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10 Things A Groom Should Do to Have Stress Free Marriage

10 Things A Groom Should Do to Have Stress Free Marriage

The big day is around the corner and lots of what-ifs terrorize the mind of grooms. Doubts about the wedding vows are just the starter. When the much anticipated day finally arrives, it is all but common for grooms to get overwhelmed and forget many things.

Additionally grooms are susceptible to internalize perfect marriage ceremony is only in abstract. With such irrelevance, they anticipate chaos and stresses in the final day. Or, at least they think their marriage will pale into insignificance due to the reason, I quote, as silly as less creamier wedding cake or the blubbering of the otherwise endearing flower girl. Oh boy, how wrong are they. Today, I present to you the 10 things the grooms should do to have stress free marriage.

1. Talk and plan about it.

Sit with your bride-to-be and talk about how you wanted your marriage to be. There may be issues like budgets, venues, attendees among other. Holding discussion sessions about them will converge and harmonize your ideas with hers which resultantly will make the final event with understood flow. This will also be a great sign for being betrothed to a matched pair.

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2. Intensify the connection with her, her family, friends, and relatives.

Under stressing situation of planning the ceremony, it is common to lose touch with the person you are madly in love with: the bride. Therefore a quality time must be spent with her as it symbolizes you love spending time with her under any situation. Be it a dinner date or a movie time. Choice of movies or location of diner does have some major impacts to the future of the marriage.

Intermingling with bride’s family, friends, and relatives strengthen the bonding as there may be divorced parents or estranged siblings who are at odds to the ceremony.

3. Delegation unloads lots of worries.

Don’t bite off more than you can chew. Delegate some responsibilities to some trustworthy friends and relatives. They will run errands for you and you will be relieved of tiny, nagging problems. Also hiring the professional planners are sure shot way to have the job done. They will come in handy especially on the final day.

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4. Economize the time allocation for the final day.

It is tempting to squander the time of the crucial day in arranging a pre-wedding brunch or an extravagant make up. This activity will elevate your social and physical appearance. But believe me you will have to sacrifice a greater chunk of the precious time in the multitasking attempts. Therefore, sticking to the absolute necessities is advisable and correct.

5. Create an ambience.

No matter how evolved and matured you may think of yourself, there are chances that you might have turned blind eyes to obvious pitfalls. Your elderly and parents may see what you ignored. Therefore, enjoy their company and ask their responses and if relevant act accordingly. Also advice the bride to be surrounded by right number of friends and relatives as too many of her friends may cause mass hysteria.

6. Journaling vents the emotive energy.

Being bereft of important family member or losing best friend may be utterly felt during the wedding. At times, the eruption of such ‘missing-them’ feelings may be embarrassing. Therefore, for such soft-hearted grooms, writing journal will productively vent out the emotive energy that they are bottling up. Journaling also identifies issues bothering you chiefly and help address them individually.

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7. Choose open space as the venue.

Get married in an almost open space like park or gardens. Cluttered location creates trouble not only to the attendees and oncoming guest but it may also represent seclusion or impenetrability in psychological sense.

8. Small is important.

A pair of new shoes or a negligible tuft of neglected facial hair is the real dread. A new shoes ache like seven hells while hairs lower your self-confidence. Therefore stretching those fancy shoes before wearing them and having a set of hair clippers deny such moments.

9. Take good care of yourself.

Sleeping and eating properly will make you healthy. Every faction of energy counts, for you need to read out the vows manly and you need to dance with her energetically. Therefore skimpy eating should be discouraged at all cost.

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10. Meditate to bust the stress.

Still if you cannot stay in composure, it is medically advisable to attend yoga classes. The impact is further amplified with mutual participation. Additionally, following your hobbies also ensure growth of collectedness.

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Last Updated on December 2, 2018

How to Flow Your Way to a More Productive Life

How to Flow Your Way to a More Productive Life

Ebb and flow. Contraction and expansion. Highs and lows. It’s all about the cycles of life.

The entire course of our life follows this up and down pattern of more and then less. Our days flow this way, each following a pattern of more energy, then less energy, more creativity and periods of greater focus bookended by moments of low energy when we cringe at the thought of one more meeting, one more call, one more sentence.

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The key is in understanding how to use the cycles of ebb and flow to our advantage. The ability to harness these fluctuations, understand how they affect our productivity and mood and then apply that knowledge as a tool to improve our lives is a valuable strategy that few individuals or corporations have mastered.

Here are a few simple steps to start using this strategy today:

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Review Your Past Flow

Take just a few minutes to look back at how your days and weeks have been unfolding. What time of the day are you the most focused? Do you prefer to be more social at certain times of the day? Do you have difficulty concentrating after lunch or are you energized? Are there days when you can’t seem to sit still at your desk and others when you could work on the same project for hours?

Do you see a pattern starting to emerge? Eventually you will discover a sort of map or schedule that charts your individual productivity levels during a given day or week.  That’s the first step. You’ll use this information to plan your days going forward.

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Schedule According to Your Flow Pattern

Look at the types of things you do each day…each week. What can you move around so that it’s a better fit for you? Can you suggest to your team that you schedule meetings for late morning if you can’t stand to be social first thing? Can you schedule detailed project work or highly creative tasks, like writing or designing when you are best able to focus? How about making sales calls or client meetings on days when you are the most social and leaving billing or reports until another time when you are able to close your door and do repetitive tasks.

Keep in mind that everyone is different and some things are out of our control. Do what you can. You might be surprised at just how flexible clients and managers can be when they understand that improving your productivity will result in better outcomes for them.

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Account for Big Picture Fluctuations

Look at the bigger picture. Consider what happens during different months or times during the year. Think about what is going on in the other parts of your life. When is the best time for you to take on a new project, role or responsibility? Take into account other commitments that zap your energy. Do you have a sick parent, a spouse who travels all the time or young children who demand all of your available time and energy?

We all know people who ignore all of this advice and yet seem to prosper and achieve wonderful success anyway, but they are usually the exception, not the rule. For most of us, this habitual tendency to force our bodies and our brains into patterns of working that undermine our productivity result in achieving less than desired results and adding more stress to our already overburdened lives.

Why not follow the ebb and flow of your life instead of fighting against it?

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