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5 Grooming Tips for Men to Boost Their Confidence

5 Grooming Tips for Men to Boost Their Confidence

Confidence matters so much more than many of us like to admit. Studies have shown that confidence matters just as much as intelligence or skills for getting ahead in life. And while that may seem bad at first, it really is not. By being confident, you project an image which everyone wants to be a part of, and that ability to appeal to people is a highly useful skill.

But part of being confident means projecting an appealing image. No one is going to be confidence in you if you are wearing a ratty t-shirt and a hideous beard. And it becomes a lot harder to stay confident yourself if no one else is.

Looking good and properly groomed is the first step to both gain the respect of your peers and boost your own confidence in turn. While we may think of grooming as some weird thing done with lotions and creams, it is not that difficult. Here are a few steps for you to consider as you groom your way into success and confidence.

  1. Don’t grow a beard

Chances are that if you are reading this, you probably do not have a lot of experience with personal grooming. One thing which inexperienced people often do (and this applies to grooming, hobbies, or life in general) is that they try to make a grand gesture to show that they are going to pay more attention to how they look. And what gesture is grander than growing a beard?

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Don’t. And if you have a beard, I would recommend shaving it.

Beards can look good under the right circumstances, and I do respect those who want to go for the stubble look. But they just don’t work a lot of the time and require real effort to maintain and ensure they look good. For now, you should be using that effort on the other aspects of good grooming.

The beard did have its heyday five years ago, but that was five years ago.

  1. How you shave matters

You probably have been shaving regularly for years, but there is a lot about shaving which men do not know about. And while equipment such as a straight razor or a brush can improve your shaving experience, your technique is more important.

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One of the most important things you can do is to let the lather sit on your face for a few minutes before you shave. The entire point of the lather is so it can soften your skin and hair for a smoother shave. The longer you let it sit, the softer your face will become.

Here are some additional tips to learn about on how to properly shave. Also, do not hesitate to get a professional shave right before a big meeting or a date.

  1. Trim your nose hairs

Whether you look better with a beard or not is a matter of debate, but everyone thinks visible nose hairs are disgusting. A single long nose hair can focus people’s attention away from the rest of your well-groomed face and create a bad impression about you.

That sort of scorn is deserved, especially because trimming your nose hair does not require a lot of effort. You can find a trimmer or scissors with a rounded tip at Walgreens or order one from Amazon. Use it once every few weeks and you should be set.

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  1. Take regular walks

People don’t just look at your face when they meet you. They look at your whole body, and so you should work to make sure that it is in good shape.

Now you could go the whole hog into some fitness routine, but you should start by taking regular outdoor walks. Not only is the exercise good for you, but walking outdoors should distract your mind from your regular stresses and give you the energy you need to appear confident in front of others.

The Department of Health and Human Services recommends 150 minutes of moderate aerobic activity every week, and walking is a good way to fulfill that quota. It won’t make you muscular, but moderate exercise can improve your health, your figure, and your confidence.

  1. Get more haircuts

If you ever hear the words, “Hey, you got a haircut”, you have made a mistake. A well-groomed and confident man should never make it clear that they have gotten a haircut. One leading clinic that performs hair transplants advises against hair products to maintain a natural look. You want to maintain a consistent appearance so that people will always have the same, positive impression of you.

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If you are hearing those words, then go to the barber more often. I would recommend that once every three weeks is a good amount, and you can go once every four weeks if you want to stretch the time between haircuts a bit more. But I know way too many people who go every six to eight weeks, if not longer. Do not do that.

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Last Updated on September 16, 2019

How to Stop Procrastinating: 11 Practical Ways for Procrastinators

How to Stop Procrastinating: 11 Practical Ways for Procrastinators

You have a deadline looming. However, instead of doing your work, you are fiddling with miscellaneous things like checking email, social media, watching videos, surfing blogs and forums. You know you should be working, but you just don’t feel like doing anything.

We are all familiar with the procrastination phenomenon. When we procrastinate, we squander away our free time and put off important tasks we should be doing them till it’s too late. And when it is indeed too late, we panic and wish we got started earlier.

The chronic procrastinators I know have spent years of their life looped in this cycle. Delaying, putting off things, slacking, hiding from work, facing work only when it’s unavoidable, then repeating this loop all over again. It’s a bad habit that eats us away and prevents us from achieving greater results in life.

Don’t let procrastination take over your life. Here, I will share my personal steps on how to stop procrastinating. These 11 steps will definitely apply to you too:

1. Break Your Work into Little Steps

Part of the reason why we procrastinate is because subconsciously, we find the work too overwhelming for us. Break it down into little parts, then focus on one part at the time. If you still procrastinate on the task after breaking it down, then break it down even further. Soon, your task will be so simple that you will be thinking “gee, this is so simple that I might as well just do it now!”.

For example, I’m currently writing a new book (on How to achieve anything in life). Book writing at its full scale is an enormous project and can be overwhelming. However, when I break it down into phases such as –

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  • (1) Research
  • (2) Deciding the topic
  • (3) Creating the outline
  • (4) Drafting the content
  • (5) Writing Chapters #1 to #10,
  • (6) Revision
  • (7) etc.

