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5 Grooming Tips for Men to Boost Their Confidence

5 Grooming Tips for Men to Boost Their Confidence

Confidence matters so much more than many of us like to admit. Studies have shown that confidence matters just as much as intelligence or skills for getting ahead in life. And while that may seem bad at first, it really is not. By being confident, you project an image which everyone wants to be a part of, and that ability to appeal to people is a highly useful skill.

But part of being confident means projecting an appealing image. No one is going to be confidence in you if you are wearing a ratty t-shirt and a hideous beard. And it becomes a lot harder to stay confident yourself if no one else is.

Looking good and properly groomed is the first step to both gain the respect of your peers and boost your own confidence in turn. While we may think of grooming as some weird thing done with lotions and creams, it is not that difficult. Here are a few steps for you to consider as you groom your way into success and confidence.

  1. Don’t grow a beard

Chances are that if you are reading this, you probably do not have a lot of experience with personal grooming. One thing which inexperienced people often do (and this applies to grooming, hobbies, or life in general) is that they try to make a grand gesture to show that they are going to pay more attention to how they look. And what gesture is grander than growing a beard?

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Don’t. And if you have a beard, I would recommend shaving it.

Beards can look good under the right circumstances, and I do respect those who want to go for the stubble look. But they just don’t work a lot of the time and require real effort to maintain and ensure they look good. For now, you should be using that effort on the other aspects of good grooming.

The beard did have its heyday five years ago, but that was five years ago.

  1. How you shave matters

You probably have been shaving regularly for years, but there is a lot about shaving which men do not know about. And while equipment such as a straight razor or a brush can improve your shaving experience, your technique is more important.

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One of the most important things you can do is to let the lather sit on your face for a few minutes before you shave. The entire point of the lather is so it can soften your skin and hair for a smoother shave. The longer you let it sit, the softer your face will become.

Here are some additional tips to learn about on how to properly shave. Also, do not hesitate to get a professional shave right before a big meeting or a date.

  1. Trim your nose hairs

Whether you look better with a beard or not is a matter of debate, but everyone thinks visible nose hairs are disgusting. A single long nose hair can focus people’s attention away from the rest of your well-groomed face and create a bad impression about you.

That sort of scorn is deserved, especially because trimming your nose hair does not require a lot of effort. You can find a trimmer or scissors with a rounded tip at Walgreens or order one from Amazon. Use it once every few weeks and you should be set.

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  1. Take regular walks

People don’t just look at your face when they meet you. They look at your whole body, and so you should work to make sure that it is in good shape.

Now you could go the whole hog into some fitness routine, but you should start by taking regular outdoor walks. Not only is the exercise good for you, but walking outdoors should distract your mind from your regular stresses and give you the energy you need to appear confident in front of others.

The Department of Health and Human Services recommends 150 minutes of moderate aerobic activity every week, and walking is a good way to fulfill that quota. It won’t make you muscular, but moderate exercise can improve your health, your figure, and your confidence.

  1. Get more haircuts

If you ever hear the words, “Hey, you got a haircut”, you have made a mistake. A well-groomed and confident man should never make it clear that they have gotten a haircut. One leading clinic that performs hair transplants advises against hair products to maintain a natural look. You want to maintain a consistent appearance so that people will always have the same, positive impression of you.

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If you are hearing those words, then go to the barber more often. I would recommend that once every three weeks is a good amount, and you can go once every four weeks if you want to stretch the time between haircuts a bit more. But I know way too many people who go every six to eight weeks, if not longer. Do not do that.

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Last Updated on January 21, 2020

The Best Way to Create a Vision for the Life You Want

The Best Way to Create a Vision for the Life You Want

Creating a vision for your life might seem like a frivolous, fantastical waste of time, but it’s not: creating a compelling vision of the life you want is actually one of the most effective strategies for achieving the life of your dreams. Perhaps the best way to look at the concept of a life vision is as a compass to help guide you to take the best actions and make the right choices that help propel you toward your best life.

your vision of where or who you want to be is the greatest asset you have

    Why You Need a Vision

    Experts and life success stories support the idea that with a vision in mind, you are more likely to succeed far beyond what you could otherwise achieve without a clear vision. Think of crafting your life vision as mapping a path to your personal and professional dreams. Life satisfaction and personal happiness are within reach. The harsh reality is that if you don’t develop your own vision, you’ll allow other people and circumstances to direct the course of your life.

