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9 Steps To A Better Body Image

9 Steps To A Better Body Image

The ideal image of female beauty was said to be Cleopatra. She was described as “Slim and nubile, with cunning hips and the mere hint of a belly. Her charms were of a jewel-like nature; there was nothing large and dowdy about her. All men desired her, because all men believed she had conquered the nature of the human body and made it bend to her will, and her will alone. Her beauty was of such a diaphanous nature as to make it seem the slightest desert breeze would blow her away, past the Pyramids and into the Nile. Thus all men wished to hold her and protect her.”

Today’s women are still struggling to achieve what Cleopatra so effortlessly possessed. They diet and exercise, only to binge and become couch potatoes. This see-saw frenzy, this delusional “fat chat,” is a pox on female existence.

No woman can live up to being another Cleopatra, but here are nine ways to end the insanity and begin restoring the image of your body as beautiful.

1. Don’t let body hatred rule your life

People suffering from obsession usually aren’t aware of it. They simply believe they are being “hard-headed” about it, dealing with it as it should be dealt with.

Try to take a step back from yourself and ask “why do I hate my body?” Has it tried to kill you or rob you? Probably not. Next, incorporate this one word into your psychic vocabulary: “Blemish.” Your body is not an abomination, hideous to behold. You merely have a blemish. And a blemish is completely normal and acceptable. If others cannot accept your blemish and treat you with respect and courtesy, then the problem is theirs, not yours.

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2. Love your body

You may get a new heart or lung or liver during your lifetime, but you’ll never get a new body transplant. For better or for worse, you have only one body. So learn to love it by learning to appreciate it.

As has been pointed out by countless gurus and physicians over the centuries, your body is a miracle of construction. It houses your spirit, allowing you mobility and passion to experience and enjoy the world you live in. It protects you and houses the organs of pleasure that can take you to heights that spirit alone may never reach.

Fall in love with yourself all over again, as you most likely did as a child. Taste. Touch. See. Smell. Take each sense and find how much pleasure you can wring from each one.

3. Accept yourself

You are absolutely unique. There is no one else on earth, never has been and never will be, who is exactly like you. So why would you want to waste time trying to turn yourself into someone else just because of their great body? Be yourself and damn the consequences!

4. Think your way to beauty

Find a photograph of Mother Theresa and tape it to your bathroom mirror. She is a homely woman, but her thoughts made her a saint. And her saintliness showed through every pore of her body until no one thought of her as anything but beautiful.

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You probably aren’t prepared to move to India to minister to the poor and needy, but push yourself to give a smile to a stranger, to share a compliment with a co-worker, give something you’ve been hoarding to your special someone. You can make yourself think beautiful, and, like Mother Theresa, you will become beautiful.

5. Take a personal inventory

Specifically, ask yourself “So, what has all this self-hate done for me lately?” You’ll not find one positive result from self-hate, but that doesn’t mean it’s going to be easy to get rid of it.

Like any harmful addiction, the pain of self-hate becomes part of the process. And maybe you deserve that pain — just like any cartoon character deserves that anvil that falls on their head. Do you think of yourself as a cartoon character? Stop it. Think of yourself as mature and meaningful, and invite self-hate to take a hike.

6. Know that thin people are not happier than everyone else

Ebenezer Scrooge was thin. So was Hitler. Inside every thin person is… not very much. They are pretty insubstantial when it comes down to it (in terms of literal quantity, of course).

But joking aside, what makes you think that a thin person’s life lacks the challenges and adversities that you have faced and successfully overcome? Or that skinny people are automatically treated better than others? Thinness, in and of itself, guarantees neither happiness nor unhappiness, riches nor poverty, happiness nor misery. It’s about the same as having blue eyes instead of brown. When all is said and done, big deal — what’s the diff?

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7. Use thought control

The culture says to be thin, exercise like a maniac, eat little, and be beautiful — or else you are an awful slug.

These thoughts are hardwired, so they can’t be escaped. But they can be controlled. Wear a rubber band around your wrist. Every time you begin to be weighed down by a bad body thought, give the rubber band a snap. That will break your concentration on the negativity and help you guide your thoughts back to normal and productive thinking.

8. Answer the question “Who do you think you are?”

Your body is not who you are. Feelings, thoughts, and relationships all go into forming who you really are — not your abs or bust size. To feel good about yourself is not to lie to yourself, but to take a self-inventory and honestly examine the good that you’ve done to yourself and to others. It may take some effort, and it may take more than a one-time effort — in fact, it should be an ongoing process, remembering and listing the positive aspects of your life.

