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10 Things A Groom Should Do to Have Stress Free Marriage

10 Things A Groom Should Do to Have Stress Free Marriage

The big day is around the corner and lots of what-ifs terrorize the mind of grooms. Doubts about the wedding vows are just the starter. When the much anticipated day finally arrives, it is all but common for grooms to get overwhelmed and forget many things.

Additionally grooms are susceptible to internalize perfect marriage ceremony is only in abstract. With such irrelevance, they anticipate chaos and stresses in the final day. Or, at least they think their marriage will pale into insignificance due to the reason, I quote, as silly as less creamier wedding cake or the blubbering of the otherwise endearing flower girl. Oh boy, how wrong are they. Today, I present to you the 10 things the grooms should do to have stress free marriage.

1. Talk and plan about it.

Sit with your bride-to-be and talk about how you wanted your marriage to be. There may be issues like budgets, venues, attendees among other. Holding discussion sessions about them will converge and harmonize your ideas with hers which resultantly will make the final event with understood flow. This will also be a great sign for being betrothed to a matched pair.

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2. Intensify the connection with her, her family, friends, and relatives.

Under stressing situation of planning the ceremony, it is common to lose touch with the person you are madly in love with: the bride. Therefore a quality time must be spent with her as it symbolizes you love spending time with her under any situation. Be it a dinner date or a movie time. Choice of movies or location of diner does have some major impacts to the future of the marriage.

Intermingling with bride’s family, friends, and relatives strengthen the bonding as there may be divorced parents or estranged siblings who are at odds to the ceremony.

3. Delegation unloads lots of worries.

Don’t bite off more than you can chew. Delegate some responsibilities to some trustworthy friends and relatives. They will run errands for you and you will be relieved of tiny, nagging problems. Also hiring the professional planners are sure shot way to have the job done. They will come in handy especially on the final day.

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4. Economize the time allocation for the final day.

It is tempting to squander the time of the crucial day in arranging a pre-wedding brunch or an extravagant make up. This activity will elevate your social and physical appearance. But believe me you will have to sacrifice a greater chunk of the precious time in the multitasking attempts. Therefore, sticking to the absolute necessities is advisable and correct.

5. Create an ambience.

No matter how evolved and matured you may think of yourself, there are chances that you might have turned blind eyes to obvious pitfalls. Your elderly and parents may see what you ignored. Therefore, enjoy their company and ask their responses and if relevant act accordingly. Also advice the bride to be surrounded by right number of friends and relatives as too many of her friends may cause mass hysteria.

6. Journaling vents the emotive energy.

Being bereft of important family member or losing best friend may be utterly felt during the wedding. At times, the eruption of such ‘missing-them’ feelings may be embarrassing. Therefore, for such soft-hearted grooms, writing journal will productively vent out the emotive energy that they are bottling up. Journaling also identifies issues bothering you chiefly and help address them individually.

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7. Choose open space as the venue.

Get married in an almost open space like park or gardens. Cluttered location creates trouble not only to the attendees and oncoming guest but it may also represent seclusion or impenetrability in psychological sense.

8. Small is important.

A pair of new shoes or a negligible tuft of neglected facial hair is the real dread. A new shoes ache like seven hells while hairs lower your self-confidence. Therefore stretching those fancy shoes before wearing them and having a set of hair clippers deny such moments.

9. Take good care of yourself.

Sleeping and eating properly will make you healthy. Every faction of energy counts, for you need to read out the vows manly and you need to dance with her energetically. Therefore skimpy eating should be discouraged at all cost.

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10. Meditate to bust the stress.

Still if you cannot stay in composure, it is medically advisable to attend yoga classes. The impact is further amplified with mutual participation. Additionally, following your hobbies also ensure growth of collectedness.

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Last Updated on December 9, 2019

5 Simple Ways to Relieve Stress Effectively

5 Simple Ways to Relieve Stress Effectively

Everyone experiences mental stress at one time or another. Maybe you’re starting a new career, job, or business, or you feel incredibly overwhelmed between work, parenting, and your love life (or a lack of it). It could even be that you simply feel that you have way too much to do and not enough time to do it,  plus, on top of everything, nothing seems to be going the way it should!

Yup, we all experience mental stress from time-to-time, and that’s okay as long as you have the tools, techniques and knowledge that allow you to fully relieve it once it comes.

Here are 5 tips for relieving mental stress when it comes so you can function at your best while feeling good (and doing well) in work, love, or life:

1. Get Rationally Optimistic

Mental stress starts with your perception of your experiences. For instance, most people get stressed out when they perceive their reality as “being wrong” in some way. Essentially, they have a set idea of how things “should be” at any given moment, and when reality ends up being different (not even necessarily bad), they get stressed.

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This process is simply a result of perception and can be easily “fixed” by recognizing that although life might not always be going as YOU think it should, it’s still going as it should—for your own benefit.

In fact, once you fully recognize that everything in your life ultimately happens for your own growth, progress, and development—so you can achieve your goals and dreams—your perception works in your favor. You soon process and respond to your experience of life differently, for your advantage. That’s the essence of becoming “rationally optimistic.”

The result: no more mental stress.

2. Unplug

Just like you might need to unplug your computer when it starts acting all crazy, you should also “unplug” your mind.

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How on earth do you unplug your mind? Simple: just meditate.

It isn’t nearly difficult or complicated as some people think, so, if you don’t already meditate, give it a try. Whether you meditate for 5 minutes, 30 minutes, or 2 hours, this is a surefire way to reduce mental stress.

Meditation has been scientifically proven to relax your body (resulting in less mental stress), while also reducing anxiety and high blood pressure.

3. Easy on the Caffeine

Yes, we know, we know—everyone loves a nice java buzz, and that’s okay, but there’s a fine line between a small caffeine pick-me-up and a racing heart and mind that throws you into a frenzy of mental stress.

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Try giving up caffeine for a while and see how you feel. And, if that’s completely out of the question for you, at least try to minimize it. You might find that lots of your mental stress mysteriously “disappears” as your caffeine intake goes down.

4. Attack Mental Stress Via the Back Door

That’s right: your body and mind are part of the whole being, and are constantly influencing and affecting each other. If you’re experiencing a lot of mental stress, try to reduce it by calming your body down—a calm body equals a calmer mind.

How do you calm your body down and reduce physical stress? A  great way to reduce physical stress (thereby reducing mental stress) is to take natural supplements that are proven to reduce stress and anxiety while lifting your mood. Three good ones to look into are kava-kava, St John’s wort, and rhodiola rosea:

  • Kava-kava is a natural plant known to have mild sedative properties, and you should be able to find it at your natural health food store or vitamin store. It’s available in capsules or liquid extract form.
  • St John’s wort is a natural flower used to treat depression. Again, it’s found at your local health store in capsules or liquid. Because it uplifts mood (enabling you to see the brighter side of all experiences) it helps relieve mental stress as well.
  • Rhodiola rosea is a natural plant shown to reduce stress and uplift mood, and Russian athletes have been using it forever. Like the other two supplements mentioned, rhodiola rosea can be found at your natural health store in capsule or liquid form.

While these supplements are all natural and can be very helpful for most people, always check with your health care provider first as they can cause side-effects depending on your current health situation etc.

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5. Good Old-Fashioned Exercise

This tip has been around forever because it works. Nothing relieves mental stress like running, kickboxing—you name it. Anything super-physical will wipe out most of your mental stresses once the exercise endorphins (happy chemicals) are released into your brain.

The result: mental stress will be gone!

So, if you’re feeling overwhelmed or just plain stressed, try using some of the above tips. You can even print this out or save it to refer to regularly.

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