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Top 5 Tips For Choosing His Engagement Ring

Top 5 Tips For Choosing His Engagement Ring

Historically, the tradition of an engagement ring is traced back to the ancient Egyptians. The Romans believed that the left ring finger had a vein that was connected to the heart, that’s why we use our left ring finger. The gift of the wedding ring is meant to be a symbol to the world that the woman wearing it is engaged to be married. It wasn’t until the 1940’s and 1950’s that men even started wearing wedding bands, but the days of these bands representing ownership are becoming water under the bridge while more and more couples are choosing relationships that are defying old stereotypes.

As much as women dislike the stereotypes pushed through the patriarch like, “women are meant to be seen and not heard” and “a real woman knows how to cook and raises the children”, many men dislike the stereotypes given to them as well. Things like “men don’t know how to talk about their feelings” or “men don’t listen”.

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Men and women have begun to realize that not only are these stereotypes untrue, but they are also creating a negative, unhealthy space for both people in the relationship. A push for equality in all things is a slow process but equality in new marriages, in life partners, is beginning to start at the onset, with the engagement ring.

Not only are couples shopping for engagement rings for both partners now, but woman are asking men to marry them more and more. If you are one of the brave, assertive woman who wants to pop the question, you know him best but we have some helpful tips to keep in mind.

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1. What are Your Options?

Seeing as how this is a recent change in the usual tradition of things the options available to you are not as vast as the women’s engagement rings. Search different jewelers and check what the options are and then consider your partner’s lifestyle. Would his profession or hobbies require a more durable band or can you go with something a little more gentle? If something durable is necessary a metal band is probably best. If not there are many handmade rings now that are made from various mediums like oak, ebony, and even antler but are not as durable as many of the metals. You can find many of these on Etsy, with a simple “men’s engagement ring” search.

2. Budget

Now that you have an idea of what is out there and the general price range, it is time to be realistic about what you both can afford. If you decide to go with a metal band, you can compare price both in store and online. Keep in mind if it’s online, no one will be making a commission off of your purchase though, so no haggling. Don’t fall for the old “rule” of spending 3 months salary on the engagement ring. That is nonsense. In the end, what matters is that you have found a ring that fits, he likes, and you haven’t put yourself into debt before you have to think about paying for a wedding and a life together.

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3. Religious/Cultural Significance

Is your future hubby religious? If so, is there a scripture of symbol that he would appreciate on the engagement ring? Does He have a strong cultural background? Some ethnic traditions are strongly intertwined in marriage. Some Irish use Claddagh rings that have Celtic script. If your Irishman is close to his ethnic roots, this might be very meaningful to him. Talk to your future partner and find out is something religious or culturally significant would add the extra personalization and originality to the engagement ring.

4. Evaluate His Style

Is he the type of man who already wears rings? If so, check out the style width and size of those rings and use them as a starting point. Does he like/wear gold or silver more often? Is he the kind of man who really just naturally dislikes rings. Some men have never worn jewelry and wearing ring is not something they are excited about, maybe think of an alternative, like putting the ring on a chain to be worn around the neck. Some couples have chosen to skip the rings altogether. Doing things like creating an adventure fund or putting a down payment on a house.

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Another thing to consider are allergies. There are many people who have allergies to certain metals. There are also many organic rings now made with things like antler or different woods which may be perfect for someone who loves hunting but a romance killer, or for someone who is allergic to oak or silver.

5. Surprise Surprise

Once you have decided this is what you want to do and found the perfect ring, the most equally exciting and stressful part of the experience is next, the proposal. Does your partner enjoy surprises? If so coming up with something elaborate involving friends and family might be the way to go. If not, something much more intimate might be best if your partner is on the timid/shy side of things.

There are many engagement ring boxes now that can also be custom made and will do most of your requests. This is a once in a lifetime chance to declare your love in a way only you can. You know your partner best, take your time, enjoy the process, and good luck!

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Last Updated on August 20, 2018

30 Fun Things To Do With Your Friends Without Spending Much

30 Fun Things To Do With Your Friends Without Spending Much

Spending time with friends is, in and of itself, a great way to pass the time without spending a lot of money. But if you and your friends are used to going out to clubs, pubs or eateries together as your way of hanging out, then you can change it up a bit and save some money too.

No matter where you live, there are plenty of places to go and do fun things that don’t cost a lot.

If you are having trouble convincing your friends to do things on the cheap, then be upfront with them. Tell them straight out that you can’t spend that kind of money right now — and don’t let them pay for you either. But here are some great alternatives you can offer.

