Confidence matters so much more than many of us like to admit. Studies have shown that confidence matters just as much as intelligence or skills for getting ahead in life. And while that may seem bad at first, it really is not. By being confident, you project an image which everyone wants to be a part of, and that ability to appeal to people is a highly useful skill.
But part of being confident means projecting an appealing image. No one is going to be confidence in you if you are wearing a ratty t-shirt and a hideous beard. And it becomes a lot harder to stay confident yourself if no one else is.
Looking good and properly groomed is the first step to both gain the respect of your peers and boost your own confidence in turn. While we may think of grooming as some weird thing done with lotions and creams, it is not that difficult. Here are a few steps for you to consider as you groom your way into success and confidence.
Don’t grow a beard
Chances are that if you are reading this, you probably do not have a lot of experience with personal grooming. One thing which inexperienced people often do (and this applies to grooming, hobbies, or life in general) is that they try to make a grand gesture to show that they are going to pay more attention to how they look. And what gesture is grander than growing a beard?
Don’t. And if you have a beard, I would recommend shaving it.
Beards can look good under the right circumstances, and I do respect those who want to go for the stubble look. But they just don’t work a lot of the time and require real effort to maintain and ensure they look good. For now, you should be using that effort on the other aspects of good grooming.
The beard did have its heyday five years ago, but that was five years ago.
How you shave matters
You probably have been shaving regularly for years, but there is a lot about shaving which men do not know about. And while equipment such as a straight razor or a brush can improve your shaving experience, your technique is more important.
One of the most important things you can do is to let the lather sit on your face for a few minutes before you shave. The entire point of the lather is so it can soften your skin and hair for a smoother shave. The longer you let it sit, the softer your face will become.
Here are some additional tips to learn about on how to properly shave. Also, do not hesitate to get a professional shave right before a big meeting or a date.
Trim your nose hairs
Whether you look better with a beard or not is a matter of debate, but everyone thinks visible nose hairs are disgusting. A single long nose hair can focus people’s attention away from the rest of your well-groomed face and create a bad impression about you.
That sort of scorn is deserved, especially because trimming your nose hair does not require a lot of effort. You can find a trimmer or scissors with a rounded tip at Walgreens or order one from Amazon. Use it once every few weeks and you should be set.
Take regular walks
People don’t just look at your face when they meet you. They look at your whole body, and so you should work to make sure that it is in good shape.
Now you could go the whole hog into some fitness routine, but you should start by taking regular outdoor walks. Not only is the exercise good for you, but walking outdoors should distract your mind from your regular stresses and give you the energy you need to appear confident in front of others.
The Department of Health and Human Services recommends 150 minutes of moderate aerobic activity every week, and walking is a good way to fulfill that quota. It won’t make you muscular, but moderate exercise can improve your health, your figure, and your confidence.
Get more haircuts
If you ever hear the words, “Hey, you got a haircut”, you have made a mistake. A well-groomed and confident man should never make it clear that they have gotten a haircut. One leading clinic that performs hair transplants advises against hair products to maintain a natural look. You want to maintain a consistent appearance so that people will always have the same, positive impression of you.
If you are hearing those words, then go to the barber more often. I would recommend that once every three weeks is a good amount, and you can go once every four weeks if you want to stretch the time between haircuts a bit more. But I know way too many people who go every six to eight weeks, if not longer. Do not do that.
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