Think of yourself as a work in progress: some of the floors are ready to be inhabited, but there are other spaces still under construction, needing your attention to turn them into beautiful suites where you’ll reside in future years.

9. Let the healing begin

Rome wasn’t built in a day. Your body image cannot be rebuilt in a day, either. But you should be taking steps each day to repair the damage that a bad body image may have wrought in your life.

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This may call for simple meditation and a slight mental adjustment. But you may want to consider further and deeper help. Try support groups, therapy, and/or counseling with your doctor or spiritual guide.

Since Cleopatra’s time, women have been slaves, more or less, to the image of perfect beauty in face and in form. Women today have paid a terrible price for this, in the form of mental depression and desperation, as well as physical torture from liposuction and botox injections. Pills, potions, and starvation are still so common among women seeking physical perfection that the late-night talk shows joke about them cruelly and consistently:

“Beauty’s only skin deep,” jokes Jimmy Kimmel, “but who wants to date a woman that’s been flayed alive?”

Recognizing the problem and seeking help are strengths. And whatever makes you stronger will make you more confident and beautiful.

Featured photo credit: pixabay via pixabay.com

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Last Updated on December 13, 2018

12 Practical Tips To Stay Fit For Christmas

12 Practical Tips To Stay Fit For Christmas

Christmas is approaching fast, and lots of people not only tend to ruin their usual diets, but they also gain a few extra pounds. Based on studies, the majority of people tend to gain additional weight during the holiday season that starts at the Thanksgiving Day and ends with the New Year celebrations. Excessive eating is claimed to be the main cause for the additional weight gain, but it is also due to lack of physical activity and exercise.

A lot of individuals out there tend to set aside their fitness routines during the holidays since they believe that they do not have enough time to perform their workouts. And because they feel guilty after the holiday season, most of the gyms and fitness centers are packed with fresh members. Always bear in mind that you can still enjoy the holidays and stay fit at the same time. If you want to stay fit during the holiday season, especially during Christmas and the New Year’s Eve, here are some useful tips that might help you:

1. Eat Before Heading Out

First, it is best that you eat something before heading out to visits, trips or family dinners. By doing so, you will no longer be tempted to eat a lot or overindulge yourself since you have already eaten. Skipping on meals is not a good idea either, because you will only be forced to eat more later.

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2. Select The Treats

Make sure to select the treats that you eat in a wise manner. You should choose something that you can only enjoy during the holiday season and not something that is readily available all the time.

3. Avoid Skipping Meals

Don’t skip meals, especially breakfast! Even though it can be tempting to skip on certain meals, believing that it will make up for the treats you consumed in the previous day, don’t do it because it will only lead to counterproductive results.

4. Drink With Moderation

It is best to regulate your drinking since alcohol, coke or other juices will only add more calories to the ones you already eaten!

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5. Be Active

You should still perform your fitness routine whenever possible and if you can’t do that, simply walk more, park your car some distance away from the store or just use the stairs!

6. Get Out Of The House

Make the holidays a family affair and plan outdoor activities where everyone is involved. Even a snowball fight in the backyard will burn a lot of calories and will keep the children entertained.

7. Don’t Skip Your Strength Workouts

Always remember to perform your strength training in order to maintain that muscle mass you worked hard to get. You might be tempted to use lightweights and just do some cardio, but you can burn just as many calories by lifting weights. And with all of those extra stakes you had on the holiday meals, you might even gain some extra muscle. And this is much better than gaining some extra fat.

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8. Set Realistic Goals

You should set realistic exercise objectives. Aim for at least half an hour per day and you will be very happy when you will achieve that. If you plan one hour or more and not achieve it, you will only end up disappointed.

9. Enjoy Yourself

Also make sure to set realistic diet plans! Trying to restrain yourself totally from some foods will only make you eat more. Feel free to enjoy the treats that you really love, but in small portions.

10. Drink A Lot Of Water

This can satiate your appetite as well as keep you hydrated at all times. And it will also prevent a possible hangover if you overdo it with alcohol.

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11. Eat Less And More Often

Distribute your meals evenly throughout the day, and do not eat everything at once.  Instead of having 2 enormous meals, have 5 small ones.  Eat your dinner earlier and have a nice walk before going to bed.

12. Prioritize Your Workouts

Try to do them early in the morning while everyone else is still sleeping. This way you will also avoid remarks like “Oh, come on! It’s Christmas…”

So there you go! Twelve simple tips that will help you avoid gaining weight during the winter holidays, but will also allow you to enjoy yourself and have a great time with your loved ones.

Happy Holidays everyone!

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