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Poor Man Cries Heartbreakingly On A Cold Night, Young Woman Helps Him With A Great Idea

Poor Man Cries Heartbreakingly On A Cold Night, Young Woman Helps Him With A Great Idea

What would you do if you witnessed suffering first-hand? Would you be able to come up with the right words, the right actions, and the right response to make a difference? Most importantly, would you be brave enough to interfere?

 A Night Of Suffering

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    via Nicole Heintz (Facebook)

    Nicole Heintz was just an average young woman on her way to work on a freezing Minnesota day. She stopped at a gas station — both to refill her tank and get some quiet time before she started a rushed shift — and found a scene she hadn’t expected.

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    A man, sobbing heartbreakingly and downtrodden, huddled near a gas pump. He wore flip-flops and tattered stockings. Nicole got out of her car and peeked into the vehicle he stood by. Inside, a woman in the front seat sat with her hands over her face in shame while her two daughters cuddled together beneath a blanket in the backseat, trying to stay warm.

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      An Act Of Human Compassion

      His desolate confession, “I can’t even provide for my family”, moved her to action. Nicole reacted out of compassionate instinct: she swiped her card at the pump the man stood near and told him to fill up his car.

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      “In that same moment his wife got out of her car, she asked her husband what was going on and he told her I just paid for their gas. Her pants were dirty and torn. I asked her to come to my car”, she recalled.

      Fortunately for Nicole, a disaster in her trip from California to Minnesota — lost luggage and an impromptu shopping trip to replace her clothing and donate older pieces — turned out to be a blessing in disguise. She told the lady to take whatever she wanted. The woman ran back to get her two daughters, who were also dressed in torn clothing that couldn’t keep them warm. They dug through the bags and layered pieces over their old clothes.

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        via Nicole Heintz (Facebook)

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          Passing It On

          Nicole’s good deed didn’t end there. Her actions brought a crowd of spectators. An older man gave the father his jacket and another gave them a gift card.

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            via Keith Meyers (NY Times)

            Helping others has a domino effect: one good action often compels others who see it to stand up in other situations. The world will not change unless we demand it. We need to take action to make changes. Not because it is newsworthy, but because it is right.

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              7 Signs of an Unhappy Relationship That Makes You Feel Stuck

              7 Signs of an Unhappy Relationship That Makes You Feel Stuck

              Relationships are complicated and when you’re unhappy, it can be difficult to tell what’s causing it and what needs to change.

              Sometimes it’s as easy as opening up to your partner about your problems, while other times it may be necessary to switch partners or roll solo to get your mind straight.

              When you’re in the thick of things, it can be difficult to tell if you’re unhappy in your relationship or just unhappy in general (in which case, a relationship may be just the cure you need).

              Here’re signs of an unhappy relationship that is possibly making you feel stuck:

              1. You’re depressed about your home life.

              No matter what you do in life, you’re going to have good and bad days. Your relationship is no different.

              However, no matter what you’re going through at home, you have to feel comfortable in your own home.

              If you constantly dread going home because your significant other is there, there’s a problem. Maybe it’s something you already know about, everyone has an argument or just needs some alone time.

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              When that yearning to be alone becomes an insatiable obsession over the course of months and years, it’s time to realize you’re not the exception to the rule.

              You’re unhappy in your relationship, and you need to take a look in the mirror and do whatever it takes to make yourself smile.

              2. You aren’t comfortable being yourself.

              Remember all those things you discovered about yourself when you first got together? The way your partner made you feel when you met that made you fall in love with him or her in the first place.

              If they don’t make you feel that way anymore, it’s not the end of the world. If your partner makes you uncomfortable about being you, then her or she is only dragging you down. It’s up to you to decide how to handle that.

              You need to be comfortable with who you are. This means being comfortable in your skin and with the way you walk, talk, look, breath, move, and all the other things that make you uniquely you.

              If the person who supposedly loves you doesn’t make you feel good about yourself, know that you can do better. They’re not even one in a billion.

              3. You can’t stop snooping.

              Mutual trust is necessary in any relationship. The only way to get that trust is with respect.

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              I can find you anywhere online, no matter how private and secure you think you are. The odds of you having a password I can’t crack are slim. If we’ve met in person, I could install a remote key logger on your device without even touching it.

              Finding your information online hardly takes a clandestine organization. Any idiot with a Wi-Fi-enabled device can cyberstalk you. I’m just the only idiot in the village admitting it.

              So now that we know everyone snoops, it’s time to address your personal habits. Governments snoop because they don’t trust us. If you’re snooping on your partner, it’s because you don’t trust them.

              It’s ok to have doubts, and it’s perfectly normal to look into anything that looks weird, but keep in mind that data collection is only half of an investigation.

              If you find yourself constantly snooping and questioning everything, clearly there’s a trust issue and the relationship likely needs to end.

              4. You’re afraid of commitment.

              If you’ve been dating longer than a year and you aren’t engaged, it’s never going to happen.

              Commitment is important. People will come up with a million ways to describe why they can’t be committed.

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              No matter who you are if you like it, you need to put a ring on it. Find an engagement ring, stick a gemstone in it and marry the person. If you’re not legally able to get married or you don’t believe in it for one reason or another, have a child (or adopt one, however you’re able to) or treat your partner’s family like your own. It’s a huge financial and mental commitment.

              If you’re not ready for one or the other after some time, don’t waste anymore of your precious life on the relationship.

              Your relationship should be something that propels you forward. If it’s not going anywhere, make it an open relationship and call it what it is—dating multiple people.

              5. You imagine a happier life without your partner.

              If all you’re doing is imagining a happier life without your partner, it’s a sign that you’re in the wrong relationship. You’re unhappy and you need to get out.

              Your partner should be included in your dreams. There’s nothing wrong with wanting a future with someone.

              Try to remember what you dreamed of before you got your heart broken by the realities of life, love and the pursuit of human success.

              Remember when you would crush on that cute kid in class? You would secretly imagine marrying him or her and going on an adventure—that’s the way life should be.

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              If you’re not at least imagining adventures together, then why are you in that relationship?

              6. You resent, rather than love your partner.

              When a relationship starts to crumble, you begin to resent your partner for all the things you once loved about him or her.

              When you’ve reached this point, your partner has reached at least No. 2 on this list. From your partner’s perspective, your unhappiness with them is picked up as bashing them for being who they are.

              If you’re both unhappy in the relationship, it’s better if it ends as quickly and painlessly as possible.

              7. You chase past feelings.

              It’s okay to reminisce about the past, but if all you do is wish things were like they used to be, it’s a sign you’re not on the right path.

              You’re unhappy and, at the very least, you need to have an open dialogue about it. This isn’t necessarily a sign that the relationship should end, but it definitely needs a spark.

              When you talk to your partner candidly about what it is you’re looking for, you never know how they’ll react. The risk alone is worth it, good or bad.

              Final thoughts

              If you’re feeling stuck in your current relationship, it’s time to reflect about it with your partner. Don’t ignore these signs of an unhappy relationship as they will slowly go worse and harm both you and your partner in long-term.

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