30 Fun Things To Do With Friends Without Spending Much

1. A potluck dinner party. Host a dinner party and ask everyone to bring a dish to share. If you are not comfortable with cooking, maybe try and learn how to cook a new dish together with your friends.

2. Host a spa day. Give each other manicures. Try out new hairstyles. Make some facial masks or exfoliates using natural, at-home ingredients. Then drink mimosas.

3. Movie marathon. Log into Netflix and watch every episode of “Stranger Things” Or do an ’80s movie marathon, watching “Pretty in Pink,” “The Breakfast Club” and all of our old favorites. Don’t have a Netflix membership? Get the free trial just for the marathon!

4. Pinterest party! You know all of those cool Pinterest crafts you say you’re going to do? Do them. At home one night with friends. Then make up some of those bacon-wrapped whatevers you’ve been dying to try!

5. Go to the park. Pack a picnic. Hang out. Watch people. Play on the swings.

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    6. Have an organization party. Set up a day of each weekend where you go to each of your friends’ houses and help them clean out a closet, a room, a garage, whatever. Serve drinks and food and trade stuff among yourselves.

    7. Hold a yard sale. After all of that cleaning, why not hang out together and make some extra cash too?

    8. Concerts in the park. All summer long, many parks host free concerts. Go with your friends. Hang out, bring a picnic dinner. This is a very relaxing way to chill out on a hot summer night after work.

    9. Volunteer together. Offer to do the yard work for the local senior center or hang out with the kids at the YMCA. After a few hours of volunteering together, you will have new respect for each other and something new to chat about.

    10. Play board games. Drag out the Scrabble or the Yahtzee. You can hang out and play all sorts of games with large groups or small ones. Hold a tournament and compete against each other. Here’re some board games ideas.

    11. Video game tournament. Not into board games? OK. Well, how about a video game tournament? Whether it’s the latest dancing game or “Call of Duty,” play against each other and award prizes (or food) to the winners.

    12. Grab a ball and a bat and go play baseball at the local park. Grab a basketball or a tennis racket. Most parks have courts and fields you can use for free as long as there isn’t an organized event going on.

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    13. Go to the school play. This might cost a little for admission, but it’s a great way to support your community and have a fun time.

    14. Iron Chef night. Bring your friends over and have an Iron Chef night where you cook dinner out of only the items in your pantry. No buying anything!

    15. Go dumpster diving. Yup. I said it. Check out the dumpsters in your area and see what you can find. You might even find dinner! Here are some tips for respectful diving.

      16. Go to yard sales. Take all that money you made at your yard sale and cruise around your town together looking for cool stuff. Maybe you could even fix something up and resell it.

      17. Go fishing.

      18. Go camping.

      19. Find some cool trails around your town and go hiking. Here’re some of the best hiking trails you should try.

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      20. Get out the bikes and bike everywhere for a weekend.

        21. Dig out the old croquet set — or borrow your Mom’s — and play croquet. Do it! Totally fun.

        22. Swap movies and music. Have everyone bring over a box of old movies and CDs they don’t want anymore — or don’t watch anymore. Then swap with abandon.

        23. Go on a walking tour of your town. Most towns or cities have a historic district. Find out if there is a walking tour available. If not, make one up!

        24. Scavenger hunt. Put your friends to the test — yes, this is for grown-ups — to find different things in your city…like a certain bike rack, a vintage sign, that sort of thing. The winner gets a dinner cooked by the losers.

        25. Find out when the free days are at your local museum or zoo. Most have them and they can be great fun to visit with friends.

        26. Hold a quilting bee. No, you don’t have to be fancy — or old — for this. Grab some old T-shirts that you love, old jeans, whatever. Cut them into squares and sew them together. Who knows? Maybe it will become a regular thing?

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        27. Go to Open Mic night. Your town is likely harboring some great talent at an open mic night that has no cover and cheap drinks!

        28. Go to a religious service. Even if you’re not religious, going to a service in an unfamiliar religion can be enlightening and a great way to meet new people.

        29. Find a swimming hole. Head to the old town swimming hole — or find a new one. What a great way to spend a lazy afternoon with friends.

          30. Start a book club, card club (canasta anyone?), sewing club or scrapbooking club. Something you and your friends like. My parents used to belong to a cooking club where once a month all of their friends gathered at one house and the host family cooked a meal from a different country. I learned a lot about food that year.

          You don’t really need to spend much to have lots of fun with your friends! Pick a few of these ideas and start trying them out this weekend with your friends!

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