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5 Surprising Reasons To Go To A Concert Alone

5 Surprising Reasons To Go To A Concert Alone

When I tell people I’ve been to a concert by myself, I generally get mixed responses and sometimes quizzical glares. Either a sigh of pity is tossed my way as people mutter, “Too bad, someone will go with you next time,” or they express jealousy for my bravery as if I have just rescued a helpless kitten. I’m here to report that going to a show by yourself isn’t as terrifying or embarrassing as you may think.

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    However, as I walked into my first solo concert experience, I felt uncertain as I awkwardly wondered if I’d made the right decision. My eyes nervously darted around the room, half hoping I wouldn’t see anyone I knew and half praying for a familiar face amongst the sea of happy concertgoers. Once I realized that the crowd couldn’t be less concerned that I was alone, a relaxing wave of confidence floated over me and I began to sink a little easier into my own skin. Without having to entertain a conversation with a friend, I was able to absorb more of my surroundings and garnered an immersive experience – taking in the buzzing atmosphere filled with life.

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    Ultimately, I learned that the negative stigma around going to a concert by yourself is far from the truth. If you’re a little nervous to fly solo to a gig, check out the reasons below to spread your musical wings.

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      1. You’re in a better place to meet new people if you’re alone at a show.

      The first time I went to a concert by myself, I was surprised at how many totally random people struck up friendly conversations and were kinder than I thought strangers ever could be. A solo gig is a perfect place to meet new friends, network, and to restore your faith in humanity by chatting with people, you never thought you would. But, be sure to be present and in the moment when you’re at a concert by yourself. Although it’s easy to fall into the trap of staring at your phone in fear of looking awkward, this isolation isn’t helping you branch out and prevents you from meeting someone who might be just as nervous.

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        2. You won’t have to worry if your friends are having as awesome of a time as you are.

        Have you ever had stars in your eyes from being blown away by your favorite group’s best song, just to look over at your friend who barely knows the lyrics and seems disinterested? Total buzzkill. If you’re at a concert by yourself, you can dance to the beat of your own drum or meet other people who love the music just as much as you do. Bonus: you already have something in common with everyone else around you. Music is an amazing force that brings unlikely friends together.

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          3. You’re in control.

          No one to wait on and risk being late, no one to tell you when to leave. Going to a concert alone is a boost of self-confidence as it puts you in the driver’s seat of your happiness, a rare and beautiful moment to cherish. Want to stare at the light show and take in your surroundings for a full five minutes just because? Go for it. Want to leave in the middle of the show because you got hungry? Happy eating. The freedom that comes with a solo excursion is liberating and empowering.

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            4. View the concert from where ever you want.

            One obstacle you’ll face while attending an unseated show with a huge group of friends is getting a spot in the crowd where you can see all of the action. Simultaneously pleasing both the friends who need to be front and your more reserved friends who would rather listen from the back corner is a challenge you won’t have to face if you go to a concert on your own. Say goodbye to chain-linking everyone’s arms together and weaving through an annoyed crowd. If you’re by yourself, you won’t have to worry about disappointing anyone if you would prefer to chill in the back, and wiggling your way to center stage becomes much easier.

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              5. You’re doing something brave, and it will be reflected in your character.

              By taking a chance on going to a concert alone, you’ve pushed yourself to face the challenge of social awkwardness, and thus you’ve expanded your horizons. Taking a leap of faith by experiencing a concert for the pure joy of making yourself happy is a great way to foster the most important relationship you’ve got – the one with yourself.

              I hope I’ve inspired you to feel confident enough to go to a concert by yourself. No show is worth missing just because no friends are available that night. Make it something to remember!

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              10 Powerful Ways to Stop Worrying and Start Living Today

              10 Powerful Ways to Stop Worrying and Start Living Today

              Plato knew that the body and mind are intimately linked. And in the late 1800s, the Mayo brothers, famous physicians, estimated that over half of all hospital beds are filled with people suffering from frustration, anxiety, worry and despair. Causes of worry are everywhere, in our relationships and our jobs, so it’s key we find ways to take charge of the stress.

              In his classic book How to Stop Worrying and Start Living, Dale Carnegie offers tools to ditch excessive worrying that help you make a worry-free environment for your private and professional life.

