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5 Surprising Reasons To Go To A Concert Alone

5 Surprising Reasons To Go To A Concert Alone

When I tell people I’ve been to a concert by myself, I generally get mixed responses and sometimes quizzical glares. Either a sigh of pity is tossed my way as people mutter, “Too bad, someone will go with you next time,” or they express jealousy for my bravery as if I have just rescued a helpless kitten. I’m here to report that going to a show by yourself isn’t as terrifying or embarrassing as you may think.

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    However, as I walked into my first solo concert experience, I felt uncertain as I awkwardly wondered if I’d made the right decision. My eyes nervously darted around the room, half hoping I wouldn’t see anyone I knew and half praying for a familiar face amongst the sea of happy concertgoers. Once I realized that the crowd couldn’t be less concerned that I was alone, a relaxing wave of confidence floated over me and I began to sink a little easier into my own skin. Without having to entertain a conversation with a friend, I was able to absorb more of my surroundings and garnered an immersive experience – taking in the buzzing atmosphere filled with life.

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    Ultimately, I learned that the negative stigma around going to a concert by yourself is far from the truth. If you’re a little nervous to fly solo to a gig, check out the reasons below to spread your musical wings.

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      1. You’re in a better place to meet new people if you’re alone at a show.

      The first time I went to a concert by myself, I was surprised at how many totally random people struck up friendly conversations and were kinder than I thought strangers ever could be. A solo gig is a perfect place to meet new friends, network, and to restore your faith in humanity by chatting with people, you never thought you would. But, be sure to be present and in the moment when you’re at a concert by yourself. Although it’s easy to fall into the trap of staring at your phone in fear of looking awkward, this isolation isn’t helping you branch out and prevents you from meeting someone who might be just as nervous.

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        2. You won’t have to worry if your friends are having as awesome of a time as you are.

        Have you ever had stars in your eyes from being blown away by your favorite group’s best song, just to look over at your friend who barely knows the lyrics and seems disinterested? Total buzzkill. If you’re at a concert by yourself, you can dance to the beat of your own drum or meet other people who love the music just as much as you do. Bonus: you already have something in common with everyone else around you. Music is an amazing force that brings unlikely friends together.

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          3. You’re in control.

          No one to wait on and risk being late, no one to tell you when to leave. Going to a concert alone is a boost of self-confidence as it puts you in the driver’s seat of your happiness, a rare and beautiful moment to cherish. Want to stare at the light show and take in your surroundings for a full five minutes just because? Go for it. Want to leave in the middle of the show because you got hungry? Happy eating. The freedom that comes with a solo excursion is liberating and empowering.

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            4. View the concert from where ever you want.

            One obstacle you’ll face while attending an unseated show with a huge group of friends is getting a spot in the crowd where you can see all of the action. Simultaneously pleasing both the friends who need to be front and your more reserved friends who would rather listen from the back corner is a challenge you won’t have to face if you go to a concert on your own. Say goodbye to chain-linking everyone’s arms together and weaving through an annoyed crowd. If you’re by yourself, you won’t have to worry about disappointing anyone if you would prefer to chill in the back, and wiggling your way to center stage becomes much easier.

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              5. You’re doing something brave, and it will be reflected in your character.

              By taking a chance on going to a concert alone, you’ve pushed yourself to face the challenge of social awkwardness, and thus you’ve expanded your horizons. Taking a leap of faith by experiencing a concert for the pure joy of making yourself happy is a great way to foster the most important relationship you’ve got – the one with yourself.

              I hope I’ve inspired you to feel confident enough to go to a concert by yourself. No show is worth missing just because no friends are available that night. Make it something to remember!

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              The 10 Essential Habits of Positive People

              The 10 Essential Habits of Positive People

              Are you waiting for life events to turn out the way you want so that you can feel more positive about your life? Do you find yourself having pre-conditions to your sense of well-being, thinking that certain things must happen for you to be happier? Do you think there is no way that your life stresses can make you anything other than “stressed out” and that other people just don’t understand?  If your answer is “yes” to any of these questions, you might find yourself lingering in the land of negativity for too long!

              The following are some tips to keep positive no matter what comes your way. This post will help you stop looking for what psychologists call “positivity” in all the wrong places!  Here are the ten essential habits of positive people.

