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Why Parental Involvement is Key to Preventing Child Bullying

Why Parental Involvement is Key to Preventing Child Bullying

Childhood bullying has been an ongoing topic of discussion for quite some time. This is due to both the severity and the persistence of this issue. The effect childhood bullying has on both the victim and the aggressor can be life-altering if not life-ending. Each year, an average of 8,000 children will end their own lives, nearly 1 per hour, in an attempt to escape their bullies. Additionally, those who make it to adulthood experience elevated tendency towards psychological disorders and social anxiety for the remainder of their lives.

Bullying isn’t the hazing we all received as kids that “made us stronger”, it’s killing our children and ruining their lives. Parents and schools must adopt more effective standards in preventing and eliminating this detriment within our schools. The following article will define, outline, and present causes, effects, and preventative measures in ending this epidemic.

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What are the Effects of Bullying?

As stated above, nearly one child per hour commits suicide as a result of being bullying, many of which may have been prevented had an educator or a bystander taken appropriate action. This number, while high is only the tip of the iceberg with regard to those impacted by bullying. The psychological implications of bullying can extend into the long-term and affect both parties as they mature into adulthood. These long-term effects include drug and alcohol abuse as well as an increased chance of incarceration. Bullying itself may merely be a symptom of a pre-existing psychological condition indicating the necessity for guidance and counseling to prevent it from worsening.

Who’s Responsible?

We all have the expectation that our schools need to exhibit more involvement in deterring and disciplining this behavior prior to its progression. But it isn’t just up to the school and bus drivers, it’s the parent’s responsibility as well. Not just the parents of the bully or the bullied, it’s also every parent’s responsibility to instill right and wrong and to empower their kids to act upon these morals. Essentially, everyone who plays a role in a child’s development is integral in nurturing and conditioning them into respectful young people who appreciate the value of a life.

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How Can We Help?

As parents, we need to understand that our children are like sponges and as they learn the ways of the world, they will soak up our views and mimic our actions. As a result, how we treat others around us is likely how our kids will treat their peers. Show compassion and respect, and our children will do so too. More importantly, talk to your kids, tell them the importance of  treating others well and standing up for what is right.

Just like we discuss “the birds and the bees”, find the right time to teach them to refuse to become a victim, refuse to be the aggressor, and refuse to be a bystander. Just as important as not being the bully or the bullied, being a witness to these actions and doing nothing about them or worse, recording it and sharing it to social media for “likes” is just as bad as being the bully.

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The Bystander Effect

The bystander effect is a scientifically researched occurrence, which indicates that when there is more than one witness to an event, even at an extreme encounter, they are far less likely to react. Research maintains that humans will look to others for guidance in regards to if they should act, when to react and how they should do so. This may be a result of a herd mentality or a decentralized decision making in which humans actually adopt a group “behavior.” This can sometimes act out in ways they never would alone or even prevent them from reacting to potential emergencies. By empowering our kids ahead of time to stop a bully or tell an adult, we can prevent physical and emotional harm that can affect a child for the rest of his or her life.

A Joint Effort for Prevention

People likely pick on others as a result of their upbringing. There is usually a void or resentment in one’s life and they temporarily fill it by belittling or causing pain to someone they perceive as weaker. As parents, it is our responsibility to love and nurture our children and provide them with a sense of worth so they won’t need to validate themselves at the expense of others.

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Educators need to monitor and react to bullying at any capacity and demonstrate a zero tolerance for this behavior. If parents and schools work together, we can help prevent suicide in youths as well as prevent the suffering of our children.

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Published on April 9, 2021

50 Single Mom Quotes On Staying Strong And Loving

50 Single Mom Quotes On Staying Strong And Loving

Being a mom is not easy. Being a single mom is even more challenging. Having children means you are on the job 24/7. Even while you are sleeping, you are still ready to wake at the slightest peep because that is what moms do.

Moms, especially single moms, need more people cheering them on. Your love and care matter to your kids. You are their superhero. I think single moms are superheroes, too.

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The quotes below are words of encouragement for all of the single moms out there. Keep up the great work! Your hard work will pay off. Someday, they will be grown up and living on their own. Your job will never truly be done as a mom, but you can pat yourself on the back today and every day for doing mom duty day in and day out.

Here are 50 single mom quotes to encourage all the single moms out there.