Suddenly it seems very manageable. What I do then is to focus on the immediate phase and get it done to my best ability, without thinking about the other phases. When it’s done, I move on to the next.

2. Change Your Environment

Different environments have different impact on our productivity. Look at your work desk and your room. Do they make you want to work or do they make you want to snuggle and sleep? If it’s the latter, you should look into changing your workspace.

One thing to note is that an environment that makes us feel inspired before may lose its effect after a period of time. If that’s the case, then it’s time to change things around. Refer to Steps #2 and #3 of 13 Strategies To Jumpstart Your Productivity, which talks about revamping your environment and workspace.

3. Create a Detailed Timeline with Specific Deadlines

Having just 1 deadline for your work is like an invitation to procrastinate. That’s because we get the impression that we have time and keep pushing everything back, until it’s too late.

Break down your project (see tip #1), then create an overall timeline with specific deadlines for each small task. This way, you know you have to finish each task by a certain date. Your timelines must be robust, too – i.e. if you don’t finish this by today, it’s going to jeopardize everything else you have planned after that. This way it creates the urgency to act.

My goals are broken down into monthly, weekly, right down to the daily task lists, and the list is a call to action that I must accomplish this by the specified date, else my goals will be put off.

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Here’re more tips on setting deadlines: 22 Tips for Effective Deadlines

4. Eliminate Your Procrastination Pit-Stops

If you are procrastinating a little too much, maybe that’s because you make it easy to procrastinate.

Identify your browser bookmarks that take up a lot of your time and shift them into a separate folder that is less accessible. Disable the automatic notification option in your email client. Get rid of the distractions around you.

I know some people will out of the way and delete or deactivate their facebook accounts. I think it’s a little drastic and extreme as addressing procrastination is more about being conscious of our actions than counteracting via self-binding methods, but if you feel that’s what’s needed, go for it.

5. Hang out with People Who Inspire You to Take Action

I’m pretty sure if you spend just 10 minutes talking to Steve Jobs or Bill Gates, you’ll be more inspired to act than if you spent the 10 minutes doing nothing. The people we are with influence our behaviors. Of course spending time with Steve Jobs or Bill Gates every day is probably not a feasible method, but the principle applies — The Hidden Power of Every Single Person Around You

Identify the people, friends or colleagues who trigger you – most likely the go-getters and hard workers – and hang out with them more often. Soon you will inculcate their drive and spirit too.

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As a personal development blogger, I “hang out” with inspiring personal development experts by reading their blogs and corresponding with them regularly via email and social media. It’s communication via new media and it works all the same.

6. Get a Buddy

Having a companion makes the whole process much more fun. Ideally, your buddy should be someone who has his/her own set of goals. Both of you will hold each other accountable to your goals and plans. While it’s not necessary for both of you to have the same goals, it’ll be even better if that’s the case, so you can learn from each other.

I have a good friend whom I talk to regularly, and we always ask each other about our goals and progress in achieving those goals. Needless to say, it spurs us to keep taking action.

7. Tell Others About Your Goals

This serves the same function as #6, on a larger scale. Tell all your friends, colleagues, acquaintances and family about your projects. Now whenever you see them, they are bound to ask you about your status on those projects.

For example, sometimes I announce my projects on The Personal Excellence Blog, Twitter and Facebook, and my readers will ask me about them on an ongoing basis. It’s a great way to keep myself accountable to my plans.

8. Seek out Someone Who Has Already Achieved the Outcome

What is it you want to accomplish here, and who are the people who have accomplished this already? Go seek them out and connect with them. Seeing living proof that your goals are very well achievable if you take action is one of the best triggers for action.

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9. Re-Clarify Your Goals

If you have been procrastinating for an extended period of time, it might reflect a misalignment between what you want and what you are currently doing. Often times, we outgrow our goals as we discover more about ourselves, but we don’t change our goals to reflect that.

Get away from your work (a short vacation will be good, else just a weekend break or staycation will do too) and take some time to regroup yourself. What exactly do you want to achieve? What should you do to get there? What are the steps to take? Does your current work align with that? If not, what can you do about it?

10. Stop Over-Complicating Things

Are you waiting for a perfect time to do this? That maybe now is not the best time because of X, Y, Z reasons? Ditch that thought because there’s never a perfect time. If you keep waiting for one, you are never going to accomplish anything.

Perfectionism is one of the biggest reasons for procrastination. Read more about why perfectionist tendencies can be a bane than a boon: Why Being A Perfectionist May Not Be So Perfect.

11. Get a Grip and Just Do It

At the end, it boils down to taking action. You can do all the strategizing, planning and hypothesizing, but if you don’t take action, nothing’s going to happen. Occasionally, I get readers and clients who keep complaining about their situations but they still refuse to take action at the end of the day.

Reality check:

I have never heard anyone procrastinate their way to success before and I doubt it’s going to change in the near future.  Whatever it is you are procrastinating on, if you want to get it done, you need to get a grip on yourself and do it.

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