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Little Girl Said The Most Embarrassing Thing To Auntie That Made Her Quit Smoking Finally

Little Girl Said The Most Embarrassing Thing To Auntie That Made Her Quit Smoking Finally

About 4 years ago, I used to occasionally have a cigarette after lunch or dinner. When I used to visit my brother, I would make sure that my niece doesn’t see me because I know she loves me so much and I didn’t want her to think smoking is okay.
So apparently, while I would sneak to the balcony to enjoy my cigarette, she would follow me and watch me smoke from behind the balcony door.
Most of my family didn’t know I was a occasional smoker and it is really a stigma in my family to smoke cigarettes, etc.

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So fast forward few months, we are at a big family wedding everyone is sitting together having a great time and she looks at me and says :
“I love you auntie. I just want you to know that you shouldn’t smoke because it will make you age and die quickly. Plus you keep hiding in the balcony thinking I wouldn’t see you. So obviously you know it is wrong since you are hiding it !”

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I didn’t say a word. My face turned red and I felt everyone looking at me in shock !
Her mother looks at her and says, no your auntie doesn’t smoke, you must be mistaken.
To that she answered : “why are you trying to make me lie, that’s worse than smoking”

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Everyone laughed. And I changed the subject immediately!
I no longer smoke and I hope she doesn’t remember.

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One of the most precious gifts relatives can give one another is a dose of harsh realism mixed in with love. Hearing that a family member wants only the best for us can provide us with the encouragement we need to make changes that are long overdue. It can be difficult to hear the full implications of our actions spelled out to us, but when someone gives us constructive criticism or makes a suggestion from a place of love and support, it’s usually a good idea to pay attention.

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Last Updated on March 5, 2021

Science Says People Who Talk To Themselves Are Geniuses

Science Says People Who Talk To Themselves Are Geniuses

I talk a lot to myself. It helps me to keep my concentration on the activity on hand, makes me focus more on my studies, and gives me some pretty brilliant ideas while chattering to myself; more importantly, I produce better works. For example, right now, as I am typing, I am constantly mumbling to myself. Do you talk to yourself? Don’t get embarrassed admitting it because science has discovered that those who talk to themselves are actually geniuses… and not crazy!

Research Background

Psychologist-researcher Gary Lupyan conducted an experiment where 20 volunteers were shown objects, in a supermarket, and were asked to remember them. Half of them were told to repeat the objects, for example, banana, and the other half remained silent. In the end, the result shown that self-directed speech aided people to find the objects faster, by 50 to 100 milliseconds, compared to the silent ones.

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“I’ll often mutter to myself when searching for something in the refrigerator or the supermarket shelves,” said Gary Lupyan.

This personal experience actually made him conduct this experiment. Lupyan, together with another psychologist, Daniel Swigley, came up with the outcomes that those to talk to oneself are geniuses. Here are the reasons:

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It stimulates your memory

When you are talking to yourself, your sensory mechanism gets activated. It gets easier on your memory since you can visualize the word, and you can act accordingly.[1]

It helps stay focused

When you are saying it loud, you stay focused on your task,[2] and it helps you recognise that stuff immediately. Of course, this only helps if you know what the object you are searching looks like. For example, a banana is yellow in colour, and you know how a banana looks like. So when you are saying it loud, your brain immediately pictures the image on your mind. But if you don’t know what banana looks like, then there is no effect of saying it loud.

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It helps you clarify your thoughts

Every one of us tends to have various types of thoughts. Most make sense, while the others don’t. Suppose you are furious at someone and you feel like killing that person. Now for this issue you won’t run to a therapist, will you? No, what you do is lock yourself in a room and mutter to yourself. You are letting go off the anger by talking to yourself, the pros and cons of killing that person, and eventually you calm down. This is a silly thought that you have and are unable to share it with any other person. Psychologist Linda Sapadin said,[3]

“It helps you clarify your thoughts, tend to what’s important and firm up any decisions you are contemplating.”

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