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7 Offbeat Wedding Ideas for Your Big Day

7 Offbeat Wedding Ideas for Your Big Day

There are certain wedding traditions that everyone assumes they have to adhere to. But what if you were willing to embrace the idea that almost none of them are an absolute requirement? The truth is that there is very little that you’re legally required to do, but social expectations may make you consider having a wedding day that is just like everyone else’s. To avoid this, add in at least a few offbeat touches that allow you and your future spouse to showcase your unique personalities.

1. Alternatives to a Wedding Cake

The average cost of a wedding cake is rapidly approaching $500. Aside from the cost factor, many people admit later on that they weren’t even all that impressed with their cake. Therefore, why should you have one? This is one wedding tradition that is practically begging to be skipped, and there are so many fun alternatives. Doughnuts are becoming increasingly popular, and you could also have a dessert bar instead. Or think even further outside the box by utilizing your favorite sweet treat.

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2. Reexamine Wedding Favors

Many of your guests will not remember to take their wedding favors home, especially if they are of the traditional variety. You can skip the favors altogether if you put something else together to entertain your guests. If you wish to provide a favor or two, though, make it something memorable that people will truly want to keep. Customized slippers are an unusual but thoughtful wedding idea that will make it easier for people to have fun dancing. Add a photo booth or some S’mores to the mix and your guests are certain to love your wedding favors!

3. Skip the Fancy Dinner

Are you and your fiancée fancy dinner type of people? If the answer is no, it makes no sense to serve a black tie event type meal that contains food most people can’t even pronounce. Instead of spending up to $73 per guest for catering, opt for a buffet that has some of your favorites. Pizza buffets are a nice touch for a wedding with a more casual vibe or you could have a barbecue to keep things fun. Your guests would also enjoy a buffet that’s full of everyone’s favorite comfort food such as mashed potatoes, corn on the cob and macaroni and cheese. This will save you money, and it will also provide a meal that people will look back on fondly.

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4. Pick a Personal Theme

Weddings are often over-the-top and are not even a good representation of the couple getting married. Keep your budget in line by avoiding pretty but unnecessary décor that has nothing to do with who the two of you actually are. Instead, select a theme that includes a mutual favorite such as Halloween, football or Star Wars. From there, you can choose appropriate and fun décor that is guaranteed to be a conversation starter. Don’t forget to include the theme in every aspect of your wedding. For example, if you choose Star Wars, you can use music from the movies during your ceremony. Don’t be afraid to mix two themes if this lets the two of you express yourselves more fully.

5. Encourage Conversations with a Quiet Area

Sitting inside a reception venue is usually noisy and not very conducive to actual conversations. To help people have the best of both worlds, have a DJ or band keep the party going indoors and set up a quiet area outside. If you have chosen a reception venue that has the appropriate space outside, you can build a bonfire. If there is nowhere for people to go outside that is safe and appropriate, consider setting aside a room indoors for people who want to take a breather from the reception hall.

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6. Create Something Artistic Together

Exchanging rings is a tradition you will most likely keep, but there are many other things you can add to your ceremony. A prime example for people who are even the slightest bit artistic is to sketch, draw or paint something together after you say your vows. This doesn’t have to be something big that will take a long time. Instead, choose something you can do together in 5 minutes or less. It may not be a masterpiece, but it will be something worth hanging on your wall. And if you want it to be more detailed, the two of you can finish it later.

7. Hide Your Favorite Color under Your Dress

If you decide not to eschew tradition altogether by getting an alternative wedding dress, you can still spice things up by adding a splash of color beneath the dress. This is easily accomplished with a petticoat or a crinoline, and it’s also a good way to add one of your wedding colors to your outfit. Red looks amazing next to a white or ivory dress, as will many other colors.

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Ultimately, your wedding day is all about you and your future spouse. Therefore, it’s wise to put aside any traditions that you aren’t comfortable with. Incorporate your personalities and the history of your relationship as much as possible to make the day truly special. By making some careful choices, you can have an offbeat wedding that is fun and affordable.

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Last Updated on June 26, 2019

I Hate My Life: 10 Things You Can Do Now to Stop Hating Life

I Hate My Life: 10 Things You Can Do Now to Stop Hating Life

Hating life is a bit of a misnomer it seems: in the media, in education, in every aspect of our lives, we’re shown visions of a perfect world, one where everyone is happy and life is a decades-long dream. Unfortunately, it isn’t.

Life can and is hard and tough and painful at times. I have first-hand experience of this: at this time years ago, I was a recent university graduate, unemployed and aimless. All of this was having a knock-on effect on my social and mental wellbeing—I wasn’t sleeping. I wasn’t seeing my friends as often. I was snappy to family members and I could barely drag myself out of bed in the morning…

That doesn’t mean it can’t change.

Life goes through ebbs and flows all the time and the key to getting through it all without cutting off your social circle and eating your local grocery store out of Ben & Jerry’s, is to cultivate some techniques and methods of going through life with some stability and grace. It’s not a guarantee against life’s hardships but, take the steps you want to use and you won’t hate life.

