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10 Things A Groom Should Do to Have Stress Free Marriage

10 Things A Groom Should Do to Have Stress Free Marriage

The big day is around the corner and lots of what-ifs terrorize the mind of grooms. Doubts about the wedding vows are just the starter. When the much anticipated day finally arrives, it is all but common for grooms to get overwhelmed and forget many things.

Additionally grooms are susceptible to internalize perfect marriage ceremony is only in abstract. With such irrelevance, they anticipate chaos and stresses in the final day. Or, at least they think their marriage will pale into insignificance due to the reason, I quote, as silly as less creamier wedding cake or the blubbering of the otherwise endearing flower girl. Oh boy, how wrong are they. Today, I present to you the 10 things the grooms should do to have stress free marriage.

1. Talk and plan about it.

Sit with your bride-to-be and talk about how you wanted your marriage to be. There may be issues like budgets, venues, attendees among other. Holding discussion sessions about them will converge and harmonize your ideas with hers which resultantly will make the final event with understood flow. This will also be a great sign for being betrothed to a matched pair.

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2. Intensify the connection with her, her family, friends, and relatives.

Under stressing situation of planning the ceremony, it is common to lose touch with the person you are madly in love with: the bride. Therefore a quality time must be spent with her as it symbolizes you love spending time with her under any situation. Be it a dinner date or a movie time. Choice of movies or location of diner does have some major impacts to the future of the marriage.

Intermingling with bride’s family, friends, and relatives strengthen the bonding as there may be divorced parents or estranged siblings who are at odds to the ceremony.

3. Delegation unloads lots of worries.

Don’t bite off more than you can chew. Delegate some responsibilities to some trustworthy friends and relatives. They will run errands for you and you will be relieved of tiny, nagging problems. Also hiring the professional planners are sure shot way to have the job done. They will come in handy especially on the final day.

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4. Economize the time allocation for the final day.

It is tempting to squander the time of the crucial day in arranging a pre-wedding brunch or an extravagant make up. This activity will elevate your social and physical appearance. But believe me you will have to sacrifice a greater chunk of the precious time in the multitasking attempts. Therefore, sticking to the absolute necessities is advisable and correct.

5. Create an ambience.

No matter how evolved and matured you may think of yourself, there are chances that you might have turned blind eyes to obvious pitfalls. Your elderly and parents may see what you ignored. Therefore, enjoy their company and ask their responses and if relevant act accordingly. Also advice the bride to be surrounded by right number of friends and relatives as too many of her friends may cause mass hysteria.

6. Journaling vents the emotive energy.

Being bereft of important family member or losing best friend may be utterly felt during the wedding. At times, the eruption of such ‘missing-them’ feelings may be embarrassing. Therefore, for such soft-hearted grooms, writing journal will productively vent out the emotive energy that they are bottling up. Journaling also identifies issues bothering you chiefly and help address them individually.

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7. Choose open space as the venue.

Get married in an almost open space like park or gardens. Cluttered location creates trouble not only to the attendees and oncoming guest but it may also represent seclusion or impenetrability in psychological sense.

8. Small is important.

A pair of new shoes or a negligible tuft of neglected facial hair is the real dread. A new shoes ache like seven hells while hairs lower your self-confidence. Therefore stretching those fancy shoes before wearing them and having a set of hair clippers deny such moments.

9. Take good care of yourself.

Sleeping and eating properly will make you healthy. Every faction of energy counts, for you need to read out the vows manly and you need to dance with her energetically. Therefore skimpy eating should be discouraged at all cost.

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10. Meditate to bust the stress.

Still if you cannot stay in composure, it is medically advisable to attend yoga classes. The impact is further amplified with mutual participation. Additionally, following your hobbies also ensure growth of collectedness.

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Last Updated on March 13, 2019

How to Get out of a Rut: 12 Useful Ways to Get Unstuck

How to Get out of a Rut: 12 Useful Ways to Get Unstuck

Have you gotten into a rut before? Or are you in a rut right now?