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    How to Create Your Life Vision

    Don’t expect a clear and well-defined vision overnight—envisioning your life and determining the course you will follow requires time, and reflection. You need to cultivate vision and perspective, and you also need to apply logic and planning for the practical application of your vision. Your best vision blossoms from your dreams, hopes, and aspirations. It will resonate with your values and ideals, and will generate energy and enthusiasm to help strengthen your commitment to explore the possibilities of your life.

    What Do You Want?

    The question sounds deceptively simple, but it’s often the most difficult to answer. Allowing yourself to explore your deepest desires can be very frightening. You may also not think you have the time to consider something as fanciful as what you want out of life, but it’s important to remind yourself that a life of fulfillment does not usually happen by chance, but by design.

    It’s helpful to ask some thought-provoking questions to help you discover the possibilities of what you want out of life. Consider every aspect of your life, personal and professional, tangible and intangible. Contemplate all the important areas, family and friends, career and success, health and quality of life, spiritual connection and personal growth, and don’t forget about fun and enjoyment.

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    Some tips to guide you:

    • Remember to ask why you want certain things
    • Think about what you want, not on what you don’t want.
    • Give yourself permission to dream.
    • Be creative. Consider ideas that you never thought possible.
    • Focus on your wishes, not what others expect of you.

    Some questions to start your exploration:

    • What really matters to you in life? Not what should matter, what does matter.
    • What would you like to have more of in your life?
    • Set aside money for a moment; what do you want in your career?
    • What are your secret passions and dreams?
    • What would bring more joy and happiness into your life?
    • What do you want your relationships to be like?
    • What qualities would you like to develop?
    • What are your values? What issues do you care about?
    • What are your talents? What’s special about you?
    • What would you most like to accomplish?
    • What would legacy would you like to leave behind?

    It may be helpful to write your thoughts down in a journal or creative vision board if you’re the creative type. Add your own questions, and ask others what they want out of life. Relax and make this exercise fun. You may want to set your answers aside for a while and come back to them later to see if any have changed or if you have anything to add.

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    What Would Your Best Life Look Like?

    Describe your ideal life in detail. Allow yourself to dream and imagine, and create a vivid picture. If you can’t visualize a picture, focus on how your best life would feel. If you find it difficult to envision your life 20 or 30 years from now, start with five years—even a few years into the future will give you a place to start. What you see may surprise you. Set aside preconceived notions. This is your chance to dream and fantasize.

    A few prompts to get you started:

    • What will you have accomplished already?
    • How will you feel about yourself?
    • What kind of people are in your life? How do you feel about them?
    • What does your ideal day look like?
    • Where are you? Where do you live? Think specifics, what city, state, or country, type of community, house or an apartment, style and atmosphere.
    • What would you be doing?
    • Are you with another person, a group of people, or are you by yourself?
    • How are you dressed?
    • What’s your state of mind? Happy or sad? Contented or frustrated?
    • What does your physical body look like? How do you feel about that?
    • Does your best life make you smile and make your heart sing? If it doesn’t, dig deeper, dream bigger.

    It’s important to focus on the result, or at least a way-point in your life. Don’t think about the process for getting there yet—that’s the next stepGive yourself permission to revisit this vision every day, even if only for a few minutes. Keep your vision alive and in the front of your mind.

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    Plan Backwards

    It may sound counter-intuitive to plan backwards rather than forwards, but when you’re planning your life from the end result, it’s often more useful to consider the last step and work your way back to the first. This is actually a valuable and practical strategy for making your vision a reality.

    • What’s the last thing that would’ve had to happen to achieve your best life?
    • What’s the most important choice you would’ve had to make?
    • What would you have needed to learn along the way?
    • What important actions would you have had to take?
    • What beliefs would you have needed to change?
    • What habits or behaviors would you have had to cultivate?
    • What type of support would you have had to enlist?
    • How long will it have taken you to realize your best life?
    • What steps or milestones would you have needed to reach along the way?

    Now it’s time to think about your first step, and the next step after that. Ponder the gap between where you are now and where you want to be in the future. It may seem impossible, but it’s quite achievable if you take it step-by-step.

    It’s important to revisit this vision from time to time. Don’t be surprised if your answers to the questions, your technicolor vision, and the resulting plans change. That can actually be a very good thing; as you change in unforeseeable ways, the best life you envision will change as well. For now, it’s important to use the process, create your vision, and take the first step towards making that vision a reality.

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