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Young Woman Adopts 6 Sisters To Keep Them Unseparated, No Matter What It Takes

Young Woman Adopts 6 Sisters To Keep Them Unseparated, No Matter What It Takes

Motherhood was always something Lacey Dunkin could see in her future, having a child in her life was her ultimate idea of happiness.

So it was in 2011 when Lacey decided to become an adoptive mother – a decision that would change her life forever.

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    The Family She Always Wanted

    Not long after her certification came through to legally adopt, Lacey received a phone call asking if she would be willing to foster four children – but not just any four children – they were all sisters.

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    Knowing the importance of keeping siblings together for the sake of family ties, bonds and sisterly love, Lacey gladly agreed to take in the four girls to create a stable and loving environment for all of them, together with Lacey’s own parents.

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      A Temporary Goodbye

      The incredible journey didn’t end there. After nine months of creating motherly bonds with the four girls, the sister’s birth mother regained custody including another sister – a newborn that had been looked after by another family.

      It was after they were parted from each other and feeling the big hole left by her foster daughters, that Lacey received a phone call from the birth mother herself.

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        A Surprise Twist

        The birth mother had been struggling to bring up her daughters and decided she wanted what was best for the girls – this meant asking Lacey, knowing how much the girls adored her, to adopt all four of them including the little newborn.

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          An Extra Person To Love

          Lacey said yes in a heartbeat knowing how much she loved and missed the girls welcoming their youngest sister to the new family.

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          It was to be a year-long adoption process that wasn’t short of yet another surprise – the birth mother contacted her to say she was pregnant with another baby girl and asked if she would be willing to adopt her too.

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            A New Life Full Of Happiness

            Without hesitation, and knowing the importance of keeping all the sisters together, Lacey agreed. Despite the unusual request and the impending growth of her family, Lacey was happy to have her own big family of happy and healthy children.

            “They bring me so much joy and chaos, but life would be so empty and bland and boring without them,” explained Lacey.

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            “It’s an honor to be their mother, they melt my heart.”

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              An Unusual Set-Up But An Amazingly Happy Ending

              Despite the unorthodox process, Lacey and her family are truly happy with the outcome and three years on, are living a life together – six girls with a mother who was prepared to take them on and love them as her very own.

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                Featured photo credit: Lacey Dunkin via littlethings.com

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                Last Updated on January 18, 2019

                7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

                7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

                Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

                But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

                If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

                1. Limit the time you spend with them.

                First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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                In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

                Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

                2. Speak up for yourself.

                Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

                3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

                This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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                But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

                4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

                Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

                This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

                Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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                5. Change the subject.

                When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

                Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

                6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

                Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

                I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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                You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

                Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

                7. Leave them behind.

                Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

                If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

                That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

                You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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