              1. Positive people don’t confuse quitting with letting go.

              Instead of hanging on to ideas, beliefs, and even people that are no longer healthy for them, they trust their judgement to let go of negative forces in their lives.  Especially in terms of relationships, they subscribe to The Relationship Prayer which goes:

               I will grant myself the ability to trust the healthy people in my life … 

              To set limits with, or let go of, the negative ones … 

              And to have the wisdom to know the DIFFERENCE!

               2.  Positive people don’t just have a good day – they make a good day.

              Waiting, hoping and wishing seldom have a place in the vocabulary of positive individuals. Rather, they use strong words that are pro-active and not reactive. Passivity leads to a lack of involvement, while positive people get very involved in constructing their lives. They work to make changes to feel better in tough times rather than wish their feelings away.

              3. For the positive person, the past stays in the past.

              Good and bad memories alike stay where they belong – in the past where they happened. They don’t spend much time pining for the good ol’ days because they are too busy making new memories now. The negative pulls from the past are used not for self-flagellation or unproductive regret, but rather productive regret where they use lessons learned as stepping stones towards a better future.

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              4. Show me a positive person and I can show you a grateful person.

              The most positive people are the most grateful people.  They do not focus on the potholes of their lives.  They focus on the pot of gold that awaits them every day, with new smells, sights, feelings and experiences.  They see life as a treasure chest full of wonder.

              5. Rather than being stuck in their limitations, positive people are energized by their possibilities.

              Optimistic people focus on what they can do, not what they can’t do.  They are not fooled to think that there is a perfect solution to every problem, and are confident that there are many solutions and possibilities.  They are not afraid to attempt new solutions to old problems, rather than spin their wheels expecting things to be different this time.  They refuse to be like Charlie Brown expecting that this time Lucy will not pull the football from him!

              6. Positive people do not let their fears interfere with their lives!

              Positive people have observed that those who are defined and pulled back by their fears never really truly live a full life. While proceeding with appropriate caution, they do not let fear keep them from trying new things. They realize that even failures are necessary steps for a successful life. They have confidence that they can get back up when they are knocked down by life events or their own mistakes, due to a strong belief in their personal resilience.

              7. Positive people smile a lot!

              When you feel positive on the inside it is like you are smiling from within, and these smiles are contagious. Furthermore, the more others are with positive people, the more they tend to smile too! They see the lightness in life, and have a sense of humor even when it is about themselves. Positive people have a high degree of self-respect, but refuse to take themselves too seriously!

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              8. People who are positive are great communicators.

              They realize that assertive, confident communication is the only way to connect with others in everyday life.  They avoid judgmental, angry interchanges, and do not let someone else’s blow up give them a reason to react in kind. Rather, they express themselves with tact and finesse.  They also refuse to be non-assertive and let people push them around. They refuse to own problems that belong to someone else.

              9. Positive people realize that if you live long enough, there are times for great pain and sadness.

              One of the most common misperceptions about positive people is that to be positive, you must always be happy. This can not be further from the truth. Anyone who has any depth at all is certainly not happy all the time.  Being sad, angry, disappointed are all essential emotions in life. How else would you ever develop empathy for others if you lived a life of denial and shallow emotions? Positive people do not run from the gamut of emotions, and accept that part of the healing process is to allow themselves to experience all types of feelings, not only the happy ones. A positive person always holds the hope that there is light at the end of the darkness.  

              10. Positive person are empowered people – they refuse to blame others and are not victims in life.

              Positive people seek the help and support of others who are supportive and safe.They limit interactions with those who are toxic in any manner, even if it comes to legal action and physical estrangement such as in the case of abuse. They have identified their own basic human rights, and they respect themselves too much to play the part of a victim. There is no place for holding grudges with a positive mindset. Forgiveness helps positive people become better, not bitter.

              How about you?  How many habits of positive people do you personally find in yourself?  If you lack even a few of these 10 essential habits, you might find that the expected treasure at the end of the rainbow was not all that it was cracked up to be. How could it — if you keep on bringing a negative attitude around?

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              I wish you well in keeping positive, because as we all know, there is certainly nothing positive about being negative!

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