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  1. “Being raised by a single mother, I learned to appreciate and value independent women.”—Kenny Conley
  2. “As a single mum you’ll discover inner strengths and capabilities you never knew you had.”—Emma-Louise Smith
  3. “One thing I know for sure – this motherhood thing is not for sissies.”—Jennifer Nettles
  4. “Mothers and their children are in a category all their own. There’s no bond so strong in the entire world. No love so instantaneous and forgiving.”—Gail Tsukiyama
  5. “And one day she discovered that she was fierce and strong, and full of fire and that not even she could hold herself back because her passion burned brighter than her fears.”—Mark Anthony
  6. “She never quite leaves her children at home, even when she doesn’t take them along.”—Margaret Culkin Banning
  7. “The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don’t have any.”—Alice Walker
  8. “Everyone has inside of her a piece of good news. The good news is that you don’t know how great you can be, how much you can love, what you can accomplish, and what your potential is.”—Anne Frank
  9. “Doubt is a killer. You just have to know who you are and what you stand for.”—Jennifer Lopez
  10. “You are more powerful than you know; you are beautiful just as you are.”—Melissa Etheridge
  11. “Motherhood is the greatest thing and the hardest thing.”—Ricki Lake
  12. “You don’t take a class; you’re thrown into motherhood and learn from experience.”—Jennie Finch
  13. “If you look at what you have in life, you’ll always have more. If you look at what you don’t have in life, you’ll never have enough.”—Oprah Winfrey
  14. “I am no bird; and no net ensnares me: I am a free human being with an independent will.”—Charlotte Brontë
  15. “Above all, be the heroine of your life, not the victim.”—Nora Ephron
  16. “When a woman becomes her own best friend life is easier.”—Diane Von Furstenberg
  17. “If you want something said, ask a man; if you want something done, ask a woman.”—Margaret Thatcher
  18. “Women have discovered that they cannot rely on men’s chivalry to give them justice.”—Helen Keller
  19. “Successful mothers are not the ones that have never struggled. They are the ones that never give up, despite the struggles.”—Sharon Jaynes
  20. “Success, they taught me, is built on the foundation of courage, hard work, and individual responsibility. Despite what some would have us believe, success is not built on resentment and fears.”—Susana Martinez
  21. “You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them.”—Maya Angelou
  22. “The question isn’t who’s going to let me; it’s who is going to stop me.”—Ayn Rand
  23. “God could not be everywhere, and therefore he made mothers.”—Rudyard Kipling
  24. “The women whom I love and admire for their strength and grace did not get that way because stuff worked out. They got that way because stuff went wrong, and they handled it. They handled it in a thousand different ways on a thousand different days, but they handled it. Those women are my superheroes.”—Elizabeth Gilbert
  25. “There will be so many times you feel like you failed. But in the eyes, ears, and mind of your child, you are a SUPER MOM.”—Stephanie Precourt
  26. “Motherhood is the ultimate call to sacrifice.”—Wangechi Mutu
  27. “We may encounter many defeats but we must not be defeated.”—Maya Angelou
  28. “A mother’s arms are more comforting than anyone else’s.”—Princess Diana
  29. “There’s no way to be a perfect mother and a million ways to be a good one.”—Jill Churchill
  30. “There’s no doubt that motherhood is the best thing in my life. It’s all that really matters.”—Courtney Cox
  31. “I realized when you look at your mother, you are looking at the purest love you will ever know.”—Mitch Albom
  32. “I have found being a mother has made me emotionally raw in many situations. Your heart is beating outside your body when you have a baby.”—Kate Beckinsale
  33. “Single moms, you are a doctor, a teacher, a nurse, a maid, a cook, a referee, a heroine, a provider, a defender, a protector, a true Superwoman. Wear your cape proudly.”—Mandy Hale
  34. “I’m not really single. I mean, I am, but I have a son. Being a single mother is different from being a single woman.”—Kate Hudson
  35. “Being a single parent is twice the work, twice the stress, and twice the tears but also twice the hugs, twice the love, and twice the pride.”—Unknown
  36. “For me, motherhood is learning about the strengths I didn’t know I had, and dealing with the fears I didn’t know existed.”—Halle Berry
  37. “A single mom tries when things are hard. She never gives up. She believes in her family, even when things are tough. She knows that above all things… a mother’s love is more than enough.”—Denice Williams
  38. “You do the best you can. Some days you feel really good about yourself and some days you don’t.”—Katie Holmes
  39. “I would say to any single parent currently feeling the weight of stereotype or stigmatization that I am prouder of my years as a single mother than of any other part of my life.”JK Rowling
  40. “Just because I am a single mother doesn’t mean I cannot be a success.”—Yvonne Kaloki
  41. “I didn’t plan on being a single mom, but you have to deal with the cards you are dealt the best way you can.”—Tichina Arnold
  42. “Nothing you do for children is ever wasted.”—Garrison Keillor
  43. “A single mom tries when things are hard. She never gives up. She believes in her family, even when things are tough. She knows that above all things, a mother’s love is more than enough.”—Deniece Williams
  44. “Motherhood has a very humanizing effect. Everything gets reduced to essentials.”—Meryl Streep
  45. “Having kids—the responsibility of rearing good, kind, ethical, responsible human beings—is the biggest job anyone can embark on.”—Maria Shriver
  46. “Mother is a verb. It’s something you do. Not just who you are.”—Cheryl Lacey Donovan
  47. “A mother’s love for her child is like nothing else in the world. It knows no law, no pity, it dates all things and crushes down remorselessly all that stands in its path.”—Agatha Christie
  48. “A mother’s arms are more comforting than anyone else’s.”—Princess Diana
  49. “The hand that rocks the cradle is the hand that rules the world.”—W.R. Wallace
  50. “Being a mother is the greatest blessing and the hardest challenge in all of life.”—Dr. Magdalena Battles

Final Thoughts

Single moms are remarkable women. They are to be respected and honored for all that they do. If you know a single mom, then share this article with them. Tell them “you are doing a great job as a single mom.” They need our encouragement and support.

They may be parenting alone, but it is good to let them know that there are people in their life who care for them. We can all be there for the single moms out there. Even if it is just to say, “keep up the great work, you are an amazing woman!”

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If you are a single mom, keep up the good work! You are amazing, and your kids are lucky to have you!

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