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Lonely and Bitter? 5 Ways to Deal with Solitude

Lonely and Bitter? 5 Ways to Deal with Solitude

There may come a time when you find yourself feeling lonely at one point in your life, and you start questioning how and when exactly that happened. Trying to contemplate the facts and going backwards in time will only make you bitter and resentful – at least, that’s what happened in my case.

There’s no point in crying over spilled milk – you are where you are, and you need to make the best of it. As a matter of fact, solitude can be a very dear friend if you offer it a hand of peace. Any situation can be used to your advantage if you’re able to completely change your mindset and look at the world from a different perspective.

1. It’s Only a Prison If You Make It So

This cage of loneliness is only a creation of your mind, and you can set yourself free. For starters, you should stop feeling sorry for yourself and stop doubting your worth – many lonely people believe that they don’t have anything to offer to the world, and that is the reason why they are so distant from it.

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You have probably already heard about that confidence theory – it’s all about how confident you believe you are. People can smell insecurity from a mile away. And much like the confidence theory, your feelings of insecurity all comes from the inside; the world is exactly the way you believe it is.

If you believe you’re confident – you will be; if you want your mind to be a happier place – you will make it so, and if you want to turn loneliness into a temple of peace and serenity – it’s up to you to start building it.

2. Create Routines and Follow Them Through

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Teenage girl on the grass with a guitar

    It’s quite easy to be pulled into the shadows of depression when you’re lonely – you’ll be pulled in if you let it. However, the fact that you have nothing or no one to plan your day around doesn’t mean you shouldn’t plan at all.

    You should make friends with discipline, for starters. Start your morning with a delicious cup of coffee or cup of your favorite tea, make your own yummy breakfast and enjoy the beginning of your day. Voila – you have already done something useful; you just made yourself feel comfortable and pleasant.

    3. Fill Your Life with Various Projects

    After your morning routine is done, you should roll up your sleeves and see what you can do for your surroundings. DIY projects are extraordinarily beneficial, and they will do wonders for your home and your inner self. Building or fixing things using your own hands, and developing your skills in the process, will make your home more pleasant and help you get to know yourself better. Obviously, this will do great things for your confidence.

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    4. Make Your Work More Interesting

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      A lot of loneliness in this age of technology comes from a whole new phenomenon – working at home. Sure, this comes with a bunch of advantages because you are your own boss, but it also lets you sleep in, which may seem quite harmless in the beginning.

      Get your work and yourself out of the house – there are ways to make friends when working from home, and you should explore your options. Besides, you shouldn’t allow yourself to stagnate but, instead, you need to strive towards advancement and growth. This professional rut may be the reason why you’re bitter, which is why you should find a way to see your work in action and find ways for it to contribute to the world.

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      5. Reach Out and Talk to People

      If your mind is too quiet and you feel like you miss spoken kind words, someone’s acknowledgement or appreciation, the obvious thing to do is to earn it. Obstacles that prevent you from communicating with others can be overcome, but you need to have a strong will to do so.

      You should go to social gatherings you enjoy, visit cultural events that are in your area of interest, take walks at your nearest park, or read in your local library instead of at home because that way you’ll find people who are similar to you and share your thoughts.
      There’s a silver lining to solitude – it allows you to explore the depths of your personality. Upon those discoveries, you should build your life and fashion it according to your needs. It doesn’t seem so bad now, does it? I see it as a great opportunity you should take advantage of.

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      Last Updated on October 18, 2018

      50+ Best Motivational Quotes To Prepare You For Any Challenges In Life

      50+ Best Motivational Quotes To Prepare You For Any Challenges In Life

      Life is filled with highs and lows —happiness and struggles that will test your resilience and integrity, push you to overcome challenges and leave you with lessons that will make you even stronger on your way up.

      It’s the way you feel and think about yourself, including your expectations and beliefs about what is possible to you, greatly determines everything that happens to you.