You know you’re in a rut when you run out of ideas and inspiration. I personally see a rut as a productivity vacuum. It might very well be a reason why you aren’t getting results. Even as you spend more time on your work, you can’t seem to get anything constructive done. While I’m normally productive, I get into occasional ruts (especially when I’ve been working back-to-back without rest). During those times, I can spend an entire day in front of the computer and get nothing done. It can be quite frustrating.

Over time, I have tried and found several methods that are helpful to pull me out of a rut. If you experience ruts too, whether as a working professional, a writer, a blogger, a student or other work, you will find these useful. Here are 12 of my personal tips to get out of ruts:

1. Work on the small tasks.

When you are in a rut, tackle it by starting small. Clear away your smaller tasks which have been piling up. Reply to your emails, organize your documents, declutter your work space, and reply to private messages.

Whenever I finish doing that, I generate a positive momentum which I bring forward to my work.

2. Take a break from your work desk.

Get yourself away from your desk and go take a walk. Go to the washroom, walk around the office, go out and get a snack.

Your mind is too bogged down and needs some airing. Sometimes I get new ideas right after I walk away from my computer.

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3. Upgrade yourself

Take the down time to upgrade yourself. Go to a seminar. Read up on new materials (#7). Pick up a new language. Or any of the 42 ways here to improve yourself.

The modern computer uses different typefaces because Steve Jobs dropped in on a calligraphy class back in college. How’s that for inspiration?

4. Talk to a friend.

Talk to someone and get your mind off work for a while.

Talk about anything, from casual chatting to a deep conversation about something you really care about. You will be surprised at how the short encounter can be rejuvenating in its own way.

5. Forget about trying to be perfect.

If you are in a rut, the last thing you want to do is step on your own toes with perfectionist tendencies.

Just start small. Do what you can, at your own pace. Let yourself make mistakes.

Soon, a little trickle of inspiration will come. And then it’ll build up with more trickles. Before you know it, you have a whole stream of ideas.

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6. Paint a vision to work towards.

If you are continuously getting in a rut with your work, maybe there’s no vision inspiring you to move forward.

Think about why you are doing this, and what you are doing it for. What is the end vision in mind?

Make it as vivid as possible. Make sure it’s a vision that inspires you and use that to trigger you to action.

7. Read a book (or blog).

The things we read are like food to our brain. If you are out of ideas, it’s time to feed your brain with great materials.

Here’s a list of 40 books you can start off with. Stock your browser with only the feeds of high quality blogs, such as Lifehack.org, DumbLittleMan, Seth Godin’s Blog, Tim Ferris’ Blog, Zen Habits or The Personal Excellence Blog.

Check out the best selling books; those are generally packed with great wisdom.

8. Have a quick nap.

If you are at home, take a quick nap for about 20-30 minutes. This clears up your mind and gives you a quick boost. Nothing quite like starting off on a fresh start after catching up on sleep.

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9. Remember why you are doing this.

Sometimes we lose sight of why we do what we do, and after a while we become jaded. A quick refresher on why you even started on this project will help.

What were you thinking when you thought of doing this? Retrace your thoughts back to that moment. Recall why you are doing this. Then reconnect with your muse.

10. Find some competition.

Nothing quite like healthy competition to spur us forward. If you are out of ideas, then check up on what people are doing in your space.

Colleagues at work, competitors in the industry, competitors’ products and websites, networking conventions.. you get the drill.

11. Go exercise.

Since you are not making headway at work, might as well spend the time shaping yourself up.

Sometimes we work so much that we neglect our health and fitness. Go jog, swim, cycle, whichever exercise you prefer.

As you improve your physical health, your mental health will improve, too. The different facets of ourselves are all interlinked.

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Here’re 15 Tips to Restart the Exercise Habit (and How to Keep It).

12. Take a good break.

Ruts are usually signs that you have been working too long and too hard. It’s time to get a break.

Beyond the quick tips above, arrange for a 1-day or 2-days of break from your work. Don’t check your (work) emails or do anything work-related. Relax and do your favorite activities. You will return to your work recharged and ready to start.

Contrary to popular belief, the world will not end from taking a break from your work. In fact, you will be much more ready to make an impact after proper rest. My best ideas and inspiration always hit me whenever I’m away from my work.

Take a look at this to learn the importance of rest: The Importance of Scheduling Downtime

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