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What All Millennial Divorced Mothers Want You To Know Before Dating Them

What All Millennial Divorced Mothers Want You To Know Before Dating Them

The millennials who made Generation X raise their eyebrows not long ago are now becoming parents on their own. With 1 in 5 mothers being millennials, there are roughly 9 million millennial mothers raising kids. Unfortunately, many of them are also single mothers, as millennials seem to marry in a hurry and divorce in the same hurry.

This is why many young women in their 20s and early 30s, are now leaving the casual sex relationships and flirty texting, for changing diapers. However, just because they are raising a kid – or multiple – doesn’t mean these women have given up on finding love. Due to misconceptions, men believe a single mother is not “datable” anymore, which is completely wrong. Even mothers need love and crave sex– even if they don’t need another spouse. Here are some of the most important things a millennial divorced single mother wants you to know before dating her.

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1. I don’t want to get married

At least for some time, a woman who has been in a marriage and has had a child is not willing to re-marry quite soon. The sheer amount of money and time she gave to divorce attorneys is enough to make her cringe at the thought of going through another marriage. A single mother is not going to jump into another marriage, because her regained independence is everything for her, along with her child. Of course, this makes things a bit complicated when it comes to having a relationship: while the mother is not going to look for someone for “forever after”, she is not looking for a one night stand either. The balance between these two is delicate.

2. Planning and organizing my life is the norm

Lovers enjoy a spontaneous trip abroad or to the countryside, but when you have a kid, this is out of the question. A single mom has to plan everything, from the guitar classes her child takes and the time spent by the child with their father, to the 30-minute walk down the park she enjoys alone and even the sexy time. Yes, this is a little hard, especially for a single man who would love to be able to pick up his date and drive to nowhere. Finding some free time on both sides is not impossible, but it can become a challenge.

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3. I don’t want you to play “daddy”

There are two types of women: those who introduce their kids to their dates right away and those who don’t. Yet both of these single mothers don’t want their dates to play “daddy” for their kids. The child already has a dad, as bad as he might be, so there is no need for another one.

4. I am not “playing hard to get”

Men who think single mothers just “play hard to get” when they say they can’t make time for that romantic date. Single parenting is hard and it leaves little to no room for texting back. If you can’t understand this, you should probably quit dating a single mother, because her life is not going to change for you. She will always have to attend work, be social and deal with all her parenting duties, which include making cookies and attending school concerts.

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5. I don’t want to talk about my child, even if I do talk about him or her

A single mother’s life is 90% about her child, but the rest of 10% is about her. Even if she does talk a lot about her child’s latest achievements, a millennial mother is interested in her job, her friends and her hobbies. When she became a mother she hasn’t ceased to be a millennial woman, so all that funny, high tech and deeply insecure in her own place in the world. At the end of the day, she is still a millennial!

The millennial mother is still interested in how to make her hair grow longer, she is still relying on dating apps and she might screenshot her texts to talk about them with her friends.

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If you want to conquer her heart, recognize her individuality as a person, her femininity and her sex-appeal. When she starts talking about the kid, listen to her, but do ask more about her, because all single mothers need more “me” time, especially on a date.

Millennial mothers have learned their lives don’t revolve around their kids. They know they have a different identity and know how to prioritize their own identities. They know how to separate their time as professionals, mothers and women. Moreover, they know they have to right to be happy and enjoy a healthy intimate life, which makes dating them a completely different experience.

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Last Updated on October 18, 2018

50+ Best Motivational Quotes To Prepare You For Any Challenges In Life

50+ Best Motivational Quotes To Prepare You For Any Challenges In Life

Life is filled with highs and lows —happiness and struggles that will test your resilience and integrity, push you to overcome challenges and leave you with lessons that will make you even stronger on your way up.

It’s the way you feel and think about yourself, including your expectations and beliefs about what is possible to you, greatly determines everything that happens to you.

It all starts with your thoughts. When you change your thoughts, you transform the quality of your life. (Right, Nancy’s story is a typical example!)