      It all starts with your thoughts. When you change your thoughts, you transform the quality of your life. (Right, Nancy’s story is a typical example!)

      Below is a list of the best motivational quotes to inspire you to start your day with a blast:

      Quotes for self-assurance

      1. Don’t downgrade your dream just to fit your reality, upgrade your conviction to match your destiny.

        2. You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem and smarter than you think.

          3. You are confined only by the walls you build yourself.

            4. The man who has confidence in himself gains the confidence of others

              5. You attract what you are, not what you want. If you want great, then be great.

                6. It’s not who you are that holds you behind, it’s who you think your are not.

                  Quotes about positivity

                  7. Stop being afraid of what could go wrong and think of what could go right.

                    8. You should never regret anything in life. If it’s good, it’s wonderful. If it’s bad, it is experience.

                      9. Falling down is an accident, staying down is a choice.

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                        10. If you have the power to make someone happy, do it. The world needs more of that.

                          11. Always believe that something wonderful is about to happen.

                            12. Don’t be afraid to give up the good and go for great.

                              13. Remember that life’s greatest lessons are usually learned from worst times and from the worst mistakes.

                                Quotes for work and success

                                14. Don’t talk, just act. Don’t say, just show. Don’t promise, just prove.

                                  15. Never stop doing great just because someone doesn’t give you credit.

                                    16. Discipline is doing what needs to be done, even if you don’t want to.

                                      17. Work while they sleep. Learn while they party. Save while they spend. Live like they dream.

                                        18. The key to success is to focus our conscious mind on things we desire, not things we fear.

                                          19. Never apologize for having high standards, people who really want to be in your life will rise to meet them.

                                            20. If it doesn’t challenge you, it won’t change you.

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                                              21. Never give up on a dream just because of the time it will take to accomplish it, time will pass anyway.

                                                22. Don’t fear failure. Fear being in the exact same place next year as you are today.

                                                  23. A hill is just another opportunity to leave your competition behind.

                                                    24. Don’t quit. You’re already in pain. You’re already hurt. Get a reward from it.

                                                      25. Hustle until you no longer need to introduce yourself.

                                                        26. You didn’t come this far only to come this far.

                                                          27. Be selective in your battles for sometimes peace is better than being right.

                                                            28 If we keep doing what we are doing, we’re going to keep getting what we’re getting.

                                                              29. You will never know your limits until you push yourself to them.

                                                                30. Do what you have to do until you can do what you want to do.

                                                                  31. The man on top of the mountain didn’t fall there.

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                                                                    32. If your dreams don’t scare you, they are not big enough.

                                                                      33. If you can’t handle stress, you won’t manage success.

                                                                        34. Don’t be pushed by your problems, be led by your dreams.

                                                                          35. Don’t mistake silence for weakness. Smart people don’t plan big moves out loud.

                                                                            36. Simplicity is the ultimate sophistication.

                                                                              37. Obsessed is the word the lazy use to describe dedicated.

                                                                                38. You become who you spend your time with.

                                                                                  39. Be stubborn about your goals and flexible about your methods.

                                                                                    40. Hard work beats talent when talent doesn’t work hard.

                                                                                      41. If you don’t build your dreams, someone else will hire you to build theirs.

                                                                                        42. Between stimulus and response is our greatest power –the freedom to choose.

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                                                                                          43. What comes easy won’t last, what lasts won’t come easy.

                                                                                            44. Don’t limit your challenges, challenge your limits.

                                                                                              45. Work until your idols become your rivals.

                                                                                                Quotes about money

                                                                                                46. Formal education will make you a living. Self-education will make you a fortune.

                                                                                                  47. I create new enemies every day, it’s called business.

                                                                                                    48. When you have a Million Dollar vision, don’t surround yourself with 1 cent minds.

                                                                                                      49. You can’t get rich thinking poor.

                                                                                                        50. Doing what is comfortable is rarely profitable.

                                                                                                          51. If you can count your money, work harder.

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