I will never let fear guide me in my search for love and make me accept anything less that the real thing. Instead, I will trust myself and listen to my heart, because there lay all the answers. No logic can explain how love happens; even though we try to put it in scientific terms, it defies logical laws. It can only be felt. Therefore, I will let love guide me and trust the process of life, instead of trying to rush it by settling for an unfulfilling relationship for fear of being alone or not going through important milestones “on time.”
I’ve learned my lessons.
I will not let my past cloud over my present and future. Instead, I will use my past experiences as a reminder of how much I have grown and how well I am doing in becoming my best version. I won’t dwell on times gone by and choices made — I’ll let them make me better, not bitter. So, I’ve sifted and sorted through my past in order to collect what I’ve learned about myself, and about love, and I’ve chosen what to let go of, and what will drive me to keep going.
I’ve let go of blaming and criticizing myself and anyone else. I’ve realized what someone else is doing and thinking is perfectly fine. Everyone is right in their own realm, and each of us has a unique path and purpose to fulfil. Therefore, I find parting as a relief instead as a reason for sorrow because it helped me learn more, and it brought more clarity to my definition of love. I cherish each past experience as I am grateful for each lesson I have learned (some of them repeatedly).
I refuse to get pressured into unfulfilling relationships.
Now, I can truly enjoy being single and rest assured that I’m always on the right path. I won’t let myself get caught in the trap of settling for the wrong relationship just to get “figured out.” I deserve more than that. We all do.
We have to love ourselves enough to let our hearts be louder than our brains. Only then will we let ourselves allow the love to find us. I will make room for love, by cleaning my heart from past sorrows, wrong beliefs, fears, blame, jealousy, worry, lies, and everything love is not. I’ve used my time alone to distinguish between the true desires of my heart and the ones of others I’ve unconsciously picked up along the way. We owe it to ourselves never to let any other person take up all of our time no matter how much we love each other. So, I’m making a promise to myself that I will make time every day to work on myself by doing things I enjoy and improving myself.
We all deserve the love that is kind, compassionate, caring, understanding, appreciating, believing, core-shaking, forward-looking, honest, and eternal. Therefore, I refuse to settle for anything less.
I won’t settle for love that is quantifiable and conditional, for love that demands or begs, or for unfulfilling conversations and cold embraces. Each and every one of us cannot accept blind pursuits governed only by a physical desire, for we know better. We don’t need explanation nor reason to love.
I won’t force love.
I will not turn my quest for love into a struggle to get it by all means. I want to enjoy every step of the way. By realizing that love starts and grows within us, we understand that to ask for it would mean we don’t have enough of it within ourselves. Only by giving more do we have it returned multiplied. Our quest should not be governed by the need to find someone to complete us, someone who wants to lose themselves by looking into our eyes. We would much rather hold each other’s hand and look in the same direction as we grow together.
No, I won’t settle for less. And neither should you.