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Top 7 Ways to Improve Your Relationship With Your Parents

Top 7 Ways to Improve Your Relationship With Your Parents

We look around us and we see that there are a number of people, who don’t get along well with their parents, which is sad but true. Our parents are the ones that stay with us from the second we are born till the day they breathe their last, by all things been equal.

Nobody understands how big a blessing they are until they are gone. In this post we will discuss the top 7 ways you can improve your relationship with your parents.

Talking:

Talking to your parents can have a significant effect on your relationship with them. One major sign that things are not going on well is when you cannot talk to your parents about things that bothers you. Talk to them more often and stay positive always.

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Having an optimistic behavior in a relationship has a positive impact on both the involved parties. Always have a positive attitude around your parents by smiling whenever you see them or talking to them and showing that you care about them and their wellbeing. You will see this positive aura will be shown in their attitude towards you.

Respect:

We are always taught at home and also in school to respect each other but we sometimes forget that when it comes to our own parents. We don’t always agree with our parents or their parenting style and being hot headed and young, we believe that we are always right.

We forget to register the fact that they were once kids too and probably went through the exact same thing. Our parents are wiser and more experienced than us and they deserve our respect. You will see that once you start treating your parents with respect, it will reflect in their actions and behavior towards you.

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Imagine Things from their Perspective:

Before initiating a bond of friendship, we get to know the other person. For that, we put ourselves in their shoes and see the world from their eyes. That helps us understand their point of view and take on life. This comes naturally and easily when talking about our friends.

This is much harder when it comes to our parents. When we’re angry with our parents, just take a second to pause and look at things from their perspective. They have thoughts, feelings and expectations just like the rest of us. Catering for those feelings will take your relationship with your parents to the next level.

Trust:

One of the first steps to have a healthy relationship with anyone is trust. This is a two way street and goes both ways. Your parents want to have a strong relationship with you as much as you do, but they won’t take the first step unless you have completely earned their trust.

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In order for them to trust you, you need to trust them first and believe that the decisions that they make are for our own good. Once that relationship of trust is formed, you will see that things will start flowing naturally. If you want to give gift then have a look on these best new beds.

Parents are Humans too:

As kids, we always look up to our parents and believe that they can do no wrong. Then we get a little bit older and think that we know best. The first thing that we need to register is that our parents are humans too, very much like the rest of us. As humans, they have emotions too and can sometimes make mistakes.

They weren’t born as parents but they’re figuring it out for themselves and doing the best that they possibly can. Once you register this fact, your relationship with your parents will progress leaps and bounds.

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Forgiveness:

We have established the fact that our parents too can sometimes mistakes. That does not mean that we hold it against them. If we look back at our childhood, we’ll see that we made more mistakes than we can count, but our parents were always there to support and forgive us. Learn to have a forgiving heart and not hold grudges. This will do wonders for your relationship.

Keep Calm:

Overreacting in delicate situations can really ruin a relationship. If you’re having an argument with your parents, try to stay calm or you might end up saying things you will regret later on. Just cool down for a moment, reaccess things and then calmly tell them how you feel. This will let your parents know that you are mature enough and they will pay more attention to what you have to say.

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Last Updated on September 16, 2019

How to Stop Procrastinating: 11 Practical Ways for Procrastinators

How to Stop Procrastinating: 11 Practical Ways for Procrastinators

You have a deadline looming. However, instead of doing your work, you are fiddling with miscellaneous things like checking email, social media, watching videos, surfing blogs and forums. You know you should be working, but you just don’t feel like doing anything.

We are all familiar with the procrastination phenomenon. When we procrastinate, we squander away our free time and put off important tasks we should be doing them till it’s too late. And when it is indeed too late, we panic and wish we got started earlier.

The chronic procrastinators I know have spent years of their life looped in this cycle. Delaying, putting off things, slacking, hiding from work, facing work only when it’s unavoidable, then repeating this loop all over again. It’s a bad habit that eats us away and prevents us from achieving greater results in life.

Don’t let procrastination take over your life. Here, I will share my personal steps on how to stop procrastinating. These 11 steps will definitely apply to you too:

1. Break Your Work into Little Steps

Part of the reason why we procrastinate is because subconsciously, we find the work too overwhelming for us. Break it down into little parts, then focus on one part at the time. If you still procrastinate on the task after breaking it down, then break it down even further. Soon, your task will be so simple that you will be thinking “gee, this is so simple that I might as well just do it now!”.

For example, I’m currently writing a new book (on How to achieve anything in life). Book writing at its full scale is an enormous project and can be overwhelming. However, when I break it down into phases such as –

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  • (1) Research
  • (2) Deciding the topic
  • (3) Creating the outline
  • (4) Drafting the content
  • (5) Writing Chapters #1 to #10,
  • (6) Revision
  • (7) etc.

Suddenly it seems very manageable. What I do then is to focus on the immediate phase and get it done to my best ability, without thinking about the other phases. When it’s done, I move on to the next.

