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4 Things Japanese People Taught Me

4 Things Japanese People Taught Me

Several years ago, I spent some time in Japan. I was a Japan Fulbright Scholar — the Japanese government invited me to their country to learn as much as I could about modern day Japan and its people. I had an absolutely wonderful time and it is still very much impacting my life today. Though I learned many lessons while I was there, I would like to share these 4 with you:

1. Have Integrity 

Integrity is not as easy to come by these days as it used to be. Honesty, doing the right thing, and having pure motives just may not be evident everywhere we go. However, that doesn’t mean that you have to follow suit. Do what is right, even when no one is looking — that is the definition of integrity I heard many years ago. You see, when I was in Japan I went to see a baseball game. While there, during the second inning I needed to go to the restroom. I accidentally left my new digital camera in the stall hanging on the hook. When I realized what I did, in the seventh inning, I went back. The camera was still hanging where I left it. Now, I am not saying that people didn’t think of taking my camera, but they didn’t. Integrity. Sometimes, thinking of how your actions will affect others really is important. I was ever so grateful no one took my camera that day!

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2. Be Clean

Here, in America, it seems that everywhere I look I see trash on the ground. At camp grounds, at national monuments, even just walking around the neighborhood. There is trash everywhere. I must say, while in Japan I not only noticed that there was little to no trash on the ground, but commented on that to my guide. She simply replied that if you love where you live you take care of that place. Children even spend the last 30 minutes of every school day cleaning the campus, they do not have Janitors (it was wonderful to see children taking care of their school’s campus). What a novel idea, take care of where you live/work/play. I say that this starts in the home. Teach your children, if you have any, to pick up after themselves. Teach them where trash goes. Don’t pick it up for them (even though that would be much quicker) instead train them to take care of this wonderful place that we live in. My father used to tell me, “we may not live in a mansion, but we don’t have to look like we live in a pigsty.”

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3. Be Polite

Everyone I met while in Japan was polite and kind. They did know me, yet treated me as I was a respected guest. I must say, in light of the divisions that are occurring here politically, we would do well to remember to be kind to one another. The Golden Rule really needs to be put back into our lives much more. Who knows, maybe one kind word or deed you do today could affect someone in a huge way you never know about.

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4. Have Pride in Your Country

This kind of goes with the prior thoughts above. We live, in my opinion, in the greatest country there is. Yet, there are those who try to destroy others’ property through rioting. That would not happen in Japan. While I was there, it was very evident that the Japanese people love their country, speak highly of their country, and fly their flag proudly. Now, I didn’t say that everyone agreed with things their government did all of the time, but they separated their thoughts from pride of country. We too must get back to that place where we remember how great it is to live in these United States of America!

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Last Updated on September 20, 2018

How to Stay Calm and Cool When You Are Extremely Stressful

How to Stay Calm and Cool When You Are Extremely Stressful

Being in a hurry all the time drains your energy. Your work and routine life make you feel overwhelmed. Getting caught up in things beyond your control stresses you out…

If you’d like to stay calm and cool in stressful situations, put the following 8 steps into practice:

1. Breathe

The next time you’re faced with a stressful situation that makes you want to hurry, stop what you’re doing for one minute and perform the following steps:

  • Take five deep breaths in and out (your belly should come forward with each inhale).
  • Imagine all that stress leaving your body with each exhale.
  • Smile. Fake it if you have to. It’s pretty hard to stay grumpy with a goofy grin on your face.

Feel free to repeat the above steps every few hours at work or home if you need to.

2. Loosen up

After your breathing session, perform a quick body scan to identify any areas that are tight or tense. Clenched jaw? Rounded shoulders? Anything else that isn’t at ease?

Gently touch or massage any of your body parts that are under tension to encourage total relaxation. It might help to imagine you’re in a place that calms you: a beach, hot tub, or nature trail, for example.

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3. Chew slowly

Slow down at the dinner table if you want to learn to be patient and lose weight. Shoveling your food down as fast as you can is a surefire way to eat more than you need to (and find yourself with a bellyache).

Be a mindful eater who pays attention to the taste, texture, and aroma of every dish. Chew slowly while you try to guess all of the ingredients that were used to prepare your dish.

Chewing slowly will also reduce those dreadful late-night cravings that sneak up on you after work.

4. Let go

Cliche as it sounds, it’s very effective.

The thing that seems like the end of the world right now?

It’s not. Promise.

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Stressing and worrying about the situation you’re in won’t do any good because you’re already in it, so just let it go.

Letting go isn’t easy, so here’s a guide to help you:

21 Things To Do When You Find It Hard To Let Go

5. Enjoy the journey

Focusing on the end result can quickly become exhausting. Chasing a bold, audacious goal that’s going to require a lot of time and patience? Split it into several mini-goals so you’ll have several causes for celebration.

Stop focusing on the negative thoughts. Giving yourself consistent positive feedback will help you grow patience, stay encouraged, and find more joy in the process of achieving your goals.

6. Look at the big picture

The next time you find your stress level skyrocketing, take a deep breath, and ask yourself:

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Will this matter to me…

  • Next week?
  • Next month?
  • Next year?
  • In 10 years?

Hint: No, it won’t.

I bet most of the stuff that stresses you wouldn’t matter the next week, maybe not even the next day.

Stop agonizing over things you can’t control because you’re only hurting yourself.

7. Stop demanding perfection of yourself

You’re not perfect and that’s okay. Show me a person who claims to be perfect and I’ll show you a dirty liar.

Demanding perfection of yourself (or anybody else) will only stress you out because it just isn’t possible.

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8. Practice patience every day

Below are a few easy ways you can practice patience every day, increasing your ability to remain calm and cool in times of stress:

  • The next time you go to the grocery store, get in the longest line.
  • Instead of going through the drive-thru at your bank, go inside.
  • Take a long walk through a secluded park or trail.

Final thoughts

Staying calm in stressful situations is possible, all you need is some daily practice.

Taking deep breaths and eat mindfully are some simple ways to train your brain to be more patient. But changing the way you think of a situation and staying positive are most important in keeping cool whenever you feel overwhelmed and stressful.

Featured photo credit: Brooke Cagle via unsplash.com

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