Below is a list of the best motivational quotes to inspire you to start your day with a blast:

Quotes for self-assurance

1. Don’t downgrade your dream just to fit your reality, upgrade your conviction to match your destiny.

    2. You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem and smarter than you think.

      3. You are confined only by the walls you build yourself.

        4. The man who has confidence in himself gains the confidence of others

          5. You attract what you are, not what you want. If you want great, then be great.

            6. It’s not who you are that holds you behind, it’s who you think your are not.

              Quotes about positivity

              7. Stop being afraid of what could go wrong and think of what could go right.

                8. You should never regret anything in life. If it’s good, it’s wonderful. If it’s bad, it is experience.

                  9. Falling down is an accident, staying down is a choice.

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                    10. If you have the power to make someone happy, do it. The world needs more of that.

                      11. Always believe that something wonderful is about to happen.

                        12. Don’t be afraid to give up the good and go for great.

                          13. Remember that life’s greatest lessons are usually learned from worst times and from the worst mistakes.

                            Quotes for work and success

                            14. Don’t talk, just act. Don’t say, just show. Don’t promise, just prove.

                              15. Never stop doing great just because someone doesn’t give you credit.

                                16. Discipline is doing what needs to be done, even if you don’t want to.

                                  17. Work while they sleep. Learn while they party. Save while they spend. Live like they dream.

                                    18. The key to success is to focus our conscious mind on things we desire, not things we fear.

                                      19. Never apologize for having high standards, people who really want to be in your life will rise to meet them.

                                        20. If it doesn’t challenge you, it won’t change you.

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                                          21. Never give up on a dream just because of the time it will take to accomplish it, time will pass anyway.

                                            22. Don’t fear failure. Fear being in the exact same place next year as you are today.

                                              23. A hill is just another opportunity to leave your competition behind.

                                                24. Don’t quit. You’re already in pain. You’re already hurt. Get a reward from it.

                                                  25. Hustle until you no longer need to introduce yourself.

                                                    26. You didn’t come this far only to come this far.

                                                      27. Be selective in your battles for sometimes peace is better than being right.

                                                        28 If we keep doing what we are doing, we’re going to keep getting what we’re getting.

                                                          29. You will never know your limits until you push yourself to them.

                                                            30. Do what you have to do until you can do what you want to do.

                                                              31. The man on top of the mountain didn’t fall there.

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                                                                32. If your dreams don’t scare you, they are not big enough.

                                                                  33. If you can’t handle stress, you won’t manage success.

                                                                    34. Don’t be pushed by your problems, be led by your dreams.

                                                                      35. Don’t mistake silence for weakness. Smart people don’t plan big moves out loud.

                                                                        36. Simplicity is the ultimate sophistication.

                                                                          37. Obsessed is the word the lazy use to describe dedicated.

                                                                            38. You become who you spend your time with.

                                                                              39. Be stubborn about your goals and flexible about your methods.

                                                                                40. Hard work beats talent when talent doesn’t work hard.

                                                                                  41. If you don’t build your dreams, someone else will hire you to build theirs.

                                                                                    42. Between stimulus and response is our greatest power –the freedom to choose.

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                                                                                      43. What comes easy won’t last, what lasts won’t come easy.

                                                                                        44. Don’t limit your challenges, challenge your limits.

                                                                                          45. Work until your idols become your rivals.

                                                                                            Quotes about money

                                                                                            46. Formal education will make you a living. Self-education will make you a fortune.

                                                                                              47. I create new enemies every day, it’s called business.

                                                                                                48. When you have a Million Dollar vision, don’t surround yourself with 1 cent minds.

                                                                                                  49. You can’t get rich thinking poor.

                                                                                                    50. Doing what is comfortable is rarely profitable.

                                                                                                      51. If you can count your money, work harder.

                                                                                                        If you find yourself feeling lost and frustrated, it’s never too late to change things up. Check out this guide:

                                                                                                        How to Start Over and Reboot Your Life When It Seems Too Late

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