              These are the top 10 tips to grab worry by the horns and wrestle it to the ground:

              1. Make Your Decision and Never Look Back

              Have you ever made a decision in life only to second-guess it afterwards? Of course you have! It’s hard not to wonder whether you’ve done the right thing and whether there might still be time to take another path.

              But keep this in mind: you’ve already made your decision, so act decisively on it and dismiss all your anxiety about it.

              Don’t stop to hesitate, to reconsider, or to retrace your steps. Once you’ve chosen a course of action, stick to it and never waver.

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              2. Live for Today, Package Things up in “Day-Tight Compartments”

              You know that feeling: tossing, turning and worrying over something that happened or something that might, well into the wee hours. To avoid this pointless worrying, you need “day-tight compartments”. Much as a ship has different watertight compartments, your own “day-tight” ones are a way to limit your attention to the present day.

              The rule is simple: whatever happened in the past or might happen in the future must not intrude upon today. Everything else has to wait its turn for tomorrow’s box or stay stuck in the past.

              3. Embrace the Worst-Case Scenario and Strategize to Offset It

              If you’re worried about something, ask yourself: “What’s the worst thing that could happen?” Could you lose your job? Be jailed? Get killed?

              Whatever the “worst” might be, it’s probably not so world-ending. You could probably even bounce back from it!

              If, for example, you lose your job, you could always find another. Once you accept the worst-case scenario and get thinking about contingency plans, you’ll feel calmer.

              4. Put a Lid on Your Worrying

              Sometimes we stress endlessly about negative experiences when just walking away from them would serve us far better.

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              To make squashing that worry easier, try this strategy, straight from stock traders: it’s called the “stop-loss” order, where shares are bought at a certain price, and then their price development is observed. If things go badly and the share price hits a certain point, they are sold off immediately. This stops the loss from increasing further.

              In the same manner, you can put a stop-loss order on things that cause you stress and grief.

              5. Fake It ‘Til You Make It – Happiness, That Is

              We can’t directly influence how we feel, but we can nudge ourselves to change through how we think and act.

              If you’re feeling sad or low, slap a big grin on your face and whistle a chipper tune. You’ll find it impossible to be blue when acting cheerful. But you don’t necessarily need to act outwardly happy; you can simply think happier thoughts instead.

              Marcus Aurelius summed it up aptly:

              “Our life is what our thoughts make it.”

              6. Give for the Joy of Giving

              When we perform acts of kindness, we often do so with the expectation of gratitude. But harboring such expectations will probably leave you disappointed.

              One person well aware of this fact was the lawyer Samuel Leibowitz. Over the course of his career, Leibowitz saved 78 people from going to the electric chair. Guess how many thanked him? None.

              So stop expecting gratitude when you’re kind to someone. Instead, take joy from the act yourself.

              7. Dump Envy – Enjoy Being Uniquely You

              Your genes are completely unique. Even if someone had the same parents as you, the likelihood of someone identical to you being born is just one in 300,000 billion.

              Despite this amazing fact, many of us long to be someone else, thinking the grass is greener on the other side of the fence. But living your life this way is pointless. Embrace your uniqueness and get comfortable with who you really are: How to Be True to Yourself and Live the Life You Want

              8. Haters Will Hate — It Just Means You’re Doing It Right

              When you’re criticized, it often means you’re accomplishing something noteworthy. In fact, let’s take it a step further and consider this: the more you’re criticized, the more influential and important a person you likely are.

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              So the next time somebody talks you down, don’t let it get to you. Take it as a compliment!

              9. Chill Out! Learn to Rest Before You Get Tired

              Scientists agree that emotions are the most common cause of fatigue. And it works the other way around, too: fatigue produces more worries and negative emotions.

              It should be clear, therefore, that you’ve got to relax regularly before you feel tired. Otherwise, worries and fatigue will accumulate on top of each other.

              It’s impossible to worry when you are relaxed, and regular rest helps you maintain your ability to work effectively.

              10. Get Organized and Enjoy Your Work

              There are few greater sources of misery in life than having to work, day in, day out, in a job you despise. It would make sense then that you shouldn’t pick a job you hate, or even just dislike doing.

              But say you already have a job. How can you make it more enjoyable and worry-free? One way is to stay organized: a desk full of unanswered mails and memos is sure to breed worries.

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              Better yet, rethink about the job you’re doing: What to Do When You Hate Your Job but Want a Successful Career

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