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5 Ways to Bring Attraction to an Intimate Relationship

5 Ways to Bring Attraction to an Intimate Relationship

If you and someone you love are in an intimate relationship, by way of marriage or other long-term commitment to one another, it takes a certain amount of energy and dedication on each person’s part to keep the love alive and flourishing. Many of us wish it really weren’t that way; however, with all of life’s stressors and obstacles, the fact is that it does take a fair amount of work to make a close relationship work.

Keeping the feelings of butterflies and the love alive can be done with a little creativity and selflessness for your partner. Here are five ways to bring attraction to an intimate relationship.

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Be Nice

Yes, it’s that simple. Well, not really! Although it can be difficult to always remain respectful to your partner’s needs by being nice, it is undeniably necessary to make any relationship work. Even if your loved one has rubbed you the wrong way, spoke to you in a tone that is not as pleasant as you would like, or has done something that wasn’t “right” in your eyes, try to be nice and respectful. Of course, this is a two-way street, and if you are not receiving niceness in return, then both of you need to have a heart-to-heart discussion. There is nothing more attractive in a relationship then two committed people treating each other kindly as much as possible.

Have Confidence

Attraction comes with confidence. Being confident in your mindset and about your body, will always go a long way with your companion. Being confident is not about being centered upon yourself, but about exhibiting an inner beauty and positivity that will make your loved one’s heart beat a little faster. Self-confidence draws people closer, and will act as a magnet with your companion!

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Be Healthy

A healthy lifestyle has a plethora of rewards. Not only does it have a myriad of benefits for your physical and emotional well-being, as it garners attractiveness both inside and out, it can bring you and your partner closer. Working out along with cooking healthy meals together will give you both the quality time that every relationship needs in this hectic world.

Get Creative

In the bedroom, that is! Find ways to spice up your love life and find what works for you both. Intimacy will keep you both connected in a powerful way, and doing so with various creative twists in the bedroom will keep that attraction intense and thrilling. What’s more, it isn’t just for the bedroom, either! Keeping attractiveness at peak levels can be accomplished by “surprising” one another, whenever and wherever works for the both of you.

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Do Right

Doesn’t it make you feel even more attracted to your companion when he does something for you that is totally unforeseen? Something as little as making that pot of coffee in the morning, purchasing his favorite item at the grocery store, and filling up the gas tank unexpectedly will take attractiveness to a whole new level. Many people truly believe that actions speak louder than words, and guess what? They are spot on. Doing certain things, or actions, for one another shows that you really do love each other, and that, itself, is overwhelmingly striking.

As Tony Robbins says, “the quality of your life is the quality of your relationships“. To achieve maximum happiness and fulfillment in your life, you need to start with your relationship. Attractiveness certainly doesn’t mean physical attractiveness and always being “easy on the eyes”. Attractiveness in a relationship is being the total package, and loving each other for who you both are, inside and out. Love for one another comes from an innate desirability within the soul and, with a little work, can last a lifetime.

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The Best Way to Create a Vision for the Life You Want

The Best Way to Create a Vision for the Life You Want

Creating a vision for your life might seem like a frivolous, fantastical waste of time, but it’s not: creating a compelling vision of the life you want is actually one of the most effective strategies for achieving the life of your dreams. Perhaps the best way to look at the concept of a life vision is as a compass to help guide you to take the best actions and make the right choices that help propel you toward your best life.

your vision of where or who you want to be is the greatest asset you have

    Why You Need a Vision

    Experts and life success stories support the idea that with a vision in mind, you are more likely to succeed far beyond what you could otherwise achieve without a clear vision. Think of crafting your life vision as mapping a path to your personal and professional dreams. Life satisfaction and personal happiness are within reach. The harsh reality is that if you don’t develop your own vision, you’ll allow other people and circumstances to direct the course of your life.

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    How to Create Your Life Vision

    Don’t expect a clear and well-defined vision overnight—envisioning your life and determining the course you will follow requires time, and reflection. You need to cultivate vision and perspective, and you also need to apply logic and planning for the practical application of your vision. Your best vision blossoms from your dreams, hopes, and aspirations. It will resonate with your values and ideals, and will generate energy and enthusiasm to help strengthen your commitment to explore the possibilities of your life.

    What Do You Want?

    The question sounds deceptively simple, but it’s often the most difficult to answer. Allowing yourself to explore your deepest desires can be very frightening. You may also not think you have the time to consider something as fanciful as what you want out of life, but it’s important to remind yourself that a life of fulfillment does not usually happen by chance, but by design.

    It’s helpful to ask some thought-provoking questions to help you discover the possibilities of what you want out of life. Consider every aspect of your life, personal and professional, tangible and intangible. Contemplate all the important areas, family and friends, career and success, health and quality of life, spiritual connection and personal growth, and don’t forget about fun and enjoyment.

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    Some tips to guide you:

    • Remember to ask why you want certain things
    • Think about what you want, not on what you don’t want.
    • Give yourself permission to dream.
    • Be creative. Consider ideas that you never thought possible.
    • Focus on your wishes, not what others expect of you.

    Some questions to start your exploration:

    • What really matters to you in life? Not what should matter, what does matter.
    • What would you like to have more of in your life?
    • Set aside money for a moment; what do you want in your career?
    • What are your secret passions and dreams?
    • What would bring more joy and happiness into your life?
    • What do you want your relationships to be like?
    • What qualities would you like to develop?
    • What are your values? What issues do you care about?
    • What are your talents? What’s special about you?
    • What would you most like to accomplish?
    • What would legacy would you like to leave behind?

    It may be helpful to write your thoughts down in a journal or creative vision board if you’re the creative type. Add your own questions, and ask others what they want out of life. Relax and make this exercise fun. You may want to set your answers aside for a while and come back to them later to see if any have changed or if you have anything to add.

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    What Would Your Best Life Look Like?

    Describe your ideal life in detail. Allow yourself to dream and imagine, and create a vivid picture. If you can’t visualize a picture, focus on how your best life would feel. If you find it difficult to envision your life 20 or 30 years from now, start with five years—even a few years into the future will give you a place to start. What you see may surprise you. Set aside preconceived notions. This is your chance to dream and fantasize.

    A few prompts to get you started:

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    • How are you dressed?
    • What’s your state of mind? Happy or sad? Contented or frustrated?
    • What does your physical body look like? How do you feel about that?
    • Does your best life make you smile and make your heart sing? If it doesn’t, dig deeper, dream bigger.

    It’s important to focus on the result, or at least a way-point in your life. Don’t think about the process for getting there yet—that’s the next stepGive yourself permission to revisit this vision every day, even if only for a few minutes. Keep your vision alive and in the front of your mind.

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    • What type of support would you have had to enlist?
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    • What steps or milestones would you have needed to reach along the way?

    Now it’s time to think about your first step, and the next step after that. Ponder the gap between where you are now and where you want to be in the future. It may seem impossible, but it’s quite achievable if you take it step-by-step.

    It’s important to revisit this vision from time to time. Don’t be surprised if your answers to the questions, your technicolor vision, and the resulting plans change. That can actually be a very good thing; as you change in unforeseeable ways, the best life you envision will change as well. For now, it’s important to use the process, create your vision, and take the first step towards making that vision a reality.

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