2. Change Your Environment

Different environments have different impact on our productivity. Look at your work desk and your room. Do they make you want to work or do they make you want to snuggle and sleep? If it’s the latter, you should look into changing your workspace.

One thing to note is that an environment that makes us feel inspired before may lose its effect after a period of time. If that’s the case, then it’s time to change things around. Refer to Steps #2 and #3 of 13 Strategies To Jumpstart Your Productivity, which talks about revamping your environment and workspace.

3. Create a Detailed Timeline with Specific Deadlines

Having just 1 deadline for your work is like an invitation to procrastinate. That’s because we get the impression that we have time and keep pushing everything back, until it’s too late.

Break down your project (see tip #1), then create an overall timeline with specific deadlines for each small task. This way, you know you have to finish each task by a certain date. Your timelines must be robust, too – i.e. if you don’t finish this by today, it’s going to jeopardize everything else you have planned after that. This way it creates the urgency to act.

My goals are broken down into monthly, weekly, right down to the daily task lists, and the list is a call to action that I must accomplish this by the specified date, else my goals will be put off.

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Here’re more tips on setting deadlines: 22 Tips for Effective Deadlines

4. Eliminate Your Procrastination Pit-Stops

If you are procrastinating a little too much, maybe that’s because you make it easy to procrastinate.

Identify your browser bookmarks that take up a lot of your time and shift them into a separate folder that is less accessible. Disable the automatic notification option in your email client. Get rid of the distractions around you.

I know some people will out of the way and delete or deactivate their facebook accounts. I think it’s a little drastic and extreme as addressing procrastination is more about being conscious of our actions than counteracting via self-binding methods, but if you feel that’s what’s needed, go for it.

5. Hang out with People Who Inspire You to Take Action

I’m pretty sure if you spend just 10 minutes talking to Steve Jobs or Bill Gates, you’ll be more inspired to act than if you spent the 10 minutes doing nothing. The people we are with influence our behaviors. Of course spending time with Steve Jobs or Bill Gates every day is probably not a feasible method, but the principle applies — The Hidden Power of Every Single Person Around You

Identify the people, friends or colleagues who trigger you – most likely the go-getters and hard workers – and hang out with them more often. Soon you will inculcate their drive and spirit too.

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As a personal development blogger, I “hang out” with inspiring personal development experts by reading their blogs and corresponding with them regularly via email and social media. It’s communication via new media and it works all the same.

6. Get a Buddy

Having a companion makes the whole process much more fun. Ideally, your buddy should be someone who has his/her own set of goals. Both of you will hold each other accountable to your goals and plans. While it’s not necessary for both of you to have the same goals, it’ll be even better if that’s the case, so you can learn from each other.

I have a good friend whom I talk to regularly, and we always ask each other about our goals and progress in achieving those goals. Needless to say, it spurs us to keep taking action.

7. Tell Others About Your Goals

This serves the same function as #6, on a larger scale. Tell all your friends, colleagues, acquaintances and family about your projects. Now whenever you see them, they are bound to ask you about your status on those projects.

For example, sometimes I announce my projects on The Personal Excellence Blog, Twitter and Facebook, and my readers will ask me about them on an ongoing basis. It’s a great way to keep myself accountable to my plans.

8. Seek out Someone Who Has Already Achieved the Outcome

What is it you want to accomplish here, and who are the people who have accomplished this already? Go seek them out and connect with them. Seeing living proof that your goals are very well achievable if you take action is one of the best triggers for action.

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9. Re-Clarify Your Goals

If you have been procrastinating for an extended period of time, it might reflect a misalignment between what you want and what you are currently doing. Often times, we outgrow our goals as we discover more about ourselves, but we don’t change our goals to reflect that.

Get away from your work (a short vacation will be good, else just a weekend break or staycation will do too) and take some time to regroup yourself. What exactly do you want to achieve? What should you do to get there? What are the steps to take? Does your current work align with that? If not, what can you do about it?

10. Stop Over-Complicating Things

Are you waiting for a perfect time to do this? That maybe now is not the best time because of X, Y, Z reasons? Ditch that thought because there’s never a perfect time. If you keep waiting for one, you are never going to accomplish anything.

Perfectionism is one of the biggest reasons for procrastination. Read more about why perfectionist tendencies can be a bane than a boon: Why Being A Perfectionist May Not Be So Perfect.

11. Get a Grip and Just Do It

At the end, it boils down to taking action. You can do all the strategizing, planning and hypothesizing, but if you don’t take action, nothing’s going to happen. Occasionally, I get readers and clients who keep complaining about their situations but they still refuse to take action at the end of the day.

Reality check:

I have never heard anyone procrastinate their way to success before and I doubt it’s going to change in the near future.  Whatever it is you are procrastinating on, if you want to get it done, you need to get a grip on yourself and do it.

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