently filled with dozen models of strollers, so the first thing you should ask yourself is: What strollers are necessary for my baby? How and when will I use the stroller?

        How many children do I plan to ride in this stroller? The rule is simple: the longer you plan to use this stroller – the more investment is required. Once you have selected the type and model, go for a test ride, it’s important to try the stroller.

        Next, we’ll have special sections only for future moms and dads, to help you guys get over the period of anticipation and preparing.

        Future Moms

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          Dear future moms, congratulations on the fantastic news! Just the thought of holding your baby in your arms is incredibly overwhelming and exciting, isn’t it? Giving birth is the most important event in your life and at the same time, one of the most challenging.

          While motherhood is an incredible experience, it brings some tremendous changes and you must be prepared for many things to come.

          Remember, the most important aspect is that during the “sweet anticipation” you must take care of yourself and your health and by doing that you are taking care of your baby simultaneously. Here’s what you should pay special attention.

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          Visit a doctor

          The first thing you’ll need to do when you see a positive test is to see a doctor who will help you through the course of pregnancy. It would be wise to write everything that would be useful on paper: your blood type, when was your last cycle, history of chronic diseases, or anything else you think might be relevant.

          Vitamins intake

          If you have not already taken prenatal vitamins, now it’s time to start. This especially refers to folic acid, which is crucial while trying to get pregnant and during the first period of pregnancy.

          During the first quarter, avoid vitamin A and retinol since they are not safe for the baby. Also, a lack of vitamin C and omega three fatty acids can reflect badly on your teeth and gums. Therefore, you must ensure that you get enough of these nutrients through food.

          Food variety

            Most people claim that pregnant women should eat for two, which is, according to nutritionists, far from the truth. The fact is, the quality of food that you consume is much more important than the quantity. Avoid big fish, inadequately cooked meat, raw sprouts, soft cheeses. That way you’ll reduce the risk of food poisoning. It doesn’t always hurt to have healthy snacks in the house, such as various fruit, nuts, yogurt, etc.

            Future dads, don’t panic

              Even though men do not want to admit, the period of adaptation to the fact that they will become parents, is perhaps even harder for them than for women. In addition to visible changes, hiding behind a facade of confidence is sensitive, sometimes timid, to a guy who is preparing for a new role.

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              We are all familiar with the symptoms that bother future moms: insomnia, mood swings, morning sickness, but according to some studies, as many as 90 percent of future fathers also experience maternity torment. They have an overwhelming desire for a particular food, sometimes overwhelming emotions, changeable desire for sex, etc.

              Mood swings

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                During a woman’s pregnancy, many men are also experiencing an emotional rollercoaster. Just the thought of being a father totally changes their life, so if you are thinking intensely about the tasks that are ahead of you, it is not surprising that you will be balancing between sadness, happiness and nervousness or at the times overwhelming gentleness. Future dads can have hormonal disbalances just like future moms, which might seem unnatural and strange.

                The stress can overwhelm you, but in these moments, you need to calm down and start thinking about your life in general. Think about the good things in your life and the amazing period that you’re having right now.

                Your purpose in this period is to ease the mom’s life as much as possible by doing house chores, making her feel comfortable and helping her go through the mood swings. During the second trimester, you might experience a huge growth of your lady’s libido or a total indifferentness. Regardless of the outcome, do your role responsibly and help her. You’ll have a babymoon or a dry season.

                Enjoy yourself

                  The miracle of life is getting close and you’re getting a new family member. Rejoice, and enjoy the fact that you’ll soon become a proud parent. Everything will sort itself out. It always does.

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                  Last Updated on September 20, 2018

                  How to Stay Calm and Cool When You Are Extremely Stressful

                  How to Stay Calm and Cool When You Are Extremely Stressful

                  Being in a hurry all the time drains your energy. Your work and routine life make you feel overwhelmed. Getting caught up in things beyond your control stresses you out…

                  If you’d like to stay calm and cool in stressful situations, put the following 8 steps into practice:

                  1. Breathe

                  The next time you’re faced with a stressful situation that makes you want to hurry, stop what you’re doing for one minute and perform the following steps:

                  • Take five deep breaths in and out (your belly should come forward with each inhale).
                  • Imagine all that stress leaving your body with each exhale.
                  • Smile. Fake it if you have to. It’s pretty hard to stay grumpy with a goofy grin on your face.

                  Feel free to repeat the above steps every few hours at work or home if you need to.

                  2. Loosen up

                  After your breathing session, perform a quick body scan to identify any areas that are tight or tense. Clenched jaw? Rounded shoulders? Anything else that isn’t at ease?

                  Gently touch or massage any of your body parts that are under tension to encourage total relaxation. It might help to imagine you’re in a place that calms you: a beach, hot tub, or nature trail, for example.

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                  3. Chew slowly

                  Slow down at the dinner table if you want to learn to be patient and lose weight. Shoveling your food down as fast as you can is a surefire way to eat more than you need to (and find yourself with a bellyache).

                  Be a mindful eater who pays attention to the taste, texture, and aroma of every dish. Chew slowly while you try to guess all of the ingredients that were used to prepare your dish.

                  Chewing slowly will also reduce those dreadful late-night cravings that sneak up on you after work.

                  4. Let go

                  Cliche as it sounds, it’s very effective.

                  The thing that seems like the end of the world right now?

                  It’s not. Promise.

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                  Stressing and worrying about the situation you’re in won’t do any good because you’re already in it, so just let it go.

                  Letting go isn’t easy, so here’s a guide to help you:

                  21 Things To Do When You Find It Hard To Let Go

                  5. Enjoy the journey

                  Focusing on the end result can quickly become exhausting. Chasing a bold, audacious goal that’s going to require a lot of time and patience? Split it into several mini-goals so you’ll have several causes for celebration.

                  Stop focusing on the negative thoughts. Giving yourself consistent positive feedback will help you grow patience, stay encouraged, and find more joy in the process of achieving your goals.

                  6. Look at the big picture

                  The next time you find your stress level skyrocketing, take a deep breath, and ask yourself:

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                  Will this matter to me…

                  • Next week?
                  • Next month?
                  • Next year?
                  • In 10 years?

                  Hint: No, it won’t.

                  I bet most of the stuff that stresses you wouldn’t matter the next week, maybe not even the next day.

                  Stop agonizing over things you can’t control because you’re only hurting yourself.

                  7. Stop demanding perfection of yourself

                  You’re not perfect and that’s okay. Show me a person who claims to be perfect and I’ll show you a dirty liar.

                  Demanding perfection of yourself (or anybody else) will only stress you out because it just isn’t possible.

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                  8. Practice patience every day

                  Below are a few easy ways you can practice patience every day, increasing your ability to remain calm and cool in times of stress:

                  • The next time you go to the grocery store, get in the longest line.
                  • Instead of going through the drive-thru at your bank, go inside.
                  • Take a long walk through a secluded park or trail.

                  Final thoughts

                  Staying calm in stressful situations is possible, all you need is some daily practice.

                  Taking deep breaths and eat mindfully are some simple ways to train your brain to be more patient. But changing the way you think of a situation and staying positive are most important in keeping cool whenever you feel overwhelmed and stressful.

                  Featured photo credit: Brooke Cagle via unsplash.com

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