If you want to stop hating your life and start falling in love with it, take these steps:

1. Get Plenty of Sleep

Seriously, you’re obviously going to be grouchy and more inclined towards the more miserable side, if you’re not getting your recommended seven or more hours of sleep a night.

Start checking in how much you sleep and then start making steps to go to bed earlier and sleep for longer. It might cure every problem but at least you’ll be well-rested and less likely to nap throughout the day. If you having trouble getting to sleep, go and

2. Eat Healthily

I have had a real issue with eating healthily for years and it wasn’t until I was hospitalised a few years ago (for a condition unrelated to my eating for the sake of disclosure), that I really started to look at what I ate and how I viewed my body.

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I’m absolutely an advocate of body positivity and loving your body at any size and while I haven’t lost any huge amount of weight, eating a hell of a lot healthier improved my mood and made me feel better.

In short, it’s absolutely okay to have a pizza and a soda as a treat, but just have something healthier tomorrow.

3. Write It All Down

Sometimes the best thing you can do is let it all out. Keeping things that are making you hate life all bottled up is neither helpful to getting out of that cycle nor healthy for your overall wellbeing.

Grab yourself a notebook, a journal, a diary, a bit of paper, whatever, and just start writing down how you feel. As soon as you’ve done that, start thinking about what you could do in theory to stop this from happening or to stop you from feeling like this.

4. Get Some Fresh Air

It’s underrated and we all take it for granted, but really, getting out of your home and going for a walk can be really beneficial. It gets you outside in the (hopefully) sunshine and getting to see the whole of life as you walk around can be really grounding and calming.

Believe me, if you’re stuck inside mulling over on the bad things of your life, grab a pair of sneakers and go for a walk. Plus, it’s free. Can’t say better than that, can you?

5. Get Some Exercise

This is practically a Part II of the previous step, but as someone who used to look at the gym as something people did when they were feeling particularly masochistic, I can actually say I enjoy it now.

You don’t even have to subscribe to a fancy gym—go for a run around the block with your headphones in or lift some heavy boxes to build up muscle tone.

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Bonus: Doing all that heavy lifting of boxes or incorporating exercise into chores will make your house cleaner and look even more awesome, as well as making you look and feel better.

6. Treat Yourself

Hating your life can be exhausting, and I mean that literally. It drains the energy from you until all you want to do is lie in bed with a pint of ice cream and the last five seasons of a TV show on Netflix.

Therefore, a good thing to keep your spirits up can be to treat yourself.

Life is too short, after all, to deny yourself some treats. Go see that movie that looks awesome in the cinema, grab a gelato with a friend, paint your nails, whatever makes you happy, do it. You deserve it.

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7. Cut out Those Negative Triggers

Chances are that if you hate life, something is setting off those triggers in your head. Until you’re able to deal with them without turning all misanthropic, the best thing might be just to get rid of all of those negative triggers.

If you’re suffering from what AllGroanUp refer to as “Obsessive Comparison Disorder” (i.e. obsessively checking out the lifestyles of all your “successful” friends), then stop using Facebook and Twitter as much.

Social media can be a fantastic way to connect, but it can be also be a toxic environment for neuroses and comparisons to breed.

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Trust me, I know. If it sets you off, cut it out.

8. Dance

Yes you can dance. No, really, you can. It doesn’t matter if you’re not some breakdancing dynamo or ballroom extraordinaire, everyone can dance. It’s programmed into the human race, the ultimate expression of emotion.

Dance like no one’s watching, dance like you don’t care. Tap your feet, sway your hips, go as mad or as wild as you want to to your favourite songs. Nothing quite shakes the cobwebs off than losing yourself in rhythm and dance to a song you love.

9. Get Organized

A great way to start moving forward and looking at what you can change in your life to make it better, is to get organized.

Spend a weekend going through your home and clearing the unnecessary stuff out of it. Get rid of the stuff you don’t need or don’t want anymore and start to give everything a space.

It doesn’t have to look like it’s stepped off the pages of Good Housekeeping, but clearing a lot of space and making sure that your home has a bit of harmony can do wonders for your mental wellbeing.

10. Pay It Forward

Life is a mystery and it can be a minefield to get through. Sometimes you stumble, sometimes you fall. The important part is to pick yourself back up and keep walking forward.

Paying it forward is simply helping others. Charity is something that is often thrown around as an accessory to human behavior—how many celebrities have you read about who have done something heinous, but are defended by the phrase “but [they] do charity work”?

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Go volunteer! If you think you’re at breaking point, go help other people.

People in the world out there will be going through the same things that you are going through; and while you might not run into someone who’s going through the exact same circumstances, you will be helping people who need help.

Helping out a soup kitchen, or at a church bake sale, or at a homeless shelter or wherever needs help, can make a huge difference to the lives of those individuals involved. And believe me, it’ll do a hell of a lot for your state of mind .

A great idol of mine, Audrey Hepburn, once stated that we have two hands: one for helping ourselves, and one for helping others. That’s a fantastic sentiment and one I think will help people who hate their live.

If you go and help other people, you’re having such a positive ripple effect on the world that some of it will come back to you one way or another, and it will get better.

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